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I hate bras and so I hardly ever wear them. I’ve tried so many different brands and styles but I hate them all. I’m a 36B and usually either go without or wear a cami with a built in shelf bra. I stopped caring if it bothers other people if I don’t wear a bra long ago. It so much more comfortable for me to go without.
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Just now, DawnM said:
You lost me. What did I miss?
He tweeted yesterday that he’s running for President this year. 🙃
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8 minutes ago, Pen said:
The bottom of mask is fully below lower jaw and you shaped the upper nose metal as best you can?
My nose metal was riding just about where nose cartilage starts, not high up
maybe even my bigger glasses are smaller than yours?
Mine isn’t up as high as the woman in the picture online. My glasses are plastic frames and the smallest I could get and still have progressive lenses so maybe they are just a tad bigger. It does fit my nose more comfortable (it seems a bit squished) if it’s higher but then it’s almost in my eyes.
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5 hours ago, Pen said:
Yes. Though not all the time. My favorite glasses, alas missing in action, don’t touch it at all. My other glasses - shown below - barely do (purple circle). The glasses are seated on my nose by the nose pieces (red circles), not on the mask.
(If I fuss with the shaping I may be able to get both sides not to have glasses - mask overlap at all)
Don’t quote photo - I’ll delete later.
So, I tried again and I guess my face is just weird but there is no space between my glasses and the mask. They definitely sit on the mask. I ordered the medium and it fits well but the glasses just will not stay up with this mask.
I may try some of the silicone things fire my glasses listed elsewhere and see if it helps.
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She’s had c diff before which is why we were so concerned but it’s looking like this was indeed just a stomach bug. She’s much better today. Thanks everyone!
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12 hours ago, Pen said:
I would say yes. I shaped it, nose bridge etc, and ear loop adjustment with it off, and am using a gallon zip lock to store it in its rounded out position— rather than folding it down flat or crushing it. Shaped and kept rounded, it isn’t as stiff as a 3M respirator, but holds its shape more than most fabric masks.
(It arrived flat.)
Do you wear glasses? I also purchased happy masks for all four of us but we all wear glasses and these masks have been the worst for us. The shape of the mask means our glasses keep sliding way down. It’s frustrating because I think I really like every thing else about it. I’m going to keep working at it but I don’t think they will work for us.
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I was worried I wouldn’t love it as much on the tv but it’s still so awesome! We’ll probably watch it a few more times. ❤️
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Does anyone have any good information to link on what this actually looks like?
My mom had surgery this past week and spent several days in the hospital. Her stomach has been a mess the past two days so we called the doctors office and they say she isn’t the first to complain and they think there is a stomach bug going through the patients on that floor. I’ve heard a lot about some Covid patients only having stomach issues. Would it spread that way between all on the floor if that was the symptom of the spreader or would it be a mixed bag of symptoms and some respiratory? Would respiratory symptoms start later?
Just trying to have all the info in case.
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We saw it in Chicago but we’re all so stinking excited to watch with the original cast!!!
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How do I safely (for her safety) stay at night with my 70 year old mother? Her recovery from surgery isn’t going near as well as hoped. I’ve spent the last several days at the hospital but would go home at night. Tonight, she’s at home and she can’t stay alone. I’m wearing a mask now during the day but what do I do while I’m sleeping. There is no way I can sleep in a mask as I’m really feeling the last few days and I feel like crud due to the mask wearing all day for several days. There is literally no one else so I have to do this. My teens are going out with small groups of friends and protests so I’m concerned about giving anything to her.
Will just sleeping in a different room but masking when she needs me be enough? Doors will be open but I could be in another room.
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8 hours ago, EmseB said:
I don't think there's anything wrong with whatever someone prefers. I personally would not want to be in a job where I was required to have dinner alone with my boss of any gender as a condition of advancement or even a condition of having a good working relationship. I wouldn't want it to be that way with Marta or Frank. Maybe I'm just used to an officer/enlisted divide, where it would be extremely inappropriate for a superior to go to a one on one dinner with a subordinate. But to be honest, if Mike Pence (used because of an earlier example) somehow made it necessary for any of his employees in government to have dinner with him one on one in order to be in his good graces, I would find that extremely unprofessional. I personally am not talking about going to get a pizza with a co-worker, although I personallywould probably not do that with any one specific person repeatedly just so no one got any ideas. I thought people were talking about bosses and employees and how it was unfair for the boss not to dine alone with his women employees.
And to be honest, if I'm going to go to the trouble of going out for a nice meal with any one person, I'd rather it be someone I want to be one on one with, which has never been my boss. Maybe y'all had more fun bosses than I did.
And also maybe my opinions in this are colored by the fact that most of the time in my various workplaces, if you thought two co-workers were being a little too chummy and spending a lot of time on work lunches together, you were probably right.
