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    Mineralogy. Currently into hiking, sewing, dog training, travel writing, coffee drinking. Well, wish I did more sewing, but I hope to return to quilting and couture.

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  1. It will get better over time. As quiet and natural as you try to be, they will pick up on your nerves, but they will gain confidence with experience. We have found that this routine makes it much, much easier to get out on the road with a new driver: Beginning the day the teen gets their permit, we begin in a large acreage park nearby. This stage continues over a month or two of mostly Sunday drives. Relaxing affairs as time goes on while I sip my coffee and talk at random about whatever. There are multitudinous winding roads, parking lots, and hills. The teens learn to master the car as a pro before I ever.ever.ever. allow them on a legal road. This eliminates the stress & fear of traffic. Then, when I believe they can make tight, smooth turns and pay attention to more than the mechanics of the car, they drive part of the way to the park, then a few weeks later, the full way to the park. At this point driver's training on the road commences. Everyone is relatively relaxed. Although I still keep my hand on the door arm...I gave birth to this driver after all, and I find them driving me innately unnatural. Learning to drive is like writing. First there is mastery of the pencil and mechanics of forming letters and words. Only after the mechanics are automatic can the student confidently express themselves. The very first lesson each of children has that is repeated a few times a year (beginning at 13 or 14) is simply to drive 10 feet in a park: letting go of the brake, gently pressing the gas pedal, reapplying the brake, and putting the car in park. All gently. Eliminates the 'putting everyone through the windshield when braking' stage. They are so eager to begin that they follow exact directions. I know our 16 yo's wouldn't be so directional as those eager young ones.
  2. I have learned to agree with this so much, especially the last sentence, as I have matured through life. I do not mean that maturity makes accepting other people's rudeness something to be strived for, I just see, with gained experience, that people/families are so varied in their ways of communicating. If this were a child, I would follow up and explain that the proper social norm is to acknowledge communication each time, in some polite way. If they feel exiting is necessary to avoid conflict, they should face the person and tell them so, as other's have stated above. If this were an adult, it depends on the person and so many other things. Well, it IS rude behavior, but why they showed this behavior determines how I would handle it. Were they raised thinking this was acceptable? Are they working on not losing their temper in even more rude ways, and exiting was the best they could muster in this occurrence on their journey of conflict management? Was a verbal fight involved, or about to begin? IMO, this person needs to hear that you find this offensive behavior and would appreciate acknowledgment each time you speak. This will, hopefully, open the door to improved communication with others, as well. None of us behaves well all of the time. If this was an adult who is also a spouse, helping them make changes through gentle guidance/suggestion/request, while giving an occasional pass, helps more than reacting defensively right back.
  3. I agree with @Kiara.I and @Slache, in that your daughter and you deserve some time together to ease into homeschooling by letting her enjoy writing on her own for awhile (and with lots of great read aloud childhood literature). Also, I think Fix-It would be good! Here is a thread discussing Fix-It For writing, I am a diehard IEW fan. And, my understanding is that is helps gifted writers organize their writing and practice new skills. Many do not like it at all, though. She seems like a budding natural speller (a natural writer and speller?? How did you get so lucky?=). The natural spellers in this family thrived with this simple process: they had a personal spelling notebook, where I listed the words that I found as errors in their writing - spelled out correctly only, for them to study. I kept my own notebook of these words. The pages of my notebook had three columns: daily/weekly/monthly. Each day I quizzed the words in the daily column by dictation. When the student spelled the word correctly three days in a row, that word was moved to the weekly column. Once a week, in addition to their daily words, I dictated the weekly words and followed the same process. Ditto the monthly words. The natural spellers here appreciated learning these words, since they were their own and were oft used, and they were annoyed by any other method of spelling instruction. Finally, I wanted to tell you how vital grammar knowledge is to the college bound student. I know so much of it seems so pointless since it is ‘only putting names/terms to what happens naturally’. But, good natural writing has its limits, and being able to analyze or understand why different writing voices work or to get the most out of advanced writing instruction, basic grammar knowledge is important. Also, very importantly: college entrance testing will depend on good grammar skills. The tests use nuanced differences between answers and problems to separate the students who kinda know their grammar from those who have it solid. Knowing the basics solidly going into test prep (all of high school IMO) will make it much more possible for those students to get super high marks on those tests. You don’t need to use an intensive grammar program, just one that progressively solidifies the knowledge of the parts of speech and parts of a sentence and how they affect each other.
  4. I thought about posting this one the Quick Dinners thread... We make black bean bowls for dinner in a pinch: A few cans black beans (El Ebro brand is best and doesn’t need draining, other brands - drain), quinoa, minute rice, or couscous, salsa, cheese, sour cream.
