Kay in Cal
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In terms of replacement hardware, you can usually go to the stores and they will give you whatever you need. We've moved so many times with tons of Ikea furniture (mostly shelves, but some other pieces as well) that things have gotten lost. I've never had a problem replacing hardware-type parts by walking in and asking at the customer service/delivery/warehouse department. In fact, we have a lot of Ivar that lives in the school room now--and I'm still using the bag of 1000 metal pegs they gave me for free when I had lost a few. Many of their items are designed to use the same hardware, one reason they can manufacture so cheaply. Another reason is that they are the largest furniture store in the world--still expanding in the US, but I shopped there regularly in Norway and Germany in the early 80's.
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Thanks for all the advice and support! I didn't take time to post yesterday, but it went fairly well.
Ds hasn't had another major rage, but a few outbursts here and there. I'm beat this morning because I spent several hours with him in the middle of the night because he would not sleep alone, and was building up to an event. I laid with him on the couch and did some massage and tickling... he eventually calmed and slept. I'm going to get cracking on finding a doctor on Monday. Of course, I'm supposed to be starting work this week, at least partially. I go back to my regular full-time schedule starting next weekend... good thing my life is flexible.
Anyhow, I am definately reading all the advice and recommendations.
Grace: He just had a physical about a month ago, and the doctor almost upped his meds. At the time, he had been pretty stable, so she decided not to. Then the move started! I'm going to follow up on that. Of course, I'd really like to find something that didn't cause him to gain weight. We can't buy clothes for him any more, ugh.
Take care all, and if you have any more advice, please sent it my way!
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This is my 7yo ds... I totally agree that it isn't intentional or rational. We were actually pretty good (in retrospect) at maintaining a very calming tone and not losing our tempers as he was raging. The store was very crowded, and he was trying to overturn merchandise as well, so there was that fear he was going to hurt himself or someone other than us. I was so in the moment and focused on him that I was only peripherally aware of the stares. I think my dh is more on the same page than I thought, after talking to him for a while... he just doesn't know what we can do. I'm scared he won't "grow out of it" and we won't be able to get this under control before he is an adult.
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I love Torchwood... but it's not for kids. It airs in Britain during the "adult viewing hours", after what we would call prime-time---can't remember what they call it there. My kids do watch some Dr. Who, but there are some episodes I think are too dark/too much for them, and we skip those.
Sara Jane Adventures is great for kids.
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Wow, did that cover it all?
Those of you who have been on the board for years know some about my oldest ds... you may remember the window-kicking incident that left him with a huge scar on his leg at age 4. He's been variously diagnosed with ADHD and SID. He is also very very bright, which complicates things. I've personally thought that he has Aspergers issues, but never had a diagnosis. Part of the problem is that no professional has taken his issues very seriously. He's been taking Strattera for the past year and a half. It has really helped the intensity and frequency of his outbursts, though not eliminated them. He has also gained 50 pounds in that time, I think from the medication which makes him less active and hungry all the time.
We just moved away from the church and area he's know all his life. Visited grandparents, then been here less than a week now. He's been having more temper tantrums, more control issues, more outbursts (he frequently makes noises or motions, usually of Pokemon). Stress levels are high.
Today the whole family went to IKEA. He didn't want to go, and whined. After a few minutes whining became yelling, which became a major freak-out. He bit his dad. We set him in a chair to calm down, and I went to talk to him. He punched me, tore my glasses from my face and broke them in half, started scratching. My dh went to intervene, and he kicked my dh in the balls (sorry if that's TMI), dropping dh to the floor. That was the beginning of a twenty-minute slow removal from IKEA. He's too big and really strong to fight, we had to restrain him, then walk when he was calm enough, then he'd freak again, etc, etc. He went for his brother once, but mostly just us.
He was still freaking out when we got to the car, but then calmed down during the time it took us to start looking up child psychiatrists on the cell phone. We fed him, brought him home, and he's having quiet time. He's still wound up like a spring though.
We're new to the area, we don't have a doctor yet, not to mention a child psychiatrist. I'm so nervous now I just don't know what to do... he's not flipping out right NOW, and in the past it has been impossible to convince doctors that he's got issues. My dh knows there is something wrong, but thinks he just lacks self control. I really think it is beyond this. I'm worried about the weekend, with no doctor to talk to. We have crappy HMO insurance.
I'm really looking for advice from a parent who has BTDT. Anyone?
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Me too! I always pour first (never occured to me there was any other way...), but for my own I add more syrup after when the first pour soaks in. Only real maple syrup, though. I can't stand colored corn syrup!
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I have a Corwin as well... my boys are Corwin Drew and Kieran Danger.
Other boys names I like: Brand, Bleys, Gwyddion, Cirroc, Tor
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I like the full sized pages... I post them on the refrigerator, and highlight the various chores according to who they "belong" to.
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Here's the trick I learned with large booKs... lie backwards to compensate for the droop :-P . I put a body pillow behind me, and recline back until my bed-side-down nipple is at the right height for the baby. Before, I always slanted my body forward when I slept. Now, even though I'm no longer breastfeeding, I'm more comfortable leaning back rather than forward.
