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On 1/20/2023 at 12:37 PM, pinball said:
.... There was a sauce I was unfamiliar with so I asked the worker *who was helping me* what the sauce was made of and a different worker, who was helping someone else, turned to me and loudly answered as the worker who was helping me was answering.
i wish I could duplicate the discouraged look on my worker’s face. There was no reason for his co-worker to jump in and talk over him.
The worker who loudly answered may have been training new staff person. Maybe the yeller did not realize staff person already knew all about the whereabouts of various condiments or that staff was manning the counter. Maybe they were incredibly busy. At any rate, it does not seem malicious or rude in the setting you describe, but, if anything, I've learned from this forum that *someone* will disagree with almost any statement.
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I agree with going for the colonscopy. When I had my diagnostic mammogram, MRI, PET scan for my breast mass in 2017, I was so sure I would walk out cancer free. I didn't. Not only do I have to do several breast cancer tests each year but I also have to have colonscopy and endoscopy to monitor for abdominal cavity cancers for which my genetic testing showed a mutation for being prone to these cancers.
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On 9/14/2022 at 6:17 PM, Scarlett said:
I think their reasoning on not blocking him is to take some of the texts off SIL.Also who ever knows what thing he will put in text that will help SIL.
Would you want family members or friends “to take some of the texts off SIL” if you were the spouse who initiated divorce ? I would not if I were in her situation. Has anyone asked SIL what she wants? Family needs to block him on all social media as well as on cell phones.
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This is advice for the 2023 Thanksgiving. Host Thanksgiving yourself and prepare basically the entire feast if possible. Guests can bring items that do NOT need to be prepared at your house. Even though this approach increases physical labor required on host's part, it was only approach that brought me relief from Thanksgiving stress because I did not have to coordinate anything with anyone. I also plan to have extras in event previously uninvited people wish to join us.
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In my opinion, the perception that young people do not want to work is an extension of Socrate’s opinion that younger generation is disrespectful and slovenly. If that were true, civilization would have self-imploded.
i am hopeful that younger generations will continue to fight for a better work/life balance that has eluded so many of my generation
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An age difference of three years would not rattle me. As long as they are kind and respectful to each other, I would support relationship.
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My body can not tolerate narcotic pain relievers and nausea is my Achilles heel. During my cancer treatment, my insurance company decided I only needed a certain number of nausea pills. My Eastern European oncologist recommended I try marijuana if I had access to it. It was mostly the elixir I needed. The rapid weight loss stopped. I had to use edibles or liquid because I cannot smoke. I could not stomach a medicinal dose for pain but what I took relieved my anxiety about the anticipation of pain, making it tolerable. It was also the only medication that helped me sleep without groggy side effects. Thus, I want to see it legalized for both recreational and medicinal use but please do not let big pharmaceutical companies in on it. Keep it small scale.
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Not sure why ex husband would be expected to notify ex-wife of his new marriage unless it was one of the terms in the marital dissolution agreement.
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Yes, I own a nice gas stove. Have no intention of replacing with electric stove.
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Yes, he will be furious but sounds like family needs to pursue incompetency claim. I know it is heartbreaking, especially when parent opposed to it. BTDT with a relative. Somebody has to step up and make the tough decisions when everyone else is spouting their opinions and wringing their hands. Be forewarned that you may be target of vitriol from both the parent and family members that may oppose it. If another family member is ludicrous enough to hire an attorney to fight the incompetency claim (it happens), step away and absolve yourself of any responsibility in the matter. The opposing parties can then completely take over the care of the parent. You can visit the parent and maybe do light tasks while there but do not set a bad precedent by taking on more responsibility because the opposition bit off more than they could chew.
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Generally I interpret anything other than a clear-cut "yes" as a "no." Too high a probability of things going wrong if husband takes plants without notification or clarification. It has been my experience that people who fail to communicate clearly are prone to misunderstanding and misinterpreting what others say and do, and some of them are lifelong grudge holders.
