Trish
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The girls are on now! :ack2:
Okay, just a preview. The rest is on Friday.
Egads.
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She isn't using her yelling voice, but I think Megyn Kelly is asking tough questions. She basically called them hypocrites. (although attributed this characterization to others)
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I keep expecting them to get hit by lightning, or something.
This seems terribly self-serving, in not in their kids' interests at all.
Is there any licensed counselor out there who would think this is a good idea????
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I DVR'd last night's show & Megyn Kelly spent a great deal of time railing for the local PD chief to be fired for releasing the record in the first place.
She quoted the statute, which was clear that juvenile arrest records were sealed, but juvenile police reports were not. She would understand the distinction as an attorney, so I'm guessing she's solidly on the side of the Duggars and tonight's interview will be at least partially about filing a lawsuit against the local PD. Sigh.
Maybe she is on the side of the Duggars, I don't know, she's certainly giving them a platform tonight. From last night I gathered she was on the side of the VICTIMS. That's the real problem in these stories coming out. It's obvious who the victims are, and now we're hearing a lot about what's none of our business.
This is the first time I've heard the Duggars speak since I've never seen the show. Actually before this week I wouldn't have recognized a picture of them if they weren't accompanied by 19 kids. I wonder if she'll ask how a REALITY SHOW makes any sense in this situation.
The dad just said they talked with other families who described "similar situations" in their own families and some "far worse." If accurate, wow, even more appalling! Or maybe they're just trying to make their own family seem not so bad, I don't know. I'm assuming he's referring to other families of their religious persuasion.
To me, the publication of the Duggar police report/tabloid reporting are a second victimization for the girls. (and quite frankly so is the Kelly interview, but I find myself watching it anyway) Same thing with the Lena Dunham book -- you molest your sister once. Then you inflict additional trauma years later with your book and attendant publicity. Yes I know the sister claims to be fine with it. I would question that.
This Duggar thing is a circus.
Okay, Megyn Kelly just asked the reality show question. Answer coming after the break!
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I honestly thought this thread was going to be about the idea that Microsoft plans to have the OS be free for a year, and then switch everyone over to a "subscription" service. (similar to how you can have a subscription to office) Then you will get updates as part of your subscription.
I'm already contemplating a future move to Linux or some such.
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I haven't seen anyone "justify" anything Dunham allegedly did.
I have seen some of the usual suspects try to use her to deflect Josh Duggar's predatory behavior. Go figure.
What I see is that Dunham was younger when *it* happened, although by gosh, mom (who obviously wasn't there) and Grace (who was a toddler) say *it* didn't happen. But although it didn't happen, she wasn't affected by it anyway, and has forgiven her sister. Oh, and her show is not a reality series, so there's nothing to be upset about.
I have no interest in deflecting from Josh Duggar, I don't follow the family.
I just find it interesting that there are excuses made for Dunham. Didn't happen! She was young! It didn't matter! The sister doesn't care! The sister forgave her! Mom says it didn't happen! Etc.
And yeah, hard to give up that HBO. Easier to tell yourself you don't need to.
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Considering Dunham was 7 (and I believe the sister and mom say it never happened) then no, comparing that situation to what Josh did to 5 different girls is just a poor attempt at deflection.
I've never seen the Duggar show and don't have any particular interest in seeing people go easy on them. But with all the outrage expressed in this thread, I'm a little surprised to see people attempting to justify Dunham's actions. It seems also a further violation to go on to describe those actions in a book.
Somehow I don't think anyone would be buying it if the Duggar girls said they didn't consider what happened to them to be abuse.
What Dunham described sure sounded that way.
I'm questioning whether people's outrage about this is simply colored by irritation over the Duggars' lifestyle/parenting choices/ATI connection. (and I see a lot to be irritated by over that.)
I know canceling the HBO for some people would be more of a sacrifice than a sternly worded email to TLC. So it's easier to have selective outrage.
But, I've never seen "The Pianist" and don't intend to.
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This has been covered in this thread a few pages back - there was an uproar at the time and pressure for HBO to cancel.
