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Posts posted by Rosie_0801

  1. I read an interview a few years ago by a bloke who gets mentioned as a victim of Prince Phillip's bigotry every time anyone in our media wants to run a story like that. He said the Prince had been misquoted, he hadn't been offended at all and they'd had a good laugh. 

    Not that any of us are immune to behaving like jerks at times, but I think if you live too long, you run the risk of your sense of humour going out of fashion. 

  2. 29 minutes ago, Ausmumof3 said:

    This is interesting to me.  My oldest had an absolute terror of blenders/juicers as a toddler that turned into an obsession/fascination.  He went from screaming when he saw the juicer come out to being so obsessed with blenders that we bribed him with a trip to boost juice to be able to get him to sit still for a hair cut (no mean feat!).


    Would that be considered neurotypical for a preschooler?  

    I think just about everything is normal, so I'm not the right person to ask!

  3. 13 minutes ago, SanDiegoMom said:

    I struggle with this a lot -- a friend has a problem, I dive really deep into it, write way too much about it, suddenly look very officious, and then I get nothing or very little back and I realize I did it again.  

    It is convenient to have friends of the same neurotype.


  4. 4 minutes ago, Not_a_Number said:

    Really? Being scared of loud noises is a primitive reflex? 

    Linked to the mouth reflexes, I think.

    Peter Pan will have better information, but this is my observation. When my boy's mouth reflexes were less severe, he was more tolerant of loud noises. When the reflexes ramped up again, so did his problem with the blender.

  5. 54 minutes ago, PeterPan said:

    ASD is not about being nice or not nice. Some ASD people are the NICEST PEOPLE you'll know. They're terribly loyal, well intentioned, overly generous, even socially motivated, funny. None of that is about being an unkind, ill intentioned, unthoughtful person except as a side effect of their social thinking deficits.

    Then there's that whole thing where if you're too nice to people, you look like a jerk. Like resolving a problem quietly instead of gushing sympathy and leaving the person to suffer like you're meant to.*

    *I seriously don't know how that is a rule, but I know it is one.

  6. 10 minutes ago, KathyBC said:

    Quoting Allan Savory, a Zimbabwean ecologist not very popular with vegans:
    "All beef is plant based. Either we let nature continue doing what she does and has done for many billions of years, or we use our new technology to falsely manufacture meat from monocultures of plants in agriculture, which is already the most damaging industry in history ever."

    Mm. Agriculture can't work sustainably without animal input, so where will that come from?

  7. 8 hours ago, Not_a_Number said:

    ... or somewhere adjacent to it? 🙂 

    I've been curious about this one! I know there are quite a few people on here who at least self-identify as being on the autism spectrum. And I know that there were a LOT of people who didn't like making phone calls when I asked, which made me wonder 😂. (You obviously don't have to be autistic to dislike phone calls, but I do feel like it's extra common in the adjacent-to-autism population.) 

    I have an autistic friend who loves making phone calls. They've got me so well trained I hit "accept" when they call even when I'm trying to hang up on them. 😅

  8. It's a common dynamic in my family of origin to prioritise the volatile and make a whipping boy/scapegoat out of the reliable ones.

    Worry less about how they feel about you, and concentrate on how you feel about them. Your decisions should be made from your point of view, not theirs.

  9. 4 hours ago, Lecka said:

    Anyway -- I DO think -- someone who self-identifies, that should be respected and seen as valid, even though the act of self-identifying is an act of self-awareness, which can be seen as not consistent with autism. 


    Don't you believe it. (Not you, the public.)


    But from the added information, there's definitely more going on than mere autism. Autism is not a reason to choose to be less healthy than one can be. ((Hugs))

  10. As you get older, you are thrown into more different environments and your mum isn't there to manoeuvre things the way mums do. You learn more about how unfair* life is and it tires you out. 

    *The lying, the flaking, the double standards, the knowing you're never going to understand why some people get away with so much and you'll never work out how to be one of those people yourself.


    How did she play when she was small?

