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  1. We have contacted the local department for Rehabilitative and Vocational services and talked with them at length. They said they can start helping her this coming summer, but most of their programs would require her to stay overnight at the training dorms for 2 weeks at a time or more. I'm uncomfortable with those kinds of overnight stays in a group environment where we don't know the supervisors or the other attendees. She's very naive despite our attempts to teach her basic self-advocacy and get her just a bit street smart (without shocking or scaring her) and is easily manipulated. They also provide driving programs but you can't be eligible for them until you're 19 so she's 2 years away from that. She's not in a vocational program. That's just the name for the easier diploma track. The local school has a culinary arts one but she won't be eligible until 11th grade. We plan to try that in 11th or 12th grade for her. Odds are she would fail out again (it's made for average kids), but I'd like to at least give it a try and she's willing.
  2. Right?! I'm ready to complain too but my husband is always super hesitant to rock the boat.
  3. We live in VA and we did contact the agency in charge of it (I forget at the moment, but it's a long drawn out name). She was in public school and their transition services were basically nonexistent. They offered nothing but focusing on graduation, self-advocacy for her hearing impairment, and they really wanted her to learn how to use a chromebook (which she used to play kindergarten games online rather than do schoolwork). We are in contact with the department of rehabilitative services which is what the school would have connected her with by senior year, but they can't do anything with her until this coming summer (apparently they have to be 11th grade and up).
  4. Thanks! You know, reminding myself that she's mentally only 12-13 is actually super helpful! I just wish legally she wasn't going to be 18 in 10 months 😞 I didn't realize Job Corps could accept students with significant disabilities like that! Hm, that is definitely worth checking out!
  5. My daughter with mild intellectual disability, hearing loss, adhd, etc. is 17 now and I am officially freaking out about transitioning her to adulthood. Right now she's in 10th grade (she was held back in 1st grade when she lived with her birth family before any diagnoses). Currently she is enrolled in Seton Home Study and on track to get some sort of Vocational or Standard diploma there. She's doing 5th grade Science and Religion, Pacemaker's Pre-Algebra (very remedial - she was doing Math U See successfully but started capping out in Zeta so we switched gears), Writing Skills 1 (by Diana Hanbury King), and reading middle school level books and writing adapted book reports or doing multiple choice tests on them (Little Women, Anne of Green Gables, Harry Potter, Misty of Chincoteague, etc.) Some literary concepts definitely go over her head, but she's comprehending them reasonably well and enjoys reading them. She should graduate at 19.5 years old right now. She tried twice to get a Learner's Permit and failed the test both times so we're putting that on hold and maybe have her try again in a few years but we're assuming now that she won't be able to drive. So! What is the next step? Our relationship is strained lately because she feels like we expect too much from her and she acts like it's a personal affront any time we mention her getting a job someday or anything. She wants her own apartment after high school and is adamant about that but has no desire/plan to work really so, um, short of us winning the lottery that's not happening, lol! We're looking to buy a house with a basement apartment with a separate entrance. If we are able to find one, when would be a good age/stage to transition her to living semi-independently in an attached apartment vs a bedroom in the main family home? Also, we started the process for SSI and that has been SLOW. We have tried to start the process for the Medicaid ID Waiver and they haven't called us's been like 2 months of us calling regularly trying to catch someone. Even if she does get SSI it looks like it's a tiny amount, like $500/month, so definitely not enough for her to rent an apartment ever. She wants to be a baker. I think maybe that'd be possible, maybe not. I'd like for her to try at least and our small town community might support her in a home-based endeavor where she baked cakes for people's celebrations, extra treats, etc. I'd have to do all the business end but she could do the cooking just fine. I've also thought she might enjoy working at Subway (cooking...but not totally, lol!) or a pizza restaurant (again, sort of cooking but with a set recipe/repetition), or a coffee shop/bakery but don't know how to get her there. Anyway, what would you prioritize at each age? Where is the magical checklist of things to teach/do/prepare at each age for a teen with intellectual disability? 😛 For example, this year at 17 I should focus on ............ Next year at 18 I should focus on............ After graduation I should focus on............ Also, anyone have great blogs, books, articles, anything that can help me envision what life might look like for her as a young adult with mild ID? I need encouragement and inspiration for sure!