Apparently not enough pressure, or, not enough uproar, as it seems the show is still on. We don't have HBO either. But it would certainly be an admirable sacrifice if people who are passionate about this issue would complain and cancel their subscriptions until the show is taken from the lineup. It seems Lena Dunham's sister is as much an abuse victim as the Duggar girls are.-
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I wonder if HBO will feel any pressure to cancel Lena Dunham's show.
Or if people will start canceling their subscriptions.
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I'm not understanding how the FOIA works. Is it because the perpetrator was not convicted of a crime that this was able to come out under that Act? I don't see how that protects a youthful offender -- wouldn't his records have been sealed because he was under 18 if he were actually convicted? And how does any of this protect the victims if the PARENTS are named? Aren't there people all around the U.S. who have been victims of sexual abuse -- can any of them be readily identified if someone wants to submit a FOIA request and get the names of the parents, whether the perpetrator was a family member or not?
I realize the fame of this family has generated public interest, but if the report had just named the son and said "five victims" I would not have automatically thought of the daughters, so why was it necessary to name the parents of the victims, and make that public? And yes ALL of this is primarily the fault of the son and parents, but anyone who contributed to making it public without any thought for how it would affect the victims gets some bonus blame.
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DH will learn to treat the situation with more caution if he gets nipped with a plastic surgery bill...
Sorry you're going through this! I think for the sake of your kids (and the dog) that the dog will have to go.
There's probably another suitable home out there that would love this dog.
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Feelings of failure? It's all about the kids, not about us. Even if you were a horrible homeschool mom (which it doesn't sound like you are), we're trying as parents to do the best by our children, finding the right fit for them. So there may be a season of homeschooling, a season of something else, a return to something that wasn't a good fit before but is now...so many variations! It's about listening to your gut and doing what's best for THIS moment. Trying things out to see what works and what doesn't.
If you want to not fail at all, you don't have kids, because every other day, every other minute, is a potential fail! (I just made a horrible dinner last night that was only slightly saved by the delicious dessert, and mother-in-law was over to enjoy it all! She just laughed and said a little less garlic next time, haha!)
I can't worry about what ANYONE else thinks about my homeschooling decisions, other than my husband. Fail, no fail? They can think whatever they like.
Based on what you've said I'd be inclined to send the youngers to school to see how it works out, and continue to homeschool the tween if that's working fine. Best of luck to your future highschool STEM guy!
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That's where the failure to cooperate with the investigation accusation comes into play.
Sure, it makes no sense to hand over the cell phone if it's going to implicate you further rather than exonerate you!
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I think Brady's offense should be compared strictly with other "integrity of the game" offenses and let the police handle domestic violence. Pete Rose (when he was a manager) was banned for life from the game of baseball for betting on the game.
Brady is a terrible liar and it shows. Not sure how he's going to address this going forward, after denying it, and now getting punished for what he said he didn't do.
The punishment is pretty insufficient, in my opinion. Or, you could make the argument that cheating was "well worth it" compared to the punishment that was doled out. (easily afforded by Brady) Loss of a couple of draft picks and a fine is minimal compared to the success the Patriots have enjoyed over the past 7 years.
The inflation of the ball very much matters. If it didn't, why would Brady be doing this (getting "The Deflator" to do it for him) and trying to hide it. Of course it matters.
However it matters for more than you would think. We can also statistically pinpoint when it began. QBs like their balls prepped a certain way. (scuffed up, etc. for a better grip) In 2007, Brady and Peyton Manning (who is not implicated in this) asked the league to allow Away teams to use their own balls at Away games, rather than ones provided by the Home team. This was granted. Since that time, the Patriots fumble rate went from average (middle of the pack) for the rest of the league, to significantly better than the rest of the league. (with the exception of dome teams, which due to lack of weather have always enjoyed a better fumble rate. This does not benefit the dome teams because obviously any team playing in the dome has the benefit of the same weather the dome team does)
So Brady's caper benefits not only him and his ability to throw, especially in inclement weather, but also the entire team in terms of their ability to fumble less than their opponents. Anyone who follows football knows that turnovers make a huge difference in the likely outcome of games. So the fact that the Patriots did well in a single game (vs the Colts) without the benefit of their deflated balls doesn't negate the statistical positive effects of their cheating.
