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  1. 14 minutes ago, Kuovonne said:

    I’m posting in interest of showing another side. You will probably judge me and my kid harshly. That’s okay. I knew what I was getting my kid into and I did it eyes wide open. She did not, but she was only following my guidance. I am the co-signer on her loans and I plan on making sure that those loans get repaid. She will have taken out over $120,000 in loans by the time she graduates and will be lucky if she can land a job that covers living expenses, much less enough to pay down debt.

    No judgment--just curiosity.   What is the motivation for your thought-out decision, if you care to share?

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  2. 4 hours ago, Kidlit said:

    So far--none.  Both my oldest got full rides to our local university.   Knowing how much NOT having student loan debt helped me and dh get started in young adulthood, this has always been something we encouraged them to work towards.   One got all merit aid for tuition to a state university that would require her to go away to live on campus, and after counting the cost of housing, child decided to go local.  We were holding our breaths but allowing child to make an independent decision about it, and child eventually did choose the no-cost solution. 

    I will say that merit aid ain't what it used to be.  Both kids have stats within a point (or same as) mine and dh's, and we both qualified for full rides at big state schools (& elsewhere) 30 years ago but chose the local uni.  Both kids qualified for tuition elsewhere but not housing.  It makes me a little sad, but that's just the way it is.  We have always instilled in them how helpful it is to not start adulthood behind financially, so I'm thankful that at least they absorbed that message and seem happy enough to be where they are for free. 

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  3. So far--none.  Both my oldest got full rides to our local university.   Knowing how much NOT having student loan debt helped me and dh get started in young adulthood, this has always been something we encouraged them to work towards.   One got all merit aid for tuition to a state university that would require her to go away to live on campus, and after counting the cost of housing, child decided to go local.  We were holding our breaths but allowing child to make an independent decision about it, and child eventually did choose the no-cost solution. 

  4. 46 minutes ago, Faith-manor said:

    Build them?

    Okay, so the adult males moved.out and took their prize Legos with them. But every once in a while I see new Lego kits that are so cool, like the Christmas Carol Dickens set or the flowers, or the James Bond car, and I say, "Aren't these cool?" which my adult children take to mean, "Mom would love to build these Legos". This resulted in me being gifted the Dickens, the flowere, and the car at Christmas. That was fine. I love that my kids put thought into these things, and along with the Legos I got new sewing snips, replacement gingher shears, etc. They are great kids! But, it has now morphed into something that has scared the tar out of me. They all went in on a Lego kit of one of my favorite Van Gogh paintings, StarryNight. This darn kit is something like 2000 pieces. It is still sitting on the shelf. None of the kids know I haven't built it yet, and Mark has been told to keep him mouth shut about it. Now I had a crisis. ALL of them will be home Aug. 5 and 6. With four of them, a daughter in law, and a son in law traipsing around here somebody is going to notice it isn't done even if I hide the box. " Mom? Where your Starry Night?" 😮 I leave for vacation at 3 pm today. We don't get back until July 23. I will have 13 days to get ready for company/grandsons AND build that darned monstrosity! 😱💀

    Legos can kill. If you never hear from me again after July 23, you will know I expired in a pile of Legos.

    This TICKLES me!  I have coveted that set but never really verbalized it for fear of what happened to you happening to me.  
     

    maybe it should be a family project!  

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  5. I tie off.  Many full coverage (every square stitched) stitchers will carry their threads.  I tried a little on this one but found it awkward and unwieldy.  

    7 minutes ago, Miss Tick said:

    Pretty, pretty! This is a skill I've never experienced, so if my question is indelicate please laugh it off, but I'm curious what the back looks like? Are colors carried along or do they get tired off frequently?

    ETA: I will try to remember to come back and share a pic of the back. 

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  6. Just now, lovinmyboys said:

    I’m probably no help. We have several IKEA shelves (the cube kind and the floating ones) full of Lego creations. I have four boys who all were into Lego at one time (and a couple who still are) so we have lots of Lego and no one wants to get rid of them. It is such a hassle too because we have moved 3 times with a large collection.

    I also have several bookshelves of games and books- so that is how our house is decorated, shelves of Lego, books, and games.

    Sounds. . . like home 🤣

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  7. 7 minutes ago, Katy said:

    I’m not sure my family situation is at all similar so it probably won’t help… The one kid that cares about them has shelves in his room to display them. When he runs out of space he has to choose which get donated.

    The kids who don’t care about them play with them until they fall apart. When I inevitably step on tiny sharp pieces I throw them out. DD4 still puts things in her mouth (probable autism, oral stimulation thing) and I consider them a choking hazard, which all the kids know. They can keep them if they stay in their own rooms, but if they’re on the floor in common areas they go in the trash without notice. No one seems to mind. 

    Youngest of 4, no littles, here.  He has some in his (shared) room, also.  
     

    may be time for a hard conversation 😬

  8. DS10 has many sets that are complete.  He did keep a lot of them on the shelves of a console table that was behind the loveseat in our living room. For me it was kind of "out of sight, out of mind" because I rarely noticed them and I doubt many people would due to the location of the table. Yesterday we got a new-to-us living room suite (suit? Set?) and the console table will have to go, so currently the legos are on our kitchen table. 
     

    what is your Lego solution?

  9. This is an interesting conversation, and I have a very sincere question.  I have tried to research it a little, and my very minimal research tells me one thing, but I want to put it to the Hive.  One of my book clubs is for the BFG, and I am looking at a related craft.  Would it be inappropriate cultural appropriation if we make a dreamcatcher and talk about how the Lakota (?) have this belief and practice, using the BFG as a jumping off point? (Kind of as a crafty-aside--not the point of the club at all.). 
     

    My research tells me it's okay as long as you don't profit from it or do it disrespectfully. 
     

    I am here to learn. 

  10. Just now, Farrar said:

    I agree with those saying it's "non-negotiable" that child that young take the medication. But there's a difference between drawing that line between a kid who will ultimately comply and a kid who just won't. Seven is too old to hold a screaming, kicking kid down and force a medication in her mouth. It just is. And there's a trauma involved in that which isn't necessarily productive, no matter how necessary the meds are. I have a feeling this is the sort of choice we're talking about.

    OP, hugs. I hope you get some solutions soon.

    Yes, this.  

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  11. Chiming in to say with a boatload of btdt experience that there is no reasoning with a 7 yo in the throes of panic and anxiety.   In my experience, the anxiety activation alone is enough to hijack a child's will to make it nearly impossible for that child to make a reasoned decision in the moment.  
     

    ETA:  Agreeing with other posters that "being the rock" and insisting on the desired action is the best you can do and will hopefully (eventually) reach the desired outcome.  
     

    big (((hugs)))

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  12. 1 minute ago, KrissiK said:

    I hate to be a Debbie Downer, but this. I am 55. Never been rail thin, thanks to genes, but never had a weight problem. If i needed to shed a few pounds, it was fairly easy. Then menopause hit.  I am now about 40 lbs. overweight. I will be honest that there are some stress factors/cortisol issues in my life that others may not have that are contributing to my problem,  but still, I went from having to take in the waistband of every pair of pants I own to having a muffin top. Weight distribution also drastically changes. 

    49 here and can attest to this.  I hate it but can't muster the energy to make it different (in whatever ways I could). 

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