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dmmetler last won the day on February 7 2014

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About dmmetler

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    Chasing snakes!
  • Birthday 06/16/1972

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    Mom of a highly asynchronous kid ;)
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    Memphis TN
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    Music teacher

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  1. dmmetler

    Organic farming is bad?

    I'll see if I can find some public citations, but what I've taken from attending a lot of herpetology conferences is that large scale farming, whether it be for plants or animals, and no matter what the derivation of the herbicides, pesticides, and fertilizers used, is just plain bad for wildlife. A decent percentage of the talks at every conference deals with the impact, and honestly, yeah, roundup and atrazine are horrible. But the runoffs from organic farms can be just as bad-and often are more likely to lead to the right conditions for diseases to become epidemic among wildlife. What is needed most is diversification. Hobby farms are great. Yards that are full of wildflowers and native plants and are not monocultures of a single grass are great. Native shrubs and flowers are awesome. Supporting and raising heritage crops (both plants and animals)-good. Not using chemicals for aesthetic reasons-because while there may be good reasons to have every apple in a field ripen at the same time and be nice and regularly shaped and easy to harvest and pack, we don't need perfection in our backyards. Stuff like that. Go back to crop rotation and changing what is in fields every year and planting cover crops. Recognize that predators control the population of small animals who in turn control insects and caterpillars, and maintain bands of habitat for wildlife between fields. And yeah, that will require more labor and cost more.
  2. Looking at Rotten tomatoes, critics that liked it are in short supply-it only has a 22% rating About half the professional reviewers who didn't like it explicitly mention the groping and find it disconcerting, so it's not just this one reviewer-these are folks who are paid to go see movies and write about them, and see them pre-release to do so. Even those who reviewed it positively tend to kind of damn it with "its cute, and kids will like it" type comments.
  3. dmmetler

    Vent: When being a good parent makes you uncomfortable

    You have to do what is right for your child. But it's hard. We made a similar move in a different sport. We had good reasons, and it is absolutely better for DD this way. But both of us still have some regrets for the program we spent 8 years at. Especially after last night's cheer banquet, where many of the seniors (and coaches) had stories about growing up in the gym and growing up as a team together, and how the gym and team is their family. DD doesn't get that, and won't. She has friends there, she fits in well, but the kids she has early memories with and grew up with are all in the other program. And for me, it very much felt like abandoning my friends-because parents of teens don't spend nearly as much time sitting and chatting as parents of little ones. What I'm trying to keep in mind is that no matter what, a sports team is a season in life. It cannot last forever. And if you don't keep friends just because you leave a team, they weren't friends to start with.
  4. dmmetler

    Article - Why Johnny Still Can't Read

    If you search for threads on Interactive Metronome, I’ve posted at length about some of the methods I use for developing beat bonding and the sequence. For auditory processing, we use a lot of focused listening, sound discrimination, repetition, rote teaching and sound cuing (where a specific instrument is played by the student each time a specific sound is heard within a rhyme or song).
  5. dmmetler

    Article - Why Johnny Still Can't Read

    My local district used to have a focused literacy optional school-I taught at it for 8 years. We got all the kids who were struggling in reading who had parents who were willing to take the transfer. Basically, the only thing we did differently was that we had a waiver to teach Slingerland phonics instead of the district-wide program. And as a result, a majority of kids came to us for a year or two, learned to read, got back on track, and went back to their home schools. Those who didn't, we referred for evaluation, and were usually found to have some more significant learning challenges (and still often learned to read and improved their reading). We did other things as well (as a music specialist, I did a lot of auditory processing and beat bonding work in my classes and groups, often working very closely with speech and OT), but the primary difference was that we started with phonograms, not words. Sadly, this was a casualty of the standardized test push. When you take the lowest 10% of readers or so in a large district and put them in one school, and send them back to their home schools when they are more like about the 50% level, you fail the state reading tests every single year. Even though our average student gained 2-3 grade levels in the first year they were with us, it wasn't enough to keep the school from being converted to a state-run charter. Which, now, does the same reading program every other school does, and is scoring lower on tests than the school it replaced.
  6. dmmetler

    Toys/Activities for Long Drives or Moving

    Another thing that I used to do for DD was to wrap little treats (snacks, small toys, books etc) to be opened at set points. Having to unwrap both added a little extra time and increased interest.
  7. dmmetler

    Toys/Activities for Long Drives or Moving

    Colorforms are good 🙂
  8. Hazelnut and French Vanilla.
  9. dmmetler

    8th Grade Graduation question

    Well, my DD ended up starting the year as an 8th grader and ending it as a degree seeking college freshman:). Although I’m not planning to officially graduate her until she finishes the AS :). I did do my end of year party today for my clubs and classes-the kids got certificates for their accomplishments this year, and added to a bulletin board where they wrote stuff that they were proud of (which, along with academics, dance recitals, and soccer tournaments included things like “made friends with Susan” and “got to a new level in Splatoon”). And sometimes parents will choose to celebrate a “graduation” as part of that.
  10. dmmetler

    s/o where does your co-op meet?

    Secular, inclusive co-op, met for years in a UU church. One of the organizers was the RE director, and she convinced the church board that there was a need for an outreach to secular homeschoolers since at the time every co-op had a statement of faith. We paid a donation per family to the church, plus did all the set up, cleaning, and a service day for the church each semester.
  11. The way I’ve seen it work is that the time worked is applied to the next month. So, if the class is $50/month and you have two kids, and you monitored the hall for a full 6 hour day, you would only pay $40 for that month instead of $100. Sign ups for jobs are month by month, and usually go pretty quickly. If you teach a class for one hour/week that parents pay $25/month for, and you have 10 kids in the class, $125 would be applied to your child’s class fees. There are no “free” classes, but it’s very possible to work enough to pay only the registration fee, and if you choose to do it as a pure drop off, that’s fine too, but you’re paying for people to do the day to day work of keeping the building open and running and supervising kids and administrating the whole thing, not just for the teacher. I will also say, having run homeschool clubs and groups and classes for years, if you charge too little, it is not valued. I have ended up doing a lot more work and expense for $10/yr groups where everyone is supposed to take turns running the show and helping out than for $10/session groups where I did the whole thing, and if someone chose to stay and help clean up beyond what I had the kids do, that was an extra.
  12. dmmetler

    Online/streaming very low impact exercise video?

    I like Bollyfit on Amazon Prime. Skip anything with ‘jumps’ in the title.
  13. dmmetler

    Kids, the ocean, fear of sharks

    Are you on social media? You may want to follow @WhySharksMatter. He’s on both Facebook and Twitter (and maybe Instagram). David Shippman is an elasmobranch biologist who really focuses on using social media to help people understand sharks and shark behavior. He kind of fell into this roll by live tweeting during Shark Week as far as the accuracies and inaccuracies. He’s a really nice guy, generally patient with questions, and posts very interesting stuff. FWIW, my DD is going to a Marine bio camp this summer that includes surfing as one of the activities. She already has said she has no plans to surf-but would LOVE to see a wild shark!
  14. dmmetler

    S/O...Amazon Prime...What's in your latest package?

    charms to make keychains for DD's cheer team banquet.
  15. Not unreasonable. I would increase the buyout amount-or even just plain charge it upfront and offer the opportunity to sign up to work to pay part of your child's fees.
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