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  1. I'm curious as well! What did the students that gave an incorrect number feel the answer was?
  2. I just finished watching the first episode of this season, and I don't know if I am being sensitive because I know my oldest will be leaving the nest in a few years or what....but, I am just so frustrated over how they treated their son, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren. It almost seems like they are being passive-aggressive! It's as though their actions are saying, "You wanted to move away, we'll act like we are being good, supportive, Christian parents, but, you have to deal with it on your own...if you think things are hard now...just wait six months"!!!! The parents were asked to help and drive the moving truck within a certain time period if possible. They agreed....but, then decided to make an unplanned stop at a friends house, stay there much, much longer than expected, sleep in, and then decide to spend ANOTHER night after agreeing to leave that day. Then they admitted it wasn't the best choice for them to do that to Josh and Anna, which means they knew right from wrong...but, decide to blame the irresponsibility on "Duggar Time"!!! I don't know...the whole episode made me feel really, really sad and wondering if that is their true colors.... Or maybe they are just feeling stressed and they aren't handling it well? Who knows...but, they owe them a very big apology if you ask me!!! LOL I'm not much a fan of them after seeing that show...am I alone in feeling disappointed?
  3. Truthfully, Radical Unschooling/Parenting is the reason I no longer refer my style of homeschooling as unschooling anymore. It was a few years ago "radical" unschooling started to become more popular and mainstream and the thought of being associated with that did not sit well with me. We now refer to ourselves as "life learners" and we've always been Attachment Parenting advocates. I have never seen anything positive come from radical unschooling (although I have seen lots of positive things come from unschooling!!!!) and I have nothing positive to say about radical unschooling...so, I'll just end the discussion here!!! LOL
  4. I think it is happening everywhere more and more often. Not only swaying in to other lanes...but, full out stopping the middle of the road while texting! It is ridiculous!!!! I've also noticed more and more people stopping in road to speak to someone they know driving in the opposite direction. They are behaving in cars the same way some do in the grocery stores....just standing their...carts in the way...blocking the entire aisle! It is rude and self-centered! I don't understand what our culture has come to! :(
  5. When I became pregnant with my first child I was 100% against co-sleeping, homeschooling, etc., and ALL FOR spanking, daycare, etc., Once my baby was born all I had to do was go with the plan!!! At first I tried to stay with what I was raised by (appropriate spankings and punishments/dicipline) and what I felt in my MIND was the right thing to do! I had read about what was the right thing to do and talked on message boards about what was the right thing to do...and the fact is you will seek out what is comfortable and well-known to you. You can find people of all different beliefs! I had to learn to start trusting my heart and more importantly my mothering instincts! When I started doing that my whole world changed!!!! I cuddled my baby at night...instead of being scared to co-sleep or worrying about how others felt I would spoil her! I didn't put her in daycare...I have been home with her (and her brothers) for the last 17 years! If you had told me I'd be a SAHM that homeschooled when I was pregnant I would have laughed in your face!!! LOL I spanked her once...when she was toddler. It didn't feel right! I've never spanked her again or any of her brothers. I believe strongly in attachment parenting and positive dicipline (which is not be confused with rewards and punishments or not diciplining at all or trying to friends with my kids). My last child is the type of child (as a toddler/preschooler) your dh would have felt needed spankings compared to my other two....my other two were easy-peasy. I can honestly say that children at different ages and stages are all different and NO CHILD deserves to be punished for simply learning and growing in different way. If anything...spanking would have made things worse for him, IMO. He has learned so much from teachings and dicipline (which he needed) and would have learned nothing from my spankings. My beliefs on spanking and co-sleeping are very, very strong....so, I'm going to try and stay away from that. I just want to encourage you to listen to your heart and continue seeking out new and different tools to use while parenting, that maybe our parents didn't know existed or didn't know how to use. I loved all Dr. Sears attachment parenting books! Here is Astrid Lindgren's perspective on spanking: ["When I was about 20 years old, I met an old pastor's wife who told me that when she was young and had her first child, she didn't believe in striking children, although spanking kids with a switch pulled from a tree was standard punishment at the time. But one day when her son was four or five, he did something that she felt warranted a spanking--the first of his life. And she told him that he would have to go outside and find a switch for her to hit him with. The boy was gone a long time. And when he came back in, he was crying. He said to her, "Mama, I couldn't find a switch, but here's a rock that you can throw at me." All of a sudden the mother understood how the situation felt from the child's point of view: that if my mother wants to hurt me, then it makes no difference what she does it with; she might as well do it with a stone. And the mother took the boy onto her lap and they both cried. Then she laid the rock on a shelf in the kitchen to remind herself forever: never violence. And that is something I think everyone should keep in mind. Because violence begins in the nursery--one can raise children into violence." I think that too often we fail to feel situations "from the child's point of view," and that failure leads us to teach our children other than what we think we're teaching them.] http://www.atlc.org/Resources/never_violence.php http://www.naturalchild.org/articles/gentle_guidance.html http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting
  6. That is exactly it! About ten years ago, out of curiousity, I joined their private message board to see what is was all about....a secret one for "members" only. I'm a strong advocate against any form of punishment...but, I was interested in what the term was after hearing it many times on a pareting boards. I lied with some of the answers in order to "be allowed in the message boards"...but, that is a whole different situation!!! LOL Anyways...it was full of reasons and ways to train (abuse) children....with the "training through hitting" starting while they are infants! There were even discussions on ways of "setting them up" to do bad while at home so that when out and about they will be trained. For example, having a very young child (under age one) sitting on your lap. If they move, cry, fuss, try to get down, they are to be hit. This training is to go on for the amount of time it would take to "sit still" in church or a doctors office. Once they have learned if they move, cry, try to get down, fuss or they will be slapped and are obeying...it then gets moved to "pinching" for punishment instead of hitting. The reason is because pinching can be done in secret and noboby will know! It is recommended through them that punishments are begin when an infant first shows signs of fussing, turning over, and not wanting their diapers changed....that is a sign of defiance and that is when hitting hard on the buttocks with an object first should begin. It is basically a different version of "The Pearl" type way of punishing children.
