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  1. I really hope you are able to get away. Only you truly know what your son is okay with, and only you can know if you’ll be so anxious you won’t be able to enjoy yourself. If you do decide to check out any of those Air BnBs, or locations close to them, I can give you some really neat places to go. And as I said, if you bring DS and I am close enough, I’m happy to check up on him while you’re out enjoying yourself.
  2. I was in college. My roommate and I skipped all our classes and watched television. Our college closed the next two days, as we had many students from the city who had family affected and needed to go home. while I didn’t have a car, her brother came and got us and took us home(we were from the same general area of New York State). He had just joined the volunteer fire department and was feeling it pretty deeply. I transferred colleges and lost track of my roommate and her family, until I was 26 and became a paramedic. My partner at my new job turned out to be that roommate’s brother, and we talked a lot about our memories of 9/11 and that long car ride home. A few months later, I married him. 🙂 My current workplace sent three ambulances to NYC in the early hours of the tragedy, when they were still requesting ambulances through FEMA because the assumption was there would be thousands of injured that needed rescuing and transport to a hospital. They stayed a week after the realization that there were no missing injured, and they helped with recovery instead. Sadly two of the coworkers that went now have serious lung issues from their time at Ground Zero.
  3. Lake George is enormously expensive. I suspect you’d find something in a not so famous but still nice area. Something like this: (Only picking these because I’ve either stayed there or know someone who had; just representative of what’s out there in still beautiful and touristy but not quite Lake George area)
  4. It may depend on the state, but it’s fairly common here for parents who work overnight to leave their teenage kids alone. It’s definitely not illegal here.
  5. I’ve been thinking about this. I, personally, would leave a mature 14 year old with family nearby. But I also think this is a very personal decision. However. I live in famous fall foliage area. It’s off season, and Air BnBs are cheap. I suspect you could get a whole house for a few days inexpensively, and bring DS. You’d be able to leave him during the day and go check out the microbreweries and live music and pretty leaves, and an air B and B in a small town is likely to have lots to do within walking distance. My town there’s restaurants, an escape room, state park, a skate park and other things within walking and biking distance. And he’d probably have TV and WiFi for internet use(like gaming systems). If you decided to head up my way, I’d even check on him for you. :) But I suspect any small touristy town is going to be the same. I don’t know if it’s a good idea, but I thought a whole house air b n b might solve both problems.
  6. Growing up, my parents changed denominations like some people change socks. Since I was homeschooled and church was my only real source of friends, I found this difficult. I don’t know what they were looking for, but they never found it and eventually abandoned church all together when i was a teenager. My grandmother was EO and I flirted with it for a while. Eventually the patriarchal stance was too much, and I didn’t feel I could bring my kids(who have grown up in a modern Baptist church with their other grandparents and are used to lots of kid activities, praise music and children’s church during the sermon). I don’t get the sense you really want to leave church all together—perhaps a still liturgical but more modern church with programs for your daughter? I think you’d find less patriarchal nonsense with more room for your daughter to breathe. Episcopalian comes to mine.
  7. You can call your police non emergency number and just explain the situation. Be sure to include that you suspect elder neglect, etc, and that they’ve disappeared. The police may have some suggestions that are specific to your local area.
  8. In the county I work in, the county itself contracts with funeral homes to provide basic services/casket/burial in a pauper’s plot for people who are destitute. The funeral homes rotate, so it depends on whichever one is up next on the list when the person dies. Printed Obituaries are not included in the contractual agreement but many funeral homes write one and put it on their website. One of my friends is a medical examiner investigator for the county and he frequently gets phone calls asking if a person has passed. I don’t know what information he is allowed to give out to non family though. I would try the social security death index and perhaps a welfare check by police, especially if you think there’s any possibility she’s passed and the daughter is hiding the body and not reporting the death in order to continue to collect her social security(I know it sounds bizarre but it also does happen).
  9. I’ve had good luck with their customer service. I’d call or email with the situation and ask. They may just tell you to keep the book.
