I can't believe I'm going to be the first one to ask this! Apparently, everyone already knows but me, but HOW EXACTLY do you make laundry detergent and make-up? :confused: I have always considered myself very frugal, but I had no idea you could make these sorts of things! Thanks! Kim

I am just very sad and confused right now. I have been brought up my whole life living in guilt under her to do this, that, or the other. She has had a hard life, buried a husband, a son, and a daughter. I'm all she has left, so between that cold, hard fact, and all the guilt of "all she's done her whole life to raise me", I feel like I have no choice but to keep her here. But I can't bear the thought anymore. We are all so unhappy. I hate coming down my driveway now. I didn't expect to hear from others that they experienced the same stresses and problems having their mother live with them. Granted, we knew it would be hard, but this I never expected. All the anger and hatred all directed at me and my dh. I told her today it was a shame I hadn't died instead of my sister. She didn't comment. Also, I guess maybe you would say she's an alcoholic. She HAS to have about 4 beers a night, every night. She has even called me on the way home with my dss from co-op AT THE CHURCH and asked me to stop and get her beer. I told her I would bring my kids home and go back to the store after their daddy got home to stay with them! I guess I have lost any and or all respect I had for her. I grew up being called a whore and a tramp when I would miss my curfew. Things got better after I got married and moved out. Now, I'm reliving my childhood and all the guilt and anger. I thought about dying or wishing I could as a teenager. Didn't really happen again till now. Don't know why I thought this would work. Guess I was just looking at taking care of her. Things would probably be better if I could be more "sociable" with her. I just can't stand to be in the same room with her anymore. Can't think of anything to say... Sad situation. All I wanted to do was help.... Thanks for all of yours.

Do you think you family would be better off if you were gone? It seems like every problem our family has, I'm the common denominator. My dh and my mother HATE each other. She has been in failing health for some years now, COPD and such, so two years ago, we built her an in-law suite here with us. HUGE MISTAKE! She came in and things fell immediately apart. They argued and fussed and she would cut me to the quick. She is always telling me how unhappy she is here and what a horrible daughter I am. Husband's miserable, kids sense tension... If I were gone, they could all go their own way. I know it sounds simple, sell, move..... It's just I'm not the greatest mother, not the greatest wife, apparently the worst daughter ever....so maybe they would all be able to have something better without me... Anybody else?

Could someone explain this neg rep thing to me, please? I don't see what it is y'all are talking about. Just curious! Thanks! Kim

Or is that the idea behind CW, imitating to learn. It so hard to decide on things when I can't hold them in my hand! Thanks! Kim

I have 2 ds, 9 & 11. They are not very strong writers, we need something that will teach from the ground up. I was looking at CW Aesop B. Would this be a good fit? Not needed? Blessings, Kim

I'm really trying to get organized with home, school, discipline, etc. Thanks! Kim

especially the rules and menu/grocery list. Can you post a file that we could use so not to have to recreate them? Thanks! Kim:rolleyes: