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  1. I made shepherd's pie (actually 3, I'm freezing 2) and cherry pie (frozen cherries to start). It took my dh awhile to realize why I'd done this. He's an English major. Sometimes I don't get his references to Robert Burns.
  2. I hadn't seen that tweet. I can say that I haven't seen a classroom in the district where I live like that since the late 80s and they were moving from that model then. For you: decide what fits your child and family best. There are good opportunities in some school districts. But even if a district or individual school is good overall that does not mean it meets the needs of every child. Don't beat yourself up or second guess yourself. Make the best decision you can with the information you have and proceed with no regrets.
  3. In a way he will live forever. Even though he had ALS, he lived more than 50 years beyond predictions, so I kind of expected him to keep living.
  4. For me. I'm working on being positive and confident. Looking for stuff to keep pumped up.
  5. Are you going with your whole family of just you and dh?
  6. I accepted a fulltime position with a different agency. I start in three weeks. My current agency sent me to a big training last weekend. My supervisor who has been so awful was also sent. I sent in my contract the day before going to the training. No one could be substituted to go so I went. While there multiple people I didn't know approached me and asked about my new job. Since I hadn't told anyone I'd gotten a contract or turned it in and I knew my new employer hadn't made an announcement, that situation was weird and uncomfortable in front of my current awful supervisor. Training was great. I was fantastic. It was awesome to perform that well in front of my supervisor. Yes, I know that is petty. She did OK. But I was told over and over how I great I was. The instructors would stop and point out stuff I did too. It was a real confidence. I've been beaten down for a while. So, sent a text Sunday to my awful supervisor and her assistant director (who is great) asking for times they'd both be in. Yesterday morning I sat with both of them and told them and went over a plan for me to leave. Part of the plan is for me to not completely leave, but work one morning a week. Also do trainings and audits based on the new certification I have. Awful supervisor clearly wanted to leave it at do some menial task once a week. Assistant director is actual in charge of staff trainings, he wants the help. I wasn't going to try to keep working there, but my former boss who is located at the headquarters of our agency advised me not to fully quit. I've got to turn this into at least 20 years of work and his reasoning made sense. So, hopefully it works out. Later yesterday, I spoke to the site manager of my facility about leaving. He was very positive. We also talked about the training. He asked if I had been paid. (No, the training is expensive and the policy is nonmerit staff do not get paid for training leading to certifications). He called my awful supervisor in, asked for my timesheet and wrote in 30 hours of pay. He told her didn't care what the policy at headquarters was he made the decisions and I was to be paid. I quit one of my other jobs. I let another place that brings me in to do some staff training know I got this job and it was likely I wouldn't be able to lead their next training. After I sent in my signed contract, I did get called to interview for the job I really want. I turned the interview down. I'm bummed I had to do that. New job is going to have a lot of challenges. The agency is well known to be a mess. My staff is all part time and for various reasons I will not be able to hire or fire anyone, even though it is well known no one is doing their job. When I went to my second interview I took a picture while I was waiting and I look at it and shake my head. The picture shows deep systemic issues. So, I have to find ways to motivate a group of people who don't care. But you know what? I actually think I can do it. I think I can turn this place around. I just pray that nothing terrible happens before we adjust to new approaches. There are major safety issues for public and staff and I'm supposed to fix it. I'm feeling positive about how things are working out. Dh has taken a bigger role with my younger ds (16 with intellectual disabilities). He hasn't had so many clients recently and probably won't be bringing in income we need. My new job is not a high paying full time position, but with the potential to get more advanced positions earning will increase. We need this. Thank you all for listening to my woes applying for other jobs and dealing with awful coworker who became awful supervisor. Some of it really fell into the "you can't make this up" category.
  7. I have 3 kids and the larger one has been used to capacity frequently over the years. The smaller one would have frustrated me.
  8. You all are awesome. Thank you for getting me started on this list.
  9. I want strong female songs with some beat. Something that pumps you up. Anything from Aretha Franklin to Lady Gaga. What are your favorites?
  10. ((hugs)) I hope you slept and feel better soon!
  11. I suggest a hybrid approach. My DD and I went a couple of years ago. First, we went to Nordstrom. In Nordstrom we visited ladies formal Wear first. It was very civilized to he dressing room was a dream with an elevated for the guest stand and twirl in front of mirrors while guest friends sat in comfortable seating drinking sparkling water. DD tried on a variety of dresses with different necklines and fits. She and I made note of the style that suited her body. I also noted which sizes by which designers/brands. We did see some nice things, but generally out of our price range. We looked at juniors and checked out junior departments in other stores. Then I got on eBay plugging in size and designer/brand names. DD picked out a dress she liked there. Because she knew her fit with the designer we felt confident buying without trying. It worked.
