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  1. I checked with our counselor on 1/28 and she said that she didn't have them yet. My son made an online account, but it wouldn't give him scores with just his student ID# and stated that an access code could be obtained from his counselor. He asked the counselor for the code, and she replied, "that is one you" to come up with. I'm not sure what that means. Is it on the test booklet? I should have mentioned that this is my formerly homeschooled DS who is now at a STEM magnet high school. His younger brother is still being homeschooled.
  2. I feel fairly confident in my understanding of basic grammar, but I am at odds with the answer key today and could use some help. Here are the sentences in question: "The answer should have been found by now." "The answer will be found in two days." The answer key indicates that "found" is not part of the verb phrase. As such, I'm assuming that the authors are considering the word "found" to be a past participle functioning as a predicate adjective for the subject "answer". The rationale is not given. I would have considered "found" to be the main verb of the passive verb phrase with the agent (the one doing the finding) simply not stated. Opinions?
  3. We have this very thing happening at our house. This poor mama kitty "belongs" to a family down the street according to neighborhood kids, but last year she was wild, almost emaciated, and hanging out in our yard with an old collar that was so tight she couldn't eat. We worked with her to accept being touched and finally got the collar off. She went back to wherever she'd been hanging out and we didn't see her much for a few months. Apparently, during that time she had a litter. I guess her family isn't feeding her anymore, because she's been living in our backyard for weeks now and is very preggers again. It's so hot and she has a raw bleeding nose like another cat is attacking her at night. So, I just gave in and made a place for her in the laundry room. I'm hoping we can find a vet who will make us a deal on getting her and the kitties fixed when they're old enough so we can find them homes. Some mama kitties are very persnickety about where they want their babies, and, if they don't like the place you pick or they feel it's too active, will move them. We had a house cat a few years ago who wasn't fixed yet, and she got out and got pregnant. She would move those kittens every few days to the craziest places: under beds, the top shelf of a closet, dresser drawers that were left open. I kept moving them back to the designated spot; eventually, I won, but it was stressful for both of us! :)
  4. How about "Blinded by the Light" by Mannfred Mann's Earth Band . . . I had to look it up to find out that it actually says, "Revved up like a deuce." I always heard, "Wrapped up like a douche." :) Tee-hee! Makes a little more sense now.
  5. I haven't lived in Ft. Worth, but live "nearish" (about 2.5 hours away) and go to the metroplex often. The climate is going to be warm from March to October and can get quite hot in the summers. Winters here are mild. Ft. Worth, Dallas, and many surrounding "bedroom" communities conjoin to form a very large metro area where you can find all the culture, dining, family activities, and retail therapy a person could want. Medical care there is some of the best in the state, particularly for children's diseases and trauma. Texas leans conservatively as a whole and is probably more "churchy" than either of the coasts, but in the DFW area you are going to find every political, religious, economic, and social group. Although you may have to seek it out, you should be able to find a circle of like-minded friends. I don't know how the cost of living compares to Orlando, but if they are comparable, and it was doable with my life circumstances, I'd certainly give it a go for that kind of a raise.
  6. I'm not terribly savvy in these matters either, but Minecraft is a big "to do" around here with my guys. I believe that a server is the computer that hosts a world for other users to play on. My sons have a group of peers from church who all play so one of the fathers created a server on his computer and hosts a world for them. His is a private server/world, and he must add anyone who wants to participate. This way the parents know precisely who is playing and "server dad" has established rules of civility for both play and chat. This is the only way my guys are allowed to play. Hope that helps. :)
  7. I have no idea where my boys came up with this one, but they call this function "being scientific". My ds10 is often heard proclaiming across the house, "I'm being scientific again!" Oddly enough, my very proper mother use to call people "f@@twhackers".
