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  1. I keep roasts in the fridge for a week, but I also keep my refrigerator cold and monitor the temperature with a thermometer. Here's what I did this past week: Monday: Roasted two big round roasts, had one with sides for supper stuck the other one in the fridge Tuesday: Beef and vegetable soup Thursday: French dip sandwiches with tomato soup Saturday: Beef and veggie casserole I find this system of making a roast once a week and using it in meals all the next week much more doable than freezer cooking on a regular basis. Even when I was working the hassle of cooking for the freezer was not worth it for me. I do keep a few emergency meals in the freezer but those get prepared once every couple of months. That said, I do practice save a step cooking making double and triple batches of things on a regular basis. The beef and veggie soup was a triple batch and served as lunches a couple of days this week. I needed to chop onions for the sandwiches so I went ahead and sliced up several more and stuck them in the freezer ready to go for another recipe. If I had had enough beef left I probably would have made two casseroles and frozen one. I use frozen vegetables a lot when I cook to save time.
  2. Hmm, I'm not a cannon lawyer but private Masses are legitimately said in homes and other places (I've been to them), many priests own "travelling Mass kits" for that reason that contain everything needed for a valid Mass (including altar stone/relic). This is how priests celebrate Mass around the world when there is persecution of the Church. I do know that a priest from another diocese needs permission from the Bishop to say Mass in the Bishop's diocese, but this is your pastor, your diocese he is not stepping outside of his jurisdiction. Anyway, a call to the Bishop would be an easy way for him to get a green light if he has any concerns. Of course, there is no way for this to be feasible on a regular basis, but you might see if the priest might be game for a special occasion Mass in your home. I very firmly explain authority and who has authority over whom. There is a chain of command: Bishop over the priest, priest over his parish, parents over children. This may sound harsh but at least in my (granted, very limited) experience having clear boundaries in place is essential for dealing with anxiety to prevent manipulative behavior. BTW, I've found it helps to phrase things in such a way that I sincerely acknowledge the anxiety and affirm the fact that this is very troublesome and difficult to deal with. I give all the sympathy I can, pray about the anxiety with the child, but stand firm with whatever decision we the parents have come to. But, then again, I have no problem with authority and arguments based on authority, YMMV. Of course, anxiety itself needs to be addressed: the scrupulosity is only one manifestation. This. I'm sure someone will flame me for this, but I would not try to prove anything. I mean, definitely use that example, but don't expect it to convince him nor should you be trying to convince your child that you're right. At the end of the day it really is a mental health concern (the anxiety) and a boundary question. It is not a 9 year old's role to keep track of how Cannon Law applies to the adults in his life. Ok, this is what I was trying to say but moonflower said it much better.
  3. Well whether it is the case or not with OP's son, this is very true and can be hard to deal with. I've noticed scrupulosity in children who have anxiety as well. ETA: Just saw that OP and I cross posted.
  4. I tried it last year with DD then 10. She did ok but at a pace that was excruciatingly slow and that made it far less interesting for her than I had intended. It may be that she started too soon. I switched her to FFL and she still gripes about doing Latin but at least she's progressing. That said, at DH's school they start Oerberg around 7th grade and seem to have good results, but they use Mima Maxi's Primer beforehand. DH is currently teaching the kids who have gone through Familia Romana and he's pleased with their ability to read Caesar. I hope to switch back to Oerberg after DD finishes SFL because I honestly think it is brilliant. Make sure you have the college companion, the workbook, the novum excercitium, and the audio version. When DH was using it to teach himself he would listen to the CD over and over on the commute and he said this was instrumental in getting him to think in Latin. He now uses the audio with his students to give them another source of pronunciation. There are no resources in the workbook to really drill the forms. Some, like Fr Reggie Foster, would claim that is completely unnecessary. It is totally necessary for DD and that is what I appreciate about MP: it is all spelled out for me. DH just has his students recite and write the forms over and over and gives quizes. Also, there is a book of dialogues that correspond to each chapter of Familia Romana. DD found those fun, more so than the text itself.
  5. Because of the same restrictions listed above my DD11 has started reading regular literature in the last year, this was around the time that I made the transition as well. It was hard going at first but she pushed through because she wanted to have a wider range of books to read. If your DD likes light-hearted romances Woodhouse is great and there are lots of books 🙂 On the non-fiction front mine is currently into the Quark Chronicles, and this is the child who dislikes "living books" lol.