  12. Well I have to seriously power through it. I have a work training this weekend. (12-9, 9-9, 9-7). 37 hours in three days. Add in an hour commute to the location each way. Sunday is going to be rough getting up early after being thoroughly exhausted the previous two days. Oh an I do go back to work Monday. Adjusting will be a blur.
  13. Can you return them. I've never done a lands end return. Maybe they've changed their workmanship in the last couple of years. However, for several years lands end have been the only pants I could get to fit my special needs ds. We've never had them fall apart. DS recently finished with the kid sizes so we had to find another vendor that fits his shape, ability to pull on and off, and adult size with short legs.
  14. I have a stuffed animal somewhere. I think under the bed. So not on display. My DD (10 at that time) gave it to me 10 years ago, when our family was on our only trip to WDW during my birthday. It is Eeyore. DD knew Eeyore is my favorite, so she spent her souvenir money on a present for me. I have a very much Eeyore personality. Also the fact that Eeyore has ended up under the bed is fitting. He'll get pulled out dusted off and set on a shelf when I stumble across him while getting wrapping paper (stored under my bed). No I don't cover my bed with stuffed animals. I don't play with them. I do like the Eeyore my DD gave me.
  15. Our local library has a book cart drill team for our Christmas parade.
  16. if you've read my past posts you know my job situation has gotten very unpleasant since Jan. I did talk to my supervisor's supervisor about hostile work environment. He was a little surprised that I had so many instances documented and tied directly to the definition. He was nice. And I was feeling positive that things were going to improve for 5 days. Then there was a new low at the beginning of this week and it was time to start adding to my documentation and think about the next step with HR. As I went back down that hole, I got called about a job I interviewed for weeks ago (first and second interviews). I was given an OK offer (absolute top of the pay scale for that place, but less than similar positions elsewhere). I was not expecting them to top out their payscale to make an offer. I decided to accept it. There are a lot of negatives. And I don't have the written agreement yet. And they told me once I get the written agreement they still take weeks to process. So, I'm not telling my current work. My current work is sending me to a training in a couple of days. I'd love to leave my current supervisor with the parting gift of turning over my hostile work environment documentation to HR. That seems vindictive. I don't think I'll do that, but I sort of wish I could. I have an open application with my own agency for a better job than the one I verbally accepted. If I get an interview, do I follow through with it. What if I do well at the interview and get an offer. This job wouldn't have me with my current supervisor at all. Is it unethical to accept the job one place and then if I hear back after I'm supposed to start this job say sorry and take the better job. (I do know I am supposed to make the interview list, so this hypothetical stuff isn't way out and I do know my current supervisor issues will have no affect on the application process--that is something I looked into carefully). I'm not going to turn down the written offer coming and hope I do well in the interview process. That's crazy in my current situation. So, some people tell me it's just business and even when you take a new job, you keep interviewing and you go with the better job when it comes, even if that means not staying in a position long at all. I think younger people do this all the time. But when I was young you took a job and were supposed to stay a year before looking around again. Another wrinkle is my neighbor is the person who gave me the verbal offer. He would not be my direct supervisor, but if I skipped out I think running into him at the local pool this summer will be a little odd. Good problems to consider. I feel so much better that I'm not stuck with this woman being awful to me. Anyway what's current thinking on the ethics of accepting positions while still having applications open elsewhere. (Yes, I'll check the fine print and see if signing requires me to close my open application, but besides that...)
  17. I've never seen garbage trucjs in a parade. My kids used to love Trucks Day at local public works facilities.
  18. Depending on the suburbs where I'd be staying, I'd leave the car parked at relative's house and take public transport. I'd consider it part of the adventure for the kids. A lot of cities have apps that figure your routes, transfers between busses, stations to change for trains, times, and costs for you. So that makes it easy to get around. You might also get the kids involved in figuring out routes.
  19. For two nine inch pans I rip 4 inch strip from a parchment roll. I cut the strip in half. Then I mush squares into the pans.
  20. This just bums me out. I'm 52. Why can't I have hair disappear from my underarms and legs. Meanwhile I get whiskers on my chin that I pluck out.
  21. We invited local family and had a backyard bbq. For oldest we did this early in summer. For middle we did this late summer as a send off.
  22. I'd get through BOR (and the crappy bbq commitment) . Then stop going. I see value in having first class done in case he changes his mind. I know quite a few IB/sports involved kids who still made Eagle. Since he is going to high school he's going to try a lot of new things. Some time off may have him rethink scouts, so having a rank in place would be good back up. My DD took two years off an activity in middle school. She returned to it in high school and put her full attention into that activity until she finished high school. She worked hard to catch up to peers who didn't take time off. I'm sorry she missed that time but she had renewed focus when she returned.
  23. Once established, there's not a lot of work to fruit trees. I saw you mentioned bees. having a spot for a beehive would be cool and they'd be great for the trees and anything else you put in.
  24. :grouphug: I'm so sorry your family is going through this. Prayers for your family, BIL, and kids.
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