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On 9/28/2020 at 11:40 AM, PeterPan said:
That's interesting. We had someone suggest transcranial magnetic stimulation for ds.
On 9/28/2020 at 11:37 AM, morgan said:I know you are asking about SSRIs, but since meds haven't worked for us we've had to look for other treatments. One of the most helpful things we have found for her anxiety, OCD, and sleep issues is an Alpha-Stim. It's an electrotherapy device you wear on your ears.
Ds15 is having issues with sleep and anger and anxiety. His counselor says he should start SSRI. I am very concerned. I would like to try something with no or little side effects. I hope his doctor can prescribe Alpha Stim to start.
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I get anxious easily. And then wearing a mask while feeling anxious in a crowded grocery store and knowing it's unsafe to take off the mask makes it even worse. I totally understand this. I try to take long deep breaths to reset the pace.
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I do do believe there's such thing as "fear fatigue". It is exhausting to be on high alert for long. I agree with Garga. It is not that the risk is any lower, it's that we know more and have been living with it longer now.
I used to have this doomed feeling, anxious to know when is the end. Now I know there is probably no end.
I figure after all the precautions I take, if I get infected and die, then I can't help it. It's OK to die.
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21 minutes ago, peacelovehomeschooling said:
The wonderful thing is that there are different options so we can choose what works best for our children and our families. What works for one person/child/family may not work for another one, and that is perfectly okay. We also each have our own threshold for what can handle and tolerate. Luckily we get to make these decisions for ourselves and as long as they don't infringe on the rights of others, all is good (at least with me it is). My daughter is an enthusiastic homeschooler and embraces all aspects of it. We are both introverts and find the world to be too loud and too much for us a lot of the time. We have found what works for us. It sounds like you and your sons have found what works for you. Finding what works is a gift.
I totally agree! Ds17 is introverted and would never go to a regular high school. He is happily homeschooled and now going full time 12th for DE classes.
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1 hour ago, peacelovehomeschooling said:
We are continuing to be careful. Nothing has changed in terms of how we protect ourselves....if we were doing it in March, we are still doing it. We have never been super paranoid and the things we do to try to keep us safe are ones that I knew when I started them we would have the stamina to keep doing them. I remain nervous about all of it--the virus--the economic impact--the future--where this all ends. My state's numbers are continuing to rise (positive cases, hospitalizations, deaths) and that fuels my concern. I have never been so thankful to be a homeschool family and not have to worry about how my daughter's education will look this school year.
Ds17 will do his 12th grade year as DE student at our state university. Ds15 went to a nearby small private Christian high school for 9th grade last school year. I signed him up online homeschool classes for fear the virus would change everything for next school year at the private high school. But then the rioting and burning and destroying happened. My whole neighborhood still reeks of reminant smoke from so many businesses burned to the ground. That actually changed our decision for schooling for him. We think he needs to be with his high school community, riding the virus waves and processing social unrest with his peers and teachers. He is prone to feeling depressed from isolation due to homeschooling. He craves daily interaction with people his age and live, direct instruction in person for each subject in a class setting. So yes, there is higher risk and uncertainty, but for this kid, continuing with the school community he invested in for a year and enjoyed is the right schooling option.
So I have learned a lot about living with insecurity, risks, and willingness to accept the possible undesirable consequences.
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4 minutes ago, Pen said:
Keep in mind that the virus’s infectivity and severity of infection if you or a family member get infected has little to do with your nervousness or lack thereof. “So far no problem” is inevitably true and has been true for every other person including those who have gotten it up to the moment when / if there is a problem.
Maybe It’s kind of like rolling a few dice. “So far no triple sixes.”
Mask , distance, handwashing all are likely to help in reality to decrease spread.
I am very careful. I haven't been to any crowded places except the two days volunteering to help my virus and riot-induced food famined (due to rioting, looting, burning down grocery stores and pharmacies and post office in my immediate neighborhood) neighbors. And I would not have subjected myself to the exposure to the people who had CV or cared for CV patients had I known what situation I got myself into.
With that said, I believe no matter how careful you are, you cannot be guaranteed safe from the virus 100%. We need to be careful, but not so careful that it drives us nuts and into the ground.
To live is to risk. Wise, careful people as well as foolish, reckless people die from accidents of all sorts alike.
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My city had the largest, longest protests and it has not caused a spike. Every day now still many people go to George Floyd memorial site. Some wear masks, some don't. I am pleasantly surprised crowded, loudly yelling protests do not cause spikes.
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We have been seeing my parents-in-law indoors at their house with no mask ever since Mother's Day.
I mentioned ds and I once volunteered for 10 hours indoors in two days following my city's riots and were exposed to a CV nurse who had CV and a few people who had or whose immediate family members were having CV. That was June 4 and 5. We did not see my in-laws for two weeks just to be safe to not infect them in case ds and I were infected. So far, no problem.
