I am expecting to go from homeschooling 2 special needs boys to looking after an elderly dh. He is currently 60. Twins are 10.
10 more years of looking after twins, then helping them transition into some sort of supported living. Dh will then be 70.
If twins hadn't come to live with us ds is turning 18 in a few months. We could have been empty nesters. I feel guilty and sorry for dh, slightly envious of people that are looking at empty nests and disappointed that I probably never will get to go on a holiday with dh