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StephanieZ last won the day on January 10 2014

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    I think he should move out ASAP. I feel for you. I have an angry (with me) 20 year old son. He moved out recently, and that’s a very good thing. I love him, but I don’t miss him living here. When he’s not angry, ready to follow our house rules, and not miserable to be around, I’d welcome him back if he needed/wanted to be here. But, I hope he never needs to move back, because I think he just needs independence from me and living with me = failure in his mind, which makes him mad, and me miserable. So, I’d suggest moving up the move out timeline.
  2. You might be surprised. The 22 year old we hire is delighted with $50/night. It’s about 20 min of actual effort twice a day and another 10 min a couple more times. Great money if you don’t mind sleeping away from home. In your case, if your kid is in charge of any pets, it’s pretty much no work, just the inconvenience of sleeping at your house. An easy $30-40 night would likely be plenty for the right person. In my state, teachers are paid so poorly they routinely work minimum wage second jobs. I’ve never had trouble finding house sitters, even when we had a lot more pets and farm animals (so double the work.)
  3. Nope, not prudent, sorry. 14 is just too young. You could hire someone to stay at the house. Any responsible adult, just to be there for emergencies. A grandmotherly figure, an auntie, a responsible college kid . . . That's what I've done in similar situations. I have a college kid who I've known for eternity, & she's as responsible as they come (and about to finish her education degree). I've long hired her to pet/house sit, and at times, I've added in "putting up with the teens." to her duties. For me, I'd say 16 is as low as I'd go for overnights w/o an adult there, and probably not for more than 1-2 nights at a time until closer to 18. TBH, I barely trust my adult kids alone for multiple days alone at our house. They MEAN well, but they aren't terribly responsible, to tell the God's honest truth. My youngest (turning 17 next month) is actually my most responsible on household type things, so I'd likely leave her alone for a couple nights sometime soon . . . We did leave her alone for ONE night recently, but that was a first at that age for any of our kids . . . Hire a "house sitter" to sleep there at night if you can't comfortably send him to a relative.
  4. I've been trying to fly under the radar academically for pretty much our entire homeschooling career. My kids are super smart. I'm typeA and devoted myself to their education and, frankly, I'm pretty smart too, TYVM, so I did/do a good job homeschooling. So, they excel. It is what it is. I learned VERY early on to keep their abilities and accomplishments on the down low as much as I can bear . . . in the general world outside my bubble of similarly situated families and dear friends who "get it." It pisses me off, but . . . it is what it is.
  5. Black Market, White House. I have 2 pairs that are my favorites. One is dark/slim/stretchy and the other is a bit lighter with embroidered flowers and looser. They're both awesome. The dark, traditionally styled ones are SO comfy because of their stretch even though they absolutely are and look like jeans, not jeggings/etc. They were outrageously overpriced (maybe $85 for the normal ones and $120 for the embroidered ones), and I bought them in desperation (limited time, needed attractive jeans), but I'd spend it again now, knowing how much I like these jeans. If you can even consider spending that kind of money for jeans, I'd definitely recommend going and trying on a pair or two. (I normally will spend maybe $50-60 on jeans if they're perfect (and usually look for sales to pay half that), but I'd never before considered 100/ish.) Considering that I really only need to buy a new pair on average every 2-3 years, and wear each pair hundreds of times, I think I'll now feel liberated to spend whatever I want, as I did with this one purchase last year.
  6. We don't do travel sports, but do do travel robotics. The coaches/mentors travel expenses (except dining-out food) are wrapped into the team expenses -- as are the kids' hotels/travel costs. The team covers all that. We get grants, sponsors, etc, so families don't have to pay, but certainly, I'd expect that coaches and mentors should NOT have to pay for ANY of their reasonable and modest travel expenses.
  7. My piano player is out of the house until late . . . but I'll try . . . I *think* she uses one GOOD "sustain" pedal that we bought separately, to replace the one that came with it. The replacement pedal was a separate purchase -- maybe $30 -- but it had/has fuller functionality/feel more similar to that on the "real" piano. The purpose of the keyboard and the pedal were for her to practice on when away from her regular piano . . . and so "feeling" as close to a "real" piano was a priority. You *can* get an accessory with all 3 pedals: but, when we really needed it for travel practice, my daughter didn't need those other 2 pedals for the stuff she was working on. Now, she just hasn't had the need for it, either, because she really only plays modern type stuff on the travel keyboard which doesn't use those other pedals (which I really don't understand anyway, lol) and she reserves the serious hard core classical stuff with need for all the fancy pedals, etc, for her grand piano (which is in the same room at home). I'm sorry if my wording of how one uses pedals is nonsensical. I am NOT a musician, so I don't have the language to describe things correctly. I just write checks, clap, and drive, lol. (I have always left instrument choice/details up to teachers and the kid/musicians . . . I just write the checks.)