  8. We had one of those rainy, got-the-don't-wannas days, so we watched history channel, made cookies, and did projects. Last year, we were all book work and no projects, so we're dedicating 1/2 a day per week to projects of choice. Ds13 built a mini-catapult out of craft sticks and rubber bands which shot a ball of clay the entire length of our hallway (25 ft.), and ds10 built a mini-crossbow out of pencils, a pen tube, and rubber bands. So, good day, but now I have to kick it into gear for making dinner and evening commitments (both of which I dislike). I totally agree with the hating-cooking-dinner-thing!!! Why do they keep eating?!:tongue_smilie:
  9. DH does most of the grocery shopping, but we also use it for date time fairly often.
  10. I asked her for more clarification; I'll cut and paste her answers below. ". . . before getting pregnant, testing to determine whether the parents are carriers of certain genetic conditions/gender-linked conditions. Prenatally, testing to see if the fetus has any genetic conditions or is predisposed to any conditions." I asked, for purposes of the debate, if this would be for the purpose of selective abortion. "Can be but not necessarily. That's a big part of the argument surrounding it. Finding out about a serious genetic condition could lead to abortion or it could just provide parents with more time to prepare to care for the child or have more time to find closure if the child is going to die shortly after birth." Please keep in mind that this is not a personal stand she is taking, but rather an assigned group debate where students had no say in which side of the argument they had to take. She's studying to go into family counseling/psychology and genuinely wants to understand all sides of these issues. Thanks to anyone who is willing to share their ideas/viewpoints. I know that these are sensitive issues and don't wish to fuel any dissension on the hive; this is purely an informational request.:001_smile:
  11. My college student dd has been assigned to a debate group that has to form arguments to support mandated genetic testing/counseling and parenting classes. While some of the students in her group support these ideas in part, they are certainly not squarely in this camp. They feel like the ideas they've come up with are "flimsy" at best and Orwellian at worst. So, she asked me to ask for hive wisdom! :) Without starting any debate here, would anyone care to offer their best arguments in favor of mandated genetic testing/counseling and mandated parenting classes? TIA :001_smile:
  12. My ds10 fell on his hand/wrist at the skating rink and continued to skate, but came over and complained of pain several times. We just got home and I had a good look at it. The outside edge of the wrist near the little bone that juts out is slightly swollen and the outside edge of his hand just above the wrist has turned slightly blue/purple. When it's stationary, he says the pain is at the outside edge of his hand near the wrist, but when he moves it he says the wrist hurts as well. He is playing a computer game and is able to manipulate his fingers on the keyboard, but isn't moving the wrist at all. I generally take a "wait and see" approach before heading out to the minor emergency clinic (we have great insurance, so it's not a big issue), but the discoloration worries me a bit. What do you think? Also, as a child, I seemed prone to hairline fractures; one from this very same scenario.
  13. I know that I couldn't share a house, but I love the idea of semi-communal, compound style living. I'd love to have several homes encircling a large play area with a communal garden and a small "community" building for gathering for potluck meals.
  14. Thank you for this thread. I'm one of those didn't-do-their-baby books-don't-have-any-video-past-baby-number-one moms. I, too, didn't enjoy them enough when they were little. I was stressed out by life (it's a personality bent, and I'm conquering it now in my 40's) and wish I had enjoyed them more. Looking back makes me too sad because of regret; I did my job really well, but I didn't know how to have fun doing it. Looking forward makes me sad for what will be gone. So, I'm learning to enjoy the moment, because it's really all we have.
  15. I was going to say moth larvae as well. The only other pantry bugs that I've seen are what my grandmother called weevils. They're brownish-black after they hatch out and they leave a little "skin" behind. With either one you just need to check all of your unsealed dry goods and may want to wipe the shelves down.
  16. It sounds very much like this is an intact hymen blocking the tampon. As a teenager, I had a hole in the hymen, but it was mostly intact. A tampon string wrapped itself around and through the hole; I didn't tell my mother, but was quite panicky (and a little nauseous) getting that sorted out.
  17. Toilet scrubbing . (Is it bad that sometimes I wish somebody would argue so that I could pass off the toilet job?:lol:)
  18. Two-Bean Chili is in the crockpot and corn muffins are made. There's an Angel Food cake cooling on the counter. My crew will enjoy it while I'm off to a board meeting that happens right at our dinnertime, 6:00.
