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  1. We chose a delayed/slow vaccine schedule for one of our 5 kids and all of the others had a typical schedule. We opted for for a slow schedule for our son with autism. I knew almost after birth he had autism and my pediatrician thought I was crazy. At 15 months after the MMR vaccine we had alot of regression. So much so our pediatrician became concerned. I remember telling him I did not believe it was vax induced but that the inflammation caused from the vaccine led to some regressive symptoms. He quickly got us connected with an in house therapist who started work with him weekly. We have continued to notice that after each vaccine, even to this day he has a tough time for a bit after. Usually just a couple of weeks. He does this when he is sick too unless it is a fever and then he seems really tuned in. It is interesting. Despite all of this we still vaccinate to include flu every year. I think a slower schedule is a great compromise. I think opting out of vaccines should only be for those kids with allergies that will harm them substantially if they get them (I know a family like this). Otherwise healthy kids should get them for the health of our country.
  2. I am planning for a couple of 3rd graders next year that couldn't possibly be more different. DS1 Rightstart E Writing and Rhetoric II TGTB LA 3 Sonlight readers grade 4 Mosdos Opal Fix It! Nose Tree Spelling Workout E Latina Christiana DS2 TT4 TGTB 3 Mosdos 3 Sonlight Readers grade 3 BJU English 3 interspersed with a few MBTP lit units Together with siblings: History: BP3 with SOTW3 as the spine. Geography will be rolled in using various resources Science: BJU Science 4 with a couple TGTB science units wrapped into the year Art/music: taken at the umbrella school they attend along with other classes of their choice.
  3. I don't think we will be changing much as everything is going so well this year in 3rd. The plan is: Saxon 65 Classical Writing Aesops B Fix It! Grammar Robin Hood Mosdos Ruby Spelling Wisdom TG&TB language arts 4 Sonlight grade 5 readers (to support US History) and then alot of free choice. She reads a ton already. Latina Christiana Everything else she does with her siblings: History: Biblioplan 3 + SOTW 3 as the spine and we will roll geography in using multiple resources as we always do. Science: BJU Science 4 with a couple TGTB science units (probably physiology and the other energy) Art/music: she will take classes at her umbrella school
  4. We found here that once multiplication facts were solid the division facts came with them on their own. 7×9=63 so we know 63/7 is 9 and 63/9 is 7. We hit it home with equations like this: 7 x t=63 which helped that automatic transition. I am sure you probably do this but my kids abhor fact learning of any kind 😂 as soon as I showed them they already really had them they were relieved and off and running. So when they are up against a division problem now 36÷9 then they just say "ok, what times 9 is 36" We have also been able to modify the Dragon Time game a bit to include division which helps with facts and pairing.
  5. It is quite prevalent within my circle. My dad was adopted, I have one adopted son, I have adopted cousins, I have two best friends who were both adopted and three other close friends who have adopted. I have also been a counselor to adoptees. This does not include my friends who have adopted embryos or had any type of fertility treatment using donated eggs or sperm.
  6. We get the Suntheanine chewables from Amazon which are a bit spendy but my little guy doesnt like swallowing pills. You can probably get it cheaper as a capsule. Is there any chance he could have test anxiety exacerbating his focus issues too? My oldest grown son also had ADD and he had horrible test anxiety. It took him a long time to find a strategy that worked for him.
  7. My DS takes L-Theanine and it has changed his life in terms of calm and focus. I am in no way a bandwagon jumper and I am a huge skeptic until I see the neurobiological mechanisms to everything. However, a trusted friend was using it for her son and I saw incredible improvements in him. I decided to try it and it has been amazing. We have forgotten it a couple of times and it was readily noticable. My DH decided to try it as well and it has also been amazing for him. I was so close to trying medication at one point but this was what helped him enough to take that off of the table.
