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How heartbreaking. Praying for you here.
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What I do if I'm pretty sure they are okay is cook them up and have the adults eat them. You could marinade them in packs of two and eat them some night when your kids can eat something easy like soup.
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What an incredible opportunity! I hope it works out because I love to see people rewarded for doing the right thing. You sold her when you had to and now you will enjoy time with her even more.
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Praying.
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I was at Barnes and Noble the other day and saw a book written from the perspective of the servants of P& P. Sorry, I don't know the title, but a quick search at B&N.com should do the trick. I was thinking how funny it would be to read what servants thought of Mrs. Bennett.
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In the Bible book of Titus a Cretan prophet is quoted saying that his fellow Cretans are always liars, gluttons and evil beasts. Maybe that is part of the reputation?
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Regarding drug and alcohol exposure, there is a stigma attached to revealing that from a birth mom's perspective. I do understand where you are coming from because alcohol use was one of the few boxes we refused to check as acceptable. Also, a birth mom might not reveal the truth because she wants to have a bigger pool of families to chose from and knows listing substance use will reduce the numbers.
I also would advise you to talk to attachment specialists about your age range. Listen carefully to what they have to say.
We adopted our ds,10yrs through a private adoption. He was premature and sickly for a year, but now is healthy and excels in many areas. That first year did us in as we slept with him on our chests propped upright to keep him breathing for at least 4 months. What a treasure he is to us,though!
Our daughter was also a private domestic adoption. It was a whirlwind as the birth mom had refused all the family profiles given to her until ours. We got a mass e-mail from our former agency owner saying they were helping her look for a family and only families with homestudies completed need apply. We didn't even have a home study started, had very little money to use, and no agency because the last agency owner only counseled birth moms, she no longer did adoptions. Every wall was knocked down and we brought home a " healthy" baby girl a few weeks later. She is a real sweetie who has overcome some major struggles.
Our last adoption was international only after attempting to go through foster care to adopt for a year. At the end of the year our home study was finally complete. But there was a big snag, since the agency had dragged their feet and was understaffed, the process had expired. (Along with being very understaffed, they weren' t too motivated to move things along because we only wanted toddlers or babies.). No problem, they said, it would be fixed with some documentation. We had worked with no less than 4 workers to get us licensed to adopt through foster care. We had multiple home visits and had done all the paperwork. Then the licensing specialist told me that we weren't being licensed for foster to adopt, just fostering. She said that was what the homestudy was done for and that was the way it was the entire time. Um, no, we quite clearly went into it to adopt and all conversations during the homestudy revolved around that fact. I had been praying for a clear sign if we needed to give up and that was a glaring one!
So we went international (African country) and specified under a certain age. However, we saw our son (older than our range) on the special needs waiting list, got his info, prayed and accepted his referral. He is a perfect fit for our family!
Oh, and our two oldest are bio. The kids are 19,16,10,8, and 4yrs.
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It is interesting how different chickens are. Ours go into the coop at night, but if they get caught in the dark outside with the door closed, they are paralyzed! They won't move even after we open it up or put them on the ramp.
They really are funny. Our will chase our cats which is hilarious since the cats intimidate our 85 lb dog! I was worried about the cats killing them because they have taken out many a bird and bunny, but the kitties caught on early that the chickens are off limits.
My kids know them all apart and tell me about their personalities from the bully (I've been given approval to roast that one.) to the little sweetheart chicken. And then there is the one that they insists always has to argue with them. Must be a teenager!
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Yes. Then I would fall in love with them, and be heartbroken when a fox or bear got them. I think the only way to remedy that would be to get several dozen, so I wouldn't be as devastated when some were lost.
My son knows me well, because it doesn't sound that strange to me to move a few indoors during the winter!
After about a day of dealing with their piles everywhere you would probably be happy to boot them out to a coop. (Maybe heated, but still.). Their messes are just so yucky.
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First, he's six. He is at a developmental stage of looking at the world in categories not necessarily based on prejudice. I would explore that with him. Why skin color? How is that different that choosing friends based on hair color? Did he have and experience you are unaware of?
Do you have people in your life with different skin colors? Even if it is just the cashier/manager at the store or a doctor/nurse at the doctor's office and not a close friend you could remark on their kindness, friendliness, intelligence, etc. I wouldn't refer back to his concerns at those times, just plant seeds of truth in him.
I would not come down hard on him because then you may be making it into a bigger deal than it really is and sending him the message that skin color is a touchy issue.
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I wonder if the mom assumed the sitter and daughter were playing with the same kids every week. Maybe at a class or playtime the sitter was supposed to be taking the child to? Perhaps she felt her job was on the line because she had not been "properly socializing" the child.
Regardless, it was weird.
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Cookies, of course! You get to open the oven several times to retrieve the cookies-more heat. Oh, and cookies are the best snack.
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Your kids need you to be you, no matter how emotional you are. They need to see you being the strong, faithful person that you are. It is not weak to grieve and be angry. It is healthy and necessary. Praying for you.
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My daughter had a party recently and had pretzels for dipping in the fondue.
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Well, I know how she is doing 'cause I had dinner with her last night!! LOL.
She is doing better, hopefully there will be more to report soon! She isn't on the boards anymore for personal reasons that may soon be over.
