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  1. 2 hours ago, elinnea said:

    My dentist didn't think they needed to be removed (while I was still on my parents' dental insurance).  Two years later one got infected which I had to pay out of pocket.  Then in my 30s another one got infected but fortunately we had dental insurance at that time.  I personally think it is better to pull them at a younger age.  The other problem that keeping them caused is crowding.  My teeth were fine enough growing up that I didn't need braces.  Having my wisdom teeth come in (and not enough space) caused all of my lower front teeth to become crowded/ crooked. 

    I should add to my above post since you were asking about people outside the U.S. as well.  Dh is German and he had all his pulled as soon as they came in.  He's in his 50's.

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  2. My dentist didn't think they needed to be removed (while I was still on my parents' dental insurance).  Two years later one got infected which I had to pay out of pocket.  Then in my 30s another one got infected but fortunately we had dental insurance at that time.  I personally think it is better to pull them at a younger age.  The other problem that keeping them caused is crowding.  My teeth were fine enough growing up that I didn't need braces.  Having my wisdom teeth come in (and not enough space) caused all of my lower front teeth to become crowded/ crooked. 

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  3. DH and one of DS just got back on Sunday from two weeks with the in-laws in Germany.  DH tested positive for Covid this morning- sore throat and fever.  DS has tested negative so far as have the rest of us at home. 

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  4. 4 hours ago, prairiewindmomma said:

    Endurance athletes burn through different levels of macros and micros than normal athletes. (I have family that do ultra marathons--100 milers.)  She may be hyponatremic or have other really easy to solve things going on.  But, you aren't going to know if you don't run the basic bloodwork. The fact that whatever dietician she's been working with hasn't red flagged her ongoing nausea and other issues and pointed her towards a doctor is a red flag, imo. Nausea isn't uncommon among endurance athletes, there's always a lot of people who throw up during the last half of races when the body really begins to feel the strain, but you don't assume it's exercise related stress until you've done your homework. If she can't keep up with her fueling plan, that's a big problem. So---do your homework, iykwim.

    Also, if she's nauseous every day and this isn't easily solvable, I'd really ask her whether taking a break and seeing if she sees improvement outside of endurance sports. Her body may just not be weathering the strain well. A lot goes on hormonally when you're deep into an endurance strain.

     

    I agree with prairiewindmomma regarding the dietician and the needs of endurance athletes.  Unless the dietician is specialized in working with certain populations their recommendations are usually focused to the average person and therefore unhelpful.  When one of my kids was newly diagnosed with an eating disorder they sent us to a regular dietician.  Lovely lady and she had great suggestions but not appropriate for someone with an ED.  When we finally were able to see a dietician that specialized in eating disorders we saw much more improvement.  So in your case I would definitely check out her other physical stuff but also see if you can find a dietician that has experience with endurance athletes.

  5. On 11/13/2021 at 1:03 PM, mellifera33 said:

    Yup, here too. And just this morning, as I drove over a viaduct named for the old pickle company, I remembered the vinegar smell that was so prominent in the area when I was a kid. Now it smells skunky from all the cannabis processing going on in the old buildings. 

    I think we must be from the same town as I know exactly what you're talking about.  Our famous aroma is now from cannabis.  Ha ha.

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  6. I haven't been to any of mine and I don't plan on going to any in the future.  Our reunion committee always picks out the seediest venues but charges $$$.  My close friends who I still meet up with gave me a hard time for not going to the last one but I felt quite justified in my decision when they then  reported back that the food was terrible, the "popular" group who are now all middle aged were still getting drunk in the bathroom and the music was so loud that they couldn't carry on conversations.

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  7. I think this is a really hard question to answer because everyone's experience will be different.  As with moving anywhere it sort of depends on how open minded and adaptable you are.  My husband is German and I lived there for about 12 years but I think there are differences when you are married to someone from the cultural vs. being sent there for work. 

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  8. When we were building I wanted to get white oak but dh insisted on bamboo and finally convinced me because of all the good reviews.  There must be various types of bamboo because ours is horrible.  We don't wear shoes in the house but there are so many spots where it is horribly scratched and dented especially in the kitchen.  I get so mad about it on an almost weekly basis whenever I am mopping or vacuuming.  Really regret not insisting on the white oak.

  9. So if you do not feel cherished what can you do about it?  I grew up in a household where my parents always did little helpful acts of service and this is how I show love as well.  I thought this was "normal".  My spouse likes it when I do things for him but he doesn't really reciprocate.  I have tried talking to him about it but he gets annoyed and makes it sound like I am needy. 

  10. 3 hours ago, Soror said:

    Good tip. I'm going to check out that Reddit. I just ordered a Miele dishwasher last month (looks like it is finally shipping). Our old one was also a Maytag (also 14.5 yrs old) and has not done a great job for awhile but we made do. Now, the control panel is glitching I went area and ordered one as I expected issues with supply (glad that I did). 

    I hope you will have better luck with Miele than we have had.  German husband insisted on all Miele products and I've lost track how many times we've had them out to repair various appliances.  Unless you live in a large metro area back East it takes a couple of weeks to get an appointment, then parts need to be ordered from Germany.

