Some people have this; it's well known, especially in people with diminished kidney function. (I know this b/c of an elder that I cared for.) Someone we were close to years ago had a neighbor who acted out in a criminal fashion while on Ambien; it was extremely out of character, and devastating, for them.

It bears saying that, yes, trazodone is not an SSRI, but it's adjacent. There is a syndrome called Post SSRI sexual dysfunction, and it's not just temporary lowering of libido. It can be an absolutely devastating, heart-breaking loss of normalcy and a deal-breaker for relationships. So with a young adult, I'd want to be really, really careful with SSRIs and SSRI-adjacent drugs because of the risk. In other words, I would exhaust every other measure first. They have a lifetime ahead of them. Here's a good general populace article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/side-effects/202303/sexual-dysfunction-may-continue-even-after-ssris-are-ended https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10122283/ Israeli retrospective study estimating approx 1 in 200 incidence of PSSD, and yes, this study was specific to people who took SSRIs. Here's the kicker: we don't know what, precisely causes PSSD -- the brain and its biochem are complex, and many of the mechanisms have multiple effects or overlaps. There are individual reports of some people having PSSD from trazodone. But if you're that one person, it's a horror, a living nightmare for you. Trazodone had also been studied for co-administration with SSRIs and has shown modest benefits in sexual function. But again, that doesn't account for the person who is atypical. Anyway, I thought it would be good to speak up, so you can be truly informed.

First of all, framing, drywall, paint, a pocket door kit or two and new flooring -- much of that could be done, or could be learned how to do, by the new residents. (It would depend on their reliability and willingness.) You might hire in an electrician after the framing if you/ds don't feel comfortable running electrical for the light switch. I'd consider a pocket door for the bedroom or the swinging door pictured if you plan to build in a closet immediately in a line of sight past the door. The most important thing is to frame up the red wall with a 2x6 sill plate and header, then stagger every other vertical 2 x 4 in the wall, so each vertical is set 3/4 of an inch from the edge of the 2x6. The first one would be flush with one side of the 2x6, the next flush with the other side, and so on, down the entire wall, so that wall doesn't transmit sound waves from the laundry area. (And of course that wall should be well-insulated, even though it's an interior wall.) You can get all kinds of creative with the layout of the laundry room, but if it will be a family laundry, chances are that laundry sink will get a lot more use than you've given it. While you're installing new flooring in the lanudry, I'd switch out the flooring for a single vinyl sheet, so it's waterproof. When you have a problem with a water leak from the washer -- it will happen at one point or another -- you'll be glad that floor slowed down the water flowing into the ceiling below. Best wishes! P.S. Another consideration: is this a house in which you could age in place on the first floor? You might consider what kind of budget would be needed to make that work. One of my co-workers just had a catastrophic medical accident and having a house that is livable when one is handicapped can be an immense comfort when you world is turned upside down in every other way.

I work on a campus that is near totality, but I've already given my notice that I'll be taking the day off. This will be the last total eclipse (without traveling) of my lifetime unless I'm longer lived than I expect to be, so we three in the household will be driving to a place of totality and enjoying it in quiet. I remember the party atmosphere of a college campus during a partial during my college years, and I've happily sponsored many a star party for homeschoolers. This time I'm ready to quietly enjoy the intensity of the occasion. If grandkids were willing, I'd do it with them, but my kids are not interested. (Too many star parties, I guess.)

Many men have zero desire to stand in front of a urinal while a woman walks past him. Re-plumbing a bathroom is not an easy thing to do.

I would characterize this as making a large splash in popular press in 2019, but it was not unknown before then. I very well remember discussion in the mid-1990s of immune amnesia as a sequel to measles, as were several other complications including encephalitis and the very rare SSPE and eye issues. The sources I was reading and listening to (getting CEUs at the time) were practicing pediatricians, so maybe it was observational data on their part, confirmed 20 years later in studies...or perhaps finally there was a mechanism identified and therefore published? Anyway, this has no bearing on your argument, it's just a bit of interesting trivia, and perhaps instructive for the future: we can often deduce patterns in observational data which could be confirmed -- or not -- through prospective trials. We should be attentive and not dismissive of parents' concerns. I'd like to see what evidence Jha is using to support his statement. (If it's like many other of his statements, he is shooting from the hip with no evidence.)

These are beyond cute. She'll look so adorable in them!

Someone I don't know posted a video of her testing a Stanley, on the inside, and her swabs turned positive for lead. Clearly the article posted by Prairiewindmomma had more detailed, credible information. I'm going to step away from this now.