  8. Of course. It is never nature or nurture. It always falls somewhere in between. If you think of genetics as a predisposition or resiliency factor you could say that your consistent and calm parenting has probably led to your predisposed kids being less anxious than they may have been otherwise. For those not predisposed to anxiety but also without any genetic resilience towards it, certain parenting can create it. We truly are a balance of our genes and what our parents do with those genes.
  9. I absolutely believe whole-heartedly that this is the case. From a counseling perspective, the "good enough parent"( i.e. the one who doesn't over or under worry about their kids by over catastrophizing every event or the other side, setting no boundaries) end up with the most well-adjusted and capable kids. It also results in kids with more confidence, more socially adjusted, better problem solving, less anxiety and depression...the list goes on. If I feel anxious about my kids doing a low risk event that is on me and not them. I need to find a way to deal with my anxiousness and not create it in them.
  10. SeaConquest is an awesome contributor on these boards and I have enjoyed her posts immensely since joining. I am not sure about anyone else but for me atleast, my posts had nothing to do with SeaConquest. I tried to make sure I noted that she sounded capable of doing this job as she was taking the steps necessary to give her the best chance at success. Passion for the job and an empathetic heart is key and if appears as though she has this. I was stating that there are many others who would not be right for this job depending upon the mental health struggle. For example, someone with a personality disorder would not be a good fit. So SeaConquest, I truly hope none of my posts felt directed at you. If so that was not my intention at all. 😥
  11. 😂 I think you are spot on re: self reflection. As long as a person can continually re-evaluate their own emotions and triggers within each counseling relationship, keeping it front end center then I have faith they can do this job. Self reflection and meta-cognition is deeply crucial. I was sexually assaulted as a teen and my hardest case was a girl who was going through the same thing. I thought I had dealt with my baggage and could handle it. Oh my word was I wrong. My desire to over-identify and subconsciously "fix" or help was strong. I was a fairly new therapist at the time but it was a moment of "wow, can I or should I do this job?" It gets easier as you go but especially fresh in the career it can be jarring to have those realizations. I had to transfer that case to another therapist. It was the right thing to do.
  12. Coming from this profession I will say a heart issue and a mental health issue are not the same. You have to use the very organ that might not be working properly to do the job. The job is demanding, emotionally draining. It is easy for someone mentally healthy to not take on and over identify with their patient. It is constant vigilance and toggling between rock solid boundaries while being a person's most trusted friend and confidant. It is the hardest job I have ever done and I was in science before my career switch. I am so happy to hear your commitment to therapy for yourself. This will keep your blindspots on your radar. You sound aware and capable but I promise you, not everyone with mental health struggles could do well in this field so while stigmas may feel hurtful, they exist in this profession to protect the incredibly vulnerable people being helped.
  13. While this is my own profession (and I am hoping I don't fall on the nutter side 😂) I have to completely agree with you. Having to oversee fledgling therapists and even seasoned ones, I was floored at how many needed therapy themselves. I actually went to our Dean in college because I had someone so absolutely insane in my cohort that I was terrified of her graduating with a degree to counsel people. Of course they let her and now she is out there somewhere "helping" people. Therapists need to be more tightly regulated and scrutinized to be honest.
  14. I notoriously tear up when dads are being adorable with their daughters. This video was no exception. There is just something about that interaction that hits my heart every time. This is such a sweet interaction and oh my word! Your granddaughter is a stunning baby!
  15. I am stunned 😳 In my sexual psychology class we had videos every Friday that were pornographic and had a panel of people come who were in the stripping profession as well as a panel of people with sexual fetishes. It was graphic and it was not allowed to be taken by freshmen or sophomores. There was always a legitimate rationale for every video and/or guest. I would report a professor at the CC level teaching any introductory course who required this. That is waaaayyyyy out of bounds. You have every right to think that is an outlandish request because it is.
