I had my meeting with legal aid. It was anticlimactic. Hopefully I hear back in 3 weeks. Question: if I get a lot of child support and spousal support now, can't he just take me back to court to get it reduced?

Thank you katilac, great suggestions. Historymatters and JanetC, your conversation has helped me to think this through some more. Thank you.

Thank you all. My state only requires attendance records. Nothing else. But she's supposed to be in high school and isn't so I am not sure how they would handle that.

I mean... this would be great. I dont trust the system to help. I trust them to blame me and take my kids from me. And to not believe her an push her too hard. It's common with crohns disease.

Okay I will try asking about that

I see my pastor very rarely. Just started because of this. Doctors appointments just started as well. I've met with my case manager 3 times. My therapist 4 times. None of whom have met my daughter. Thank you

Thank you so much. I'm working on it. 🤗

Actually she is less disabled than she was. She is able to cook for herself most of the time now. I am also less disabled than I was because I am on a lot of herbal medication. We just got insurance and have doctors appointments every week. I do have diagnosis but they are 10 and 20 years back.

That's fine as long as it continues LOL

My son is 10 and his main problem is handwriting... any suggestions for that?

She had brain damage and could barely read for over a year but she is doing much better with reading now.

It was the first attorney I called. He said we'd need proof of my and my daughter's disability by calling witnesses (which I don't have, we're isolated) which would be unlikely and cost thousands more.

I've been looking at that one and the tutoring version sounds like a good idea at first.

My state is a no fault state. No alimony. Only temporary spousal maintence that would require loads of proof that its needed. Even if I could get it I'm not sure he can afford it. The child support calculator only changes by about $75 a month no matter how drastically I change my income.

I have a hope phone from my advocate. ^-^ We were in a shelter and had to leave because of my daughter's health issues. She had lost 8 lbs and they wouldn't let her eat off schedule.