We usually do a big party, but Im thinking of moving away from that. We usually invite family which consists of old people and small toddlers. Neither dh nor I have friends that we do things with, that has kids or kids our kids age. We do activities with kids our kids age, but our kids never really hit it off with then much at all. So, Im thinking it might be fun to spend their birthday just going places and doing things they want to do. It would be cheaper Im sure because I always spend a ton of money and then no one rsvps so I buy a ton of food and so may people flake. I was just curious what everyone else does.