  16. I was also going to say Trials and Triumph. I really like that one.
  17. Forgot about one we played and never thought of again at Christmas. So being a huge Labyrinth (movie) fan I bought the game for the kids (and me...mostly me let's be honest) and having read a spattering of good reviews I was pumped about this one. It was pretty awful. I appreciated the detail to movie faithfulness with the character cards and attacks but it still ultimately came down to not much strategy, limited player interaction even though it is co-op, and alot of luck based rolling. The bad guy cards get repetitive and even when you do team up with your peeps it is meh. Now the next part I both give a nod to for staying movie true and really disliking. Once you battle your way to the castle (by continuously going in a circle and getting periodically tossed into the obliet), you eventually have done what is necessary to magically transport to the castle gates. Here you battle a few goblin standees in the same lackluster dice rolling luck way and then everyone else sits around while whoever is playing Sarah battles Jereth by...rolling more dice and reciting "through dangers untold and hardships unnumbered..." etc... There is a 13 hour clock that you tick down as you go. I wanted to like it soooo much. I knew better than to get a movie based game, I truly did but this sounded like an RPGish game. Meh...😒
  18. Dagny hands down. Love it! I want to encourage you to go with your loved name and don't back down. 13 years ago when I got my frenchie puppy I wanted to name him Merrick. I loved it and that was his name before he flew into the airport. Once I told everyone they started with the "no, you should name him..." and so I caved. He has passed and I still think he would have made a good Merrick. Funny aside but one of those nay sayers ended up naming their DD Merritt 5 years later
  19. This just reminds me of the old saying "two wrongs don't make a right". I can kind of understand wanting to say something to him but seriously, why? Are people so fragile that they cannot function in a mature way if someone doesn't like them in some way? The guy sounds like a jerk but jerks exist. All calling him out on media will do is further divide the line and make his heart even more bitter. For a more effective way of dealing with jerks, see Patton Oswalt's response to a bully. She could have cut him deeper just by saying "excuse me, I accidentally saw your text and your description of me. While it may be true I am a bigger woman, it really stung to read that and I just want to encourage you to be more careful." We seem to be cherry picking bullying and creating a culture where it is ok to bully a bully or just bully someone who is tone deaf about the current zeitgeist. It is gross and I wish it would stop.
  20. Oh yeah, this is hands down my favorite game of Christmas! We have played it a bunch of times and it is both fun and visually appealing. Love it! I also love that my 7 year olds can play with no problem and one in particular has gotten very good at it!
  21. I have been so curious about this one. I played Above and Below by the same designer and liked it but I heard Near and Far was better. Is it a choose your own adventure type?
  22. I am taking this challenge pretty seriously! Most of our games we have played previously but we are going for the goal of playing them all in 2019. So far this month we have played: 1. Century Golem Edition 2. Potion Explosion 3. Splendor 4. Lords of Waterdeep 5. 3 chapters so far of Mice and Mystics 6. Ghost Fight'n Treasure Hunter with the Cellar expansion that we hadn't cracked open yet 7. Saboteur 8. 10 Days in Europe 9. Mythmatical Battle 10. Cat Crimes Our next games we plan to play are: 1. The next chapters of Mice and Mystics 2. Love Letter 3. Mysterium 4. My Little Scythe 5. Arabian Nights 6. Stuffed Fables (once we complete M&M) 7. Pandemic Legacy Season 1 (been sitting around unopened for a while...) 8. DH and I are finally going to conquer Gloomhaven 😂 pretty sure this one is going to take us all year...
  23. We do the lesson and intro to the reading on Monday, Tuesday she reads the story and does the comp and focus questions orally plus the vocab or first 2 workbook pages. Wednesday she does the 3rd workbook page, Thursday the 4th and Friday the 5th. We repeat with the next lesson the next week. She is doing Opal so it might be set up differently than pearl. We LOVE it and I see what she is learning carrying over into her reading of assigned books as well as her writing. Good stuff.
  24. My kids are every other day. I think some kids don't start going into tween as early as others so they don't produce as many oils. I think it tends to be kid specific. I have one kid that smells amazing for a week after a bath 😂 then another who I am like "did you wash your hair?" The next day because he is just a more mature kid for his age.
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