Maybe the bold is why I never think these things are issues with dh. His boss from 13 years ago spends Thanksgiving with us often. We think the world of him and at this point he’s basically family. When we travel back to CA, we meet up for a meal with dh’s old First Sergeant from the Marines. We’ve often become really good friends with who he works for and with, so working lunches don’t phase us.
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1 hour ago, Katy said:
That may be the law, but try contacting car rental companies. Unless something has drastically changed they have a policy NOT to rent to anyone under the age of 23 because the insurance rates are so high.
I just looked up Enterprise and their website states the minimum age is 21. It states you may be charged an extra $20/day if under 25 but your not restricted from renting. I also thought it was still 25 but I guess things have changed.
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1 minute ago, Arctic Mama said:
I think there is a really a misunderstanding of the why and how of that rule. It’s not about temptation so much as the appearance of propriety and impropriety and trying to prevent reputations from being ruined...?
This is the way I’ve always understood it.
Like I said upthread somewhere, dh never does the after work socializing on his trips back to the office unless I’m with him. And it is about how he worries about things being misinterpreted. On one trip I went on, we ended up walking back a female employee who had too much to drink. Turns out she was staying in our hotel and on our floor. Dh said that was exactly the type of thing he wants to avoid when he’s traveling without me. If anyone had seen and he was alone, they might have come to a different conclusion and it could have been bad since she was drunk.
That said, it’s not something he worries about during work hours at the office because it’s just not feasible. But he definitely doesn’t put himself in social situations outside of work that could be seen as something troublesome.
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3 minutes ago, vonfirmath said:
When I say it I mean I avoid being alone one on one.
IF I go to a lunch with guys -- it's a group. There's never been a need for me to have a one on one lunch with anyone, actually.
IF we are working together -- doors are open. It's never private in a room together.
It has never been awkward or hard to arrange. Maybe because the guys I worked with had the same values or maybe I just give off an "air" that they don't question me.
I understand but it’s just not possible for everyone. I was talking about it with dh last night and he has many closed door private meetings with his female VP and female direct reports when he’s actually in the office (he’s worked from home the last 5 years). They can’t just leave the door open due to the nature of their business. There are privacy laws with what they discuss and they can’t chance people overhearing who shouldn’t. When he’s in the office, there are often lunches as there just isn’t enough time in the day. Sometimes it’s more than one person but, again, it depends on what needs to be discussed. It doesn’t mean their values are any different as there is nothing but work taking place. I was just curious what people meant but it’s not a big deal to me.
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7 minutes ago, happysmileylady said:
Well, I think in terms of "the percentage of people who thought their spouse would never cheat...." it's important to know that lots of folks lie to themselves. What I mean is that no one wants to think the worse of the person they are in love with. And even if there are a million red flags flying all over the place, people still tell themselves "well he would never do that." I once listened to a call from the Dave Ramsey Show where a lady called in and starting talking about her DH sleeping over at his ex-wife's house "for the kids." So yes, I would expect that most people in loving relationships think and/or want to think that their spouses could never do that.
For me, I can say my belief is based on much more than trust. It's based on knowledge of my DH as a person. If he were married to someone else and I was a close friend, I would say the same thing. There is a loyalty and "true to word" sort of factor in my DH that wouldn't allow him to cheat. It's not that I am confident he would never cheat on me..........it's that I am confident that he would never cheat on anyone.
The is exactly how I feel about dh as well. Just couldn’t put it into words as clear as you!
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14 minutes ago, Scarlett said:
What do you when you say they are alone together?
Normal work stuff - meetings, lunches, some travel, etc. Same encounters I myself would have when I was working. Nothing big so when people state they make sure to never be alone with the opposite sex in regards to work I’m confused what they mean.
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What do people mean when they say they avoid being alone with the opposite sex in regards to work?
My dh wouldn’t have his job if he avoided ever being alone with women. It seems like it could end up being really unfair but maybe you don’t truly mean they completely avoid being alone with the opposite sex. I have never had reason to worry about it with dh and he does have to travel here and there and often there are female employees traveling as well. His boss for three years was female so he definitely couldn’t avoid ever being alone with her. I don’t know, just seems like a weird statement in regards to work and careers. He does opt out of after work/conference get togethers and happy hours if it’s a trip where I didn’t tag along though. He doesn’t like the after work drinking/socializing if he’s alone.
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I love vacations! I enjoy the planning and we all love road trips so the driving is even enjoyable. We’ve taken road trips since both dc were super young. We’ve even driven coast to coast which was rough but also really fun. We are not ones who like to sit by the pool or take cruises so our trips are exhausting but we enjoy that. We all usually veg out in front of the TV the entire first day back at home but that’s part of the fun as well since we usually plan what show we’re going to binge watch.
