This is super long and probably rambling, but if anyone could help shed light or has words of wisdom, I'd appreciate it.
DS turned 6 in April. Last year in pre-school (prior to Covid), his teacher expressed concern to me that he was having trouble with his ABCs. Behavior was simply golden in Pre-3-4. I started him out on AAR-Pre Reading when quarantine started, and we finished up (with a summer break) this past November. From the get-go, he fought me about "doing school." He would cry and wail when I would say it was time for school. Because I have a DD as well who is a year ahead, I would work exclusively with her, and he would have "free play." I tried to structure his "free play" towards things like puzzles, play dough, lite-brite, magna tiles, but because our school room had also been a play area previously and was still a storage area for all sorts of toys, it quickly devolved into playing with toys just like usual. By the time we got done with AAR-Pre, he still only knew a few letters of the Alphabet, and was constantly calling an "A" and "E" although he made the correct sound for a and e respectively. I began to suspect dyslexia (he had recurrent ear infections until he got tubes put in, he started stuttering at age 2 1/2 which coincided with DH returning home from a year overseas, us moving houses/cities and away from grandparents, and stopping breast feeding cold turkey due to health problems that I needed treatment for. Don't know if any of that is related or even mildly relevant. Anyway...I have suspicions that DH and his dad are dyslexic, but don't know for sure.
In Dec, desperate, I purchased Wilson Fundations Preschool curriculum, and we started that and by April, he knew his alphabet quite well (ok, WAY better than with AAR, but still not perfect). And he became so excited to start reading, given his previous negativity towards school, I decided to give it a try, using Bloomfield/Barnhardt's Linguistics approach as per David Kilpatrick (read through his book, and we are now doing the 1 minute activities as suggested on school days). About this time (Jan/Feb), I also phoned around to try to get testing for DS. The public school psychologist said that giving him one on one attention like we were doing with HS was best for him at this stage; the best my pediatrician could do was to recommend we see a developmental pediatrician. Well...what with the referral process and taking forever to see new patients, we finally got in to see the DP yesterday.
She had family history info that I had filled out, and conversed with Eric for about 10-15 minutes. Based on that, and her interview with us, the DP decided that he probably has dyslexia, although she made clear that she couldn't diagnose that, that we would need testing done for him. She also diagnosed that he had ADHD inattentive type, and said we should put him on Ritalin so he could focus better on dealing with his dyslexia.
Now, I get that Ritalin benefits those with attention disorders, and as a high school teacher, I saw first hand the difference in concentration, behavior, effort that it can make in kids who need it. I just never pegged my DS as having that issue. Yes, he gets distracted...he'll run around his room naked for 30 minutes sometimes because he got sidetracked by playing when he's supposed to be dressing. He can be pretty intractable, and has difficulty with changes in plans. Sometimes. Not always. Other times, he'll go with the flow with a great attitude. He definitely wants HIS way and when he can't have his way for whatever reason, he'll cry, whine, and occasionally have a wailing tantrum (with appendages flailing and tears) on the floor. Is this normal 6 year old boy behavior? Is it ADHD? He sits perfectly still and quietly for readings from the Burgess Animal books, fairy tales, the Jungle Book, Aesop's fables; and he LOVES audio books. It DOES take him forever to eat b/c he gets distracted and would rather chat; my daughter when through that same phase.
Anyway...I guess I just wanted to get some feedback on whether that Dev Pediatrician was right about the ADHD; and feeling very much like I may need send the poor boy to school instead of getting to homeschool him...partly so he can get quality reading help, but partly b/c this whole "Mommy teaching me" doesn't seem to be working for him right now...are boys just like that???