Seriously? That is awesome. I liked reading her blog; her sense of humor was great!
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Julie, I'm not a frequent poster, but I do think about you and have prayed for you. I remember you from way back. Anyway, I don't think it is selfish for you to post, but it should be on your terms. You should never feel obligated to post anything because what you are going through is heart wrenching and you don't need any expectations from the WTM board on your mind.
If it helps you to post and get some things out that you can't say IRL, then please do. Many people here truly care about you. But don't ever worry about updating. Your life is in a stage of needing to be focused on yourself and family. That is okay! I know you are a Christian and we are called to care for our families and live our lives as The Lord would intend. You have to be "self-focused" to do that well during very hard times. Last year was like that for me. May God keep you close at this time.
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Yes, I've been reading the boards for years and I wish I knew what happened to some people and even their families. Just today I was wondering about a board member, but not sure how to find out.
Like Aubrey, whose husband was in school for a while, and she was a writer? I think she is still here, but I don't know who she is.
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Maybe you need a new realtor? They aren't all like this. I'd tell her you need some time to discuss things without her and if she doesn't allow that or doesn't like it, tell her maybe she isn't the right fit for you.
I'm sorry; this was in the past. The other thread made me think of it, but I can see by re-reading my post that I wasn't clear. We won't be using her again. She also shared private info with the seller's agent, so that was the final mistake for her.
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Whenever we've looked at homes, we've walked around with the realtor, pointed out what we liked/didn't like, then the realtor gave us time to talk it over by ourselves while still in the house. But, while the realtor walks around with us, it's their job to point out features-hardwood floors, updated windows or fixtures, hard to find features in the area/price range (like a large kitchen or large yard or updated bathrooms), etc. We've often even had realtors say things like, "and this is where you could put the hot tub!" They are getting paid to sell you the house, so I think that's to be expected. I don't think it's out of place to say something like, "could we get a minute alone to discuss it privately," after walking around with the realtor. They also want your feedback to pass on to the realtor who works for the homeowner. If a lot of people have an issue with something (say, wall colors), then the realtor will suggest that the homeowners change it.
This sounds more professional than what we experienced. You made some good points.
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Double sided sinks are so handy for many reasons mentioned above. I do too many things at once to have just one basin.
My dishwasher isn't the best and I am picky about what goes in it. My daughter will stuff it with all manner of things, but they don't necessarily get clean. I suppose it is a pain to have a double sided sink for big items, but I don't mind washing half and then flipping it to wash the other half.
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The car saleslady was like that when we bought a car recently. She went with us on the test drive (none of the other dealers did that) and pointed out every tiny little feature in the car. It was a little irritating and DH and I sat there in silence because if we tried to talk, she'd jump in.
We had to make excuses to get away from her at the dealership so we could talk.
I'm extroverted and it bothered me.
Wow. Being closed in the car with someone like that? Poor you.
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Hmmm... we bought our house online (LOL) without actually seeing it in person because we were out of state at the time. We are actually moving out-of-state again, so we might have to do the same thing. If I do view a house with a realtor, I guess it depended on my mood and how well I got along with the realtor.
Good luck with the move. I sincerely hope you are able to see your house in person. If not, maybe there is a local WTM member who would tour it for you!
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Maybe she felt she was helping?
It is her job, and she would get the commission I presume if she sold the place. Many realtor places are getting more heavy handed with realtors on the amount of houses sold, you don't sell enough you get fired.
So it could be taken as either she was offering helpful solutions to your problems, or she was desperate to make a sell, need the money and/or her job.
I do completely understand we're your coming from though, I prefer realtors to be like proper butlers, never seen nor heard unless you want help and suddenly they magically appear :laugh: I don't like when they hover round me, for our place I was close to turning around and telling him he was weird. I can't explain it, except to say he was literally "nosing" into everything. Not so much speaking but when we came to a doorway his head would peek between ours and look into the room, like a curious puppy "heeeeyyy, its a bathroom *looks up at us* *peers around room and slowly pulls head back out of doorway* :w00t: rofl
Your realtor sounds like a character out of a movie! I think you are right, I want a butler for an agent!
And you are right. She liked to help. She tried to help me parent my children as well. We are both homeschoolers and she told me she was so glad they homeschooled because her (grown-up) girls believed exactly the same way as the realtor and dh. Personally, I don't want my kids to be clones of me.
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I think it's a personality thing, but not necessarily an introvert/extrovert thing. Our favorite realtor was young and very extroverted, almost a little loud, so the complete opposite of me :001_smile: . She would let us walk around on our own and agreed with on us on some funky findings (the house that smelled like manure and had a bidet or the red shag carpet in the basement of the house lovingly dubbed "70s teen scream murder movie house"). She never overstepped and would actually back out of rooms when she could see dh and I seriously discussing things.
I think it's important for realtors to read their clients. Some may want input and solutions, but many are just talking it out with their spouse. I think *most* realtors know when to back off and you, unfortunately, had an irritating one :rolleyes: .
Your realtor does sound great. I suppose it is tricky to know what the clients want.
What to do w/waist length hair at the beach?
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My daughter has very dry hair. I read that if you get the hair wet with tap water beforehand it will absorb less swimming water. Also, if you use an oil or leave-in conditioner it will keep it moisturized and repel the salt water. HTH.