We just meander through, I agree that it's exposure. They will forget, there will be gaps, but there is still value in exploring the content. I've never managed to do the 4 year cycle... my dd is in 7th and we've made it to the 1600s lol.

Can I please join too? Going back to read the links now. As someone who grew up with DV, and who has personally helped a christian woman leave her dv husband with support from our church, I have zero tolerance for this from church leaders. None.

Yeah, they don't want to talk it out. They want another opportunity to hurt you and tell you all the ways you're wrong. They will use your children as weapons to try to hurt you. You are not crazy.

I was raised by a single mother who worked her butt off and had to start all over again numerous times after leaving abusive men. Dh is first generation from immigrants who escaped from poverty in former communist eastern Europe. We are both used to lean times. Dh and I married straight out of high school. We both worked teenager jobs from age 15. We both worked while going through university/training and rented our own small place, we were pretty terrible at saving. We both dropped out of our degrees and worked full time instead (me - office job, him - manufacturing) and bought our first home in our very early 20s. We struggled to fall and stay pregnant, and when we brought our first child home I wanted to stay home with our children; we made it work on one income. That income got tighter around the time we had our 3rd child and dh applied for a redundancy package - manufacturing is in a downturn and his workplace would be non existent in a few years so he got out early. We sold our house at a fairly bad time and saved the profits and redundancy payment for our future home. Dh retrained, where he was earning $12 an hour for 2.5 years. We got some government grants because it was an industry that desperately needed workers, and we recieved social security which allowed us to rent a very modest little home and continue homeschooling. We stopped receiving social security after this. I taught piano on the side to supplement. I fell pregnant unexpectedly (my only naturally conceived baby), we found the perfect block of land to buy and sunk all our savings. Rural. Dh finished his training and secured a job in the industry near our block of land. We moved into temporary accommodation nearby to save until we could afford to build. Most people would not choose to live at the standard we do - I don't mean that to be smug, it has been difficult. After another 2 years dh landed the best paid job he's ever had (about the median/average household income, which feels flush compared to $12 an hour!), and it took those 2 years to do all the paperwork in preparation for building, and we've finally been able to start building our modest dream home on our perfect block of land. We have been married 15 years now. We have had lots of blessings and advantages. One of them is living in a country with universal healthcare and a social security system. I had 4 babies without paying a cent. Dh has had emergency surgery without paying a cent. We had cultural capital, decent educations, family/social support systems, examples of upward mobility, examples of strong marriages (and, uh, the opposite!) Jobs not requiring degrees still exist and we had low/no debt. I think we made some good decisions and have escaped too much consequence of crappy decisions. Now we are mid 30s and in a pretty good position I think. I have a giant gap in my resume, but with some good connections and a creatively written resume I think I could piece something together if necessary. Dh has built up a good professional reputation and is healthy enough (we think) to work for the foreseeable future. Unforseen curveballs could wreck the whole thing of course! We live rurally, simply, off grid, so a low COL, but within 30 - 60 mins of two good sized towns with universities, hospitals and jobs, and within 2 hours to a major city. Anyway, that's my story.

Oh, lots of reasons.

My beast books arrived yesterday Just wanted to share!

I had a big lump on my neck once, went to my gp quite freaked out, turned out to be from an infected pimple! Glad you went to get it checked, hope you get good news soon.

I'm 33. My oldest is nearly 13.

Pretty similar story here, we were out of sync with the BA5 release schedule. Dd spent 6th grade dabbling through BA5, Jousting Armadillos, Russian Math, Life of Fred Pre A, Khan. I pretty much left it up to her day to day what she wanted to work on. She got a good understanding of negative numbers with Jousting and liked the style. She now aces prime factors from Russian Math. We started Aops Pre A in January for 7th grade and it has been great, still a challenge.

We use it as our main math. I sit with them for the most part, though I try to be hands off. We just work until a natural stopping point, average of two practice pages a day. I use it as a supplement for one child who does better with Singapore style. He mostly just reads the guides.

Baby Love by Robin Barker Honey for a child's heart?

I just want quiet and sleep. And to not feel tired and fat. Just pause the world for a week while I snooze and read, and have it clean when I get back thanks. Actually, what I really want is healed and healthy, respectful relationships. After a week of quiet sleep thankyouverymuch

Love this thread! Your dd and my nearly 13 year old dd have similar taste! She's currently blazing through the other series by the maze runner author...

I do three 12 week trimesters, divided into three 4 week terms. So it goes 4 weeks on, 1 week off, 4 weeks on, 1 week off, 4 weeks on, 2 weeks off. Times 3. And we take off other days as necessary. Then we get about a month off over christmas/new year/summer (Australia.) I'll often do an excursion in our week off.

True! It was mostly the families with younger children who preferred this.

My dd has had 2/3 so far and is due for #3 next month. She did go pale/woozy after the first one which was unusual for her, she's never reacted to vaccinations before. I can't pinpoint the reason but the nurse did say it's not unusual for gardasil. It didn't deter us from completing the course. I have had some surprise/side eye in homeschool circles for getting the gardasil though...

Now, the real question is what are the masculine equivalents? What is a male version of: B*tch, hysterical, sl*t, wh*re, frigid, feminazi... Yeah it was a little weird. We had some older and quite strict traditional homeschool families, but many of the newer/younger families were more casual. Some of the former group still call me Mrs Last name. I have come to the conclusion that homeschool groups are just weird! :D

One has historical and institutionalised power and protections to use... Eta- cross posted Stella! Great minds ;)

We had this debate in our homeschool group a few years ago lol. We ended up with Miss First name (for the most part).

Yay! Looks great!

I just asked my blue collar dh and he said they use girls and boys all the time at work and I was being stupid lol. So there ya go! I stand corrected! :D

Maybe. Or maybe patronising. But someone from the same class using a term doesn't have the institutionalised power to oppress each other in that way. It's like some people of colour use the n word - problematic but not actually racist. A woman calling me girl is meh. A man calling me girl is mildly insulting, a man calling me girl in a professional setting is disrespectful. IMO.

Well I went with office because that seemed to be the scene of the OP. I have no idea about cowboys. For reference, our male builder called his team of male sub contractors 'guys'. I, as site manager, also used 'guys' or first name. When the team included female builders (Yes, we did have that) it was still just first name or guys, but Australia is a pretty casual culture and guys is generally acceptable for any and every situation.

Yep! I cannot picture a woman boss using that language with her team of mostly men. Come on boys, need those files! Can one of you boys bring some coffee to the conference room? Which one of you boys can run this report up to finance?

Yep, that's the patriarchy double bind. You won't ever be the perfect amount of professional/nice to get them to actually listen.