My son Matthew is 4.5 years old. In many ways he is a normal 4 year old, but in many ways he is not. He had a stroke at birth that caused some damage in his right frontal lobe and led to a diagnosis of epilepsy when he was 2. A year ago, he had only about 25 words, but now he talks constantly. He was evaluated for learning issues and speech delay last spring. I literally had to bear hug him for 3 hours because he was trying to hit and bite the testing ladies. He was found to be very speech delayed, and a mention was made of his inability to focus or sit still for more than a few seconds, BUT he tested on an 8 yo level of understanding. He would have tested higher, but I had to end the session. Right now, the only time he sits still is to watch a movie or television- which he insists he has to do all the time. (We do not let him). He is very ADHD, and can get quite violent when he does not get his way.
I have 6 other children who I homeschool without problems, nor do I have behavior issues with them. Matthew at 4 1/2 just counted to 5 for teh first time ever on his own (!) I guess my question is this- should I actively pursue learning, (Kindergarten) with him, or should I delay a year? I feel like he is already so behind his peers that I need to do something to help, BUT I do not want that to backfire. I have considered putting him in school and continuing homeschooling my others, but I just do not know.
Anyone have advice?