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  1. I’m sorry. You made the best decision you could with the information you had at the time.
  2. God only knows. There’s a Facebook post being shared by a Mom in the same district. Her kindergartener was enrolled in the WRONG elementary school, one they aren’t zoned for, and the district is refusing to change her enrollment. They’ll just bus her. Mom is pissed because the girl’s brother has significant medical needs and they want the kids in the same school building. I think it’s just incompetence.
  3. Yes. I grew up rural poor in a big homeschooling family(so no schools breakfast or lunch). Food was what we grew and canned, what came with the WIC check, what was on sale, what the county brought to the food giveaway at the firehouse every month. There was no processed foods, no fast foods, no second helpings. I remember being a pre-teen and hungry. I’m not bitter(some of my siblings are), but the truth is my parents needed to let go of the Homeschooling Prosperity Gospel so prevalent in the 1990s and my mom, an RN, could have gotten a part time job to supplement and at least have snacks for growing kids. But my mom grew up poor too, even more poor than we were, and I truly think she didn’t realize how much food preteens and teens actually need. She was always 90 pounds as a teenager and didn’t eat much. When I moved out and had a little bit of money, I gained 35 pounds in the first six months. I ate fast food and pizza and Kraft macaroni and cheese by the bowl. it was stuff we never ate growing up. I feed my kids too much fast food and I fill the house with snacks, mostly healthy fruit, but some bagel bite pizza things and cold cereal. I’m trying to do better, but I’m starting to realize that food and food insecurity is a huge deal for me. To the point we’ve worked a daily $5 or $8 a day into the budget so I can get a donut or a drink from McDonalds, because I somehow associate that with having enough food. The bad thing is the diet I grew up on was really incredibly healthy. Lots of homemade whole grain bread, oatmeal, fresh vegetables, locally sourced meat. I just really struggle to provide that to my own kids because I associate healthy foods with scarcity.
  4. We don’t have a lot of private schools and I do think a lot of people put all their kids in the Catholic schools or Montessori elementary. we are sending DD to a Protestant Christian school that starts in 5th grade with no elementary option, so maybe they really don’t see it a lot? I do know several families in district who homeschool some kids in the family and send one or more to the public school though. Ha! This is what DH said. 😂. His theory is the school is so annoyed with me demanding they evaluate and provide appropriate services for DS7, an ongoing battle since we moved, that they’re hoping I get the hint if they keep unenrolling him. 😂😂
  5. I am starting to be convinced that the school district we moved into last year, supposedly the best in the area, is actually full of incompetence. Well meaning, but incompetent. our elementary school goes from K-4 so my younger two attended last year. DD is going into 5th grade at a private school and DS7 is going to stay in public. In June, the school secretary emailed me to ask school plans because DD had said she was going to a private school in the fall. I replied with our school plans. They emailed back and said ok, so DS7 is going to private school as well? I emailed back and reiterated that DS7 is not. For starters, the school DD is going to starts in 5th grade. Two weeks later, I receive a notice that since DS7 is going to another school his IEP has to be converted to a service plan, which isn’t true even if he was. I emailed back and CC’d the principal, stating that DS7 has not been unenrolled and thus is not changing schools. Then they don’t unenroll DD10, so I get a packet of information about the intermediate school and a teacher assignment. I call the school office and explain that she needs to be unenrolled and I know the new school has filled out the proper forms. A week later they send me an email informing me that per my request both of my kids have been unenrolled. I wind up going to the school and standing in the office while they straighten this out. They re-enroll DS7 and print out his welcome letter with second grade teacher assignment. Last week I realized that school starts in a few days and we haven’t received any bussing information for any of my kids. I email and ask for bus numbers and times since all 3 will ride different busses this year. You guessed it. Neither of my younger two kids are enrolled. They have DD10 listed as homeschooled and DS7 in a private school, even though they’ve had official paperwork and records request for DD10 and, obviously, nothing for DS7. Like I just can’t with this district anymore. update: When we chose private school I contacted the public school and asked about bussing, since they do bus to this school. They told me that DD10 would ride the special needs bus with her older brother to the transfer point where they would get on different busses to the appropriate school. This would be a 7:15 am pickup and a 3pm drop off. So reasonable. Today after a week of calling because we have NO bus information for any child despite promises of mailings, we find out that DD10’s bus will arrive at 6:30AM and drop back off after 4:30PM(this school is a 20 minute drive from my house). AND—it’s a high school bus, not the mixed age SN bus. So she would ride it to the high school, drop off all the teens, then ride to the middle school and catch a bus to her own school. NOPE. And we are not able to drop off and pickup. This was information I needed weeks ago. Also DS7 is still not enrolled. No one has any idea why. At this point I’m considering just letting them stay home and seeing how long it is before anyone even notices.(the private school would definitely notice but I’m not sure anyone would realize DS7 is enrolled nowhere) I am SO FRUSTRATED.
