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hippiemamato3

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  1. Yes, she is just as much the grandmother, but the postpartum days are about mom & baby. So mom gets to decide. If she wants her own mom first, maternal grandma is first visitor.
  2. Mom decides who is more of a PITA to her after the birth. She decides who visits and who has to wait.
  3. If it was really annoying me, I'd go to one of the spaces she's already set up, take it and say "thanks for getting some extra spots ready!"
  4. Yep, that's my philosophy too. I didn't homeschool DD so she could learn to cook and clean! Those things happen as a matter of course, but are not at all part of our school day.
  5. Very little time spent on chores here.
  6. It does for me some months, and it's quite painful and shocking. I hope that's what it is, and tomorrow you feel better!
  7. Because these are gossipy people who clearly don't like the girl, or her mother, or something, I would discount what they had said entirely.
  8. My DS16 has no real interest in clothes, but I still probably spend $500ish or so per season on his clothing and shoes.
  9. Yeah, this doesn't sound like a man in love to me. At all.
  10. Why would he pay on dates? I guess I would expect him to. Don't you?
  11. First of all, why are you asking her if she left early when you know she did? It's possible the questioning made her feel uncomfortable or judged for some reason which is why she avoided directly answering. The debit card thing - are you just trying to further prove to us that she is distrustful? Prior to today you said she was a nice girl and you liked her. I think your stories start out truthful and then twist when you get people on your side. It makes me uncomfortable. As for your son paying when they go out - don't you expect him to?
  12. And I think that's totally normal and expected. A huge decision like marriage isn't something that would be hidden here. But our religion doesn't prohibit casual dating and doesn't encourage young marriage...so I think there's more going on here between Scarlett and her son that adds a different layer of struggle.
  13. I mean once she tells him she knows, it will be out in the open. He can then choose how open to be, but at least she won't be living with this awful feeling.
  14. 19 and 16 year old sons. I have no reason to think that my son will pull away from me - it started out as just me and him, and there's little we haven't talked about. I could be wrong I suppose, but I honestly doubt it.
  15. Once it's out in the open, I see nothing wrong with lovingly showing your interest in their plans. I think maybe you're putting a different spin on my post than I intended.
  16. I was assuming a good, close relationship between mom and son, and that son would ultimately be relieved mom knows and would then talk to her (which is what would happen here). If they aren't that close, your advice is likely better.
  17. I think you can let him know you know without calling out your friend. Obviously it's not a secret from everyone, so it makes sense that you'd find out somehow. I hate dishonesty. I feel sick for you. This would bother me too much to let it lie.
  18. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your son, but I would not continue living with the pretense of a lie. I'd let him know that you know. And I'd ask him what his plans and intentions are.
  19. Is it possible he has picked up on your judgment about her weight and other issues that the family has? It was only a couple of weeks ago that you weren't sure he could be attracted to her because she is overweight.
  20. He's an adult at this point, and his religion is his to decide - so this really isn't something that Scarlett or her ex need to "solve" IMO.
  21. *hugs* I'm so sorry that your HS journey is ending before you were ready.
  22. I would take her in with no hesitation at all. That sounds terrible. ?
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