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Patty Joanna

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Patty Joanna last won the day on May 22 2018

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  1. Stucco is great for certain climates, terrible for others. In the NW, unless it is properly installed, rain gets behind it and it never dries so you get mold IN your walls. We have kept count of the stucco'd condos in the area that had to be completely emptied, wrapped, haz-mat cleaned up, and re-sided, and it's pretty much ... all of them. Nasty stuff, and expensive---residents have to move out for however long it takes--usually months. I read something in an architecture magazine a number of years ago that it is generally a good idea to build the house with the most "native" materials. They are there for a reason. I grew up in Colorado and that meant rock or brick, not wood (it's dry there and you end up painting alllll the time). So we moved to the NW and I thought "gotta get a brick house" but it turns out that brick is not so great here, as in the little tremblers, it gets actually pay more for your insurance for a brick house, here. But in the SW, I would totally do a *real* stucco house or adobe...but not here in the NW.
  2. I liked my roof that was a sunroof or popped up a bit at the back to allow ventilation. This is what I had on the last two cars. I don't care for the moonroof on my current car and hardly ever use the sunroof. And it doesn't have the back tip-up for ventilation so I'm in the not-worth-extra-money camp.
  3. We used to have one! Down the hallway from my bedroom to the garage door. Pellet gun. :0)
  4. What a good question! I would like a big projects room where I could leave out my sewing, have a cutting table, and DH could have HIS project table and there would be a couple of loungers and a TV. Like we used to have. :0). That would free up half of my office, half of dh's, the guest room closet and the dining room table. And while I am at it, I am going to cheat and add 40sf to my laundry room. I used to have a laundry room that was also a project room. I don't need that much room anymore, but I would like to be able to turn around with a load of laundry in my arms and to have storage cabinets I could actually reach. :0)
  5. I'd spend $250 once a year, but not more than that. :0) But I don't have a kid in the car anymore, either. Haha.
  6. We sold a house in an upscale neighborhood a few years ago. The house across the street was not as good a house, had a terrible floorpan, and sold a lot faster and at more $/sf because it had a theater room. OURS only had a 400sf LR, 400sf rec room and a 700sf storage room, any of which could have been turned into a theater. ::: eye roll ::: The first thing the buyers did was rip out the LR carpet, put black-out shades on all the windows, and create a theater room. Do I get it? No I do not. But apparently it is a thing.
  7. In 1965, wallpaper was IT, unless it was panelling. And the more texture on it, the better. We bought a house that had wallpaper on one wall in every room: Son's room: flocked velvet. Son's / central bathroom: metallic Den: cherry panelling Rec room: walnut panelling Guest room: grass wallpaper Guest room: bamboo wall paper Wet bar: cork wallpaper Downstairs bathroom: burlap with glitter on it. Family room: bleached wood panelling And all of it was put directly on the drywall, not on painted drywall. We hired a guy to strip all the wallpaper and then paint. He had to skim-coat every single wall afterward. Ugh.
  8. I'm so sorry. We had troubles (NOTHING like what you all have described) and it was excruciating. It was hard to even *breathe* sometimes. So sorry for this trouble, for any who go through this.
  9. I liked your post not to like it but to stand alongside you. ❤️
  10. I expressed myself badly. I always loved my son and his rejection of our faith did nothing to change that. What it DID do was make it. bit of a chore to figure out what it looked like to live together as a family--for both of us. What we talked about changed. And how we responded to what we talked about changed. Example:. my dh and I would talk about something we we're learning at church. Should we do that if DS is in the room? Will he think we are pushing something at him? And for DS, should he speak up and state his position? Or just be quiet? When he was a minor, should we expect him to go to church? Etc. It wasn't shunning or rejection or any less live--it was just a change and we had to figure out what it looked like, and so it was uncomfortable at times. And he got games-addicted and that has to be dealt with and that was tough but it was never done without love--and he knew that even at the time. He comes to church with us from time to time because he knows he is well loved and he gets a lot of encouragement. No one at church has ever shunned or rejected him--this is what he told me recently. The thing I meant to convey originally is that rejection and shunning is not really that helpful. :0)
  11. The difference between "the silent treatment" and "holding one's tongue" is in the motivation of the speaker/non-speaker. Here is part of a prayer that I prayed like 300 times a day when my son was a teen. Teach me what I should say and how I should speak.If it be Thy will that I make no answer,inspire me to keep silent in a spirit of peacethat causes neither sorrow nor hurt to my fellow man.
  12. My ds does not practice our faith anymore, but ontologically, he is part of our family and part of the faith. That he doesn't recognize the latter doesn't make it less true. "my truth" and "your truth" is a modern idea. How the parts of the family interact and what is acceptable expression is a separate issue. I'm sounding curt because I'm whipped--long three weeks, and in some sense, long 7 years.. Please forgive me. I don't mean to be curt...but this is something I have thought a lot about but don't have the energy at the moment to expound. I will always love my son, and he will always be part of our family...whether he knows it or not (and increasingly, he does--both family of birth and family of faith--and I never thought, 5 years ago, that I would be able to say that).
  13. This is generally the model i have. Six years old now and not a problem. It's my backup and travel computer now as I got a big-screen apple desktop for my photography business but this was my workhorse for 4 years. No complaints. I had a Thinkpad for 5 years before this one and my dH is still using THAT one for some work when he's not crabby abut speed. Big Lenovo fans here.
  14. Yael, others have given better advice than I could have come up with and I know for a fact (with less dramatic but still painful experience) that this almost-18 time is a nightmare. If he's 18 in a month, you have so little time to do anything that *can* be done and have him be required to stick with it. The main reason I am piping up is to say that I think you have to set some boundaries for when he turns 18. Regardless of whether he finishes school or not...that's really kind of moot at this point and there is the GED that HE can pony up for when he wants to get straight. I had to set some boundaries with someone a number of years ago and it felt so much like I had failed at love. I spoke with my priest about this and he said something I have never forgotten. "You are imperfect in love. What a surprise--you're just like the rest of us. Boundaries are not to shut someone out but to preserve the love that still exists--that will die if it is extended beyond the boundaries. The boundary may expand over time (or it may not need to) but if you don't put up the boundaries, the love inside will be killed." And you have other people to think about as well, not just their safety but their ability to (at some point) have something left for their brother. ((You and yours))
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