  6. This is brilliant! I've been keeping our bulk goods in the girls' clothes closet, but they want their space back 😂 Will definitely be using this idea, thank you! Also, OP, speaking of bulk: When the 4th kid really started eating (and she eats as much as the 6 year old DS) I realized that I had to invest in bigger kitchenware in order to save money. This tip won't help you short term as you're trying to cut expenses radically now, but longer term if you do not have the appropriate cookware it is worth investing in. This past year I replaced the 6 qt IP with an 8 qt one (Christmas), the 5 qt stock pot with a 12 qt one (Mother's Day) and on my birthday the 9x13 casseroles got replaced with these 4 qt lidded (!) Pyrex (watch the prices, I got mine for $25 each). Thinking about your school lunch dilemma; if the $2.50 is included in the $200/week then that is fairly expensive. $200/week for six is a little under $5/day per person and school lunch is half of that. Think breakfast items to keep it packable, prep ahead and cheap: smoothies freeze well in pint jars and double as an ice pack, "breakfast egg muffins" or egg salad, regular muffins (whole wheat with nuts), a mason jar of yogurt or cottage cheese with mix-ins, overnight oats if they didn't have oatmeal for breakfast, breakfast burritos (cheese, eggs, beans), brown rice pudding. Another idea beyond sandwiches: warmed up leftovers or soup in thermos and/or grain based salads (easy to make a big batch once a week). A friend of mine who has a couple of teen boy athletes makes a giant batch of refried bean and rice burritos once a week and they can grab as many as they want for their lunch each day.
  7. I spend about that much for our family of big eaters (i.e. a doubled recipe for 4 -- so 8 servings -- is often just barely enough for us for one meal so I will make triple or quadruple for the freedom to have seconds and leftovers). I used to be able to do less and still eat fairly well, but DH has recently gone low-carb and I've been doing Trim Healthy Mama and that definitely has raised the cost of food. We are also in the midwest but I have to travel for grocery shopping. I buy conventional except for salad greens, we raise chickens and ducks for eggs but lately our flock has been almost wiped out and I've been buying eggs from a neighbor. This past year we did not have a garden. I add that because sometimes people with low food budgets will raise their own food but not add that to the "food" budget creating an unrealistic picture. I shop at Costco once a month (an hour away) and either Walmart or Kroger depending on what I need that week for the rest of the time. I actually use the pick-up grocery option and order online with Walmart and Kroger because I find I spend less that way: I place an order for everything but fresh produce and then go into the store and just get the produce (with cash) of whatever I have left in the budget for that week. I do like Aldi but there isn't one convenient to us or to the Costco in town. I do not buy sweets or beverages except for milk without a specific occasion that warrants it (e.g. birthday/holiday) with the exception of dark chocolate for me. I do keep baking supplies on hand always and the girls are welcome to bake something on the weekends and we make kombucha off and on. So far this month I've made a trip to Costco and spent $600, that left only $200 for the rest of the month so things are very tight: fruit this month are apples/bananas and salad is iceberg instead of more interesting baby greens, I also have no wiggle room to buy bread or yogurt this month so will definitely be making more from scratch. I usually aim for $400-450 at costco but I was low on stuff after not making the trip last month (had a newborn). Breakfast during the week is always old-fashioned oatmeal (I make it plain, kids add raisings or raw honey at the table) or yogurt (usually homemade in the IP once a week) with a spoonful of jam. Saturday we have a late, big country breakfast that usually doubles as our lunch. Once a week I make a double batch of smoothies and muffins that is our super quick/easy clean up breakfast on rushed Friday and Sunday mornings. I also make a big batch of high-protein shakes for DH's on-the-go breakfast. The protein powder is expensive but at this point we can afford it. I buy lunch meat and cheese with low-carb wraps for DH's lunches as well as Greek yogurt cups. The cost of these convenience foods is worth my sanity. Our lunches at home are sometimes leftovers, but I always keep plenty of bread and hard boiled eggs and green salad around for quick lunches that are nutritious and filling. Fridays we have co-op and pack peanut butter & honey sandwiches. Saturday lunch is covered with breakfast and the kids usually eat a big snack to make up for the fact that we just had brunch and not two meals. There are usually leftover pancakes or grits for their "snack" that day and as always, hard boiled eggs. DH works long days and a two hour daily commute so he usually packs some hard boiled eggs (notice a pattern? eggs are cheap and nutritious!!!), jerky or nuts for a snack on the way home. Snacks for the kids are fruit/veggie sticks (one child is responsible for preparing this once a week) with peanut butter. We do not allow grazing but I have lately been allowing a morning snack for my fast growing tween: she usually eats a handful of peanuts and some carrot sticks. Occasionally I will allow something like applesauce for a treat and they get hungry much more quickly. Supper is usually something easy with cheap cuts of meat or canned salmon and meat-free meals on Wednesdays and Fridays. I try to always serve a green salad and bread (homemade, no-knead when I'm on top of it). I allow a small second portion but if you're still hungry after that there's bread and butter. Here's the current week's menu as an example: Thursday: Fixed two whole chickens in crock-pot but we actually ate leftovers (fridge clean out) with baked potatoes for kids. Picked the chicken clean and divided for future meals. Friday: Broccoli cheddar soup (using extra sharp cheddar for flavoring and cream cheese for most of the cheesy-ness) + grilled cheese for kids/salad for us. Saturday: Shopping day. Chicken & veggie casserole, green salad, rice for the kids Sunday: At DMIL's: we often eat Sunday supper there, this does save some on food costs but that's not why we do it, lol. If we eat at home we grill hamburgers or I make a traditional roast + sides. Monday: Chicken alfredo. I used cream cheese and bulked the sauce up with pureed cauliflower, nobody noticed. DH and I used low carb noodles. Green salad on the side. BTW, when DH ate carbs I would often add white beans to alfredo sauce to save $. Tuesday: Thai coconut chicken soup (added pureed butternut squash for added veggies) + buttered toast for kids Wednesday: Beans and rice (Made with dry beans. I will make a triple batch for burritos for lunch Thursday and as a side for fajitas for Saturday's supper) + Southwestern slaw. DH will probably have salad instead with the last of the chicken (very little left). I won't lie to you, staying on a food budget and eating healthy-ish takes time: planning, shopping, cooking, cleaning up. I am not a fast nor creative cook and more often than not follow recipes. I will often buy frozen veggies to save time and money. I make soups at least twice a week year round. When I was working I bought and used meal plans from this blogger and actually learned quite a bit.