  6. I vaguely seem to think you’re in PA…if so, you cannot shoot down a drone in Pennsylvania. Also, PA does have laws about flying drones over people, moving vehicles and against using a drone for surveillance on private property. None of those are legal, so it sounds like you’d be within the law to ask them not to fly a drone over your property.
  7. I mean if you made them, I would buy some. I am not crafty and my eyesight isn’t good enough to cross stitch, but I’d display those.
  8. Nursing homes, but especially assisted living centers, in my experience, are horrible at actually explaining to patients and their families what their limitations are. None of our local AL places will lift a patient who falls. We are talking uninjured people who slid out of bed or a chair and are in a seated position, just can’t stand up. They call 911 and wait for an ambulance to show up. Ambulance response times for lift assists at facilities are delayed because that’s super low priority. Now the person is sitting on the floor for 30-45 minutes. And they’re going to get a bill that insurance won’t cover. I had one recently where the patient, who had been falling frequently, asked what she was paying $5400 a month for when she had to keep paying ambulance bills to get back in her chair. It is not explained to people, at least not clearly enough, that the AL facilities will not transfer the patient, will not provide incontinence care, will not lift, will not handle patients with severe mental illness or dementia with psychosis. I’m sure it’s in some packet of papers somewhere, but it needs to be explained very very clearly on admission so there are no surprises. What inevitably happens at some point is just what happens to the author’s family member. They wind up hospitalized and the facility flat out refuses to accept them back citing needing higher acuity care or skilled nursing. My guess is that the author’s family member had frequent falls and the facility felt she was no longer safe there or that they just didn’t have staff to keep her safe. It didn’t read like she was a behavior problem or had high level nursing needs. The limitations really really need to be explicitly spelled out more than once so families are prepared.
  9. Handyman service. Lol. He’s not creative.
  10. He considered advertising at first, but it exploded with word of mouth. We have a realtor friend who recommended him to a couple people and it’s snowballed from there. He doesn’t have a FB page or anything, but has considered it.
  11. My husband kind of does this minus the cleaning/deep cleaning. His clientele generally seems to be people who either are about to list their house or just bought a house. He goes through and makes a list of anything he sees that needs touch ups or small repairs(like an off kilter cupboard door or a dent in a wall) and then gives an itemized list to the owners in a quote. They can decide what to fix though most just hire him for the whole job. It’s been a pretty lucrative business for him to be honest and he right now has more work than he can manage. He actually just hired my retired father in law and my almost retired dad to help. He has 20+ years of contracting experience and has a really good eye for what needs to be done. Hopefully once we sell our old house he is going to be able to drop to part time on the ambulance and focus on this business.
  12. If she uses apple you can get another apple device and mirror it. Then you can read everything that’s on her phone.
  13. My mom says I was just like this from the time I was 9 till I got my period. I was over 12 at that point. I don’t know how genetics works with that but my husband’s sister was also over 12, so I might have a few more years of this. I am starting to agree with DS that everyone needs Prozac.
