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  1. Thank you all. Just the process of typing it out/speaking it in my head was helpful to me. Unfortunately, it seems as though most see this going the way I thought. Even if friend does a complete 180, there is no guarantee that the brother will leave dd alone. I can't trust that civility will be enforced from the brother or any other of the circle-of-friends of the family. Dd says that she is so over it at this point. ? This was the first friend that dd made by herself, as in not connected to a family that we were all friends with. She came along at a delicate time in dd's life because ds had just stopped being with us and we were trying to find normal again. He had been all-consuming in our lives, and dd was depressed. It is very hard to explain what this friendship accomplished at that point in her life. I don't want her feel that alone again. I just need dd to be ok.
  2. We are working on this. She has a few new friendships that have started recently. They were on a soccer team together, and dd invited them to her birthday party. Since then she has had the opportunity to go shopping and have lunch with two of them. It went well. Dd develops friends slowly. She isn't really the type to jump in with both feet, she tip-toes in. I still hate that things have changed with her best friend. Friend is a follower and people pleaser with a much more mild demeanor. Outside of the glaring flaw that developed in their friendship, she had been a good friend to dd. I am still hoping she will evaluate this development ( dd pulling away) and make a better choice. As far as her brother...I just don't know what can be done about that. Talking to his mom has not made anything better. ETA: Oh, and if we were friends with any of these parents, it might be easier to handle things. But I only know friend's parents, and we have an acquaintance-ship at best. I had hoped that there would have been a friendship at one point but then stuff started happening....
  3. Thank you! Deleted for privacy and because other homeschoolers are involved (who could be WTMers but probably not). ?
  4. I do feel like I spend most of the day in the kitchen, but i do it anyway. We could not afford (money or weight wise) to eat out all the time. It has taken me a long time to get over the thought that each meal has to be perfect or perfectly matched. I used to be like, "Well, I can't make spaghetti because I don't have stuff for salad." or something similar. But then I realized that spaghetti served with green beans is much better than a fast food meal healthwise so I have gotten over my notions...mostly ?.
  5. Though never confirmed, Marburg was at one time questioned to be bat related. A guy (Or 2?) contracted Marburg after being in a cave in Kenya (I think) ETA: 1n 1980 and 87 both from the same cave. Then in Gabon and Uganda they found Marburg, one was a mine worker in 2007. All places had the same type of bat, The theory being that aerosolized guano of an African bat species was the culprit. THere shouldn't be any AFrican bat species in Thailand, so hopefully all will be well!
  6. I, personally, hate Tidy cat litter. You may need to just experiment with litter. I like Scoop Away clumping litter. Arm and Hammer clumping litters are also good. The cat boxes are in the bathrooms, so I just scoop a little each time I go in. I have a cat Genie next to each box and really like it. That way I can scoop without planning in advance -don't have to go get a bag etc. And I don't waste a whole bag for 2-3 clumps. I have three cats and they all seem to prefer the downstairs box.
  7. I live in the south-ish (SE VA), and I would mix them all up anyway ?. ...And that is with the knowledge of all the different bbq types. I will turn in my southern card now.
  8. ETA: Not thinking that you were being hard on him. I have seen it being debated elsewhere. Yeah, I can't begin to imagine what that weight must feel like as he looked at all those scared, hungry boys for 9/10 days. Then he would have been so relieved to see a rescuer only to find out that it wouldn't be that simple! Oh my goodness, the idea of all those emotions multiplied by 12 kids/teens. They have been through so much. And to think of the parents who feel so helpless as they can only wait. ...I get so emotional about this type of thing, myself, and I have the luxury of being completely detached from the situation.
  9. This happens at my house all the time! I have said, "you just stopped listening after that first sentence, didn't you?" numerous times.
  10. Right on the cusp of their rainy season, he certainly didn't make the best choice. But, He has obviously done a good job of keeping the boys alive. I'm sure he has felt some horrible pains of regret ever since. I can't help but to feel sorry for him too.
  11. Somewhat off topic, but: The time-line of SpaceX is pretty remarkable. Their Dragon (shuttle) delivered cargo to the space station back in 2012. Our govt/NASA is much slower and further behind.
  12. Yep, 50 years ago. Our tech and abilities have come a long way since then! We can do this! ETA: I am normally a realist, in my everyday life, I swear! Just not during disasters/extreme situations.