  8. We bought a Yamaha one in 2014 that has worked very well as a travel piano early on (when we used to go away for a month each fall) and now is my 16 year old's "gig" piano, as she can travel with it. The one we got s no longer available but is comparable to this one: We also bought an extra pedal. It's held up quite well and seems as good as it was when we bought it. Probably gets about 50-80 hr/yr of playing time and is otherwise safely ensconced in our pet-free mess-free dust-free music room. My dd has a Kawai grand piano now (which is amazing), so this is just a secondary one for travel. I know nothing about pianos and rely on her teacher and our tuner's advice on these things. (Her teacher had recommended this model back when we bought it.) So far as I can tell, though, the keyboard works well for what it is. (No comparison to her grand piano, but clearly, that's not a realistic goal.)
  9. FWIW, it takes some days/weeks for repellant to take effect, IME. It's definitely not an overnight process.
  10. What horrible people. I'm so very sorry!
  11. Always take the 2nd ABX dose sooner rather than later. It helps get things under control faster to front load ABX. When in a hospital setting/etc, they often do that as a matter of course. It's totally fine. (I'm not a DR, just play one on the internet.) I.e., if it's twice a day and I take the first dose before 6P, I'd definitely take the 2nd dose right before bed -- so 4-6 hours later instead of 12, and then go to breakfast/dinner/whatever the next day. If it's 6P or later, then you could just set an alarm early enough to get it NO LATER THAN the "prescribed" interval (12 hours, 8 hours, whatever.) Definitely don't go longer than the prescribed interval!
  12. I had BAZILLIONS of UTIs before I discovered d-mannose about 4 years ago. Like, I was getting them monthly and the lovely yeast infections afterwards due to the antibiotics. I've only had a couple UTIS since discovering d-mannose, and only when I was not taking my d-mannose. I take a capsule every singlenight. If I'm having tEa, I take one before and after. If I'm at the beach (where I tend to get UTIs), I take it a few extra times daily. It's harmless, very safe, and you really can't over do it. If I DO get a UTI, I take one capsule (or 1/2 to 1 teaspoon) about every 2 hours around the clock. It's MAGIC. TRULY MIRACULOUS. Life-Changing! I take it with water. I drink tons of water when I have UTIs (actually, I always drink tons of water), as it helps flush the bacteria out. I'd RUN to get d-mannose and take it every 2 hours (yes, wake up over night) for a couple days, and then keep taking it once or twice a day for at least a week or two. If you get more UTIs, you can do it preventatively, as I do. It's MAGIC. I use the NOW brand, because that's my go to brand (on Amazon), but you can use whatever brand you like.
  13. We have moles all the heck over the place on our home (2 acres) and commercial property (5 acres). We've been "dealing with them" for over a decade, lol. If you've got a small-ish yard (which you MUST, lol, given the way you're caring for it!), then they're actually really easy to get rid of. There's kid & pet safe castor oil based mole repellant that you just spread out with a spreader and it repels them. My husband does it, and just follows the bag instructions. Doesn't kill them or injure them, but sends them to your neighbors!! We use it on the close-in parts of both the yard at work and our house yard. We just "push them" out into the woods and fields, lol. It's easy. It's safe. Go get it!
  14. The meals you describe are desperately short of good (or any) fats. Fats create a feeling of fullness. I'd add significant fats to your diet for several days and see if that helps. Avocados, full fat dairy, nuts and nut butters, meats -- especially bacon/sausage/other fatty stuff. If you're willing to pay extra, I'd aim for organics/free range for dairy and meats since animal fats accumulate toxins, so if you're upping your animal fats, it's best to avoid those treating with chemicals/medications. If you're willing, I'd cut out as much of the sugars/empty starches (non whole grain starches, sugars, etc) as you can, since you are overweight & carbs drive weight gain. I second Rosie's comment that your body needs extra nutrition and calories to heal from major surgery. I'd buy a scale and/or start doing regular body measurements (maybe waist + thigh) to monitor whether you really are gaining or losing. FTR, I have waffled between 20 lb overweight and "normal" BMI over my adult life. I'm currently near the lowest body weight I've been in my adult life (BMI of 23), and I eat more fat now than I ever did before, and I eat "whatever I want". I just buy full fat stuff instead of lower fat as I did for 20 years or so. I only buy full fat dairy, eat tons of butter, etc. I still eat sugars/starches freely, but I also exercise a LOT. (About 10-12 hours/wk of vigorous exercise.) So, I don't have to "control" my eating, and whenever I'm hungry, I eat what I want. But, if I didn't burn 5000 or more calories a week exercising, I wouldn't likely be able to do that long term w/o gaining.
  15. I am constantly frustrated by humans bitten by dogs with clearly sketchy histories and no way to confirm vaccination . . . have the HARDEST time getting treated prophylactically. I think if I or my kids are ever in that situation, I'll plan to just lie to the ER and tell them I woke up in a room with a bat flying close to me, and then he escaped out the door.
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