  11. Tell him to be patient. 🙂

    Maybe give him a heads up as to whether today is a learning a new reading rule day or whether it is going to be a practicing day, but basically, this is entirely normal. You might consider using graded readers, to space out the new rules required, or lists of words so there's no story to get in the way of sounding out practice.

  12. The main thing is to reduce his stress levels as far as possible.

    The second is to talk him through it all. 
    When they're toddlers, you walk about saying "oh, look, it's a snail!" and "Do you remember what that flower is called?"
    When they're older, you talk through the emotional stuff, a lot of which starts with "Come here and be hugged."
    He needs to be taught how he works. What the grief cycle is, how stress makes our bodies and emotions feel, how our amygdala shuts down our prefrontal cortex. Once he has words, it's easier to divorce the behaviour from character. Normal stress responses aren't a sign of poor character, but they get treated that way a lot because they will cause stress in the probably already stressed caregivers. Kid needs to know that. I told my kiddo we were learning this stuff to help keep her brain and heart healthy.

    This is a good start: https://www.amazon.com.au/Simple-Guide-Child-Trauma-What/dp/1785921363
    I read that to dd when she primary school age, probably a bit older than this lad though. 

    https://www.amazon.com.au/Simple-Guide-Sensitive-Boys-Children/dp/1785923250/ref=pd_sbs_5?pd_rd_w=azM3x&pf_rd_p=d243999a-7f61-4008-b21b-55bebc5b47c7&pf_rd_r=3B3Y3ND00WX2V0AR42JK&pd_rd_r=c24899fa-4050-48e7-80cc-bfc0609d1be8&pd_rd_wg=WZhKd&pd_rd_i=1785923250&psc=1 might help too.

  13. 9 hours ago, Calizzy said:

    @Rosie I’m just trying to do a survey of some places we are unfamiliar with. So I’d be happy with a biography of a famous Australian, literature from an Australian,  books set in australia, etc. 

    For a nice, easy read, 'Walking the Boundaries' by Jackie French. That should be easy to find.
    There are also a bunch of Indigenous stories on Youtube.
    'Rabbit Proof Fence' is heavier, but history is like that. I agree with Lori about watching the movie instead of reading the book.
    'Sand Talk' by Tyson Yunkaporta should be a good read if you're wanting a bit more thinking.
    I haven't read the kiddie version of 'Dark Emu' yet, but it's on everyone's shortlist of Australian "must reads" for kids.
    Yassmin Abdel-Magied's autobiography is a good read, if you don't mind a bit of language. She did work on an oil rig, and that's the lingo there.
    'Future Girl' by Asphyxia (a Deaf artist) is a very good teen fic read if you're okay with dystopian, coming of age novels.

  14. 6 minutes ago, Spy Car said:

    Very poetic. I could see myself being very very happy living in Australia. There are not many places I could see myself living other than California, but Australia seems like a natural.

    Other than the floods. Not so keen on floods. More of an earthquake guy myself.


    Australia is a big place. I'm a temperate zone girl. Bugger the tropics. Bugger the sub-tropics too. They probably keep crocodiles in their floods.

    I'm not sure why crocodiles seem less appealing than flood and fire. Maybe it's what you're used to...

    My heart belongs in box-ironbark country, so here I am. 

  15. 14 minutes ago, Spy Car said:

    Snakes, floods, socks, thongs, bogans, where does it all end?


    It doesn't.

    Coz we love a sunburnt country, a land of sweeping plains, of rugged mountain ranges, of droughts and flooding rains.

    Can't blame dear Dorothea for not predicting loo roll and sock shortages. It'd have made the poem a bit less dignified, in any case. Perhaps we need a modern Slim Dusty for that.

    My mother calls them "Jo-ers" for short. That's probably even less cool. I don't know. I don't even know how it should be spelled.

  16. 1 hour ago, Spy Car said:

    A truly cool Australian, I'm told, always refers to snakes as "Joe Blakes," so I'm tending to believe your claims of being unhip :tongue:


    The only people I've ever heard call snakes "Joe Blakes" are my parents.

    Melissa is certainly cooler and hipper than they are, bless their hearts.


    Well. I feel better now I know how we got from the Suez Canal to Melissa's socks.

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