A couple of ideas: Ink & Volt planners I've used this one this year for my dissertation work. It's been helpful to keep me on task. they have a lot of business management products besides planners. I would also look at planners on JetPens. Ones you might consider are the Hobonichi Cousin (monthly, vertical weekly, and daily pages). It's an A5 size.

Yeah, I would leave the state just yet. I wanted to leave ex when we lived in another state but I knew that if I went back to my home state - the only place I had to go safely, he'd charge me with kidnapping. I agree that she needs to contact a domestic abuse shelter, especially if he's not even leaving them enough food. She needs to tread carefully & legally, they should be able to help her in that way. I'd start making sure she has information on all their financial accounts. If she doesn't have access to them, she needs to find it.

Beautiful, thank you for sharing!

Yeah, I got booted from the Kalamazoo airport a few years ago. Flights were delayed due to weather and it was the last flight out of the day. The whole airport closed. I ended up spending $100 on a hotel that was not reimbursed. Another consideration is that even if the airport is technically open, shops and restaurants may not be. I flew into KCI (Kansas City) a few weeks ago. Our flight landed about 10:30 p.m. and all the shops were shut up tightly although there was more than one flight incoming. In an emergency, however, there are vending machines available.

I would pick Charlotte. I just spent several hours there and it's not too confusing, huge food court area with rocking chairs spread throughout the airport. Atlanta and O'Hare would be a no-go for me. Dallas seemed sprawling last time I went through - but it was an international flight. I would also encourage her to download the airline app to her phone to check gates, checkin time, etc. I also look up current airline maps to help with layovers. You may not know what gate your landing at and need to know how to get to the next gate. I usually find the connecting gate asap and then relax.

I agree that she should know the truth, but how to do that can vary. Whatever method, you need to develop a working relationship, a good rapport, with her so that she knows your worth. Whether I would confront, probably not because I don't like confrontation. Instead, what you could do is pinpoint three things you did well and go to her for an end of season chat. Me being a bit of snark might bring up an incident indirectly. Like "Oh, I enjoyed the tours and received wonderful feedback, (other guys name) shouldn't have to jump into my tours next year. I'm not sure why he did that when I'm fully trained." [that's not worded correctly, but something to that effect - where you're not blaming him but noting his behavior]. You could ask for feedback for next year - shows a willingness to learn. In that you could clarify that next season, x, y, and z (all incidents from "that guy") should be something you're able to do with* direct supervision. *without direct supervision

Speaking as a historian, he's an a$$. It sounds like the only way things will change is if the public complains about this person. Yes, if people want to complain, let them. I would agree to return and contemplate over the winter if you really want to. If you do, come loaded with your own practiced scripts to standing up for yourself. If he tries to take over a tour, don't let him. If he tries to interrupt your work, don't look up, hold up your hand for him to stop until you look at him and give him the okay. If he tries to yell from the office, move in between his line of sight and maybe yell back "Oh, I've got it handled, thanks." Then smile. There are subtle ways to be assertive for yourself and your competance rather than submit to this ways. The people I've known like that generally get bufuddled when they are indirectly challenged - as long as you appear kind.

that is so awesome❤️. SO and I tend to wear our medieval garb on a regular basis. We went to the grocery last Saturday in garb. I think people assumed we were headed to a ren faire. SO has frock coats that he wears to work everyday.

After a year of this type of behavior, it's possible. My ex was acting off for about 5 months before a crisis event made me "oh, that's what's been going on" and also because it wasn't the first event of this kind, I was done trying to be married to him. It appeared sudden and cold to those that didn't know our situation. We hit the 20 year mark while our divorce was being finalized. It's hard to leave, you know that, but sometimes you have to draw that line in the sand.

Thank you. No, not really. I have some experience just dabbling with different paint colors. This room was completed from mostly angst and anger. Llama - I agree that I would do everything one color if it would make it easier. What color represents calm and peace to you? that would be my biggest criterion.

undergarments, most upholstered furniture - although I bought a used loveseat at Goodwill that was practically brand new. I steam cleaned the heck out of it once I got it home though. I've bought used shoes. Recently, I found a pair of Birdies that had one little mark on the toe. They retail for $150 and I paid $10. They are comfortable but I would never pay $150 for them. computer parts - concerns of malware or not sure if things work. Used board games - unless I can see that it has all the parts. most used small appliances.

Yeah, I missed some too. When My ex and I divorced, I switched the office and bedroom and totally repainted. I used white and a burnt umber (either that or burnt sienna) and make a cathartic mix-- My ex's favorite color was blue. He had to have everything blue in the bedroom, ugh. It's been almost a decade since we divorced and I still have a visceral reaction to some shades of blue, particularly royal blue. I even limit how much blue I wear. Excuse the bed, I had it covered for the dog.

