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Melissa Louise

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  1. If your goal is reducing your personal risk, I'd just trust to a good mask while in the windowless space - you won't be in there for hours on end. Then open windows like a window opening maniac, and be relentlessly upbeat about eating outside - it's not about Covid, it's about (insert ECEC buzzword here). It's a win that you can wear a mask. Wear a good one. I take mine off outdoors. Preschool should be outdoors a lot so there is plenty of maskless opportunity for development blah blah ( if that's what the boss is worried about).
  2. Poor family 😔 Close contact casual ( family all has Covid) working unmasked at school today, b/c exec told her it was her choice whether or not to mask. Came home to find bonus kid 1 is sick - have delivered a RAT but not sure if she's done it yet. Bonus kid 2 had a cough but tested neg twice. Making them mask up anyway.
  3. Elsa is still big here, but I personally do not do princess dresses. Play silks, if you can get them, or similar, seem to work well for all sorts of dress ups.
  4. I feel bad for you. I know you're angry but also this discussion seems to have also been hurtful to you. I haven't posted yet, because giftedness is such a complex topic, and being PG can be a disability as much as anything. I think once I knew there was PR involved, I was reluctant anyway. It's hard, I think, for all of us, me included, to properly think from another perspective. I definitely can see that what is salient in a story will differ, and what is salient to me (branding/SE wellbeing of gifted kids) is salient in a way that is different to you (branding/family assertively making room for bright young Black girl). That's interesting and I can see how my concern, were I to express it, could validly be considered patronizing and infantilizing of a Black family. I think that's what you mean by 'not your place'? I think I would feel similarly (concern) for a white early entrant whose family were using a branding expert, but I can't know, because it hadn't been brought to my attention. I can hear that the bringing to attention has its own set of problems. I find it very hard to see from the perspective that the media attention is part of a deliberate strategy of white supremacism. I think...that media is pretty amoral and is run by the clicks. I can see how her story could be exploited for the clicks and no care given that this may or may not make her a target of racists. I'm also really not sure that the problem with the branding is sour grapes aka a Black girl got what my (mixed) kids didn't. Mainly because I wouldn't ever have chosen to do that. Not on my radar, not my personal philosophy. I can see the perspective there's a privilege in choosing not to do that for our white kids. Anyway. Hope that's right-trackish.
  5. I can't remember if I mentioned it, but the last time dd was in ED she was there for 36 hrs before being discharged into my care because there were no beds available anywhere, and no expectation of that changing. A friend took her dd to ED with pneumonia two weeks ago ( breathing issues in the night ) - they waited 12+ hrs. The system is so screwed. If I was a hcw I think I'd walk at this point.
  6. Before I got P2 masks I was knotting and tucking my surgical masks for at least a year - I showed as many ppl as I could the video of how to do it - and in that year I only ever saw a single other random person using the technique. Frustrating! It's so easy.
  7. No diabetes. The alcohol isn't helping though. I'm so de-sensitized to that but typing and thinking co-morbidities, the KD might even be a secondary cause. Or additive.
  8. Weird question, but is irrationality, emotional lability a symptom of advanced KD? (Ex, dialysis, frail, noting changes to baseline irrationality/emotional instability.) Thanks.
  9. That's a really rotten day. Sending a hug.
  10. Mistakes happen. It's ok. I hope your thumb feels better soon
  11. My ex btw is killing himself with drink, quite openly, and has been for decades. I do not think at any stage he had a real choice about having the kind of brain, genetics or developmental background that set him on this path. It's a compulsive 'choice'. I was a risky drinker as a young person. I had the type of brain, genetics etc that allowed me to say 'hey, this is risky, I'm stopping' and then stopping. That isn't a tribute to my great choices or wonderful will. I was just luckier. Go back to each addict as a child and you'll never find a person who wants their future life to be objectively shit and harmful and full of addiction to costly and difficult substances.
  12. Nobody chooses to be in a head space where killing yourself slowly with a substance seems like a sane and desirable choice.
  13. Thank you. That was interesting. I always thought that MM was a big deal, but I also thought the reveal was going to be that Mary and Martha were both sex workers, so I was not as surprised as I was anticipating.
  14. Our diet: what can I get at the supermarket now that all the foods cost 70million dollars + it has to be g/f? Also our diet: I hate cooking so what can I get away with, an egg is a meal, right? Also our diet: chocolate bars are cheap and easy... #keepingitreal #shortlifespan
  15. New ep of my fave podcast. Not having to rush off to work today Knowing that there's a break in the rain coming up, so I can hang my laundry in the sun.
  16. Music is always the best! Glad you had a bright spot.
  17. My phone. My keys. My glasses. The right phrase, image or rhythm. Meaning. Lol. Genuinely the things I am always looking for on the daily. I don't think I look for much else.
  18. Yes. I've 'forgiven' in a hurt feeling situation at work ( mostly because co-worker did some repair for her nasty comment) but she didn't actually damage me, just hurt my feelings (albeit in an already damaged part). It's appropriate to enact the 'lets go ahead from here politely though warily and leave that in the past' module because the rupture was superficial. I've never forgiven my ex ( though I am not a grudge holder and behave very well towards him) because he damaged me and was unable to do much meaningful repair. So forgiveness is simply irrelevant, I think. I just have my complex feelings and watch them as they change or don't change.
  19. These posts are so interesting to me. @regentrudethanks for the poem. I am sure distance makes a huge difference. ~ For me, personally, I think of friendship in general like a river. It's like at various times I can be lilo-ing alongside someone for quite a while, but then one of us goes ahead or stays behind and hey! there's someone else on the lilo next to me. The interesting thing is that some people return. Decades later, even. Hello! My best friend of 20+ years and I are currently in different places in the river. It's ok. We'll reconnect at some point. I'm floating along in a group of three these past few years, and having fun. I just think relationships incl friendships can be fluid and flexible. And it's amazing to me the way in which, post school, I have almost always been gifted with someone to be lilo-ing with. I think my favourite friendship, because it was so hard won and is still fragile, is with myself. From myself I need humor (important!), compassion, an acceptance of my oddities, time doing things I love. It is very nice to be friends with one's self.
  20. I thought about this some more. I like the concept of rupture and repair (from psychoanalysis) better than forgiveness. I think because it is something both parties can be active in, and not something one grants another. It accepts that rupture happens, sometimes deliberately and maliciously but most often not. But then the process of overcoming that is is active work towards mending the hurt. Now I'm just imagining....if, say, I was a teen being told by a rupture-causing parent that I needed to forgive him or her - no. That's not repair. That's just adding to the rupture. Or maybe I feel an inner need to 'forgive' - but I can't, because repair hasn't happened yet. Sometimes the other party refuses or is unable to repair. So then one learns to live with rupture. So I think, for me, that what we call forgiveness is just a byproduct of successful repair.
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