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  11. I used to like fireworks but the renters next door changed my mind.  They don't start lighting them until around 10:30 p.m. and then they keep going until 2 a.m. or later.  These aren't "pretty" fireworks but just the illegal ones that make loud noises so that no one can sleep.  Talking to them doesn't help, our yard is littered with rocket debris the next day because they fire them at our house.  Sheriff won't do anything about it.  

     

    Like someone else said I don't mind the public ones because they are usually on water here and there is a start and stop time.  A total ban on private fireworks would be fantastic imo.

  12. Creekland is right about looking into your local CC. If you can't manage that yet, look into studying for CLEP exams. Many public universities will accept these credits and you can get started on your own without any money down until you're ready to take the test.

     

    Another alternative is the EdX-ASU Global Freshman Academy here:

     

    https://www.edx.org/course?search_query=asu

     

    If you haven't been in school for a while, I'd audit a class for free first and see how it goes. Then you can register for credit next time they offer it. The credit costs about $600 but is from Arizona State which is a highly respectable school that offers bachelor's degrees that are completely online.

     

    Thank you, chiguirre.  I did sign up for an online course this semester and I am loving it and doing well.  It's really the financial part that I am struggling with.  We have two in high school aged children so I feel like I need to put their college plans before mine and dh doesn't see a degree for me as a necessity at all.  I guess it's probably not but I just really want the experience and the accomplishment.  

     

    Going to college was a BIG DEAL for me.  I begged my parents for help but they did not want to discuss it any further and it became a taboo subject.  Being happy for my friends who got to go but also really jealous was hard.  Lots of awkward conversations in my early 20's when people thought I was going to school and would ask what my major was.  

     

    I keep telling myself things worked out fine, it's not that big of a deal and I should probably get over it but it's difficult.

  13. I was always a high achiever in school and it was expected that I would go to college.  My mother even told me that I shouldn't be reliant on a man to support me.  However, when the time came, my parents told me they couldn't afford it and that they didn't want to take out any loans.  I can understand that but they didn't want to discuss alternatives.  

     

    I was really confused, hurt and frustrated.  All my friends went away to school and it was hard not to feel envious and left out when they came home and shared stories about college.  I was working for minimum wage and asked my parents for a loan for a 2 year degree so at least I could earn more money.  They refused.  I ended up getting married and having kids.

     

    I have made the best of things but I would still really like to go to school although I'm afraid I don't see that happening any time soon.  It's frustrating as three of my closest friends have gone back to get graduate degrees in the last year.  

  14. That's a difficult question to answer without knowing the details and even then everyone is going to have their own criteria.  For me, as a general rule of thumb, I'd say that when the relationship is causing me distress and pain on a constant basis then it's time to let go.  

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  15. I usually pay with a credit card and if a friend wants to help with a tip and gives me cash then I'll add that into the amount and pocket the cash.  That way if the friend didn't give as much of a tip as I would have I can easily add it onto the total.  If you're paying with cash and leaving it all on the table I don't think there's any way of doing it discretely so your options are either to let it go or to add another dollar and two and just say casually that you thought the server did a really great job.

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  16. I think it's great that your relative wants to travel. I think every American should travel overseas at least once. However, given what you've shared, this trip doesn't sound like a good idea. I think the other posters have given you some really great advice. I don't think anyone wants you to be worried, I just sense a lot of concern from people that know what it's like to trav overseas and can see some potential pitfalls.

     

    My dh is European so we've done lots of transatlantic flights. Are you flying from the East or West Coast or somewhere in between? Is it a direct flight? Personally, I find flying to be highly stressful: going through security, making sure you're at the airport on time, sitting in a tiny enclosed space for hours and hours, jet lag, etc. I can't imagine throwing an anxious person into that situation and then adding bathroom issues on top of it.

     

    I don't want to discourage you entirely but I think perhaps you should try something closer to home first. Maybe a shorter domestic flight or how about a cruise?

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  17. Do not buy Miele. Dh is German so we had to buy all Miele aopliances when we moved into our house because they are "the best". Worst decision ever! Have had the repair guy out for the dishwasher twice, dryer twice, washing machine twice, coffee machine once but it still doesn't work properly.

     

    How their customer service works is you cannot call the repairman directly. You must call Miele first. They will troubleshoot with you over the phone, determine that a repairman is needed and then they will contact the repairman to contact you. This usually takes a day or two and then they will send out someone in another day or two. The repairman is not allowed to stock most parts so they will HAVE TO SEND AWAY TO GERMANY for them. Then they will make another appointment and hopefully fix your appliance. The last time my dryer quit it took them THREE weeks to get it fixed. It was winter and I live in the PNW so line drying was not an option. I had to haul our wash to my mom's house. Not fun! I would love to replace all our appliances but they were so expensive in the first place that dh balks at the idea.

  18. Hi Jenna,

     

    You have several options available, you can do an assessment or standardized test.  Most years my kids have taken the CAT test.  I administer it myself.  Very easy! I order mine thorough Family Learning Organization in Eastern WA.  They offer several types of tests and assessments.  http://www.familylearning.org/testing.php  .  There are other options available for testing including testing through your local school district but we've only just done the CAT or assessments.

     

    HTH!

     

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