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I left him. I was quite young and full of life and wanted desperately to escape the moodiness and despair that I had grown up around. We were NOT married but were in a serious relationship.
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You're stepping out of your lane if you ask her to remove portraits in her own living space to accommodate you. However, it would be lovely gift idea to have a portrait done that includes all the grands.
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Yes, I will eventually get the shot/booster.
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I was born atheist and will die one. I'm firmly convinced that deities do not exist but were created by man to cope with uncertainty of an indifferent universe to and to feel significant. In early elementary school, I was surprised to learn that adults literally believed Bible stories. Most people around me were religious.
I've never seen any objectively consistent and reliable evidence for existence of deities. There are many religions in world, and most of them claim to have a monopoly on the truth. Most religious people would be same person if they suddenly lost their faith.
I still attend bar and bat mitzvahs, weddings and funerals in churches and synagogues because I love the people involved.
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I did not charge any of my adult children rent while they lived at home after completing school. They were conscientious about going to their low salary jobs everyday and volunteering to cover other shifts. They were long accustomed to handling their own cleaning and laundry as well as doing other common household chores. They all saved money while at home to cover eventual move out expenses. However, if I had been financially struggling, I would have asked for modest amount of rent. We continued paying car insurance for two years after each kid moved out. We are still on same cellular plan and I pay for it. I suppose they can and will change carriers if they desire.
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What better time to experiment than the young adult years prior to entering corporate world?
Ear piercings are not noticeable unless a person wears earrings. Thus, if he is unhappy with the results, the piercing will eventually "close" on its own or at least be barely visible. He is young and wants to be cool; step aside and give him his moment in the sun. Be happy that he is not choosing a self-destructive road to coolness.
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It seems that Arkansas does indeed have elective spousal share law that can override provisions of wills and living trusts. I urge you to find an attorney who specializes in estates. Likely will run more than the 250-300 per hour unless you are in a very small town. Please do not seek legal advice from a stockbroker or even from a registered financial advisor. While they have elementary knowledge of estate administration, they generally do NOT have a strong knowledge of state law. Athis point, there is not enough information to determine if husband attempting to hoodwink heirs or if he is rightfully claiming what he is due under state law.
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To know if your mother in law had a case, you need to read will and any living revocable trust the decedent May have established. How were the stocks titled? POD, TOD or held in joint account ? If held jointly, did she file a gift tax return if required? You will also need to find out if Arkansas has elective share laws for a spouse; it may hinge upon this.
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My younger sister lost sense of taste and smell on day four.
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If your daughters take the cleaning job, they will be missing out on much better job opportunities. Have they considered this?
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Yesterday my two daughters, daughter in law and I returned from a land and cruise tour of Alaska.
All people in the tour group had to test negative two days before the flight and on day one of land portion, which was first part of trip.
I agonized a good bit over my decision to go but I traded the risk for a wonderful once in lifetime experience and have no regrets.
The cruise company required masks in common areas. We complied but of course removed them for onboard dining.
Yesterday my daughter in law was a little short of breath but assumed it was anxiety and took medication for it. Understandable since the airport experience was extremely stressful. This morning she woke with fever and tested positive for covid. Her employer provides all employees with take home tests to frequently monitor covid status. She is upstairs in quarantine. My two daughters and I tested negative; of course, we may still be in incubation process. I just hope my daughter who lives in my city and I can fly home tomorrow.
For what it’s worth, that is our covid travel experience so far.
PS we masked on the domestic flights even though not required to do so. Fortunately flight originating in Canada required masks onboard.
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How much do you expect college-aged offspring to be involved in family life?
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I expect college age children to be involved with family to the extent that they have the time and interest in doing so. Whether or not I am paying for any of the college is irrelevant. If they cannot or prefer not to get together on a holiday, there are 364 other days in the year to celebrate together.