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Melissa in Australia

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  1. I would LOVE to. I have felt I would love to know you in-person and have a sit down conversation.
  2. so wish I had some specialty in this area. It has been a HUGE learning curve for me
  3. I just remembered something that an OT told me when the twins first came to live with me. She said that she treats children who have suffered trauma very similar to non verbal Autistic children in regards to pain and not able to express feelings towards pain. This was not helpful to me as I had at that time not really had much to do with Autism and pain but it may be helpful for you as I think you were a special ed teacher?
  4. walk morning twins schoolwork afternoon ds16 schoolwork corned beef and veggies for tea date and walnut loaf for desert
  5. Yes We have this. Both boys have experienced extreme trauma that has resulted in them having a distorted view of pain. One twin will deny he is in pain, instead he will become angry and lash out. If he is in great pain he will hide under his bed and sob. If he is hiding under his bed and sobbing he is in great pain and needs urgent attention. Even then he will lash out, tell you there is nothing wrong and try to hurt anything and everything around him. To him acknowledging pain is a very dangerous thing to do so he denies it exists at all. When he first came to live with us he would self harm when in pain, often he would have big bruises on his cheeks form repeatedly hitting himself. Thankfully he doesn't do this anymore The other twin completely overreacts with the slightest brush.starts screaming and yelling that you have hurt him etc. To him pain is something so terrifying that the slightest discomfort causes a meltdown. When he came to live with us he screamed for 6 hours a day- no joke- it was hard. Thankfully he doesn't do this anymore We were told that this is typical of foster children from this background and to over react in our response - do the opposite of what you would do with a normal child. For a normal child they fall over you say OH you fell over you will be right and help them up - under-react and move on. For these boys we do an exaggerated OH! NO! you poor thing quick lets get an ice pack , (sometimes we even make ambulance noises as we rush to them a complete overreaction), come and have a hug, do you feel OK, oh you must be in so much pain.Giving them the words to describe what they must be feeling, letting them know that it is OK to feel pain and that comfort is provided. We also have emotion mini teddies that we can use to talk about emotions and how our tummies are feeling ( not how we or they are feeling but how their tummies are feeling, this is easier for them to describe). We also have a therapist etc, it is a very very long journey
  6. last week I was talking to a Forensic Peadiatrician about the twins PTSD. I thought this may help you He said that across the board no matter what a child's IQ is at around the age of 12 to 13 a child can make the mental leap that just because something really bad has happened then it will not always happen when there is a medical procedure happening. Of course therapy is needed in-between time and care to make any medical experience as positive as possible, but until around 12 to 13 the child will not be able to make the mental connection.
  7. I had just about everything as a child, including Chicken pox I have not had shingles
  8. whole morning gardening made veggie soup heaps of laundry changed 3 beds vacuumed house
  9. Same here. I always wore a button down the front top or dress.
  10. hus I had complete bed rest for 10 weeks with my now ds16. I was spotting and having mild contractions. I had had a miscarriage at 12 weeks only 2 months before falling pregnant with him.
  11. Yes. she is a charming SIL. I am so glad she is on the other side of the world.
  12. I breastfed my baby wherever I happened to be when my baby was hungry, as many people in Australia do. In all the years I breastfed I only ever had 2 comments. One non Australian person asked me if I would be more comfortable feeding my baby in the toilet, whom I replied no to. And my sister in law when I was in Canada, who told me I was a pig. I get the impression from this forum that people in USA tend to not be as accepting of breastfeeding in public. Many years ago there was a really cool add on TV of a businessman sitting on a toilet eating his sandwich. The add said "would you be comfortable eating here? " Then switched to a mother feeding her baby at a park bench.
  13. First part of Friday posted on Thursday thread. My knight in shining armour drove 100 km each way to pick me up from the train station so I didn't have to do the last leg bus trip home. DH I love you forever
  14. Friday here for me too. I am so worn out I am just on the verge of crying. I don't know how I am going to get through the rest of the day. Had to go to children's hospital again this morning. That makes a total of 7 appointments in 3 days. I couldn't get the wheelchair on the tram, for some reason beyond my understanding they only have the old, not wheelchair accessable tram at the children's hospital. So we walked to the city, me carrying a 8 kg backpack plus a foldable walking frame pushing a wheelchair and holding the other twin's hand to stop him dancing into traffic. It was only 2.5 km so not too far I guess. We managed to find a shoe shop that had a shoe to fit over twin 1 new AFO As we were getting out of the lift onto the train station platform twin 1 decided he was grumpy with me and rammed me in the back of the knees. I fell heavily. As with the backpack and walking frame I couldn't grab anything or regain my balance. He then told me it was my fault as I was in his way. Sometimes I really have a pity me moment and don't think I can go on. It is such hard work trying to parent children with such complex conditions. I am sure I will be more positive tomorrow. We are now just boarded the train home. Waiting to begin the 6 hour trip. Will arrive home sometime around 7.30 this evening.
  15. We cover our freezer with lots of blankets for more insulation when the power is out for an extended time. Of course you need to take them off the minute the power comes back on. We have has no problems for 24 hours after that the ice cream gets to soft serve. Longest we had power out was 10 days. There had been a bushfire up the road that had burnt down several km of powerlines. Our neighbour kindly lent us his generator fir 6 hours every day. It was only a small one so we only used it for the freezer. It kept both the neighbour and our freezer frozen.
  16. 4 doctors appointments for twin 1 at the children’s hospital. He is now out of plaster, in an AFO and has a walking frame. Yay. As his foot is extremely weak he also has the wheelchair. So I am going to have fun with a wheelchair and a walking frame on public transport home tomorrow very fast trip to the zoo very stroppy twin 2. Argh. I so wish he could behave like an 8 year old out in public. It is so so embarrassing. He does it whenever he thinks he can get an audience. It works for him every time.
  17. Just have to say shovels are very useful when cooking on a campfire. Also I worked in a historical bakery a long time ago where giant wooden paddles, very similar to a shovel were used for putting the bread in and out of the huge, wood heated oven. So even shovels are an aid to cooking in some circumstances
  18. I wasn't saying rely on pictures, but rather it is another aid in the very early stages of reading.
  19. Looking through the book first and looking at the pictures are actually an early reading strategy. Teachers call it "getting your knowledge ready." It amongst other things, helps the child gain confidence in their ability to read.
  20. One thing I found helped me when I was going through a soul breaking stressful time of external stress (something there was no control over and was beyond chocolate) was the exact opposite of meditation. It was bombarding my brain with music, The Pirates of Penzance . I would listen to it with headphones. Over and over again. It completely drowned out my ability to think and dwell on a problem so big. It stopped my from having a complete mental collapse. Afterwards (a year and a half afterwards the issue went on for more than a year) professionals have asked me how did I manage to keep so calm, how did I manage to get through it. It was that reverse meditation, those annoying pirates singing in my head.
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