  6. I have a 17 yo DD with a very similar profile to your son's! (mild sloping to profound deafness in both ears, borderline intellectual disability, adhd, etc.) I suggest either just issuing him a parent homeschool diploma. He completed the work, he's clearly capable in language arts, and he needs the piece of paper. Public high schools issue diplomas to kids with special needs who are lower functioning than your son all the time. For kids like your son and my daughter, they often offer "creative" ways to fulfill the requirements for graduation (they lower the graduation score requirements, offer alternative math courses, etc.) Now, if the trade school or whatever program you're thinking of for him might put up a stink about a homeschool diploma, you could always enroll him for 1 year in a distance learning program. Seton Home Study (a Catholic option, though I think they'd work with a non-Catholic student?) does this regularly through their special services program for young adult students who for whatever reason were unable to get a regular diploma during the usual high school time. Then there'd be an accredited school saying for sure that he met the requirements and that he has graduated high school. This is what we're doing for my own daughter because with her level of functioning I know she wouldn't be able to argue her point if an employer or trade school ever put up a fuss about her homeschool diploma. So she'll get a Seton diploma which will be nice to have. However, I really think in your situation you can just issue him a homeschool diploma dated to the year he 'graduated' (18 or 19 years old) and let him use that. 9/10 times that is all people want to see and the young adult is good to go. Type up a professional transcript yourself too. Simply code courses as "English 9, English 10, English 11, English 12" and "Basic Mathematics, Algebra I, Consumer Math" and so on. No need to worry about the specific books he needed to use in each level. We're doing middle school novels and a remedial writing course this coming year but it'll still be "English 10" on my daughter's transcript. And I hear you on SSI and everything being a pain. Hearing aids aren't covered here either, which is really rough! They were covered 100% in our prior state :/ And the SSI amounts are awfully minimal and all. We're like you and really aiming for our daughter to be as self-supporting as possible because to live on SSI she'd definitely need to live with us AND seek other sources of aid, all of which I'd need to do for her since she wouldn't be able to navigate the system (I have a college degree and it makes my head spin!). Good luck, and I hope you're able to get him everything he needs to get into a training program!
  7. Oh my goodness, I had looked at them ages ago but it wasn't the right choice at the time for what we needed. However, looking at their Algebra text it actually looks like something DD16 could do next year. Thank you so much for reminding me! I'm going to check out their Basic Mathematics curriculum as a Pre-Algebra option too. Have you used their curriculums before?
  8. My daughter, 16.5 yo, 10th grade, is finishing up Math U See Zeta (decimals) and is struggling big time. MUS worked beautifully for her from Gamma through the first half of Zeta. But now she's struggling with the concept of decimals. She keeps making illogical mistakes and is struggling to understand the more complicated stuff (multiplying, dividing, solving for the unknown, area of a triangle, etc). She doesn't understand equations...that the letter represents a number we don't know. My other kids love this concept, they think it's fun to figure out the "mystery" number "hiding' behind the letter. Oh well! Also, the place value of decimals is really eluding her in spite of all the hands-on manipulatives and explanation from both myself and her tutor and the MUS program videos. In any case, I had planned for her to use MUS through Algebra. I knew Algebra would be a bit of a stretch, but doing it in her Junior/Senior year with lots of help I figured we could make it work and then she'd be eligible for a regular diploma from Seton Homestudy. Unfortunately, if she's struggling this much with Zeta I'm afraid Pre-Algebra might be where she tops out. I really just need something good enough for basic high school credit so she can pass and move on to consumer math. We've already gone back to the start and remediated with her...I'm not planning to do anymore intense remediation as our big goal now is to let her move on with life and get to working in a culinary job or hair salon. For that she just needs a high school diploma ? Does anyone have recommendations for Pre-Algebra/Algebra curriculums that are more approachable/basic?
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