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  1. My dd11 is PG as well, but she still does not want to read this book, which in her case is probably best. It would be an extremely unusual 7 yr. old who is emotionally mature enough for that book. And a kid could be emotionally mature but still highly sensitive, in which case it could be too disturbing.
  2. My dd was 32-weeker. She was basically caught up developmentally by the time she was 1. Barring some kind of diagnosis I would not consider it beyond pre-k. (IMO it would be different for a kid born say at 28 weeks and less, and more likely to have much longer term implications.
  3. Read Rosalind Wiseman's books and blog. She also has a curriculum that is worthwhile checking out.
  4. I get what you are saying, but "Lukas" does not fit in the category of a "kre8tiv" spelling. My husband is from Germany, our son's name is spelled Lukas because that is how it is tradtionally spelled there. It is not the same thing as invented spellings of some words, or phonetic spellings of Irish names (Shon for Sean). No one in my family has had trouble remembering that it is a "k' instead of a "c". To the OP, yes, it would bug me, but I would also try to choose to let it go.
  5. I have a kid who is a carrier of something that is pretty significant that most people would not want a child to suffer from, if it were possible to avoid in the first place--I don't mean termination but PIGD or choosing adoption). If I were her, I would absolutely want genetic testing done--for example if a potential spouse felt like they wanted bio children, but was also a carrier, it would def. be something they would need to discuss. They would need to consider how they felt about PIGD and IVF and adoption. That said, I do NOT think it should be mandated. We chose not to have pre-natal testing. My son has Down syndrome. I am glad not to have known, but I also know many people who were glad to have a pre-natal diagnosis before their baby was born. It should be an informed choice. Also--in general, the medical community is very forceful in advising termination in the case of Down syndrome--without giving parents truly informed consent. Another reason I am not in favor of mandating testing.
  6. IMO, God hates divorce because it is so hard on the people He loves. But he loves the individuals more than the marriage. And sometimes it is the right and brave thing.
  7. Cream and butter and cheese and shrimp and bacon (or prosciutto). Mmmmm... Shrimp Grits recipes
  8. "Widely unequal societies do not function efficiently, and their economies are neither stable nor sustainable in the long term," Joseph E. Stiglitz, a Nobel Prize-winning economist, writes in his new book, The Price of Inequality. "Taken to its extreme--and this is where we are now--this trend distorts a country and its economy as much as the quick and easy revenues of the extractive industry distort oil- or mineral-rich countries."
  9. I have not read the thread, but Slate magazine did a very informative series of articles on income inequality in America. It is well worth reading.
  10. When its time to change, you've got to rearrange...(sorry I can't help thinking of that Brady Bunch episode) No advice--I hope someone here can help!
  11. I think 2 gifts, I think they each should get something to open. I do 2 puzzles or 2 books, something like that.
  12. I love, love Roddy Doyle. I don't have personal experience with addiction--I can imagine that it would have affected you. I bet he would be very moved to hear this.
  13. Reno is a great city and Tahoe is one of the most gorgeous places on earth! (I would personally try to live as close to Tahoe as possible). Lucky you!
  14. I have been avoiding this one and The Hole in Our Gospel. I suspect that if I read them I might put them both on this list.
  15. Living with Intensity Les Miserables A Tale of Two Cities Let the Great World Spin
  16. To Galatea, I think that your experience was exactly relevant and exactly the kind of thing that the OP and surely others reading this thread who are or will be in similar situations needed to read. I am sure that it will have an impact on how parents choose to deal with this issue. Thank you for taking the time to share it and again, I am sorry for your loss.
  17. The absence of compassion and love in this just absolutely floors me. Unbelievable. And that smilie? Are you kidding me?
  18. If I would have stopped at 2 children I would have thought that I was the best parent ever and that people who couldn't make their kids behave in public were horrible parents. I have since learned differently. (of course high expectations and good modeling are appropriate and the lack of would impact a kid's behavior as well.
  19. Given the context of the post to which you are replying, this absolutely blows my mind. To the poster who lost your brother, I am so very sorry for your loss. I think that sharing the story will definitely allow many people to learn from your family's experience.
  20. I think it is a combination of all of the above. I think there is a correlation with homeschooing due to the positive benefits to the relationship when time and attention are invested. (see book Hold on to Your Kids) But, I also think that luck plays a big part--I would have attributed my first being well-behaved to parenting until I had my 3rd. Some kids are just naturally better behaved, and some have to mature out of some behaviors that no amount of punishing would diminish, and unless you have parented a kid like that it is impossible to understand.
  21. mas$%%%%tion. is perfectly within the realm of normal behavior--it is not unusual that a 10 yr. old would have figured it out by now. If he has watched actual p$%n, then I would guess it is even MORE likely he has figured it out. I just don't understand. Giving him the truth in a loving way consistent with your values seems preferable to him learning about s#x from the internet and most likely being ashamed and confused.
  22. Maybe it is time for him to learn the technicalities. Part of his obsession/curiousity whatever you want to call it may be because he is ready for the details, and if he doesn't get the accurate ones from you he may be tempted to look for the answers elsewhere.
  23. Let me understand this. You know your kid has watched p#$n on the internet, but doesn't know the "ins and outs" of TeA? I think the ship has sailed. Who knows what all he has seen, but if you don't teach him the details, and that healthy sexuality is nothing to be ashamed about but that what he has seen is not healthy, he will have a very skewed perception of what is healthy and normal. I agree that whatever is going on a professional's guidance would be useful.
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