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  1. It seems to be an age thing here (it’s really conservative overall here). The largest population age group shows to be the 20-29 year olds but their vaccination rate is just above 30%. According to age groups, we don’t even hit 50% vaccinated until the 50+ groups. Our 12-15 years old are the least with under 20% vaxxed.
  2. My dh’s boss, in his late 40s, has been fully vaxxed since April (Pfizer) and currently has Covid. It’s mild, he hasn’t needed any medical attention, and he hasn’t spread it to anyone in his family, who are also vaxxed. He was on a road trip with his kids when he started feeling sick but still none of them have caught it. He also had just gone back to work in the office, no masks because only vaxxed employees are allowed back, and so far no one has tested positive.
  3. We’ve been the only ones masking inside stores here for the past few weeks. At first, it seemed more were masking after the mandate ended but now no one is (not the employees, elderly, or young kids). Our vax rate is still below 50%. Schools here resume over the next two to three weeks (it’s early here) so it will be interesting to see what happens. As far as I can tell there is no mask requirement at all anymore in the schools. My dc return to college next month, but vaccines are required and if you are exempt you have to continue masking and testing.
  4. I don’t see us locking down again. There are definitely some things that make me uneasy after the past year but I’m trying to push past them. Dh and I actually went to Chicago for the weekend (rode the train, dealt with crowds, etc). We met up with friends who live there for drinks and were out late, which was a first since this all started. It was so very needed! Both dc are headed back to college in the fall and will be fully participating in campus life. We’re all vaccinated and I hope we don’t get sick but I do think we have to figure out a way to live with Covid because I don’t think it’s going anywhere.
  5. I would want my mom to have my back. The interesting thing is I know my mom would always take her mom/dad’s side. Part of the reason I am the way I am with my dc is because of how I ranked with my mom in regards to her parents. This is actually really interesting for me at the moment. My mom probably thinks I’m supposed to have her back because she would have taken her parents side over me. I don’t know what to do with it but it’s definitely something to think over.
  6. So, things have been a bit weird for a few months but I thought my mom and I had hashed things out three months ago and were moving past it all. We just had lunch together a week ago and things seemed back to normal. Then, a few days ago she called and brought it all back up and ended up hanging up on me (first time that’s happened). She’s angry my young adult dc don’t want a relationship with her right now and somehow it’s my fault. They have valid reasons and she of course has valid reasons for being upset. But none of this is actually about me! She won’t even talk with them directly about this, she just calls me and gets angry. I was hurt months ago but this time I’m just really angry. She’s my mom and I love her but I’m ticked off that my relationship with her seems to hinge on her relationship with my kids (who are both adults now!). Has anyone else had this issue? I don’t know what to do next?!? Do I just wait for her to contact me or do I reach out. We live less than 10 minutes away from each other. We moved here six years ago to be close to her. Is this just it? I’m not going to apologize because I have nothing to apologize for so I’m not sure how to proceed. I go back and forth on even wanting a relationship at this point but that makes me feel like an awful person.
  7. Joker2


    Housing is tricky at dc’s university as well. They’ve had a lot of trouble with older dorms so off campus housing has been going fast. They signed their lease for this August last year. It’s crazy.
  8. Yes! The first time dh and I got into an argument (while dating) I walked out to just avoid it. When I came back, dh was like, “No, that’s not gonna work.” I learned then how to “hash it out” but in a productive way. We also let a lot things go because they’re so trivial but we definitely talk out the important ones.
  9. I grew up in a very conflict avoidant “keep the peace ‘cause family” type of family. I’m not like that as a wife and parent. I’ve started to not be like that as a sister and daughter and it’s causing all kinds of problems. My mom actually called me out of the blue the other night to argue with me and then she hung up because she didn’t like that I was fighting back. She’s never hung up on me before because we rarely ever argue so I don’t know what’s next. I’ve tried to talk with them about wanting real relationships instead of the fake ones we have because I don’t speak up but they don’t want to hear it. I’m proud of myself for not continuing to be a doormat for them and I hope being happy about it follows soon.
  10. It depends on the state. Ds was able to change all of his documents because he was born in California. So, once his birth certificate was changed, everything else had to be as well (even in our much more conservative state). He needed a doctor’s statement verifying social transitioning but he’s had no surgery. Youngest can’t change their birth certificate because the state they were born in won’t allow it and our state won’t allow NB as an option on ID. So, they can only change name.
  11. Joker2


    We are a military family and both of us were born into military families. The OP wasn’t insulting and there was zero need for you and others to react the way you did. OP, I have nothing to add on how to help as I think you’ve been given good advice already.
  12. IDK, I get this but it also bothers me. I was nine when I woke up to a man in my bed. Then, when I was 18 I was raped at a party by someone from my school. I was certain I had some weird nine year curse. I somehow still don’t view men as someone to be afraid of. Maybe because I had a ridiculous amount of amazing male role models or maybe IDK why? I don’t think the answer is to give up or consider everyone with a penis as scary. I still think there’s room for compromise (not in every space, but definitely in some).
  13. The problem is these conversations always end up like this one, which is all or nothing for all sides. I do think there needs to be more conversations about transwomen in sports, some women’s spaces, and self ID but this turned into no transwomen in women’s spaces (not for all posters but for many it reverted to the basic bathroom issues). It turned ugly and we all need to find a better way to talk about because doing it this way isn’t ever going to get us anywhere.
  14. I just wanted to let you know that I think it’s BS you were reported and BS you were called aggressive. It was quite clear what you were talking about and ridiculous that some pushed back the way they did.
  15. Yes, and truth be told I don’t think this is just about penises anyway. I don’t think those women and girls would have wanted a trans male in there either. The majority of trans people aren’t going be to be walking around naked in those spaces. There should be clear rules about that so everyone is aware and they should be enforced. But I just think many don’t want to share spaces with trans people period.
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