  10. We also did a Halloween haunted house for several years that raised a lot of funds. We have a large community room and set it up there; it was a lot of fun to plan and set up. We also sold hot dogs, popcorn and sodas/water. People loved grabbing something quick to eat and we tamed it down from 5-7for the kids(then from 7-9ish it was full on adult gory haunted house). It was an excellent fundraiser for us. Food truck rodeos are also popular here if you have access to food trucks who will donate a portion of sales. Craft bazaars are endlessly popular around the holidays too; people pay to set up their table and those monies plus food sales go to the fire department.
  11. I think it’s time you and your brother had a very frank conversation with your parents and grandmother about assisted living. It may not be pleasant but it needs to be done. The people who see your parents every day are telling you without saying it outright that your parents need more help. My parents are from a time and place where people married and settled down near their parents, cared for their elders in old age, and no one really moved more than a few miles away. My mom is caring for her elderly parents right now and it’s taking a huge toll on her. I have many siblings, but none have stayed close to home. They are raising their families one to two thousand miles away, and I am starting now to make my parents think about assisted living. We’ll likely still live close, but I will be the only one and not able to care for all their needs like generations before have. Professionally, as a paramedic, I see so many people who are still clinging to this ideal that their children will move home and care for them, when the truth is they really need assisted living. It’s a different world and even my baby boomer parents, much less my greatest generation grandparents, are having trouble adjusting to it.
  12. I have a thin blue line flag sticker and a thin red line sticker on my car. I was not aware of any white supremacy anything with it. I have many friends who fly the thin blue line flag, all police officers, and several are people of color. I think it must be a regional connotation, because here it is seen as a police support flag. The multi-racial family near me that flies the Confederate flag has me baffled, though.
  13. Most financial supports come through taxes, but it’s mostly just very bare bones. We fundraise primarily for equipment and new apparatus. Our state is always giving unfunded mandates—equipment we now are required to have by the government but they also aren’t giving us the money to get it. Fundraising helps with that too. Plus the equipment we have all has expiration timelines and then we have to take it out of service and buy new. Turnout/bunker gear, for example, is only rated safe for 10 years. It all adds up. Everyone wants top notch service, but doesn’t want to pay extra taxes for it.
  14. So in my 38 year lifetime involvement with VFD, I’ve seen: Chicken BBQ, spaghetti dinners, touch-a-truck(in collaboration with other services), hit the boot drive, direct mailings explaining the need for fundraising and member recruitment(it worked surprisingly well), casino night, gun raffles, cake and pie booths at local carnivals, TV and 50/50 raffles(also worked surprisingly well), weekly or monthly dances at the firehouse, bingo. We have a local community run carnival. This year the fire department got a car donated to them by a local junkyard. It was still in relatively decent body shape. We removed all the windows then charged $2 for 30 seconds of putting on FD safety equipment(bunker gear, gloves, and safety glasses) and using a tool to break the car. I’ve added a pic so you can get the idea. It was super popular, an easy fundraiser, and people of all ages loved it.
  15. An EKG that the paramedics did is only going to show whether or not you’re having a heart attack right now, and rule out some lethal rhythms. The fact it didn’t show anything, considering your symptoms, doesn’t mean much. ER doctors are not that familiar with POTS, and to be honest may be suspicious of malingering if you come in with a normal HR talking about it. This isn’t your fault—thanks to a couple of YouTube stars we’ve been seeing nationwide (mostly young) women convinced they have Ehlers-Danlos, POTS, etc and demand full workups with no symptoms. There have been articles written on it and discussion forums, and it’s led to a lot of doctors dismissing POTS all together. (I have EDs, diagnosed by an orthopedist and geneticist, so I find this all very annoying) All this to say—if your HR doesn’t come down, please go to an ER because there may be a life threatening condition you’re unaware of. Otherwise, an ER is not a good place to get a POTS diagnosis. There are many other things that can cause your symptoms. Dehydration, neurological changes, central nervous system changes caused by supplements, etc. I would start with your neurologist, considering the severe concussion, and then start ruling things out and moving onto other specialists from there.
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