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  1. I want to make a video of well wishes for my grad, but I don’t know which editing software would be best. I just thought this up in my head, and I don’t have solid direction yet. I’m hoping my target audience would send videos of themselves with their congrats, advice, stories, etc, and we would like to add still pictures of dd between the clips. Anyone have suggestions on how to do this? I assume there are a multitude of software options I’m looking for easy-ish with some editing abilities. thanks!
  2. Lol. These aren't buckets of rocks. They are filling wagons driven by big tractors. My boys are paid $8.75-$15 per hour, depending on the farmer, age, and condition of the field. One farmer pays high school kids more than jr high kids. One farmer hires kids he likes, pays them well, but gives fewer hours. One farmer pays more for difficult fields. Some farmers provide food, some do not. All provide transportation for the kids who don't drive. My 16yo won't pick for under $10/hour. My 13yo can't demand as much money (hasn't hit puberty yet), so he will probably be stuck with the $8.75/hour farmer. They can pick before planting and until the plants are too tall to drive the tractors (but not when fields are wet), so not a big window of opportunity. Independent crews are odd numbers of kids and supervised crews are even numbers. One kid/supervisor drives the tractor and then the pickers are split evenly between right/left sides of the wagon. The days are long, hot, and dirty. My 16yo is currently on a five guy crew, and they are working independently. I think he actually enjoys this crew job where the guys call their own shots - which field, hours, etc. He does not like working for farmers who don't allow those freedoms and/or on crews that don't include his buddies.
  3. Yes, picking rocks out of fields by hand so the farmers’ equipment does not break when they farm. It’s tough work, but common for pre-drivers since it’s hard to find other employment before 15yo. My 12yo is hoping to get hired on a crew this summer. My boys have been hired at 12yo, but I don’t know if they will hire a 12yo girl. We are going to try!
  4. Our rural county has had 11 Covid-19 cases so far, so our risk is very low. My 18yo works at the golf course, mostly cooking and serving take out orders. She usually lifeguards over the summer, but I don’t know if our pool will be opening. Once she is done with high school next week, we will be encouraging her to find FT summer employment. My 16yo planned on umping baseball and life guarding this summer. Since Both jobs are TBD, he has been rock picking. He turned 16yo during the shutdown, so he doesn’t have his drivers license see yet. That limits his job opportunities. My 13yo will be rock picking as well.
  5. One of my male teens has been taking this for 7-8 years for anxiety. We noticed improvement very quickly, and we have not identified any side effects. He does get a little sleepy until his body normalizes dosage increases, and we do notice when he misses a pill. He definitely has not gained any weight from the medicine. I believe he started at 25 mg around 2nd/3rd grade and is now taking 100mg/day at 5'11" and 150 lbs. About 1-2 months after he went on the medicine, I asked him what he thought about it. He told me that he never wanted to go back to the way things were before the pills. I still tear up thinking about it, especially given how young he was at the time. His life was very tough in many ways before the meds. He still has moments, but nothing, nothing like pre-medication.
  6. I understand the definition, but I don’t think it appropriately describes our reality, except for my 3rd grader perhaps. The other four are definitely distance learning. Calling it crisis learning gives a connotation of panic and suboptimal learning. We don’t have any panic in our household, it’s the opposite actually. Our lives are relaxed and slower paced. The kids have shorter school days.
  7. I dislike the term crisis schooling. I’m not sure what that is supposed to be. My kids are distance learning, and our experience is different depending on the school and kid. Each kid has their own school-issued device, and dh and I work busy FT jobs. My public school 12th graders classes converted to a college format with taped lectures and online discussion. She does not have zoom sessions, and the work requirements did not change. She has a very academic 12th grade class. My public school 10th grader has one zoom class and I’m not sure about the others. He spends about an hour a day on schoolwork, so I believe the classes have been dumbed down. He is gifted so he moves at a quick pace, and his 10th grade class is definitely not academic. I assume the expectations for his classes match with the general student in his classes. My private schooled 6th and 7th graders have not missed a beat. Their teachers have zoom classes throughout the day and they are learning content. Their entire grade has four and nine kids, respectively, so their zoom sessions are effective. Even when their grades are combined, they still have a small class. The private school took a week to get up and running with distance learning. we are struggling with my private school 3rd grader. His teacher spends 15 minutes with them every morning and does not teach content. She does not provide any support. We have a daily list of workbook pages to complete. We are having trouble keeping up with his school work. I don’t enjoy his materials, and they are not set up for one-on-one teaching. I’m short, my independent kids are doing well. Smaller class sizes are definitely beneficial with online delivery. Elementary school is difficult under this model, and I may decide to homeschool my 3rd grader next year if we continue distance learning. At least then I could focus on critical content and use materials of my choice. i am also considering signing my 10th grader up for more college classes next year. I would rather him earn college credits if he is going to be online schooling either way.