  13. I get the situation, that's why I acknowledge that the unrealistic/eternal optimist part of my brain is having trouble looking at the idea that some of these boys might not make it. Diving them out is a bad idea, but may have to be attempted anyway. I just can't fathom that with all the brilliant people in this world that we could let anyone die when we know exactly where they are and can physically touch them. Like I said, eternal optimist. I had a really hard time with the story about the boy who died while trapped in the back of a minivan even though he was able to call 911. That just shouldn't have happened either. IDK, I have weird notions in my weird brain. That all said, I had a similar rant with my dh about all the Mars talk and stuff. He just called to tell me that Musk has sent some of his Boring engineers to be of assistance. They claim to have some pretty advanced ground-penetrating radar and such. I know that drilling in was not on the top of the list of preferred rescue methods for multiple reasons, but I am glad to see all options on the table.
  14. This thought is so distressing! I must be some sort of eternal optimist because I just can't can't accept that as a possible reality. I can't deny that the outcome exists, but can't imagine it to be true. We can send people to the moon for goodness sake, we can re-land rockets. Talk of colonizing Mars is all the rage, but we can't get some kids out of a cotton pickin cave right here on Earth! How is that possible!!!!
  15. Dd was 9 (and not dentally mature, so her dental age was more equivalent to 8). She had a crossbite that was causing gum loss. The dentist sent us to the orthodontist because it would eventually lead to bone loss. She had braces for just shy of a year. She is now 16 and did not/does not need a second phase. I am so happy with her teeth and very glad that we did it this way even though it seemed so strange to have a 9 yr old (still with baby teeth) in braces.
  16. Congratulations and I will definitely remember you in my prayers!
  17. Your latter paragraphs seem to say all that needs to be said: "....I know inside I'm done, I feel sick with fear that our little mishap could result in a pregnancy and I don't know how I'll cope if it does....." I understand your concerns, though, about making it final. We had infertility and managed to conceive one. I had to have a hysterectomy at 36 and that's pretty darn final. I started out wanting several children, but I am total peace now. I will be 40 when dd turns 18. There are wonderful blessings about starting the empty nest years while only 40! I figure I will be able to start a new career, enjoy some light travel, enjoy my grandchildren with a little energy left, etc. Pray on it, make the decision and live with it. See how it feels to say out loud, "we're done. Honey, schedule your vasectomy." If either of you feels distress as the procedure approaches then you can always cancel it. I have usually found peace once I finally gave myself permission to make that decision. I put off that hysterectomy for a long time, even though deep down I knew we didn't want to start all over with a preteen or teen. I felt better once I decided. You two need to do what's right for you and your family. Don't worry about what the others around you are urging (or me! or anyone else here either). Enjoy your family!
  18. My mom has a 2010. SHe has had minor repairs, but nothing big/expensive. I drive it a lot, and it's a nice car. It's a much quieter drive (and much roomier) than our Matrix . Road noise is my only complaint with my Matrix. My squirrels got her car too, twice in fact! She lives next door. I started feeding them in the back yard to try and draw them back there cause my mom freaked out that her insurance would drop her if she had another squirrel related claim.
  19. We are a small church. About two-three Sundays a month, a member will bring in a banana bread or coffee cake that they made to share. There is always coffee. Our secretary puts out a small amount of mints in a little dish. She has a huge box of them but portions them out this way to help prevent kids from coming up and getting hand-fulls. The "older" adults class occasionally has doughnuts in their Sunday School room, but no one knows that unless you go in there. Our kids and youth don't have food or snacks as a general rule. Preschoolers have crackers available if needed, but there is not a set snack time. The helpers will pull them out if kids start getting grouchy. It is extremely easy to avoid food if you want. Dd, Dh, and myself rarely partake of any offerings (usually to busy). Four to five times a year we have breakfast for a special service. I am one of the organizers, and I always make sure that someone brings fruit and someone does hard boiled eggs. Some ladies will do sweet stuff and some will do healthier casseroles. There is always a variety even though we are small in number.
  20. Yeah I know crazy, right? We told people not to light any matches in our driveway cause a squirrel might blow up. The Toyota mechanic that diagnosed it acted like he sees this kind of thing all the time. ? Apparently the "T" on the front of the car stands for tasty.
  21. yes, 2008. The only problems we have had were 1. squirrels ate part of the gas tank exhaust system (requiring a replacement of the whole gas tank as it is all attached) and 2. the stupid Takata airbag thing.
  22. The Vibe would be a good choice. Our Matrix is 10yrs old and has been great!
  23. Dd got a tracphone on her 14th birthday. It has been immensely helpful. I'm very glad we got it, and we have not run into any issues/drawbacks.
  24. Yeah, it might be worth a third opinion as it is hard to know, without more info or reviews, which of the 2 is the quack. Obviously only 1 of them can right, but how can you know which one for sure?
  25. I'm so sorry. Death is so hard for those of us who remain. I hope you're able to get closer to your family. ...And I really enjoy tea and the combination of fruit/chocolate, but I will settle for a crunch bar in a pinch!
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