No, there's nothing they can do. Believe me. I lost twins at 21 weeks because of PROM (premature rupture of membranes). I went into labor. I do know someone who's membranes ruptured at 19 weeks and she delivered at 34 weeks. It can happen. :grouphug:

Good catch, Jean. I had not considered the clean catch at all. I understand now and agree...depending on the kid, I think it could have been explained, but I do understand what you are saying.

:iagree: I've found that moms who claim their kids are "spirited" often have kids with major issues. It does, indeed, seem to be a code for parents who don't want to admit there might be more than just spirit going on.

Yeah, last year. Not only a sono, but had to drink the radioactive dye, etc. No issues. I wouldn't worry about it. At all.

Ok, I've read the OP and all the replies. If I am reading this correctly, this is the situation: No one, except the nurse, knows *exactly* what the child said beyond "I hate my mom." There was something else said about math. If anything else was said, we don't know.. We do not know the tone. We do not exactly know the circumstances. As for the nurse: Perhaps the child's tone was a bit "off" to the nurse. She sees kids daily. She's not naive. Something about what this kid said raised enough of a red flag that she said something to the doctor. As for the doctor: She's a doctor. She has to intervene...it's her job. (An aside: If you don't want intervention, treat yourselves!) The doc was told something by the nurse. It was enough to cause her to talk to mom and the kids. As for the OP: She took her kids for a well-child visit. It's totally her responsibility to know what goes on at a well-check visit...that's her job as a mom, so that if there are going to be concerns she can address them beforehand. Whatever the reason...forgetfulness, lack of foresight, being passive, whatever....she is not happy with the result of the visit. OP, I feel sorry for the discomfort this caused you. That said, it's one thing for a child to scream at his parents, "I hate you!" It's totally different for a calm child to tell a stranger that he hates his mom and then go off about other things that make his mom mean (math assignments are the only thing mentioned). I think the nurse did her job. The doctor's behavior....well, I feel she was totally correct in talking to you, but the talk with the kids was a bit over the top, but it's great that she addressed the issue with them (I would have preferred to be present if these were my kids). HOWEVER - and here is where that passive stuff comes into play - you could have told her that she was not taking those kids in a room for a talk alone. You didn't. You allowed her to speak to the children alone. I don't think that gives you any room to complain.

I'm sure the nurse showed him where the bathroom was and waited outside. Jeez, does an 8-year old need Mommy constantly?

I picked up a copy of the Landmark book, The Mysterious Voyage of Captain Kidd at a garage sail for 10 cents. Evidently that's the most collectible of the series....I sold it on Ebay for $150. :D

Talk to a pharmacist!

I have read about it, yes. But that's a genetic aberration, not the norm.

She needs to be seen by a doc. What you described could be a fissure, but it could also be a sign of Crohn's disease. Better safe than sorry.

Who did the stool analysis....someone with money to make from your results? Or a totally independent lab? And exactly what tests did they run, and what are the normal results?

It depends on where you live.

I think a lot of this is hype and directed at those who fear easily. Looks like an easy buck for those selling the stuff.

Yeah, well, some of us pay the price for that. :( It's ok, really. I LOVE homeschooling....done with responsibility. And now I'm out of this discussion. :)

Hmmm... I just opened a credit card (I must confess...Loft...) and they asked annual income, so I told them the combined total. They did not ask either/or. I got the card without a problem. I make very little (part-time, retail), but my credit limit was more reflective of the combined income.

:grouphug: I have no clue as to your question. I'm sorry you don't feel well. What are you taking....oxycodone, hydrocodone? I'm a pharm tech. Remember to drink a lot, and remember your gut will slow down.... :grouphug:

You let it go when they can type. Seriously, I have one child who must have some fine motor skill issues. He could never write well (handwriting, I mean!). When he was around 10, he learned to type and I never made him hand-write papers again. That said, I did continue to make him take notes during read-aloud stuff (science, history, etc). His writing, to this day, is awful (he's 19 and in college) BUT he can read his own notes. He can write quickly now, but it looks awful. That's ok. Most stuff for college is typed. Blue book tests are written, and his prof can decipher it. :)

My sons' friends *love* it when I make a big pot of soup for them. If I add homemade bread they are beyond happy. I'm sorry you had some picky kids. I, for one, don't do the pizza thing for teens unless they are buying. Too expensive. LOL.

Oh, dear, Apryl. Does he have IBD? I have Crohn's, and when I was diagnosed it was a similar scenario to what your dh is facing right now. I had an ileostomy (had it reversed after 3 months) and peritonitis that almost killed me. Biopsies taken during my emergency surgery revealed that I had Crohn's. You, your dh, and your family will be in my prayers. Please feel free to pm me if I can answer any questions for you. I know your dh is hurting right now...it's very painful. And scary. Hang in there. :grouphug:

Hysterical!!! I think that the twin moms among us could write a book on ridiculous twin comments. Having twins certainly attracts the weirdos when out in public! :tongue_smilie:

I had a woman *insist* that boy-girl twins can be identical. Her cousin had them. Uh huh. :lol::lol::lol:

It certainly sounds like twins to me! I sure hope so. Twins are such a blast. I measured like you at 19 weeks. :) ETA: My twins nursed until they were 2. There are lots of us on the board who have nursed twins, so don't worry!

And I am not offering support given what she described. I offered advice. :)

Wow. I guess I'm not going there in this lifetime. LOL. :)

Honest, and sick to death of people offering solace to those who shortchange their children by their lackadaisical attitudes and behaviors.