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  1. Good to hear! We're only a few chapters in, but enjoying it so far. It was my oldest son's choice. He once mused about what it would be like to go back in time with modern technology and knowledge... I said there's a book like that!
  2. Awww congratulations!!!
  3. DD just finished tuck everlasting today. I think she has pippi longstocking picked next - I'm letting her pick some easier books this year. She's read call of the wild and phantom tollbooth this year. I'm currently reading aloud A Connecticut Yankee in king Arthur's court. They are also listening to At the back of the north wind audio book.
  4. I'm living a life different to my mother's expectations. I'm sure that she would be supportive if I were gay. She couldn't handle this and refuses to have me - and by extension my children - in her life. Her version of the story is probably very different to mine. A lot of people are hurt. Saying that, I tend to think that these difficulties are less about the 'thing', but the swirling mess of hopes, expectations, fear and baggage surrounding.
  5. Haha! Dh played this during highschool! He conned me into reading one of the books and darn it if I wasn't hooked! Op, you could go old school with Asimov's Foundation trilogy. I'm nearly finished reading Little Big which is fantasy.
  6. I've been listening to swb's writing lectures recently too (over and over again!), then I went back through The Complete Writer again. It has really helped me get a grasp on what I'm teaching, I love that it is so explicit. This stuff was never explained when I was at school, I got lucky and intuited enough to get good marks - but I felt like I was flying blind.
  7. Scheduling and organisation in parenting. I used to be very relaxed and go with the flow, baby led. Now I can see the value in forming good habits, having respect for time and really regret not instilling some order in my home from the very beginning.
  8. I'm right there with you and feeling like a total failure this week...
  9. What do they mean by 'things have changed'? I'd probably either completely ignore it - any response feeds the drama. Or, I'd call their bluff - I'd ask what exactly they are expecting from a relationship with me, that you're not convinced that a healthy relationship is possible. I'd need us to do at least 6 months of therapy with a psychologist of my choice, that there will be no face to face contact during this time - or whatever you would honestly need to consider this.
  10. Our wedding was more expensive than I had planned, because whenever my mother or mother in law came shopping with me, they insisted on paying for more expensive options! First kid's wedding on both sides, they were very excited. We didn't ask or expect any money and would have been very happy with a simpler, smaller wedding. My in-laws paid for all the flowers, my mother paid for the cake and my dress. Each paid for their own guests at the reception - which was the bulk of the cost. We had a buffet. Very very difficult to cater for less than $50 per head - we had a little under 100 people. I did other things inexpensively, we married in our church, an aunt did all the stationary as a gift, friend of a friend student photographer, our own music playlist, bonbonierre was simple chocolate hearts.
  11. Thanks for sharing Corraleno. I'm sorry that you went through that. I have some identical stories, ambushed by the golden sister and all!
  12. I'm dying to know how she reacted to the letter! (Please don't feel obligated to answer) I just ignored the nasty, gaslighting letter. No point responding, may as well bang my head against a brick wall. Now I'm wondering if it would have been somewhat cathartic!
  13. You can look up shipping container homes too!
  14. I think khan is a great idea. Eta- what about working through the other Singapore books? Challenging word problems, extra practice, intensive practice etc.
  15. Awww that is so sweet and exciting! Hope it happens smoothly and quickly for you!
  16. I do the weekly list for my oldest, and a daily list for my next oldest. It has really made a difference here. I also make up a term's worth of daily packets, so we just grab the next one and it has all the worksheets that we need. Helps keep me on track too. Only for my 3rd & k kids though, the oldest has more actual books than worksheets.
  17. Sorry Tsuga, my response was a bit over emotional. I get what you're saying. I just tend to err on the side of trusting the parents, who have the context, when they feel the line between uncouth/damaging has been crossed.
  18. And what if one of those smokers called you to yell at you? Things like how dare you tell them when or where they can smoke, they'll smoke when they want and you can't stop them. Things like 'well, you wouldn't know if I smoked around your kids when you're not there!', or 'now I want to smoke around you all even more!' No, they haven't actually physically hurt the kids. But they are making the relationship difficult and emotionally unsafe. Yes, I really had this exact conversation with my parent. It was indicative of deeper dysfunction, I couldn't allow my children to learn that people are allowed to treat you so badly if they share blood. We no longer see them.
  19. Pick one. Lol. Actually, after reading the other responses, I have to say stability. I married dh young because he is an absolutely rock solid personality. To a fault sometimes. Over emotional responses is another one, I cannot stop crying and panicking if dh and I argue. It is so ingrained, I automatically believe that one day he will snap and either beat me or walk out (13 years so far so good!) He is of course hurt that I would still think that. I can't help it. I think I am still bitter about some things...
  20. One thing I did was have my kids (the 8 & 10 y/o) write a list of the things they loved most and really wanted time for, to the things they liked less. They could put 10 things down each. They loved that activity. It then allowed us to compare our lists with where we spent our time, useful for evaluating if a good thing was good enough value for the time. Sounds like science and art would be top of the list and she can choose them with the co-op. What high list item does the charter meet?
  21. I wouldn't. It will be harder to pull out a settled and happy 10/11/12 year old. Of course she doesn't want to leave, change is hard and scary. There simply isn't enough time for every good thing. We had to make the difficult decision to leave a great music teacher because her methods required at least 2 days out of the house a week, not even full days. We did it for a year and it was tough to pull the kids. But it was exhausting. We had no time to do field trips or catch up with actual friends. We fell behind in school. There was no leeway for illnesses. In the end we all drew up a priority list and we found a better fit. We said a difficult goodbye to the truly lovely teacher, and did what was best for the family. It did involve some bribery ;) The kids are now very happy with the change, but they didn't have the maturity to make a good decision. It's our job to make the decisions and help them deal with it.
  22. I had some similar experiences at school. I remember an English teacher handing back assignments in order from lowest grade to highest... I was highest. Then in maths, all the boys (I was one of 3 girls in the class) had to see what the girls' test scores were, and felt very emasculated when I beat them. Same year. The English/humanities teachers were all over me trying to mentor me, the maths teacher barely knew my name. No one suggested that I might like to take more stem subjects, or go into a maths related field. I actually think I would have liked accounting and finance but they were soooo not cool.
  23. Wow! That's awful! And I agree, there's certainly a tone taken with us sometimes, like I'm trying to create snobs or something...
  24. Honestly, this is part of one big reason that I homeschool. To keep my daughter out of the gender stereotype machine until she is secure enough in herself to not succumb to the pressure. She's nearly 11 and so far, so good. She literally glares at people who may suggest that girls are not as good as boys at something. She is very intuitive at maths (like I was - but never encouraged!) and she has absolute confidence that she is good at math! I do see that the home schoolers around me tend to either like math and take teaching it seriously, or they outsource it - MUS is very popular. I'm not saying that's a bad thing! They are not in any way trying to ignore maths. But they both fall under same side of the bigger divide that I see, people who actively work to give their kids a great education, and people who... don't. I had someone ask me if they really hard to teach up through algebra (she only had a boy). Ummm... yes. Yes you do, or you outsource that.
  25. My DD is doing really well with the virtual instructor.
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