I would have done the same thing. The suit could have been used as a distraction. I don't think women should be pulling over to help men ever. Ypu cpuld have called the PD to let them know someone needed help at such and such a spot, but if you didn't think of it, you can't do anything about that.

My parents sold EVERYTHING before they moved out of their house. I was so upset because they had many Chinese items and furniture. My youngest daughter is Chinese. The mist heartbreaking item they sold was a village my grandfather built for a toy train. It was beautiful and had mountains, a mirrored lake, etc. They got so little for everything. The village fetched $25. I will never understand why that wasn't kept in the family.

First of all, I need to go reread the OP because I don't recall any mentall illness in the dd. As for the rest, if this were the situation, before the couple got married, if they knew they couldn't support themselves, this should have been discussed. To call all the shots and then move into the parwnts home because neither was responsible or capable of doing better, should have had parental input. I work with special needs adults. Yes, they deserve all that other adults do, but if marriage and babies are going to be considered, input from parents and/or guardians is necessary. One adult client living in my home was once proposed to. The parents wouldn't allow the marriage because, and I quote, "Who would want to take that on?" And if you've seen the AMAZING reality show Born This Way about adults with Downs Stndrome, you would see the moms who are unsupportive of marriage and babies because they (moms) know that most of the work of raising the kids would be on them. So yes, they do have rights, but not all parents are willing or capable of making things work for them. If these two are this incapable (lack of direction, lack of employment) of taking care of themselves, how will they responsibly care for their kids? Are the parents supposed to help with raising their grandchildren as well as supply rent free living?

I love this response.... but how realistic is this for most people with a debilitating mental illness? My brother is a paranoid schizophrenic. I can tell you with absolute certainty that my parents coddling of him crippled him more than his illness did. When my dad died my brother was 40. My mother had advanced in her disease, dementia, at that time. Brother has no wife to care with or for him, and what he gets from disability, no person could live off of. My parents paid for a condo for him and still he can barely scrape by. My brother would never make a decent father or husband. He is so self absorbed, and I believe it is because everything in his life was handed to him on a silver platter. He is also crippled by his disease which is managed as well as possible with a very serious cocktail of meds. I would hatenfor him to have kids who could possibly suffer from his disease. Our aunt also had PS and she caused a lot of heartache until her death at 45 and never functioned in a fairly positive way.

And if they have a child and live in a state qhere it snows, it is even harder to evict. The dd was too immature to make a good decision here. The parents should NOT be the onrs to pay the price for it. I can see him having babies while living there for his stability. For a free ride.

I am still reading through this thread but I am stumped by the people who are saying that not allowing this couple to live with the parents is the same as making the daughter choose between the parents and the the man. These are two completely different situations. While I would not allow this couple to live with us (and FTR I did have this conversation with my son when he was dating his first GF and talked to me about them possibly living with us to help us out as we age once married, something he had in mind since he was a young kid. I told him no, that I feared it would ruin the relationship and I would never allow that but the truth was that nobody in the family liked his ride GF and he never knew until the break up because I never wanted to make him choose berween us) i would be polite, encourage, and now more than ever, tey hard to keep my relationship with dd as close as possible. But allowing this man with a history of not working and throwing in the non-family planning to boot, meaning lots of kids, heck no. They have to make it on their own. That is the most loving thing to do before they end up living there for years and with multiple kids. I would never support this relationship, my child would never know, (BTDT and when my son was upset I didn't tell him, I told him I never would because doing so would only cause problems. He gets the truth AFTER the break up) and I would meet her for lunch, buy her a few groceries, be sympathwtic to her hellish situation, invite the couple to dinner, etc. But I would not clallow them to live in my home.

I absolutely wouldn't allow it. Not only did she marry a jobless man who has a long hiatory of not working, now she and the parents are supporting him. That's all sorts of enabling. I am strong enough to watch my kids suffer, if necessary, in situations like this. Normally I am a mom who can barely survive if my kids suffer, but no way would I be helping out here.

L-theanine

An excellent quality magnesium which is absorbed well worked wonders for my palpitations and pounding heart as well as cheat pains. Rigorous exercise. I hear a good B complex vitamin helps, but the one I tried caused me to have outbursta of anger. I saw on the Amazon reviews that others were also affected in the same way so I am afraid to try again.

Monday morning, when he is hopefully at work, could you possibly go to the wife and have a face to face? Let her know that you sent a message, didn't know if she read it or someone else did, and that knowing about the affair has had a major impact on you and you needed her to know the truth.

With a title of "Purity balls for boys," my mind automatically went to a different kind of ball. :D

I have no desire for a formal dining room. We added a nice addition to house our kitchen set when we increased our kitchen size. I also have a rattan set out there and a fireplace, assuring it was never considered a formal dining room. We still don't use it a lot. We have a massive island in the kitchen where we eat. The addition ia used fir eating only on holidays. I do do puzzles back there so I guess it was a good investment. :D

I have a switch plate with 5 light switches. I hate it when all the lights are off but one or two of the switches are up because someone turned them off or on from a different area. When the computer in my car tells me it is time for service (oil change) it drives me crazy so I trip the computer before I start to drive. It drives me crazy when the family is watching a movie on tv (commercials) when we own the movie.

Some of the Firld Roast stuff is amazing!

All my dishwashers were junk until we got the Nosch. We tried Whirlpool, KA, and one other.... drawing a blank. My Bosch is almost 8 years old and runs like it did the day we bought it.

Keep giving the Benadryl. She is going to need it. I am glad you marked off the areas. I didn't realize you could get cellulitus from a sting. :(

Lucy, I am not saying I am being realistic. I know I'm not. I still wish there was a way for this to happen. Wishful thinking....

Oh! I have not read this before but find it so helpful!!! I stopped reading RAD related stuff years ago. Every now and then I will look into something, but it is almost a trauma trigger for me to. :(

For those at a high risk to offend to be allowed in the general population and have access to kids is SICK. the monster who targeted my son married a woman with boys in his target age range. Both boys tried to kill him as an adult, and both boys were jailed for a period of time. It makes me sick. When the wife called me after her husband's arrest and I questioned her own boys, she started to cry and told me she couldn't do anything because she needed his money. I told her that her greed shattered the lives of many boys, many families, and told her to never call me again. She plead for my friendship and I hung up on her. IMO her kids were bait and she allowed it all to go down under her own roof. She is as sick, if not sicker, than the beast she married.

Oops. I also read that a kids stops developing at the age they were traumatized, meaning they are stuck emotionally at that age. Have you heard of this? I don't know how infant abuse or neglect would be considered...

A dryer that neatly folds the clothes, then a robot to neatly and accurately put them away. I saw a self cleaning toilet at Lowes. I didn't bother to watch the demo. I wonder if it cleans the underside of the seat?

But then again, it is a slippery slope. If a girl lies about her age and has consensual sex, I do not believe the man should be charged in this case. It is not fair for them to face a lifetime of punishment (probation, registry) IMO

Lucy, do you happen to know what the reoffense rate is? I think I read somewhere it is very high. Any chance is too high for my comfort. In my ideal world, any offender who is released should live in zones where children aren't allowed. I think being able to reintegrate in neighborhoods with parks and kids is such a sick thing to allow. Again, I admire you and others like you. I do not have that level of grace.

I also admit my thoughts and feelings are not healthy. Thankfully, they fade with time. They will never go away. I do have a sense of peace and happiness knowing he and his brother will never see the light of day outside prison walls. I also know how child predators are treated in prison. Perhaos karma will pay a visit. No tears will be shed here.