  14. She turned 10 in late May, so really a new 10. We are on vacation. She is in her bedroom in the condo sobbing because…I don’t know. It might be that M and Ms don’t come in the color cyan. Or that her dad told her that to become a professional soccer player, today’s stated life goal, she needed to practice her soccer skills, so now he hates her and is always mean. Her well meaning 12 year old brother offered her some of his Prozac and now she’s wailing that we all think she’s crazy(I did explain that med sharing isn’t okay but he meant well. It’s helped his anxiety and mood swings a lot and he now believes most people should take Prozac). Both my MIL and my mom are on this vacation as well and are cheerfully informing me I have a few more years of this.
  15. Pray for your friends with pre-teen girls. We are not okay. (this is tongue in cheek. sort of.)
  16. My sister and I had birthdays three days apart(the 27th and 29th) and I swore I’d never do that to my kids. So instead my first and second are five days apart(26th and 30th). 😂🤣
  17. Totally off subject but I’m on a fourteen hour car ride today and bored so I googled the Starr report and read it. I was just a teenager and barely interested when the whole thing happened. Now I have so many thoughts about power and vulnerability…. I’m still interested in the OP’s outcome though.
  18. I think historically we’ve just been careful on this forum to not use certain terms that are known to invite spambots. That’s why I was using all kinds of non descriptive language lol.
  19. My mom was most definitely in her 30s at that point and had several children. Um…I guess she didn’t know that certain body parts could go in certain other body parts where it was not baby making?? This may explain why I have so many siblings, come to think of it. My kids are going to know way more than I was ever told if for no other reason than safety, but, um, I have a lot more knowledge than my mom did, apparently. OP, I’d probably ask my kid where they got the toys because they looked like fun and Dad and I want to buy our own, and then I guarantee you will never, ever find such things in his room again. They’ll be much better hidden. 😂🤣
  20. I literally cannot put the conversation on a public forum where I discovered my mom didn’t have a clue what some particular terms used in the media coverage meant. But it was epic.
  21. Depending on the type of toys and what they’re doing with them, I might have a “random” conversation about consent/safe play. I got absolutely zero information from my mother other than save it till marriage. As an adult I realized some of that is that she truly had no idea what there was to do than the missionary position basically(she didn’t even understand what Bill and Monica were up too…) But it led to me getting into situations in college and even as an early adult where I was way over my head and now I realize there were people taking advantage of my homeschooled innocence and consent wasn’t always there(and of course in 2001 we weren’t talking about consent like we are now.)
  22. I had mono in college and struggled for over a year afterward. It really tanked my grades and now I wish I had taken a semester off, but that wasn’t really a good option at the time. I don’t know about her campus health—mine was great at the normal stuff and not so great at the abnormal. She may have better luck with a PCP. I would also check her B12. But mono caused similar symptoms in me for about a year. I had severe fatigue, brain fog, abdominal cramping(unrelatedTo my cycle), all over body aches and just general misery. I also lost 25 pounds.
  23. My 7 year old Loves loves loves her Mercy Watson series. We laugh so hard when we read them.
  24. My best friend and I had a lease together after college. It said similar—both of us were on the lease, we were both responsible for rent, if one of us moved out you could not sublet. She did wind up moving out after five months, not really mental health but there was some emergent and unexpected family issues going on and she needed to move back with her parents and help out. They could not afford to help at all due to the unexpected circumstances. I wound up breaking the lease because I could not afford all of it and she couldn’t help. It wasn’t a good situation. OP, I don’t know if this roommate has a mental health problem or just doesn’t want to adult, but it doesn’t give her the right to dump the situation on your DD. are you able to help her with a legal consult and then move from there, whether small claims court or otherwise? It likely all comes down to the wording in the lease but based on my experience, that kind of lease isn’t unusual.
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