I read the article, @prairiewindmomma. It's possible the person doing the test didn't have a reputable lead test, but she was not swabbing the base, rather the interior of the cup. It was turning the swabs a color. ??? More importantly, the article mentioned not drinking hot beverages stored for hours in 304 or 18/8 stainless steel. That would apply to me, a daily tea drinker. Will have to rethink; probably the easiest would be to begin using my old coffee carafe as a warmer. Sigh. It's either that or spend far too much time at the microwave at work, warming up tea.

BTW, I saw someone doing lead wipes on the inside of Stanleys recently. Tested positive for lead.

It's funny that was what came immediately to my mind.

Thanks for these, @prairiewindmomma! This is helpful...I wasn't sure of the search terms to use!

Will do.

That's such a good idea! Thanks!

I learned to sew on barbie clothes (teeny tiny darts, buttons, pleats, and snaps -- I'm convinced there was a reason so few Barbie clothes had sleeves! I envision so many poor factory workers learning to swear! ) and was fearless in sewing a prom dress and my wedding dress. (The styles of the era didn't match what I wanted to wear, so I made my own, with zero regrets.) I'm less fearless now because I'm sewing to please others. Sigh.

I'm certain I'm not using the right terminology! I want to quilt a landscape, with different fabrics representing a 'mountain range and sky' scene on the back of a baby quilt. How do I sew two fabrics that meet, but not on a straight line, more of a curve or the shape of slightly-smoothed peaks. Do I use the same technique as I would on, for example, a neckline with inner facing, where I snip-and-spread my way around the curve, coming close to the stitch line? Is there a different way to do this that guarantees a nice smooth in the curves and keeps it from bunching in the tight peaks/summits? I'm working with flannel, and I figured I'd always press the seams under the darker fabric, so the fabric didn't show under the lighter cloth. Is there a better way to do this? Even though I've sewn a lot, I've never had proper training -- and I've given up on some projects for lack of knowledge. I like my idea (the artistic design I have in mind) on this quilt, and I really want to have it come to fruition. Thanks so much! (Edited for clarity)

If they had wanted it back, they would have asked. Not worth their time.

Does this group have a name? Any chance they are nationwide?

Not exactly on topic, but I think an audio book of The Hunter-Gatherer's Guide to the 21st Century would be a fascinating 'read'. Very science-oriented, but not really about scientific personalities, in the way your other selections seemed to be.

I would do the same as you if I had that risk; I have a terrible fear of falling off something high. There is no way you would get me to do back country skiing, for example. Or the twin cylindrical parking towers in Chicago. Shudder.

This is horrifying to contemplate.

I have had great success in the last few years in the US with finding something I like advertised on one of the rental sites, then contacting the owner and making arrangements with them, generally people running a business, not renting a room in their home, so they have an email, published phone number, or website. It has usually saved us several hundred $.

@Faith-manor would you mind sharing your recipe? Thank you!

I'm just reading this, Katie. I'm so sorry! We've been through this and it's gut-wrenching, especially when your guy can't sleep. (OMG, I can sleep through a tornado, but dh would lay awake all night trying to figure out a way to wrestle down the problem!) It's crazy, but helping others did help dh, in our situation. He was accomplishing something while he worked at finding his own job! Best of luck to you both, and be sure to take care of yourself!

For Christmas, I made the little baby-doll sized sleep sacks for 5 yo granddaughter, because she is wild about her twin dolls. She and toddler brother both wore sleep sacks overnight, so I thought it would be fun for her to have some for her twin baby-dolls. They weren't completely meticulously made--minky is horribly slippery fabric and I had no pattern--but they were a decent enough representation of the children's minky sleepsacks. When gdd unwrapped them, she AND her mom squealed with delight, and after she unwrapped some other things, gdd put the doll she had brought to our gathering in one of them. (It didn't stay on the babydoll too long, as dolly needed to go in a frontpack baby carrier that another relative had given her, but she did immediately put the dolly in one, and I imagine she'll use it again.) I also made her the little snowflake tulle tutu with a sparkly elastic waistband; ittook took four adult hands simultaneously to properly stretch and sew the elastic, but it came out better than any waistband elastic I've ever fought with! She liked it enough that she wore it for 4.5 days with every sweater she had with her. I had expected to trim it a bit shorter for her when I checked how long it was on her, but she liked it as is, and it was still above her kneecaps, so I'm betting she'll be able to wear it at least another winter. (It looked very cute with the white leggings I got her to go under it, but she wore it over pink leggings, over a daisy dress, etc. 😄 ) ETA: sorry the photos are so large!