I had my meeting with legal aid. It was anticlimactic. Hopefully I hear back in 3 weeks. Question: if I get a lot of child support and spousal support now, can't he just take me back to court to get it reduced?

Thank you katilac, great suggestions. Historymatters and JanetC, your conversation has helped me to think this through some more. Thank you.

Thank you all. My state only requires attendance records. Nothing else. But she's supposed to be in high school and isn't so I am not sure how they would handle that.

I mean... this would be great. I dont trust the system to help. I trust them to blame me and take my kids from me. And to not believe her an push her too hard. It's common with crohns disease.

Okay I will try asking about that

I see my pastor very rarely. Just started because of this. Doctors appointments just started as well. I've met with my case manager 3 times. My therapist 4 times. None of whom have met my daughter. Thank you

Thank you so much. I'm working on it. 🤗

Actually she is less disabled than she was. She is able to cook for herself most of the time now. I am also less disabled than I was because I am on a lot of herbal medication. We just got insurance and have doctors appointments every week. I do have diagnosis but they are 10 and 20 years back.

That's fine as long as it continues LOL

My son is 10 and his main problem is handwriting... any suggestions for that?

She had brain damage and could barely read for over a year but she is doing much better with reading now.

It was the first attorney I called. He said we'd need proof of my and my daughter's disability by calling witnesses (which I don't have, we're isolated) which would be unlikely and cost thousands more.

I've been looking at that one and the tutoring version sounds like a good idea at first.

My state is a no fault state. No alimony. Only temporary spousal maintence that would require loads of proof that its needed. Even if I could get it I'm not sure he can afford it. The child support calculator only changes by about $75 a month no matter how drastically I change my income.

I have a hope phone from my advocate. ^-^ We were in a shelter and had to leave because of my daughter's health issues. She had lost 8 lbs and they wouldn't let her eat off schedule.

thank you. I'll check it out.

Thank you all. I have an appointment with an attorney but I'm so nervous. It is at 4pm on a Thursday. I have to lie about where I am going. It's downtown. I'm afraid I will get lost and he will definitely know where I am. I am going to say it's group therapy. (It's at a women's shelter.) He saw that I called a lawyers intake line 2 weeks ago and freaked out on me. Demanding to know if I had a lawyer and the details. Called me a liar saying that I agreed to doing this without lawyers... and I might. I know that there are no assets. We filed for bankruptcy 18 months ago and I did the paperwork. He gets paid cash occasionally but only a few hundred dollars here and there. Nothing major. And right now He is working with me... at least allowing me time, buying my medicine, and a computer so I can start a work from home job. There was a 9am appointment as well but the kids and I typically sleep until 12. I dont think I can make that one. I'm less likely to have to lie about that one though so idk.

She is a brilliant writer. Hasn't learned to diagram sentences or write form letters but other than that is not behind in english. Just math and just not being used to structured school in general especially for content subjects

I have to delay because I have very little proof of anything and it just looks like a clear cut case of a lazy and neglectful mother right now. :'( besides feeding my kids, which wasnt easy due to special diets, he took all my time and energy.

Because he is in the honeymoon stage i think things would be easier with him. Honeymoon stages sometimes last a long time, and we could get counseling. But after he assaulted me I just can't imagine ever being able to handke sex with him again. Thank you Scarlett.

Secular is very much preferred. We are barely doing three subjects per day now (our style for grammar school was to combine as much as possible) so this transition will be very hard. If I do enroll them in K12 and they are behind, will they then come back with "your kids were being neglected" and it cause problems?

I am afraid of getting public school involved at all and being accused of neglect. K-12 is public school too...

He is being reasonable now. Giving me time... the kids do very little school sporadically and stay up all night very often. I'm trying to change that but it's incredibly hard with our health problems. We have doctor appointments every week not counting counseling. Reality. It's hard. So hard. He is acting like we aren't splitting at all. And it just seems like I have no choice again. I start thinking that this life is purgatory, and at this point I no longer care. I dont want more refining. I just want relief and I dont care what form it comes in. I cried so much last night that my eyes got swollen. They look like they are infected now. And I'm supposed to pull myself together and do more now than I was able to before. It's so so hard. Maybe knowing about women's rights is a bad thing. Because reality is reality. Some of us really do have to be sex slaves to survive. Then again, that was breaking me too.

My kid has been very very sick and is now picking back up with TT6 for math, 6th grade in most subjects but should be in high school according to age (15 1/2). Any suggestions?

I just need to meet standards. We've been unschooling for the most part. My kids are used to only doing two structured subjects a day. That needs to change because of divorce/custody issues. My son has a very hard time with handwriting. He wants to revert to upper case letters. Is there anything online that will help?