  19. I know that situations vary a lot, but for anyone who has gone back to school later in life and finished a degree . . . was it worth the time, effort, and expense? I'm trying to decide if it would really be of benefit to me (which I'm willing to spend money on), or if this is just a need to finish what I started so I can say that I did it (which I'm probably not willing to spend money on). I'm 43, have one daughter in college (on a full ride), and still have 3 at home for school (12th, 7th, and 5th). When we're done with kiddos in school, my career will very likely be entrepreneurial; we own rental properties, and I've owned a consignment store in the past. I have 96 credits, but never went back after my oldest child was born. I'm just thinking that if something happened to hubby then I will need to support the family. He thinks it makes more sense to invest in extra life insurance on him which will be cheaper than tuition for me. He may be right in that. Anybody been there and done that?:bigear:
  20. Thank you ladies so much! I needed your wisdom and encouragement today. I'm going away to a women's conference this weekend, and it will give me a chance to rejuvenate and then attack this head on with a fresh perspective. Lori, thank you for your thoughtful response. I was struggling with doing what is acceptable (in whose eyes?) and what is best for dd. Your ideas gave me some good direction and made me realize that we have more done and can finish more than I was thinking. Jann, thank you so much for sharing your daughter's experience! I really needed someone to tell me that it was okay that this dd isn't going the expected route and that she can still excel and be okay! I think I knew that, but I needed to know that I wasn't the only one. Anyone who meets her sees a polished, well-spoken, compassionate young woman with great initiative. She's not wearing that transcript on a sandwich board, and I need to stop focusing on it so much. I think we're going to take a balanced approach of getting as much done as we can in the time we have (it will be enough for a basic transcript) and then calling it done. I'm going to get Algebra 2 off my mind and hers which will be a relief to both of us. She's finishing TT Algebra 1, and I have TT Geometry already purchased (she's done about 1/4 of it). Next week I'll sit down and make a working transcript. Thank you all again.
  21. I'll try to keep this concise. High school has been a roller coaster with our second dd. She started out in ps, had a moral meltdown, and we brought her back home for school. She spent the better part of that year very angry and didn't gain much ground. The next two years she was a different kid emotionally, very much turned around and very committed to her faith with a great attitude, but still not gung-ho about school. A little backstory: We suspected dyslexia in late elementary, but testing was inconclusive. She's very smart, has more common sense and social skills than many adult women I know, is a coveted employee and advances quickly. She doesn't test well, learned to read late, phonics and spelling never really clicked for her, and math is a thorn in her side. She's a senior and reads and writes at or above grade level. Her spelling is quite good now that she cares about how she appears in her writing (one benefit of facebook). She wants to be a missionary (her grandparents are missionaries to Nicaragua) and has been on several short-term trips as well as a 6-week training program in Mexico. She worked at Chick-Fil-A for about 1 1/2 years and has now been working at Mardel for two months and has already had a promotion. But school . . . She is just so undermotivated and is in a hole that I don't think we can dig out of without another year, which she's unwilling to do. She's naively insisting that she can get it done. (When we talk about it, she's motivated; it doesn't translate into action though). She works at school every day, but doesn't do a full day's worth. I can get her done in every subject except math by the end of summer, but (for a lot of valid and invalid reasons) she's still doing Algebra 1. I talked to her about the GED last summer, but she decided against it. Yet, here we are in the same boat. She wants to move to Nica next fall and do some CC classes online. She'll likely only get a two-year degree if she pushes on with college. What do y'all think. I won't give her credit for work she hasn't done, and a transcript won't be sufficient with only 1 or 2 math credits. I'm stuck.:confused: ETA: We have such a good relationship now, but all we seem to talk about is school . . . and these are stressful conversations. I'm frustrated; she feels judged. She's just ready to be an adult (and conducts herself as one much of the time) and do life. I know there are great arguments for pushing through and getting it done; I've used them all, and she agrees that it would be best. We just can't seem to make it happen right now.
