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dmmetler last won the day on February 7 2014

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    Chasing snakes!
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    Mom of a highly asynchronous kid ;)
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  1. I had her for several hours today. We took the math book and English book that her mom wants her to use, and broke down the work to a level that isn't overwhelming to her. I copied the problems for her, with a small number per page, and since she is struggling with recall of facts, added a stick-on table to each page, so she can reference it if she needs it (and if she knows it's there, she doesn't seem to use it much, but she just plain needs the security blanket). I also printed two easier activities from online. The goal is to do something every day, even just a little. We did the same for English, giving her daily activities that involve the same concepts, but involve more drawing, color coding and marking. Again, the goal is just to give her something independent and easy for the days she is not with me, but to also give her a little more choice and control than opening a book and copying questions and answers into a notebook. We played math games with manipulatives, and listened to an audiobook while coloring, and read about cryptozoology and started work on Clay models of made up creatures and developing a life history for them. DD was done with her classes by then, so she joined us for those activities. I also printed a new piano piece for her that is easy enough to sight read, but interesting and fun. Our most Velcro of cats pretty much spent all day on her lap, purring up a storm. She seemed a lot happier and more relaxed when she left.
  2. I had a bunch of teen/older tween kids and a few parents (mostly moms, one dad) and siblings at my house today, and one of the moms nursed her 9 month old. The only one who seemed to notice was a 4 yr old who went to his mom and asked if he could nurse-she told him "no, before bed", and found him a snack. I don't think any of the teens noticed.
  3. Do any of these programs do cello? I have a child in my life who desperately wants to play and is musically gifted, and who needs a "win", but the family situation is such that the parents cannot pay for lessons now. I teach her piano, but my experience with strings is limited to the one String Teaching Techniques class in college, which was basically focused on "here's how you integrate students who already play strings into your school orchestra, with the assumption being that string students either had private lessons or a Suzuki group program in elementary school. I can't pay for $200+ a month,but $50 a month for multiple online lessons a week would be doable-I could find something she could "help" me with to pay for that.
  4. I went with DE since DD wanted a classroom setting, so she met the requirements before I even thought to look. It does seem weird to equate one CLEP with four college classes or Governor's school, which is just plain hard to get into.
  5. In TN, the state scholarship is based on ACT scores/GPA, and the General Assembly Merit Scholarship requires (for homeschoolers) DE, AP, Governor's school participation, or CLEP, so that is a reason here to take a few DE or AP classes if your child is likely to score over a 29 on the ACT. Most state U's that give merit aid stack on top of the state scholarships. FWIW, DD's current reach school (reach for financial reasons) is test optional, but the person who she met with suggested submitting them anyway, because they would only strengthen her application.
  6. At first, several times a week, and an appointment series could be quite long-and almost none of it was spent waiting (I suspect being able to come during the school day helped there-it would have been hard to do this had she been in a traditional school). As she progressed, it dropped both in length and frequency. For her, the original plan was 8 weeks, and she actually mostly resolved, to a point that they felt she could continue on her own, and come in only if she felt she needed it. Tests were done to rule out all the other most likely causes, so in her case, the feeling was that short term intensive rehab would likely be beneficial-and as an athlete, she was used to intense practice sessions, so in some ways, I think the schedule was comforting. There is an MD on staff, so I assume they can work with medication as needed, but the goal, at least as stated to DD was to provide relief in the short term (lots of ice, biofreeze and massage), increase flexibility and strength so her joints aren't slipping under stress and causing less pain, and learning strategies to manage pain and communicate the level and intensity so she gets the help she needs, because in her case, her worries that this was permanent and never would get better, feeling like she was letting everyone down and a failure, and all the emotional stuff was as hard as the physical.
  7. She went to a non-medication orthopedic pain center, with they have a mix of specialists on staff, in sports medicine, chiropractic, Ortho, psychology, PT, massage therapy, etc. It was honestly luck that I found them-after two orthopedists came up dry (there wasn't really anything visible on an MRI, and DD wasn't explaining just how much she hurt and was minimizing it-I also think they simply did not understand what competitive cheer involves), I started contacting chiropractors listed as covered by our insurance and asking if they were willing to see teens and if they had worked with competitive cheerleaders. Not only did this place see teens, but one of their doctors is also the specialist on call for the university cheer and dance teams. He knew enough to ask the right questions (and realized that cheerleaders, because it is SUCH a team sport and one where a single person being out affects so much, tend to minimize pain so they can get back on the mat). After DX, they set up a schedule of appointments with the people they felt DD needed. One thing nice was that each visit counted as one appointment and one copay, no matter how many people she saw or how long she was there.
  8. DD definitely downplayed it for months, and a big part of it was not wanting to cause problems for other people or admit vulnerability. So, she wouldn't admit to hurting at cheer practice because it would affect her teammates, and, she was sure, would lead to them disliking her. Part of rehab has involved learning language to explain how she actually feels. And that's without the kind of emotional load your DS carries.
  9. Yes, she has things she can do. But anxiety can make it hard to push through.
  10. DD has a pretty large collection of plastic animal skeletons. She quite likes pointing out the inaccuracies (for example, many horse skeleton decorations have tails and ears), and she especially enjoys the spider and scorpion ones (uh, they're invertebrates!). It would take a BIG beetle bin to completely denude a horse! IN a fsrming area, though, I could see it being something a taxidermist might do-or a hobbyist.
  11. I EP'd for DD due to oral-motor issue due to prematurity, and I actually had the opposite happen at a children's hospital-I asked if there was a nursing room (because usually those will have an outlet so I could plug in the pump, a sink to wash out the parts, and sometimes even a microwave so I could run them through and steam them), and was told "oh, honey, we're nursing friendly, so just sit anywhere you want". It took a bit to convince her that, no, I really needed the separate space (I ended up in an office).
  12. I hope so as well. She also was wearing boots from the thrift store that look awesome for her costume/cosplay, but probably weren't well suited to running around a backyard. She was pretty down yesterday because pain triggered the "what if it never gets better" anxiety. I told her to let me know tomorrow morning if she wants me to call for an appointment.
  13. And she spent last night running around playing flashlight tag at a Halloween party, and now says it hurts again. Hoping this is just that she used it more than she has in a few months...
  14. If you're interested in an online class, there are several Junior instructor ones at Athena's Academy focused on Marine biology topics. JI classes are taught by kids, who have a strong interest in the topic, with an adult moderator and a lot of mentoring in the class design phase. Emma has been doing this for quite awhile (she was the first JI at Athena's), and is really, really good. My experience (as a moderator for DD's classes) is that kids who already have read everything they can get their hands on about a topic usually really enjoy JI classes just for the chance to discuss with other kids.
  15. One of my strategies for managing DD's college anxieties is basically not letting her get on the competitive collShe train at all and focusing on finding schools which are "safe", but still have amazing things to offer. And the VA college pressure is intense, with a feeling that only certain schools are good enough. Which then leads to trying to advertise and compete on other fronts, which then leads to fees that cost more than tuition, so there is a lot of pressure. There was even back when I graduated, and I'm sure it has gotten worse. I can think of a half dozen state schools off the top of my head that have excellent fine arts programs, both for majors and ones open to non-majors, where your DD's stats as a whole would likely put her in the top 25%, and where any merit aid at all comes with an out of state tuition waiver, with base cost lower than VA schools. Some do automatic admissions based just on ACT/GPA, so no need for four AP's a year. They aren't UVA, but they are pretty comparable to JMU. And there probably are a lot more out there that I don't know about.
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