  8. I have nosy, gossipy relatives too. But the fact is that some people will push boundaries whether they show up invited or not: people can be rude, but I do not see showing up unannounced in and of itself as rude. I think that maybe we agree? BTW, we actually do have a huge wrap around porch with a giant maple shading the house and I've often entertained impromptu guests while swinging the babies to sleep and was gracefully able to end the visit by needing to take one of the children inside. Rude people still find a way to outstay their welcome and even invite themselves indoors Either way, a large shady porch is definitely worth searching out!
  9. Oh absolutely on the regional differences! We're in the South and semi-rural. But I grew up in a city in a different country and it was the same thing.
  10. I can't like this enough: I hate the fact that everything has to be scheduled. This really must be a huge cultural gap in modern day America because I also honestly don't expect everyone to have a cell phone - I know several people who do not! I'm actually an introvert and my house is often messy (and sometimes gross), but I would never consider someone who dropped by to visit rude. We've had people come in to disaster areas and it is mortifying but in my experience people give us a lot of grace and they really just want to spend time with us and not look at the house, lol. That said, I've got no qualms about turning someone away if it is really bad timing (e.g. someone is sick or we're about to walk out the door).
  11. So mine are all little so I've avoided jumping in but I'm taking notes for the future. At least two of mine will be complainers for sure and I'm not the patient, go with the flow mom: I know I will get defensive and upset when it happens no matter how much I brace myself for it. All that said... I totally did this with my mom over piano lessons. For years I griped about how she let me quit. She even paid for lessons again when I was in college to make up for it and I quit again because it was hard and I was once again undisciplined about practice; but, I was a snot and told her that "it was too late" and her fault. Did the same thing about housekeeping and blamed her for my lack of basic skills. Well, somewhere around child #4 I realized that it is incredibly hard to get children to do anything, that battles must be picked and sometimes (often times?) parents really do less than "their best" for one reason or another. Fact is, she was exhausted, had Irish twins (one of whom had severe special needs) and was living in an unstable country to boot. Making me help with dishes, let alone practice the piano was really way more effort than she could put in to parenting: she was trying to stay sane and keep us alive. And it was also around that time that I realized what a PP pointed out up thread: adults don't blame their parents, they work to change things they dislike about themselves. I'm a slow learner. But, yeah, my poor mom. She told me once long ago that I would get double of everything I gave to her as a teen and 20-something and I think she's right. She wasn't saying it meanly, just observing one of my children's personality.
  12. In our circles we actually have a mid-sized family, lol. We are on chatting terms with two families of twelve and one of my girls is close friends with a girl from a family with 10 children. Most of their friends though come from families of 5-7 mostly because the moms of those families are my own peer group.
  13. We had an upright and when it died (after two moves and many years) we went to a mid-sized chest freezer. I will never go back to an upright. The chest freezer costs less in electric and the small size makes it easier to organize than I thought. I use milk crates. We need more freezer space and I plan on getting another small chest freezer that I will delegate exclusively to meat and keep our first for veggies and freezer meals.
  14. We use Tello. I've also had Mint in the past but prefer the Sprint network and I had issues with calls being dropped on mint and this has not happened with Tello. We pay $10/mo for my unlimited talk/text + 1 GB data and $24/mo for unlimited talk/text and 6GB data for DH. When we had a Sprint contract we were paying almost $50/month for two phones and 1GB shared data. I don't see us ever going back to post paid, not unless we ever needed unlimited data and got a fantastic deal that we could lock into long term.
  15. It can be used around 4th or 5th grade but would require the teacher a lot more. Around 7/8th seems the ideal, might need a lot of supplementing for high school.
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