We drove 4 hours one way for our North Shore getaway June 22-24. We have had no problem. Yesterday I brought ds15 for a haircut and Target store clothes shopping. The barber has a sign on the door "no mask, no service" but he wore his mask only to cover his mouth, with his nose fully exposed. Another customer who had his haircut by another barber wore his mask exactly the same way. So what's the point of "no mask, no service"?
My son's school will fully open with all students and full day schedule on August 24.
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Mid March. March 16 to be exact. That was the first time I went shopping after both ds's college and high school stopped in-person instruction and went online.
I had one dust filtering N95 mask dh bought (a box of 10. He and ds used 6 and 4 were left) a few years ago for a big house project. At that time I was nervous people would judge me for even having any kind of N95 mask. So I put a bandana on top of it. At Target store where I went to get ds's prescription medicine, there were few people with masks. I felt self-conscious and short of breath due to stress. I also went to ALDI and got lots of dry food and fresh food. When I got home, I wiped down everything with disinfectant wipes and quarantined some food in the porch. Then I wiped down the steering wheel, the car door, the house door knob, and anything I touched. Then I went to the shower. After that first time I did the same routine: shop, disinfect, shower.
As time goes by, I become less nervous. A friend of ours has four children, she shops every 10 days and never disinfects her grocery or anything she brings into her house. I also begin to relax about my shop disinfect shower routine and feel much less exhausted from all the tensing up and the disinfecting.
A neighbor of mine is a retired nurse. She and I always walk our dogs together or simply chitchat in her house over a cup of tea and snack for the dogs and for us. In Mid March we stopped seeing each other for a few days. The first few times when I dropped by her house to say hi, I picked up a random small rock in her yard and used it to press the doorbell button and then put it back where it was to reduce contaminating her door.
Now I continue to wear a good mask when I go indoor shopping, wash my hands a few times a day, and keep a good distance with people. Not touching my face without first washing my hands has become an ingrained habit. But I have stopped disinfecting.
we took a family trip to North Shore of Lake Superior at an ari B and B. We hiked trails and enjoyed some patio seating restaurant food once. We did some hammock hanging right by the lake, tranquil. A nice time away from the lock down and the riots.
Ds is in school three hours a day with a mask. He has five classmates and a teacher. This is a good practice for the full going back to school in late August,
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I will probably order some Happy masks.
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I call MIL and FiL mom and dad, I would prefer my future daughters-in-law to call me by what I prefer: mom.
This is my culture. I cannot imagine calling MiL her first name.
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Been praying for him. Hope for good news update.
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On 6/30/2020 at 11:24 AM, Pen said:
@Arcadia @square_25 @mathnerd @dmmetler
My Happy Mask came. I like it a lot.
I ordered two for my mom (most vulnerable of us so she could switch it out if needed) and one for my son.
I think they would be especially helpful for people in a big city or with underlying health issues or both. In addition to maybe being light and comfortable for kids.
the filter membrane must be directional , in breath is easier than out it seems to me ...
I hope they are as protective for wearer as the site says!
I am looking for good, protective masks for my boys and my husband. My youngest son is going to a three week summer math class, 3 hours/day and is required to wear a mask. I have some KN95 masks, but I think a cloth mask is more durable and comfortable. I saw this Happy Mask mentioned in another thread, but couldn't find the thread now. So you mom has had this mask for a couple days now. What's her thought? I need to order one now, but would like to check what actual users say first. Thanks!
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Les miserables.
The first 100 pages that movies left out proved to me to be the foundation and the most essential part of the whole book.
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Moonhawk, they do look comfortable and easy for breathing. They definitely have a place for protection. I generally like to wear a N95 mask and eye protective glasses when I go grocery shopping or indoors with more people than I am comfortable with. I have been meeting with friends outdoors and I gennerally just keep a good distance and do not wear a mask. But for indoors N95 mask is a must for me.
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Moonhawk, I'd be interested in seeing the face shield you mentioned. For indoors, unless the shield fits all the way with no gap, it does not protect much because airosols floats all over the place and can get to a person if there are gaps between the face and the shield. The ones that protect the best are the ones used in China, South Korea, and Italy.
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15 minutes ago, Laura Corin said:
I'm sorry you find BAME insulting; I didn't mean to hurt.
I'm puzzled by British Chinese as a term too. I checked before writing that I was correct that that was the normal usage. I would also expect it to be the other way round.
It's my personal opinion. Maybe British BAME accept it just fine.
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On 6/16/2020 at 3:55 AM, Laura Corin said:
In the UK, the most common term is Black British for people of African or African-Caribbean descent. More generally, BAME (Black, Asian, Minority Ethnic) is also used, as is People of Colour.
British Asian is usually used to refer to people of Indian, Pakistani, Sri Lankan or Bangladeshi heritage. Other people whose families came from Asia are referred to more specifically as British Chinese, British Japanese, etc.