  5. I don’t mind at all, as a matter of fact, I was going to ask @Spy Car about his steamer😹 Although I am thinking of saving for a Dupray Tosca, I have seen that cube one before, but I cannot remember the name. One complaint of the cube one was that the hose was fixed in place, so once the connection bit the dust, there was nothing to do but retire the steamer permanently. Do you see that as a likely issue? (as to twaddle, I did limit it due to time, but limitation can breed fascination, so went ahead and I steered them towards a few series for their indulgent/easy read pleasure. But, I absolutely, positively refused to read twaddle aloud. After my first read aloud of a Magic Treehouse book - Good literature, in contrast, flows off the tongue pleasantly)
  6. Yes, the urinary problems (and diabetes) have plagued cats I have owned in the past. I am thinking of feeding our two young cats (one a barn cat who supplements with mice, birds, and shrews) better before they have problems. Thank you! I am a “people-nutrition-expert”, and I am definitely a skeptic when it comes to anecdotal nutritional advice=). Although I did say, upthread, that I would rather learn here than do the research...haha, I just mean that I am skeptical of the nutrition advice being factual, but I am open to making my decision based on other’s personal experience. My intent with this post is to hear what people have decided to feed their dogs/cats after discernment - discernment that I take in good faith to have been satisfactory to them. Although that discernment process may have involved ‘negative thinking’ (meaning ‘what to avoid’), let us leave each individual with food for thought, to explore on their own what is good or bad for their situation. Please, give your personal feeding choices, reasoning once (if you care to share), ask your questions if clarification is needed, and move on.
  7. Do you buy a large picnic butt or something? Just refrigerate & give a little all week? The nutritionist in me wants to know if the same food safety rules apply in this case. I mean, you couldn’t feed raw in the first place to humans, so do you have to go by the “use raw meat within three days” rule? That’s what I try to follow for people. Maybe I could do this once a day, too.
  8. Thanks for asking. What @Pawz4me said! She was who tipped me over the edge into rotating=) And, we rotate every two bags just because. One of those arbitrary decisive decisions🤣
  9. This is a 'JAWE' post... Just agree with everyone! Meaning, I would like to see what other concerned dog/cat lovers have decided to feed their pets after their did their research, wracked their brains, and searched their pocketbooks. No bashing of anyone else's decision! It can be so stressful knowing what to fed our pets. In case it is of any help to anyone, this is what we have settled upon for our 75# dog. We desired to use kibble. We were influenced by these board discussions to rotate between brands a little and use kibbles of at least 30% protein. I was relieved to not see our brands on the DCM list on the other thread, so I do not have to go through the decision process again. After making charts to compare protein/costs/stores, this is what is best for us: Rotate every two bags: Victor Hi-Pro Plus (cheapest at Rural King 40#) Purina One SmartBlend True Instinct Turkey & Venison (Rural King or Chewy same price for 27.5#) Each serving gets topped with a dollop of Solid Gold Green Cow Tripe or Solid Gold Sun Dancer (cheapest at Chewy, but they kept sending dented cans. I do not do dented cans, so I pick the cans myself at Petsmart) Please post your pet food picking process and the resulting choice. Because, maybe what you have decided for your dog or cat can help someone else choose their brand so they can move on with life. I, for one, need help finding a higher protein cat food, and I would rather learn from your experience then do the research myself LOL
  10. May I jump in and ask, “What should I feed my cats?” Commercially speaking.
  11. I am certain that the warmth in my chest, emanating from my heart, is the love of God. It is my soul, and it will live forever.
  12. Do you have a PCP to call? I think you should get it checked out. I am sorry you fell - feel better soon!
  13. Agree with the lightheartedness of it. Back when I was learning to drive, stick shift was the common way. It is just a way to balance those memes regarding 'parents and technology' and their lack of knowledge. Seen lots of those. No-one thinks that is pointing out a 'moral failing' in the older generation. The stick shift joke is just light-hearted banter - something to 'brag' about that is likely to be an older person skill unknown by the younger generation. I think memes along those lines are funny - in a 'just having fun, not meaning to be mean' way. Never thought anyone was feeling superior.
  14. That is what I initially thought of...but, I think DH is trying to give me a break from the shopping part. And, there is just something so romantic about being surprised LOL
  15. Do you buy study packing cubes? When I used one, I was pleased with its ability to hold a lot and keep my larger bag neat, but I cannot envision using them as stand alone. Perhaps I had ones of cheap variety. As I am always on the lookout for better organization for travel (I travel A LOT), I would like to know your experience using them stand alone.
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