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  1. I'm not totally clear on the issue. Is it that she is reading too long in the bathroom? Or reading too long in general? Or reading inappropriate books? If it's the reading too long in the bathroom, my inclination is to say to mostly ignore it, with the caveat that if this truly is disrupting household flow, I'd be knocking on the door after ten minutes or so. With some teens, you really do have to pick battles. This might be one of those times.
  2. I'd say it's the opposite with the people I know; vaccinated tend to rush to test, have multiple home tests, etc. The unvaccinated seem more likely to wait until they really have to test because of severity (or required for school/work/travel).
  3. I am in Planet Fitness most days. It's not fancy, but I like it. I was not a gym person until last spring, but needed some of the machines to help with recovery from a broken ankle. At my usual club, people mostly stick to themselves, and it's not intimidating.
  4. I hate to even comment on this because it seems like asking for trouble, but I think I am one of those people. I attribute some of my immunities to working in pediatric inpatient nursing for a few winters with infectious respiratory patients (unmasked face inside mist tents, holding babies during nebulizer treatments, etc.) I do feel an onset of illness at times, but it is always exceptionally short lived.
  5. That last sentence is interesting, and does not correlate with my current observations in one of those states. Personally, I haven't seen any evidence in my circle of acquaintances that the vaccinated are less likely to be infected by this current wave of Covid than unvaccinated. In fact, I don't personally know any unvaccinated people that got hit in this current wave, though I did know many who were infected with Delta. What I am seeing now is the vaccinated and typically careful people getting hit. They are not getting terribly sick, perhaps because of the vax, though as variable as Covid symptoms tend to be, I'm not sure how one would know.
  6. My advice is to keep college considerations out of the equation altogether. If he loves the activity and is good at it, and your family has the time and money to facilitate the interest, then let him go for it. If the pieces fall into place for this to be a hook in college, then that is awesome. But don't encourage him to pursue the sport with the idea that this could be a path to an elite school.
  7. My daughter was applying to PhD engineering programs last year, and in her case, acceptance did mean full funding. No extra steps to apply for scholarships.
  8. I would not hesitate to submit a 1530 for any school, honestly. I don't like the test optional situation as it is currently practiced.
  9. Though I tend to agree with you, one argument for coach involvement in such interactions is that it can ultimately impact team unity, and sometimes performance. Back when my daughter did cheer, I remember it was made clear in the beginning of the year that any reports of online bullying against other team members or even other cheer competitors in the area would result in some sort of consequence (it's been a few years, I can't remember what the consequence would be 🙂 )
  10. Endometriosis is extremely common, and the average GYN is still applying hormonal bandaids to teens who present with early symptoms of the condition (as well as adults.) It's shocking to me that we still aren't treating women properly.
  11. I don't have a specific title, because I'm drawing a blank right now, but searching for books on dialectical behavior therapy and choosing a workbook could be useful. Important skills to be had with that method. Working with a skilled DBT therapist would be best, but I do understand the right therapist can be hard to come by.
  12. FWIW: my two young adult daughters spent 10 days together at the older daughter's house, along with older daughter's husband, all young adults in their 20s. All vaccinated, younger daughter recently boosted. Boosted daughter with viral-induced asthma, otherwise healthy people. The day after younger daughter arrived, older daughter was notified she was exposed during a grad school activity (a dinner, so there was unmasked eating) a couple days before. The two girls had spent the day together, including several hours in a car. Older daughter took home test, got a positive. The next day she developed symptoms: sore throat, headache, some congestion, low grade fever, occasional cough. Not too bad. The three of them stayed quarantined in the house, assuming all were exposed. Three days later, husband and younger daughter develop symptoms. Younger daughter was just a headache and mild sense of being off/fatigue. Husband developed higher fever (102+), fatigue. No more home tests, so younger daughter and husband went for PCR tests. Tests took a couple days to come back. Both were negative. At that point younger daughter already felt normal. Husband took a bit longer to recover, but symptoms never became more severe, and he was back to normal 4 days post onset of symptoms. Oldest daughter with the positive home test was back to normal within a few days as well. None have retested, and oldest daughter with the positive home test never got a PCR test.
  13. My dad always gave us a cash ( and still does!) It's my favorite, and let us do so many things for the kids.
  14. I hike almost daily in areas with plenty of natural hazards. These will vary, of course, depending on where you are. Someone gave advice to start with guided hikes at local nature centers, and I think that is a great idea. You could also attend talks on whatever hazards are prevalent in your area. Joining Facebook groups for hiking in your area and reading those discussions can be useful too as you are starting out. I carry bear spray and an air horn, and those can be useful for a variety of creatures, including humans 🙂 Making noise while you walk will scare off many animals. Be cautious when walking with dogs, because they will sometimes provoke and bring wild animals to you.
  15. Sometimes I think the apology can lead to more conflict, depending on how the person perceives it. You probably know better than us how that will go.
  16. I have never met anyone who would recognize that their anxiety re: anything was unwarranted, but especially Covid. Arguing/debating the subject is not something I choose to do. In the end, you have to take care of yourself, especially if you are a bit fragile at this time. I know I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. You always have excellent insight.
  17. A big aluminum-type bowl is light and inexpensive. I have one I have used since college (30+ years!)
  18. I went an entire day without seeing a bird! So odd! We took a four mile walk in a state park too. It's pretty cold today, but usually still see something. I hope this is not a bad sign for my upcoming year, lol
  19. This is a situation where I'd let the student's desires carry most of the weight, unless there are financial or other considerations that need to take priority. I had one that was heavily involved in theater in middle school/high school. I'd say it was a mixed blessing. Not sure it was the healthiest atmosphere looking back on it all. But she did develop some public speaking ability. I've had two that did music through high school, one with quite a few accolades. I've known many, many music kids. It can be really wonderful, but things can go south fairly quickly there as well. Not sure I'd make an educational decision for a budding middle school musician based primarily on music offerings. If your son's desire was to follow that track though, I think it would be worth pursuing. Either school will likely work out nicely in its own way.
  20. My daughter's various dorm rooms at UW were not carpeted. She graduated 2017
  21. My experience is that the rooms themselves are generally not carpeted. People might bring in area rugs
  22. Yes! And that's actually why I do think it's important that we are cautious about lumping everyone into the NPD category. Dialectical Behavior Therapy can be a lifesaver. Still very very difficult to work with someone with BPD, but there is some hope. Boundaries/techniques for those impacted by the behavior of people with NPD/BPD are going to be the same though, for the most part.
  23. GoodGrief3

    Cod

    I use this recipe with black cod (aka sablefish), an oilier white fish than the cod you are using. But I think it might work nicely with cod too: https://www.thepioneerwoman.com/food-cooking/recipes/a8896/bronzed-sea-bass-with-lemon-shallot-butter/
  24. You might want to read about borderline personality disorder as well. I do see on this board that NPD and BPD are used interchangeably at times. There is some crossover in traits (as there are with many mental illnesses), but there are some important differences too. The outlook for those with BPD is more positive if one can find good treatment. There's an excellent book out there called _Understanding the Borderline Mother_ that really breaks it down.
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