My doula had to come for a visit when oldest ds was about a month old to show me how... but I would never have made it through their infancy if I couldn't sleep while nursing. Sooo much easier!
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Well, today was mixed. My boys spent a lot of time in the pool with me and with grandma. SIL hid out most of it. I haven't given any unwanted advice until today, even when tempted, but she was down in the kitchen complaining about not having any time to sleep, and I said that nursing while laying down and even napping might be a good thing to try... I'd show her how, if she wants. She said that she's read too many warnings about lying down with a baby, it isn't safe. So that ended that. I think she's pretty stressed out now too. She came down to dinner late, and it looked like she had been crying. I just dont' know what to do!
Most of the day was spent with them trying to get the baby to sleep. They spend a lot of time hoping he'll go to sleep when he doesn't want to. At night, I get that, because it means you can sleep... during the day, what's wrong with him being awake?
My mil bought my family tickets to Busch Gardens and the water park for the week, and it was strongly hinted that we ought to be out of the house for the rest of the week if possible. I'm so exhausted from moving, the last thing I want to do is six days straight of amusement parks. My dh is pretty hurt that we came out here specifically to see the baby, and we're being shunted off. However, he won't say that. So I am!
Off the the water park tomorrow. Sigh.
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We were Neilsen a couple of years ago. They took the info through our TiVO. But our letter said that we were among the first group where they were counting people who used DVRs to record shows. No diaries, just consent forms for them to get the data from TiVo.
We watch NO reality TV at all, so it isn't our fault! I long for the days when I didn't know who Jon and Kate were... now, even though I find them agonizingly distateful, I have no choice but to read headlines about them at every magazine stand, grocery store checkout and on the front pages of the "news". Yuck yuck yuck. I do not care about the personal lives of reality TV "stars". Make them go away!!!
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With a name like Balanceseeker, it's got to be good!
I know you are so right. This is perfect advice.
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Her first. Maybe her only. For years she swore she didn't ever want children, but I think it was very important to bil.
My dh was convinced that she would have a transformation when the baby was born, just be converted to a really engaged mom. Thier mom (my mil) was a dedicated SAHM, very "momly", and my dh just couldn't imagine that his sister wouldn't love parenting as much as he does. He's a SAHD, and I think he got all the nurturing genes. I think I really got hopeful on behalf of my dh as well.
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Hmmm... do you think I misheard? Could it be the Dr. who is second on the list, and that's not his name... she was just saying he's the "babywise" guy? Or even that he just really loves it? It wouldn't surprise me. I was starting to tune out at that point in a fit of attempted self-control. La la la la la....
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OK, we are visiting out in Williamsburg, Virginia. We came out for a family wedding, but mostly because my sister in law would be here with her 2 month old baby, and we haven't been able to get to Chicago to see him.
Background: My sil/bil are nothing like us. I'm family oriented, stay at home, geeky, poor... they are work and success oriented, sophisticated, rich. Slobby/well-dressed, diet coke/fine wine, Christian/Jewish, fat/thin, family restaurant/$300 tasting menu, ... we are a study in opposites. It would be funny, if it weren't so constantly awkward.
I was really hopeful that perhaps her being a mom would give us something in common. Nope. I'm attachment parenting, homeschooling, family oriented, etc, etc.... they are Feberizing thier baby, and their pediatrician is even the Dr. Wise who wrote Babywise. The one I always turn backwards on the shelf. Ugh. She's got the new nanny picked out ("she can provide him with so much that I just can't"), and is happily returning to her high-powered job in a week. I haven't yet entered into discussion about applying for the high-powered preschool, but it's coming, I can feel it...
Our boys are constantly getting in trouble this week (including me) from all the grownups because we all have to be silent for the baby. All. The. Time. My dh just got lectured by his mom because "his sister won't want to come visit them if our boys are too disruptive". Yeah, well, I won't want to come visit if we have to walk on eggshells all the time. They are five and seven year old boys. They do make some noise.
Admission: I love babies. LOVE them. I love the way they smell, I don't mind if they cry. This one is no exception. He's adorable. In a "please don't even glance at me because my parents might just have a heart attack" sort of way.
It isn't the baby. We've got seven more days of tiptoeing around the delicate flower that is my sil. Reality check: The woman is a CFO at a major international bank you have all heard of (one of the ones that is still solvent), she fires hordes of underlings with a wave of her hand and they drop and give her 50 if she looks askance... I think she can handle it. But no, her place in the family is the vulnerable little girl who is just so overwhelmed that we all must serve her.
I feel like I'm in one of those semi-humorous movies about family culture clash. I've got 7 more days here. Please, please, please... help me pass the bean dip. I can do it, right? Right? I need to be compassionate and kind, and I'm just feeling really really grumpy. Humph.
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I look the part even when I'm not. I'm overweight, and carry it all in my belly. "Apple shaped", as they say. Pregnancy just makes me a bit more so. I frequently told people that I was pregnant, because I could easily have just been getting slightly fatter. And I have had people ask me "when are you due?" when I'm not.