I don’t think it’s at all selfish for you to need a vacation from your trips. It’s important to take care of yourself so you can take care of those who need you.
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I start freezing in late afternoon and wake around 2 am burning up and sweating profusely. I just had a dr appointment and he told me he thought I was still close to 10 years to being done. It’s no fun at all.
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11 minutes ago, square_25 said:
The COVID patients were supposed to be quarantined. They were certainly not supposed to be interacting with the other patients.
I don't know if the field hospitals had the staff or capacity or levels of machinery to deal with highly fragile nursing home patients. I just don't.
It's possible that the NYS Healthy Commissioner was simply an idiot when he did this. It's also possible he was solving a difficult and intractable problem and came up with something that may have backfired.
You also have to understand that with or without these COVID patients being sent back, a very sizable fraction of the nursing homes in the Northeast wound up with an outbreak. It's possible that some of these outbreaks were started by the patients being sent back, but I would guess the vast majority were started by pre-symptomatic staff.
I don't think Florida has has this policy, and yet so far, a big percentage of Florida's deaths have been in nursing homes. It's just a hard problem. It's not clear that this is actually the biggest variable controlling what happens in terms of nursing home deaths.
I am confused why some seem to focus on NY nursing home deaths when they are a huge problem for every state. They account for almost 50% of my state it looks like, and I think about 40% nationwide.
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1 minute ago, Matryoshka said:
Ugh. Bars and nightclubs just seem to be especially bad for spreading events... 🙁
Yes, I was really worried when gyms reopened but our numbers actually seemed to do ok with it. I was trying not to worry about the bars and then seeing the new cases today gave me pause. I’m hoping it’s nothing but bars are just a bad idea right now.
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We had a bit of a jump in cases today here in Indiana. Double what we had yesterday. Bars will have been open two weeks tomorrow. 😐 I’m really hoping it’s not the beginning of anything.
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11 hours ago, Ktgrok said:
TLDR - deaths are probably going up. A lot.
Something very concerning I just saw on the deaths graph on the state dashboard. I've said before, that it takes weeks to months to have deaths actually reported. So for instance, on June 9th, when I looked at the day before, it said there were 5 deaths on June 8th. Low, right? But if you kept an eye on it, as time went on, they kept adding deaths to that date, backfilling as death certificates were filed. So from 5, to 8, to 10, to 14, to 22, to 24 over the past few weeks. Well, if I look at June 22...it says 24 deaths. Same as June 8th. EXCEPT - we haven't backfilled in June 22 yet - that will take a few weeks. If the deaths on June 22 increase at the same rate as the others have it could really be over 100 deaths!It’s weird they are keeping track that way. I noticed our state dashboard will just change the date range when they give us new deaths everyday. Like, yesterday it listed 9 new deaths but the range was from the beginning of June until yesterday. Today’s might go further back or it might just be the last few days. No matter what I know when I see the new death number it is all new deaths known. They don’t hide it by going back and adjusting a previous day. That would bother me. They also give a number everyday of probable deaths so we know what’s coming.
Dh’s company is based in FL and they’ve yet to allow employees back in the office but they let them know this week they considered themselves back at phase 0 due to the numbers there. I wish everyone in FL was taking it as seriously.
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Just now, MercyA said:
Oh my goodness, come visit small town northern Indiana. People in my own [former] church twice implied that blacks are lazy. They joked about black people liking watermelon--the very black people that we invited to a picnic once a year.
One very well-respected member used the word n*****. Another mentioned how interracial marriage was wrong--and expected that I would agree with her. And these are just the things myself or someone in my family heard. And we didn't even really hang out with these people, KWIM? Who knows what we would have heard if we did.
I see Confederate flags everywhere lately. In northern Indiana!
Someone in a local town reported receiving a meeting invitation from the KKK.
And have I heard a single peep from my own local church about police brutality and murder? I have not. I have only heard laments about rioters.
My dc attend IU and there have been KKK flyers spread all over campus multiple times. Occasionally they were found inside dorms which really scared students. We had a detour once on our way there and hit an area that had Confederate flags at almost every single home. It’s scary.
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One very well-respected member used the word n*****. Another mentioned how interracial marriage was wrong--and expected that I would agree with her. And these are just the things myself or someone in my family heard. And we didn't even really hang out with these people, KWIM? Who knows what we would have heard if we did.
Neighborhood fireworks
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I have come to absolutely hate the 4th of July! It doesn’t even get dark here until 10pm so they start around 9:30 and go till after midnight. And it’s just days and days of it. I could handle it better if it was just on the 4th but allowing it for so long is just too much.
Someone local is planning a big display for tonight right by us since they canceled the city run one. I’m so over it!