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  1. Actually, I have no idea if anyone is following me or how to turn that on.
  2. You don't want to follow me; I don't know where I am going in life! 😉
  3. None of y'all have visited my profile in a week. Now I am offended. Am I not stalk-worthy? *sulk*sigh* 😉
  4. This is our current stance. My son is 13 and does not have social media. There's good stuff that comes with SM, but a heck of a lot of bad stuff, too, and at 13, he does not have the emotional maturity to filter out the bad stuff. Heck, many days I wonder if *I* have the maturity to filter out all the bad stuff! I have known so many kids that don't fit in with the dominant culture. Some of them have done brilliantly and become secure, fascinating young adults with satisfying friendships. They use SM sparingly because they're busy with so many other things. Others turned out insecure and kind of fretful that they don't "fit in". They have SM, too. I think it comes down, (to some extent), to how the parents frame their experience. Is being an outlier a positive? Or is it seen as a problem in need of a solution?
  5. This happened to me at Tractor Supply. They never marked that I picked up my order of chicken feed and sent a few nagging emails to remind me to pick up. I ignored the emails because there wasn't any way to respond "I already got it". A week later, they refunded the money I paid for the bag. I admit that I only gave fixing the issue a half-hearted attempt. I never got a response to my email about it and I let it drop because I didn't want to chase them down over $13. If it was a large amount of money, I'd be more persistent in getting it sorted out because I would not want to be accused of theft later on. I assume that most businesses have some sort of auditing process that catches big discrepancies. It probably isn't worth their time to pursue small charges like for a bag of chicken feed.
  6. I met my husband playing a video game, lol. We've been together 15 years, so I can't say that video games necessarily lead to immaturity or bad outcomes. 😄 Your husband should spend some time with typical middle school boys. They're super into video games, but like Katie said, the games aren't really anything you want your middle school sons playing, (Call of Duty, Grand Theft Auto, etc). Even if you ban those particular games from your house, the kids still get exposed to that material in school; it's what the other boys are talking about, they've all got phones, they share screen shots, youtube videos, etc. If they don't play those games, they get teased. We ran into this a little bit in the local homeschool group, actually. A couple of the families let their tween boys play CoD and GTA, and the boys started teasing my son because we do not have those games in the house. The dad in those families was into those types of games and encouraged the sons to play, too. My DH isn't into those types of games at all, and has encouraged my son to play the sort of games we like: puzzle games, Dungeons & Dragons/fantasy type games, Mario games. Maybe your spouse could spend some time modeling the behaviors and hobbies he wants to see in your sons. If he thinks they need more good old-fashioned, wholesome boyhood activities like the days of yore 🙄, then he should start taking them to the batting cages, shooting baskets, help them build a tree house, etc.
  7. I felt clueless and apart from a lot of kid-culture because I was the only kid in my class with divorced parents. There was a lot of stuff I did not get to do because weekends were reserved for visitation with dad. My parents weren't willing to communicate to figure out how to make visitation and activities work, so the "solution" was that I just didn't get to participate. Since I wasn't available on weekends, friendships were limited. One of my parents has very severe social anxiety and the other was strict, so things like "Can I go to the movies with a friend?" was a complicated question to ask. Everything was complicated. Movies, friendships, parties, trying to find a job in high school...super, super complicated in ways that my friends did not experience. Attending school isn't a guarantee of an easy social life.
  8. If I had known that my son would not remember even half of what we did, I would have not stressed so much about our activities and done a whole lot less. 😂 Children's theater shows? Nope, he doesn't remember Tumbling class? No recollection Nature classes at the park? No Our first art teacher? *blank stare*
  9. Thank you. ❤️ This does help. What you said about doing things on his timeline resonates deeply.
  10. Coming back to this to add that the social part of homeschooling has been a mess. But I suspect it would have been a mess if I'd sent kiddo to school, too. It simply would have been a different sort of mess. He's always been kind of an odd duck compared to the other kids. I remember being at the park with him when he was 3 and being utterly blown away by how "worldly" the other little kids were. They were jabbering away about all sorts of things, and my kid was still interested in parallel play and barely talked. He *could* talk; he just didn't do it which baffled and stressed me out. Sometimes he'd play with other kids, but a lot of the time, he did not. Once he figured out how to read, he became a chatter box and talked my ear off. It's always been that way. He's always been an outlier. We tried pre-school and kindy and he simply wasn't into it. I signed him up for all sorts of drop-off activities with kids when he was 7 and 8, and he'd stress out, cry, and ask me "Why do you want to get rid of me?" Ack! I'm not trying to get rid of you, kid. I'm just trying to help you socialize! It's better now that he's older (13). He's fine with drop off stuff, but he really didn't ease into it until he was 10-ish. Of course, now there's Covid and in-person activities are off the table! *bangs head* He does some online gaming with kid groups I found on fb, and he prefers I butt out of those events. When we still did park days, he was happy to go and said he loved it. I used to drop him off for art classes, and he had a great time. He would horse around and wrestle with the other boys after class. But he's never really sought this stuff out on his own. He's not really into "teen" stuff yet; he's still happy to watch animated movies and Lego Masters on tv. He couldn't care less about fashion, music, or tik tok. Once again, all the other kids are more "worldly" and he's just not into any of it. I don't think that putting him in school would "fix" that particular problem. I don't know that it really is a problem? It's not really something I can correct. He's just...not in sync with the other kids. He is who he is. My gut feeling is that he's probably not going to really hit his stride socially until college. All I can do is keep offering opportunities for him to connect with other kids. ETA: I was already stressing out about the social stuff today, so most of this comment is me talking myself down off the ledge.