Sigh.
The curse of roundness.
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I'm Kay. I live in California.
Obviously I was not feeling very creative when I started posting years ago. Now I just hate to change my "persona".
Most places nowadays on the net I'm RevMommy
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I'm honest, I will return and correct underpayments. I don't think I'm the only one... as this thread seems to show, there are lots of people out there who are honest. We've just been convinced by the media focus on dishonesty that we are not the norm.
I am an inveterate forgetter of things. My purse. My wallet. Glasses. Keys. It seems like at least every couple of years I leave a wallet or bag somewhere with all my money and cards inside. I've always gotten it back--either the business I left it at holds it for me, or some good samaritan who found it calls. Once I dropped my wallet on the sidewalk (must have fallen from my purse) and it was rescued and returned. Of course, maybe I'd learn to hold on to my things if people kept them?
I did once have my wallet stolen by a coworker out of my purse when I was a teenager, but never since! Oh yeah... my washer and dryer were stolen a couple weeks ago. But only twice in a lifetime is pretty good, really.
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Ooops... Christ first but Santa is fine, love Halloween, Easter is about resurrection and the Easter bunny knows that, tooth fairy brings $5 in gold dollars.
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Kay (still) in Cal... but moving from Los Angeles area to San Diego area as of Monday. Santee/Lakeside, to be exact. 38 yo. I'm a United Methodist minister. I work full time, try to be at home as much as possible, and I do the curriculum planning and board cruising, dh does most of the teaching. I've been around the boards since I was pregnant with my first, summer of 2001. Has that been 8 years already? Sheesh!
Dh: Doug. 38. SAHD. Writer. We met in our youth at Johns Hopkins. He has health issues still from a serious illness four years ago.
Dss: Kieran, 7 Bright, bright, bright and a real handful
Corwin, 5 My creative dreamer cuddle-bunny
My sig has our curriculum for the past year.
Board related info: Breastfed only, WTM classical, married young but it's not for everyone, still wearing crocs, semi-free range kids but still protective, coslept, hate reality TV but love LOST, mainstream Christian, progressive, Dyson vacuum, made my own laundry detergent for a while but quit, sons are circumcised, love my Kindle 2, theistic evolution, curly girl, vaccinate, against Prop 8, classical pronounciation, Motivated Mom not Flylady, no guns, planning to homeschool until college, dating not courtship, frugal living but not obsessively so, I once walked past Harrison Ford in the hall as I was going into the local hospital.
OK, that last one was a freebie. ;)
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I love my Kindle 2 as well! I have mostly free books on mine (you can download classics off the net), but I also have lots of church leadership books, and current bestsellers. Most new books are priced at 9.99 or less from Amazon, so it is significantly cheaper than buying a hardback. Older books generally cost less. I love being able to browse and buy on the go... several times someone has recommended a book to me, I pull out my Kindle, and in 30 seconds I have the book. Ready to read! I've read several novels on it all the way through, and it is just as immersive as holding a book... fast page turns, easy to read... well worth it for me as I'm trying to de-clutter our home. It makes as much sense as the Ipod did for our print-heavy family.
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Where are you visiting when you come back, for how long? Are you visiting family? Planning on seeing an WTM friends?
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So we are in the midst of moving down to San Diego. My sons have grown up here in the West Valley section of LA, always at the same church.
Do you have any suggestions to help make new connections at our new home? Plans already: We will have a church (as I'm a pastor) with a good Sunday School. I hope that goes well, but there is stress related to being a PK as well. I'm planning on signing my older son up for Cub Scouts, there is a den that is based at the church. Younger son is not old enough yet. I think we'll be going to be using a homeschool charter next year (Dehesa Charter School) in an effort to make connections, so there will be weekly PE classes at the park, maybe Spanish classes. I've already talked to my education coordinator--she used WTM herself, and we can use all the curriculum we already have planned.
What do you do to re-connect when you move? Our neighborhood doesn't seem very "neigborhoody". Would you walk to houses around and introduce yourself? What about kids... how do they meet others? So far, all my kids' friends were the children of dh/my friends. We've done lots of activities, but they have never made friends there. I know they are young, so maybe that will change soon? Though, as I said in a related thread, my older son is "that" kid.
Mostly I'm looking for creative ideas and general suggestions on helping this transition go smoothly--the truck comes next Friday and I'm getting nervous. I've never moved with kids!
And just for fun, a link to our new house. We're co-housing with friends who are moving down to be with us (yeah!)--they have no children and will live in the first floor apartment, which is not pictured.
http://s283.photobucket.com/albums/kk303/pastrkay/New%20House/
Okay, now I need a list of best and worst stateside air force base assignments.
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Isn't there an old joke... Why not Minot? Freezin's the reason.
My favorite places to live (and I'm an Air Force brat, not a wife) were Norway, Germany and the Washington DC area. I'm not a fan of very small rural towns... our home now is borderline, but we are still suburban. And I can't imagine living in extreme winter weather. Good thing some people like it! Takes all kinds...