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  1. Given the history UVA has, I'm going to wait this out. It's pretty obvious that a fraternity would want to dispute the claims. I'm skeptical because UVAs fraternities and UVA in general has been known as a heavy party school since before my father went to college in the 50s. When I was in school at William and Mary, I knew people who would go to UVA for a weekend because the party atmosphere was unsurpassed there. At a school where that level of party culture is present, I would expect a sexual assault rates to be high and I would expect a certain amount of discounting of assault.

     

    So I will wait for rebuttals to review clearly.

     

    If only Rolling Stone had shared your sense of skepticism.

     

    In general.

     

    If this alleged assaulter lived on campus, wouldn't they have a Campus Directory that would allow her to figure out where he lived? Not everyone who attends a fraternity party, or house party, or dorm party, is a member of that living group.

  2. I love it for when I have people over who drink decaf. Or if I want the occasional hot chocolate. Or if it's later at night and my husband suddenly wants a cup. Or if it's late at night and I suddenly want a cup.

     

    It doesn't replace my main coffeepot but it's a great supplement.

     

     

  3. The vast majority of these women have not sought nor received a penny from Bill Cosby, and the statute of limitations has expired as far as I know.

     

    I understand people are concerned that we don't have a conviction, but the fact that these women are not settling for money and the statute of limitations has expired is quite concerning.  I think their accusations should be taken seriously. 

     

    I disagree with your assertion that "many women wouldn't hesitate to fabricate such a story."   I also disagree that "people are always trying to get something for nothing."

     

    Should we ever believe accusers who don't have cold, hard evidence?  There are women everywhere who have been assaulted or were assaulted as children but don't have hard evidence on their side.  Should they remain mum?

     

    FWIW, I've been a long time fan of the Cosby Show, and have very mixed feelings about how to handle it from this point on.  It doesn't seem as "funny" to me when I'm thinking about Bill Cosby potentially having committed serious crimes.

     

     

    I dunno, Bill Clinton is doing pretty well on the speaking circuit. Other than Monica, I don't think he's suffered at the bookstore or anywhere else in spite of multiple allegations.

     

  4. Please see my example in post 89 and make an alternative suggestion, and tell me towards WHOM am I being inflammatory there.

     

    My list of decidedly stupid stuff also includes the immigration authorities having us drive 200 miles to get fingerprinted a second time because our fingerprints from two years earlier had "expired" (yes, that was the explanation they gave).

    This is not ignorant, or a "poor choice"... it is simply idiotic. Or stupid.

     

    I find "stupid" tends to be contagious, we get "stuck on stupid" so to speak. When trying to think of things in my life that are downright stupid, I ALSO came up with the annoying and unnecessary fingerprinting policy. I avoid calling things stupid because although there are a lot of policies out there that are annoying, unnecessary, not well thought out, bureaucratic...etc., unless they rise to the level of dangerous or wrong, I try not to encourage my kids to call things stupid. Because then there's the tendency to think of people as stupid, such as the people enforcing the inconvenient policies.

     

    Stupid spreads.

     

    I would rather people like Jonathan Gruber call American voters uninformed or not paying attention or apathetic, all of which is true for a lot of voters.

     

    Stupid just rubs me the wrong way.

     

  5. Why on Earth is "stupid" offensive? I mean, sure, you obviously don't call a person stupid - but there are a lot of things that are just... stupid. There is no adequate synonym. Wait, some things could be called idiotic. Not sue that this is better than saying "stupid".

     

    Definitely pejorative. You can always come up with something that is less inflammatory.

     

  6. lol, I am currently doing my best to steer one of mine away from journalism!

     

    I definitely agree on the 19th Century Russian Poetry :)

     

     

    I was a journalism major, got a job in public relations with an automaker after college. (got a free master's degree by having a half-time assistantship in a university's public affairs office, writing press releases and writing stories for the the university magazines etc). Later worked jobs in advertising and marketing, both of which required strong communications/writing skills. I did work part-time for a newspaper at one point, but it was a temporary position between two other jobs.

     

    Journalism is not just writing for newspapers. But you really have to get a flavor for what jobs are out there. Science writing is another option. (not referring to writing scientific papers, but taking sciencey subjects and turning them into something a general audience can comprehend)

     

    When I get to the point of steering my kids, it'll probably be to find marketable aspects to whatever their interests are, rather than looking at things too narrowly.