  7. http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2013/02/06/anne-of-green-gables-blond_n_2629993.html I cannot believe anyone would put a sexy and blond woman on the cover of Anne of Green Gables! :(
  8. WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!! That is exciting news!!!! The peace of mind of having some savings (no matter how little) is priceless! One day my dh and I will reach that point ourselves!!
  9. We have very few things in our home that one child has complete ownership over. A stuffed animal would belong to everyone...the same goes for most toys and books...even some clothing. I'd let them figure things out on their own...
  10. We have always used a barf-bucket and until reading this thread I never knew that anyone else did things differently. Personally, I could not imagine my family using the toilet (where people defecate and urinate) to vomit in....only as a last resort! I don't think I have ever been sick in a toilet to be honest. We use a bucket and it is cleaned out after each "session" by myself or another adult.
  11. Sequence! It is our most favourite game and it is great for all ages and abilities!!!! http://www.amazon.com/Jax-8002-Sequence-Game/dp/B00000IVAK
  12. I try! :) I've just always wondered how they are! It was the year of 9/11 and a friend/neighbour had moved in prior to the attacks. Her dh was in the army and they were always trying to get my dh to join. At that time there was never a strong fear of actually having to ever go to war. My dh did not join...he has a terrible fear of guns! Well, 9/11 happened and away her dh went. I moved away not to long afterwards. I've always wondered how he's been. Is he alright? Maybe I should have been there more for her? Also, I was like a second mom to some the kids in the housing complexes....many came to my house first thing in the morning and left last thing at night. I've always wondered how they did in life! It's funny...I know that one day I'll have to move again and just the thought makes me cry!!!! LOL I definitely won't be leaving this house without saying good-bye! Also, there wasn't Facebook or even email at that time. Only myself and one neighbour had a computer! Sigh...how times have changed!!! LOL
  13. I did that once...just packed up and moved....over 10 years ago. I still feel guilty about it!!!! I just left neighbours and friends. Most knew we were moving within in a few weeks...they just didn't know when...until the truck pulled in and we were gone! The move literally was last minutes as well. Sigh. Honestly, I was eight+ months pregnant and a couple of weeks away from my due date. I was already very, very emotional over the move and other family issues. I was sad to leave a few friends. The thought of going around and saying good-bye was overwhelming. So, I just took the eay way out. Which was only easy at the time...now it is hard. :(
  14. I love the memory jar idea! How wonderful!!!!!!!
  15. I've seen that!!! I printed it all off too and have it downstairs in my craft room all ready to go! I haven't made the time to complete it though! I even purchased the time stamper!! I write bits and pieces on my calendar and I LOVE to go back and read them! I'm going to research computer based programs and see if that helps...I do type faster than I write! Hmmm?
  16. Does anyone here keep a family journal/diary? Do you use a blank book, on-line, or a calendar? I love the idea of keeping a journal...but, I never remember! I promised myself I'd start one in the New Year...I have one entry and it isn't even finished!!!! LOL
  17. We sleep separately while the kids are younger because I cannot deal with the lack of sleep from his snoring/moving all over the place and then take care of the kids all day. He not only snores...but, he twitches and moves around a lot! I think it is very common!!!
  18. We take birthdays off as well as snow days and beautiful days in the spring.
  19. I find it disturbing when that kind of content just seems to be "thrown in the book" without any warning. I was pretty upset at the end of, "Where the Heart Is" by Billy Letts. The child rape scene just came out of nowhere! However, I read Memoirs of Geisha, which was pretty graphic as well...but, I kind of knew what to expect. I don't like it either way....
  20. ((((HUGS)))) (((HUGS))) and more (((HUGS)))) :grouphug: We are all here for you!!! Please keep us updated. And make sure to take extra time to care for yourself!!!
  21. I couldn't agree more!!! I've seen what happens when parents play favourites! It's not good...for the favourite or the not-so-favourite child!!! :(
  22. Anyone else have a love of ancestry? My cousin and I began tracing our family roots about a year ago...and we love it! We are truly stumped though and I'd love the opinion of others that have experience or have some sort of possible answer/opinion!! :) Here is the exact wording and punctuation: "John and his wife Elizabeth Lowry established their homestead for his family and other Ball relatives: Francis Ball, and his wife Grace Flook and 3 sons, from 1839-1848, when they relocated to Harwich Township, Kent County; and his brother William's son Thomas, until John's death in 1877." So, are they all brothers? Is William only the brother of Francis or the only brother of John? We have had different researchers give different opinions. Are we missing something? Any thoughts?
  23. I don't have any experience or advice...but, I wanted to give you a hug!! :grouphug: I think doing exactly what you are doing and what is working for you is perfect!!! We are all here for you anytime!! :)
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