I'm very happy to use whatever terminology an individual prefers and am happy to be corrected. I have misgendered people too in the past by accident, and was corrected politely - no hard feelings.
I find BAME to be very insulting. I'd rather be called people of color. And I think British Chinese sounds very wrong, as if they were still Chinese citizens. I would prefer Chinese American because this shows I am American citizen with Chinese blood. The order matters. I would picture a British Chinese to be a naturalized Chinese citizen with British heritage.
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I have used one N95 mask since the beginning of April. When I go shopping for groceries and when I go to places with many people, I wear it and then out it in the sun to kill virus. Once it was caught in heavy rain while hanging in the back yard. It dried and I am still using it. My son will take a bridge to AP Calculus class in person with 5 other students for 3 weeks in July 3 hours every week day. They are required to wear a mask and social distance. I will give him 2 N95 masks to wear alternatingly, so each mask will have 45 hours of rest to kill germs and virus in the sun or just hanging around. I wish more N95 masks are available inexpensively.
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My city, Minneapolis, has seen thousands and thousands protesters crowding, some with some without masks. 5000 national guards, and police, do not have masks and probably nowhere to find water to wash hands for hours on end. With crowding and loud speeches, do you predict there will be a high wave of Covid infection cases? What is the chance that there will be no waves?
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Biked and prayed on Lake Street. It is hot, but not unpleasant. The sun is very friendly.
I was going to clean the red spray paint on one of the bus stop shelters but found it is cleaned already and I'm very happy to see a couple bus stop shelters intact and look especially clean and neat in the afternoon sun.
Food. Food. Free food everywhere. Cleaner than usual streets. Many people serving the community with free dry food. One group of young people organized their own stand and are serving hot lunches, lentil, chicken fried rice, chicken curry, chili, sandwiches, water, juice, snack. The parking lot has many dry food stands and a tent with bread in it.
Demolish professionals are working on the ruined sites. The building compound with Le Nuevo Rodeo is flattened and is not recognizable any more. Target has people inside it doing cleaning and repairing jobs. Arby's ground is completely cleaned and only a big pile of rubles is left with many cleaning tools including buckets, brooms, and duspans gathered in one place.
Every day is different from the previous day. A few businesses are open, compress boards removed from their glass doors and windows. Merlin's Rest even has 5 tables outside with customers eating there. The MN Barber School is open for haircut, where I had my hair done a few times. A Vietnamese girl student there convinced me to have a layered cut 8 years ago, promising me my hubby would love it, which turned out to be a pleasant surprise; I got compliments left and right. Tires Plus where we get our cars serviced is open, too.
When I was in Guangzhou, I co-led an international house church wth my African brothers and benefited so much from their mentoring. For the 8 years I was a Christian there, we did many ministry together and got to understand each other very well. They had amazing language gift, able to quote the Bible from memory from cover to cover in Chinese. When I was hospitalized for heart problem, one of the African brother and his Chinese wife brought me delicious hot lunch every day by taking two buses from their home. Other African brothers also brought me hot food, too. They were all very nice cooks. Since coming to the US, I have few opportunities mingling with black people. My first baby shower here was lovingly organized by my friend Latifat from Nigeria, a very precious gift.
There are not many protesters today, only a few people are hanging around. One person is on the makeshift stand speaking passionately about justice. He is a very contagious speaker though he has not before been a speaker in public.
Two signs on the Target wall really touched my heart. One says "Respect my skin. Don't fear." Another one says "We want to live. Review ur cops better. Let me live." I as a person of color have never experienced racial injustice from anyone anywhere in the US. It breaks my heart to see how the black community suffers injustice for so long. I remember a few instances of black victims of injustice. To this day, I do not understand why Castille's killer is not prosecuted! Any cop let loose without any prosecution for their crimes are adding to the fuel of angry fire. This time, justice has to be served and no senseless killing can be afforded to let go unpunished.
Hope. Hope is a beautiful word. Today I feel hopeful for my Lake Street and my city. I feel hopeful for real changes. I feel hopeful we will examine our own hearts for sin, because sin is the root for injustice. God bless Lake Street. God bless Minneapolis. God bless America.
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SSRI's and teens
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I have no idea what to do. I am just very desperate to help him.
So the genetics you mentioned, is this done by lab? I do want to do less invasive treatment for him first. If the 5HTP works, definitely he should try it first.
Now I give him (and myself) D3, E, and B-complex daily. His school give the students this whole week off and he is much better and much less irritable. He sleeps in and he cooks yummy food for himself and for the family. He will have the next 8 weeks at home for 5 weeks distance learning and 3 weeks off for holidays. Before this he has been in person schooling almost 6 days a week because of added debate and theater hours. Hopefully the slowing down will ease his stress and we will have time to deal with it.
Thanks a lot, PeterPan.