  7. Hyperbole?  There is that big a difference between a 7yo-1yo vs a 6yo-newborn?

     

    I think the hyperbole is in the posts of people who are making it a sex crime for a 7yo to look at a baby's wee wee.

     

    Put into context with everything else she's said, it's even more disturbing.

     

  8. Did she not have an editor?  How is it possible that someone else read that book before it was published and didn't think "Holy sh*t!  We can't publish this!  This is disturbing/creepy/horrifying ..."

     

    All part of the po*rnification of our society.

     

    This too shall be mainstreamed, sort of like our advertising, some of which I also find disturbing.

     

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  9. You just do what feels comfortable for you. I wouldn't move closer based on relationships that seem marginal to begin with. It probably wouldn't make any difference unless you were right in town...and even then it might not matter! Just keep making appropriate contacts -- maybe you can talk to the nieces/nephews if you call at the right time?

     

    I'm close to my extended family, but I live far away, so most of them I only see once a year. Otherwise it's just phone calls.

     

    How about some friendly regular texts?

  10. I am actually less worried about this since no one else has contracted Ebola in Dallas.  It's when patients are producing copious amounts of bodily fluids is when people are catching it. I spent hours reading stories out of Africa, and that is consistent with everything I've read there too.  People know exactly where they were exposed.  Yes, this doctor could have been more responsible.  But he's also been watching ebola first hand.  If he didn't have a fever and wasn't vomiting, having uncontrollable diarrhea, or bleeding, I'm sure as a medical professional, he felt he wasn't contagious. 

     

    I'm not feeling 100 percent convinced of this until someone does a TV interview with the girlfriend, Louise Troh.

     

  11. A professional evaluation does not inflict "can't do it" thinking.  It gives answers and, if necessary, tools and interventions which enable "can do it" thinking. 

     

    It seems like you are looking at your husband and his family and thinking "well, they turned out OK, so our son who is just like them will too."  But he is not necessarily just like them.  And maybe their lives could have been even better if they'd had some help early on. 

     

    And the family is, after all, anecdotal evidence of one way of coping. And that may or may not be the best way for this child. Who should be able to get help without being hindered by family biases.

     

    There is nothing to lose by getting an evaluation. There is everything to lose by not getting one.

  12. But that is exactly why the eyeglasses analogy does not hold for me. Having to, say, write test answers in handwriting is not "impossible" in the same way that it is "impossible" to read a textbook without needed glasses. It is possible. Even the term "dysgraphia" annoys me because it implies the child is incapable of writing legibly and correctly.

     

    Now how would it sound if someone denied you glasses, and was annoyed at the term near-sightedness (for example), because it isn't *impossible* for near-sighted people to read books, they just have to hold them closer to their faces and read more slowly.

     

    For pity's sake, a kid who has trouble writing legibly is not doing it on purpose. I can't imagine being annoyed at someone's disability, even if you consider it minor.

     

    I'm not trying to be argumentative, I'm trying to go to bat for your son.

     

    It's frustrating to be near-sighted (or far-sighted or astigmatic) and I'm sure it's frustrating to have dysgraphia or some learning disability. But probably even more frustrating if you're not getting any help for it!

     

  13. I don't know if you're saying he's ALSO having an organizational problem, but to focus solely on that seems to miss the point. From your description it seems there is more going on here. If an evaluation gets him the tools he needs to become a more successful student (and you can't know that unless you at least attempt it), then it would seem to be worth it.

     

    Why wait until college is at risk? There's a lot more in your control now, and there won't be the added distractions that college brings.

     

    I'm not seeing any negative in an evaluation!

  14. Judge Clay Jenkins just announced that the Duncan Ebola Finacee (Troh?) will "remain quarantined" for several more days before being moved to a rental home. So hopefully that fills the gap in the timeline from when they were last exposed in that apartment.

  15. Does anyone know the point at which the Ebola test is accurate? If they tested and released the lab worker on the cruise ship, who was not symptomatic, why couldn't they do the same for Duncan's family, or other people who have been in direct contact with the virus?

     

    They're talking about the 21 day quarantine for the family being over today because it's three weeks from when Duncan got hospitalized. (They meaning the news media) But didn't the family remain in the contaminated apartment for several days after that before being moved to a safe place?

     

    Just wondering why that isn't considered part of the exposure timeline.

     

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