  8. We are very fortunate to have secure jobs. Our grocery spend has sky rocketed this month, and yet our take out spend has not decreased. Gas and kid activity related spend is approaching $0, but our Amazon purchases have picked up. I had expected to see a net positive to our bottom line, but it has not materialized. Dh (attorney) said his work is slowing down enough that he is able to clear some of his backlogged tasks. He will have a huge surge when this passes and he can get back to court. My work (corporate accounting) has not slowed down at all, and now we are starting to see extra work related to the financial impacts of the economy.
  9. I assume the 2nd doctor needed to complete a full exam before he felt comfortable signing the permission slip, which is reasonable in my opinion. The doctor's beside manner may have been lacking, but I can see why he would not short-cut the process if he is signing a form that says he completed a full physical.
  10. Sounds like a completely normal exam for your DS. I'm surprised your DD didn't also have a quick check of her genitals to check for signs of puberty, unless the doctor could tell from developed breasts perhaps? By those ages, my kids do not go to physicals together. After about 10yo, the boys have male doctors and my dh takes them, precisely because their genitals are checked. That way dh and ds can discuss what a male physical entails on the way to the appointment. I handle all the female physicals after 10yo, and the girls see female doctors. I have a similar conversation with the girls.
  11. Our schools haven’t closed, but I expect we will do what we usually do, excluding our activities. The kids will hang with local friends, play outside, play games, cook, and get far too much screen time. I find having unstructured time is great for the kids, and after a day or two, they always find interesting things to occur themselves. We’ve had the last days off school, planned non-Coronavirus days. My 9yo alternated between scooter, bike, pretend play, and Xbox. My 11yo spent yesterday working on a painting all day and today she helped me clean and cook. My 13yo spent the day with his two best buddies biking, shooting hoops, and having other boy fun. My 15yo spent his entire day with his Pokémon collection, which he hasn’t looked at in ages, and then he went to a bonfire tonight. My 17yo did college homework and helped me organize. Downtime is great for them and for me. if school is cancelled, they will be home by themselves. Dd’s boyfriend returned from a Caribbean island vacation today. Our biggest decision is going to be if they hangout. If school isn’t cancelled, they will be together at school, so that will make our decision for us.
  12. I would not take any extra kids along, regardless of the reason. Fair = oldest getting to view colleges without sharing time and resources with siblings. Unfair = any siblings going along on the visits. I would leave all the youngers home with the babysitter. If I didn’t feel comfortable with that solution at this point, we would have one parent stay home while the other parent visits colleges. For the record, dh and I do not both go on college visits, so my advice is actually what we do in our family. One parent stays home while the other goes on the tour. The college kid needs to experience the college without siblings underfoot.
  13. I am in love with my stadium chair. The backrest is critical for long days on the bleachers. I have a stadium chair in both vehicles. I also have lawn chairs, blankets, and a poncho in my van as well as sunscreen and bug spray in the summer. I have kids in sports year-round, and I try to always be prepared.
  14. Could part of the issue be he has a difficult time asking friends for a ride home earlier than the group plans on being done for the evening and/or the friends aren’t reliable? If I expect my non-driving kids to be home by a certain time and they don’t have a parent driving them, I make sure dh or I are available to drive. I don’t want them to have an easy excuse for not meeting expectations.
  15. Now I have to ask....What are the curfew and other unreasonable expectations?
  16. Are you sure about the school testing schedule? Our local K-12 public school does state testing at the end of the year. Our local K-8 parochial school does testing at the beginning and end of the year. Neither school would test mid-year.
  17. We insured our first driver as the primary driver of a 13yo vehicle with liability only. Our insurance agent told us it is cheaper to insure her on that vehicle versus having her insured on our other, newer vehicles. We bought her college car this summer, a 2013 Equinox, and her insurance went from $60/month to $100/month. Our second driver will be 16 in 6 months. I expect we will find another teen car for him to drive with liability only insurance. I’m hoping he will be about $100/month. I have found immense value in having my 16yo’s drive. They gain experience and independence, and I am semi-retired from my chauffeuring job. I want my kids behind the wheel as much as possible before they leave home, which is similar to my thoughts on giving them other adult exposures while i still have daily molding access. It’s not just the act of driving, but also the reasons they are driving somewhere and all the decisions that go along with each trip. For instance, my dd wanted to travel to the City for a late-night event with her friends. The event ended at midnight, and it’s a three hour drive home. I told her the trip itself was fine, but they needed to stay overnight so they aren’t driving when tired. if she is out late at her boyfriends’ or the weather conditions are bad, I have her stay at his house so she’s not on the roads. At 16yo I had her drive to the City with me as a passenger to get to a state tournament so she could go back the next day by herself. All those decisions and experiences will (hopefully) help her make wise choices when she’s on her own next year.
