I think this is proof that the hive knows everything

Mainly bumping for you. This website says there is an audiobook. It allows you to search nearby libraries.

Also could be a “stager”

A giraffe. It was a climbing structure. I can’t really describe it, so I searched for an image. It was similar to this one.

You were in an awful place where it took a lot of people to manage day to day life. That is what people do when others need help. You do a ton of things for others even though you are still in a hard place in life. If your son enjoys this activity with this boy, let the mom pay and bring your son. I am big believer that people don’t offer to drive your kid and pay for your kid if they don’t want your kid to be there. you have given the mom lots of opportunity to ask for money. She would have told you if it was an issue. Before the next sesion starts, talk to your son about his interest in continuing in fall. Follow his lead and talk to the mom.

My older kids earned the PVSA award through a certifying organization that no longer exists in our area. Are you saying an individual can become a certifying organization?

Sorry that she (and you) had to spend time worrying about this.

Praying for peace as you await surgery and praying for a successful surgery with results that mean no further treatment is needed.

If you have the money. This has nothing to do with Eckerd, I read some article recently about a 30ish old young man complaining about how he cannot afford a house due to student loans. He and his wife have student loans that are greater than what houses cost in most areas of country. (Or at least what they cost 2 years ago.) So don’t take out loans you or your student will not be able to pay back quickly on the salary they can expect with a generic college degree, because they may change their major in college. My kids and most their friends have all gone to public colleges. They graduate with little to no debt and are buying homes within 2-3 years of college graduation. That said one of my college kids has a friend who is enjoying her time at Exkerd. Her wealthy family can afford it, so she will graduate without debt.

I don’t know anything about UIUC, but as Arcadia mentioned UCB has a computer science major that is not in the engineering school. I remember reading here about a TWTM student majoring in it, who had no trouble getting a CS job with a well known CS company. https://eecs.berkeley.edu/academics/undergraduate/cs-ba All the liberal arts colleges have computer science departments. Most public universities do not require prospective students to be admitted to a specific major like California, Illinois, Texas , etc, schools do. If you live in a state that does, plan on having your CS student applying, to OOS schools (or private ones) with merit scholarships in case your student isn’t accepted to your state school. I’m sure there are professions that require a degree from a selective school, but computer science does not. I am the wife and mother of gainfully-employed, highly-compensated computer science majors at well-known tech companies.

I’m responding to your post from today, but I don’t want to quote it. I completely understand the sentiment and the reasoning for your statement, however, I think what everyone is concerned about is that you may unintentionally also be putting your children in “line of fire” with her. You are absolutely correct that circumstances make it impossible to say/do everything suggested in this thread. So, my suggestion is to be your super helpful self, but still draw a line without saying anything to SIL. Volunteer to watch the cousins at the meets, bring their potluck food, serve their volunteer hours. From previous posts, it is obvious you are great at all these. Just make your sons unavailable for sleepovers. You mentioned swim team is where you have friends; do your sons have friends on the team? If so, Start lining up sleepovers with those friends at your house or the friends house for swimmmeet nights. If that isn’t possible, plan early morning lessons/camps/trips for your sons on the mornings after meets. Always have something happening that makes your kids unavailable for cousin sleepovers. if the cousins show up at a meet with bags packed for sleepover, sweetly say I’ll be glad to watch them at meet and bring them home after, but we can’t do a sleepover tonight. (You don’t have to have a reason every time, but I would try to have them for most meets. How many meets do you have?

I’m sorry to hear about the settlement issue. Do you have a copy of the settlement? In today’s world, i would want to see it on my copy. I am glad to hear your son are the pie. I’ve had a bunch of teen boys, and for many of them, food is their “love language.” I just read through this whole thread, and I’m glad to see the change in attitude. Teens can be prickly and it is hard not to take it personally sometimes. I have found the one time I can count on my teens to drop the attitude (at least temporarily) is when we volunteer together. It might be worth looking into if you can’t find something else to do together.

I’m sorry.

Praying for you .

Bolt is correct about how it may look to the boyfriends family. Even if the attorney doesn’t “sue,” the attorney may demand money from the insurance company in a way that casts her boyfriend in a bad light. His family doesn’t need to be reading those “facts” right now. Please tread lightly. Yes, your daughter suffered a trauma and money will be needed to pay her current and future medical bills, but it may be possible that will happen without adding to the grief of the boyfriend’s family. from what you have written, it sounds like the insurance company is acknowledging that there will be a settlement, so I don’t see the hurry to get another lawyer involved. In your shoes. I would find out if there is a deadline to make a claim in your state.