  22. Taking it might leave some other options open for you if you suspect she may do well. I'm not familiar with the Bright Futures Scholarship, but my dds National Merit Scholarship is a full ride for ten semesters (hopefully, she'll get it done in 8). It has covered books, room and board, tuition, study abroad, summer semesters, and there has been money left over that she's taken in cash and lived on. School for her hasn't cost us anything. It's been a huge blessing!
  23. DS10 had to write a descriptive paragraph in English today. The directions stated that he could write about anything he could observe with his eyes, so we now have a lovely little paragraph about . . . dog poo! He thought I would make him pick another topic as he came giggling into the room, but Mommy is sneakier than that! We learned proofreading marks, combined short sentences, got apostrophes into contractions, chose a strong adjective, and rewrote a final draft. If it gets the job done, he can write about boogers and toots for the time being. We'll work on more refined subject matter later when his confidence is up a little! Boys are a hoot!!:tongue_smilie:
  24. This is exactly how I've been feeling since school started!!! I spent the summer reading too many WTM posts from folks who may or may not have it more together than I do :lol:, and I bought multiple resources for each subject because they all looked so shiny and useful! I've spent the first three weeks of school feeling inadequate because I couldn't fit it all in, and I was slowly coming around to the point of view that it isn't all necessary. Thank you for giving me permission to "keep it simple"! I already knew that doing more with less would be more effective than doing less with more; why didn't I stick to my guns? This evening, I'm going to muster up some courage and purge the books! I had some fun ideas for the year that haven't been happening due to overload of resources . . . gotta get that mojo back.:001_smile:
  25. If your goal is to keep your job and be able to exist there in the most comfortable way possible, which it seems like your posts indicate, I would take a pro-active, immediate stance with him without going the legal route. Don't wait for the next incident, because this will only cause you more stress and keep you distracted from doing your job well, being a good mama, and getting on with life. Request a meeting, practice your speech many times before you go in, and then forge ahead, politely, with the truth. Calmly reiterate what has happened, how it makes you feel, how much you appreciate your job, and what your personal boundaries are. This doesn't have to be a long, flowery speech--just the truth, plainly stated as you've told it to us. Explain that you didn't know how to react when it happened because you were so shocked that an employer would treat an employee that way. Tell him that being treated this way isn't something you can live with at work, but that you like and need your job and hope that he can understand how you feel. If you feel the opening, you might even share that you've been mistreated by men in the past and you're really hoping that this job and your employer/employee relationship will be a mutually respectful one. You might even mention that you considered legal action, but you knew that wouldn't be necessary because you feel that he's a respectful, decent person who will understand what needs to change. This lets him know that you're serious without sounding threatening and lays out what your expectations are. No manipulations, no inquiries, no cameras, no reports, no waiting--just the truth right out in the open between the two of you. If he is a decent person, who has just gotten into some bad habits, this will probably call him back to appropriateness. It may be uncomfortable for a while as you work through the awkwardness. But, if he's willing to change, you will have gained an upper hand in the relationship and will have laid good groundwork for being treated well in the future. If he doesn't respond well . . . denies, gets defensive or angry, threatens your job, etc., then he's not a decent person at the root of it, and the situation will likely not have a good resolution. Here's how I would think about it: If you calmly confront him and it works, then you have a livable work environment and you've gained power. If you stay and do nothing, then you live with stress and you will dread going to work. If you keep logs, take videos, and search out legal routes, you're still living in stress, dreading going to work, and getting your focus off of moving your life forward. I would go the straightforward, honest, "git 'r dun" route first. If you confront him and it doesn't work, then you have some choices. Stay and be miserable. Stay, pursue legal action, and be miserable. Leave, pursue legal action, and be distracted from life and your sweet babies. Leave, find other solutions, and get on with rebuilding your life. I realize that there is no easy solution, and it's completely unfair that you're in the situation. I know that having to find another job will be hard and stressful. However, I believe that truth, when applied to any situation, heals in one way or another. Please let us know what you decide to do so that we can support you and hold you up in our thoughts and prayers.
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