The TRUE punishment to Brady is the loss of his reputation. He has no one but himself to blame for that.
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Couldn't happen to a nicer group of men.
I saw the mugshots of the six.
One is a woman, and three of the six are black.
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My recollection from my wedding (which was big) was receiving a reply from most people, and contacting anyone who didn't reply. The reason for this was -- did they get the invitation? Mail delivery isn't perfect. Did they forget? Did they think they replied but didn't?
This gave us an accurate head count. I don't get just wondering.
As to last minute change of mind -- this puts more stress on the seating arrangements than the food. Our caterer said they would take any last minute changes, and that it would be helpful to know that.
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So seems like the general vibe so far is that yes, I should just make more food for her (or eat with her) and more easily available.
Is it normal to still have to do that for a 16 yo? And then won't the same problem still be there like it is for joyofsix's boys?
I get that a 16-year-old should be mature enough to feed him/herself. I also get the temptation to allow Natural Consquences. (you go hungry) But for an unmotivated teen, you get a result like what you're seeing. Also I won't speculate as to whether an eating disorder could be involved because there just isn't enough information to know.
But I'll suggest a change in perspective. How valuable is a child's health? I'd argue ANYONE's health is a valuable enough commodity to devote time/attention to keeping it. Second, what if this child had an actual dietary/health issue? Many parents put significant effort into feeding kids who have various issues/intolerances. Does this child deserve any less attention because her issue is one of (interest? motivation? opportunity?) than something specific like diabetes or gluten intolerance?
Next, she's 16. You have TWO years left where you can make a significant difference. Do you want to waste them hoping she'll notice she's hungry, or allowing her to Nutritionally Fail in order to teach her a lesson? One whose consequence might be ACTUAL health issues?
Please note I'm not trying to scold you or alarm you -- I have one child who's difficult to feed also! I'm trying to construct a Motivational Paragraph that will allow you to look at this from a different point of view. True, you may or may not succeed in changing this child's eating habits as an adult. But you CAN affect them now, and you can at least give her the best foundation possible. So, find some things that are easy to make and make them. Find things that are easy for HER to make, and ask her to make them for you and other family members!
Maybe have a once or twice monthly How To Cook session -- start simple and work your way up. Why? LIFE SKILLS. You never know when you may have to "cook for yourself or others." Heck, she may even have KIDS one day! You'll be doing a favor for your grandkids if she knows how to cook a few things. It took me a long time to get certain things right (mashed potatoes!). Practice, practice, practice.
If my 16-year-old was routinely going to bed at 2 a.m., I'd intervene. Why? Good sleep is required for good health. If my 16-year-old was subsisting on peanuts and humidity, I'd intervene. Same reason.
I would not punish. I'd be there to help. Maybe ask for her input on this, too.
You have TWO YEARS.
Use them as the blessing they are.
Good luck!
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Can you shop around for the CT scan? Call other places as a "non-insured" person?
Plus people are making a good point about an eventual MRI.
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7th grade is Middle School Madness. It is the year I would most try to avoid compared to any other year.
But, you may luck into a good situation, you never know!
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Trying to think of a name for this type of non-helpfulness.
It Takes A Vigilante?
It Takes A Voyeur?
It Takes a Vindictive Busybody?
On the other hand if it is in the eighties or above and the kid is stuck in a car...
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I just had an ice cream cone last night with Blue Bell ice cream.
Delicious!
Thanks for the heads up. I definitely would've heeded it if I had come across it BEFORE I ate the ice cream.
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Now I know why they're called seamstresses!
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June 1st, everybody weighs in. You weigh X lbs.
June 31st, everybody weighs in. You weigh X minus x lbs.
I'm weightless on June 31st.
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An out of town friend told me she reads my Christmas newsletters to people who don't know me or my family. Because they're entertaining. Heh. :laugh:
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Jim Bob and Michelle giving tv interview
in The Chat Board
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In a way it's sort of an interesting indictment of having so many kids that you can't properly keep track of what's going on. Older kids raising youngers etc.