  11. It sounds like your mom just wanted to be angry about something. She was either going to be mad about the trampoline and get you to be mad with her OR she was going to be mad about the trampoline AND mad that you aren't mad with her. I wouldn't pitch a fit about this with your aunt's caregivers. If they are generally trustworthy people, I'd let it go and continue to trust that they are capable of making good decisions for your aunt's care. They live with your aunt every day and know her abilities better than anyone else.
  12. I've never really been career motivated. I like having a job; I don't really care about a "career". My biggest dream in life was house and a family of my own. Homeschooling is hard and I always worry that I am failing my son. I worry that he'll regret this choice later on and be angry with it. But for me personally? It's been a dream.
  13. Even older than that! It was around in the 60s. You could get it in glass bottles in the 1970s. My dad still has a *tube* of it at his house. Yikes. I haven't seen a tube in stores for at least 20 years.
  14. I am going to do a full shopping trip tonight, just to clock how many steps it takes. I am only going to HEB; Walmart stresses me out too much to ever set foot in there again. I wish we had Aldi here. We have HEB and Walmart. No Target, no Whole Foods, no Trader Joe's, no Kroger. There is a tiny local market here, but it's like stepping back in time to 1973. Tiny aisles and brands that I haven't seen in a big store in decades, (Prell, anyone?)
  15. I timed my "just a few things" trip: deli meat, grapes, bagels, chicken, mayo, milk. It was 20 minutes from my car and back again. Waiting at the deli counter was the biggest block of time (5 minutes). I didn't wander the store and picked up items in the order of the aisles. I used self checkout, too, so no waiting in line. I also clocked it with my pedometer app: it was 1000 steps, which is about 0.4 miles, from car into store and back. I did not park particularly far away from the store, either; I think I was 6 spots away from the door. The store is BIG. Now I am curious how many miles I could cover on a regular shopping trip.
  16. Wow, the prices for the Art Student league are really good! I am paying the same price for "just for fun" art classes for kids and teens.
  17. This is normal for around here, lol. There's another co-op that won't tell you any class information until after you pay the membership fee. The membership fee is separate from fees for classes; it's the fee you pay to get on their email list, see what classes are offered, and be allowed to attend their park days. I and another woman pointed out that we didn't want to pay just to find out there were no classes available or of interest. No dice. Pay $20 if you want to find out. They have lots of people willing to pay just to look at the schedule. Nice work if you can get it. 😒
  18. Gotcha. We have the same issue here. Lots of things for littles, nothing for kids older than 10. It's baffling, IMO.
  19. Regarding art instruction for your child, have you googled "Fine art instruction" for your area? My son takes a mixed media class that is more "art for fun" than formal instruction in, say, perspective or composition. He's learning some fun techniques and how to work with different media, but he's not specifically going to be taught how to draw portraits or anything like that. Is there an art museum, gallery, or college with an art program in your area? I would poke around in those places and ask if they know of anyone that teaches teens. I hope you can find something! I know the frustration you are feeling, as I have been pushing against the same sort of thing where I live.
  20. We tried a co-op that routinely pulled these stunts. Sign up for watercolor painting, get told it will be calligraphy instead. Sign up for ASL, get told it's now "Movie Day" and there will be no ASL. And then get yelled at and told my "negativity was not wanted" when I complained that I wasn't getting what I paid for. We bailed on that mess.
  21. When I shopped in person, yeah, it took an hour. The stores here are HUGE and people use grocery shopping time as social time. The aisles are always crowded with people chatting and la-di-da-ing in the snack aisle. I am not particularly worried about getting Covid at the grocery store, because like I said, it's HUGE (the size of a Home Depot or Lowe's) and well ventilated. I do curbside now just because it saves so much time.
  22. This would not surprise me. My doctor plays K-Love in the waiting room of her office. A few hours after being there, my fb feed was full of ads for women's Christian life coaching services. I am not Christian. 😒
  23. If he invites you to his room to sit for awhile, then go. I'd assume he cleared it with his roommate, like he'd do for any other guest coming over. The roommate might have other things to do and not even be there. I never minded when my roommate's parents came to visit. They were nice people and usually invited me along for dinner! 😄
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