  18. Sounds like you are worried your boss won't like you asking for more hours? If so, that's crazy talk. All bosses like to hear their employees want to work more. I would simply be honest. "I really enjoy working here, and if the budget allows, I would love more hours in my current role or another role." "I really enjoy working here. When available, I would like to add another day to my schedule. I am open to another role within the team as well." "I really enjoy working here. Do you foresee an opportunity now or within the next year that would allow me to add another day to my work schedule?" "I love my current role and team, and I would really like to be able to grow more professionally. When possible, I would like to add another day to my schedule, whether on my team or another team."
  19. This is tough. When my teens start dating, I like to be around so I can get to know the significiant other and the two of them as a couple. I want to help mold my kid as he/she enters new relationships. My two oldest started dating their freshman year and are still with those significant others. We are very blessed that both sets of significant other parents are fabulous and have similar parenting styles as we do. At first, we required a parent to be home when they "hung" out at either house. This was fairly easy to accomodate since my kids couldn't drive when they started dating. As we interact with them as couples, their range of freedom expands. I don't see where overly restrictive rules truly help the kids. I want my kids to grow and learn how good relationships develop, and that means they need freedom to grow and make their own decisions. Chaperoning my 15yo has been more difficult just because our schedules don't align as well with when the kids can hang out. Both sets of parents have determined we are OK with them hanging out while siblings are around rather than parents. It's not perfect, but it's either give a little flexibility, restrict their time together, or have my schedule significantly interrupted. My 17yo has been driving for 1.5 years and dating her significant other for 2.5 years. My dd has spent the weekend with his family at their cabin and she's stayed overnight at his house. They are going on vacation together in May and staying with his grandma. I never imaginged we would have been OK with that a few years ago, but it has evolved naturally. Her boyfriend and his family are great. My dd's personal boundaries are excellet. I have no issues with her romantic decisions, and I have no issues with how their freedom has evolved. They have certainly earned our trust.
  20. Really? Is this because the default assumption is that teen boys are sex predators? If so, I find that extremely disturbing and offensive, particularly as the parent of three sons.
  21. Agreed. Anything longer is going to be dorky. What is the actual concern with 2.5" inseam shorts? Is it concern over seeing underwear? Is it concern over seeing a part of the leg? If we could narrow down the actual concern, perhaps we could offer solutions. For instance, some of my dd's running shorts (with 2.5" or less inseam) have built in underwear. Two layers provides less risk of seeing undergarments. Another option - wearing thong underwear would make the undergarments virtually invisible. If concern is seeing part of the leg, then compression shorts are probably the answer, but those are likely to put her in outlier territory. In my experience, dressing like an outlier in high school does far more damage long-term than any 2.5" inseam shorts or tighter jeans could do.
  22. Our booster club covers those expenses. I wouldn't expect a non-parent coach to pay their own travel expenses. For K-6, our wrestling booster club also covers entrance fees for kids whose parents can't afford it. For 7-12, our booster club covers expenses the high school won't cover, which includes team travel expenses. The boosters also cover camp fees, transportation, and gear (team shirts, bags, etc) for kids who don't have the resources to cover those expenses. We don't turn anyone away, and everyone gets equal coaching and opportunities. Booster clubs for my kids' other activities opperate the same way, but I'm not as close the actual booster leadership. Regardless, coaches don't pay their own travel and we aren't assessed any fees to cover. We do donate heavily to all activities so we do cover our kids' portion by the time it is all said and done.
  23. I live in the rural Midwest, and skinny jeans and leggings are all the girls wear. AE is the go-to store for my teens and tweens. I would never shop for them at Eddie Bauer, and they would not wear clothes from there either. Well...maybe they would find Eddie Bauer pieces in my closet for nerd day. lol I don’t mind the tight clothing trend as I think teens today feel much more comfortable with their clothing and bodies than teens from my generation. I see all sizes of girls wearing all styles, and I am pleased the girls seem to be comfortable in their own skin. I’m Glad they aren’t trying to hide themselves. I think my 17yo is beautiful, and I think she looks best in form fitting clothes. I wish I had my teen’s bodily self-confidence at the same age.
  24. Dd1 - 15yo-16yo lifeguard and swim instructor during summers, sporadic babysitting year-round. 17yo - waitress at golf course + lifeguard and swim instructor during summers. Planning to work during senior school year, not sure where yet Ds1 - 13yo-14yo rock picked in spring and lawn mowing in summer (started handyman business with classmate); 12yo rock picked ds2 - 11yo-12yo rock picked in spring, mowed neighbors yard in summer Working during the school year is difficult with their extracurricular commitments. Dd1 is considering quitting her sport her senior year, so she will then replace those hours with a job.
  25. My high school kids shower in school after PE and after sporting competitions. They don’t have much time to shower and dress in PE, so there is no taking turns as an option. Showers are not individual. Not showering, at least for boys, is a social negative.
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