I get it. At a simple level - SO's love language is acts of service, mine is gifts. He gives me coffee, I am happy. At a different level, we got together only a few years ago, I'm in my 50s, he's in his 60s. We have a lot of years we missed together, so we have a lot of things to catch up on. I'm sorry. I get being sad.

That might have been me. Yes, SO always gets my coffee and we sit on the couch or patio and talk before he goes to work. He's usually up before me but I get up just to spend time with him before he leaves. If my coffee mug isn't by the coffee maker, he'll make sure to get it from my office area and fill it before I stumble out of the bathroom. He also gets the refills too. He's a morning person, I am not. It's a beautiful gesture and I love him for it. I spent a lot of years hating mornings because of the chaos of my ex. To have someone who wants to serve me in such a way is really touching and special. We call our sofa the Tardis couch because time is really wibbly-wobbly on it. When Covid happened we were both working at home and we'd sit for hours and talk in the morning. Sometimes we'd get up at 7 and it was 9:30 before we knew it. Now, we have to watch our time more.

My dad passed away in 2015, his grandfather (his grandparents raised him) died when my dad was in high school. My mom is still going quite strong at 87. Her parents both passed away when they were 94. My ex-dh died 4 1/2 years after our divorce. Now, SO & I talk about this. He's 6 1/2 year older than me, but he is much more healthy. I have chronic conditions brought on by radiation tx. As a group of cancer survivors, our survival rate is high but the long term side effects from chemo and radiation are what is ending our lives. I'm fortunate that at this point my side effects are mild but that can change. I don't know that I will outlive SO.

Team Oxford comma and my latest endeavor is to save ibid. The latest edition of Chicago Manual of Style recommends repeating short citations instead of ibid. I disagree. There are shirts, stickers, and totes forthcoming.

Someone with more knowledge might be able to speak better on this, but could it have to do with Islamic burial practices. From the link it states that burial should take place as soon as possible and that embalming is "is performed only if required by law." Twenty tucks is a drop in the ocean of need anyway.

I long for stability which to me means feeling settled. For me that looks like a decent house with room for all of our books and income to keep and maintain it. This also means a fenced back yard for a dog and a deck or patio to sit and have morning coffee. We were so close then life pulled out the rug from under our feet. /sigh/ Historically, I've moved about every 5 years of my adult life. I really don't mind that, but I'm ready to stop doing that.

Adding to this, which you probably already have dealt with. Anyone driving those distances, needs to make sure they have roadside assistance on their insurance or AAA and KNOW HOW TO USE IT if necessary. AAA is worth the cost for me and I've had to use it when I'm miles away from home. The second level of AAA pays for a tow up to 100 or 200 miles (can't remember which). That can save a huge expense and worse. An acquaintance was in another city and her car broke down - sounds like her car had issues and she probably shouldn't have been driving long distances, but.... She did not have roadside assistance, waited all night in the car because no one could come get her and she couldn't afford a tow, then the car was stolen before she could get back to it.

No, not really. 3 hours is a long way and I wouldn't be keen on doing that either. This is the biggest thing to me. I think meeting halfway is a good compromise. I'd probably try to schedule that drive with you and her at some point, just for your comfort and hers.

Yes, I like the 2005 version better. Loved Breakfast Club because, yeah, I could see exactly those people getting Saturday suspension. contemplating St. Emlo's Fire in private. 🙂 I've been watching The Witches' Cookery youtube and thought of Audrey last night when they mentioned green witchery. Also never got my goat, sadly. Say Anything, John Cusack as Lloyd Dobler was everything. [not inserting picture, you know the one, you know the song...more contemplating]. /sigh/

Star Trek - because Lower Decks and Strange New Worlds are awesome. Even the musical episode? Especially the musical episode! Also DS9 should be required viewing in high school (yes all the seasons). SO and I did a full rewatch last year and, sadly, so much is still necessary social commentary. I'll do 80s fashion, if I can have my 1980s body back. Facial hair if it's groomed. SO has a moustache, ds has a full beard and has since about age 18.

This, we literally wouldn't have the space where we are now. I love the Great Danes that I have interacted with, but giant breeds have too much expense and special care that I can't afford to do at this point in my life.

adding to the list HIGH FRUCTOSE CORN SYRUP! - yes, I'm yelling, /steps off soapbox/

QR code menus phase back in teaching driver's education in high school. Or maybe driving school as a college elective. I live in an area with very limited local bus service and nothing outside of small city, so most people drive.