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  1. I dislocated and broke a toe a few years ago, and had pain a lot of the time. I even went back to the doctor because I felt like something must not be right, but all he had to offer was cortisone shots. I was at the chiropractor for something unrelated, and she adjusted my foot. I was shocked she felt something wrong, and was able to fix it. It was not where the toe was dislocated, but higher up on my foot. It might be a long shot for you, but an injury severe enough to break several bones, is enough to shift around other bones.
  2. Maybe it's not a parenting problem, but a grandparent problem. I've been thankful to live far away from grandparents because I think it would be hard to keep my kids from being terrible for them. Just a weekend with them is sometimes enough to make me ready to sell mine, but as they have gotten older, and have gotten bolder, I can call out the grandparents and the kids ahead of time, and we maintain the status quo. The little girl might be perfectly sweet at home, and just pushes grandpa around because she can. She might turn out all right.
  3. I'm not pregnant, and I'm not eating them together, ftr. (Though when I'm going through a spell when I want root beer, I also tend to be eating a lot of bacon). Just sometimes I really, really want those two foods. Any guesses?
  4. Vitamin A is pretty amazing stuff. Just poke a hole in one of the liquid capsules, and squeeze it on a band-aid, change once or twice a day. You should see a change within a few days, all the way gone in a few weeks.
  5. Around here, passive aggressive gets passive aggressive. I'd take those jeans and throw them back on his bed. No comment, no stress, no emotion. Two can play that game. ETA: And that's what I'd do with someone's clothes who were left in the wrong place at the wrong time, too. Sorry, bud, your time with the washer is UP, and my laundry room stays clean. Here's your stuff. :D
  6. I've been lurking and praying. I've been thinking about these little babies so much, I even dreamed about them last night. A lot of people are pulling for you!
  7. If it was an accidnet, I would mostly agree with you, though I would just talk to the other mom about it, instead of walking away. The OP said this is deliberate, and so your reaction would be shocking to me. When my 3yo has been rough with another child, I immediately stop him and apologize profusely to the mom and child. Then, I spend the remainder of the time engaging my child to prevent another incident. *I* am shocked when my children treat another child that way. Just because they are children doesn't mean they can be touched without their consent. I am incredibly gracious when other kids have hurt my kids when the parents are proactive. If they are not, then I will step in, and be much more firm in my responses.
  8. I would have been tempted to push the mom in the exact same way, and ask her why she was upset with me? I didn't hurt her?
  9. I am sort of surprised at this thread. It's ok for a kid to knock down another kid because the other kid is bigger, so doesn't actually get hurt? OP, you are totally in bounds here. You are trying to be compassionate and understanding, but you don't have to let your ds get knocked down (even though he is bigger and isn't hurt), and you don't have to dance around it, trying not to offend anyone. The other mom owes you and your ds an apology, and she needs to watch her son closer, and/or provide safe activities. My kids can rough house, but dh has always been very clear with them that they are only allowed to do it with him. Now that they are a little bigger, they know that they can finish a fight, but never start one. It is normal, but it needs worked through, and not with your child as bait. One more than one occasion, I have required that my child sit beside me, for their own safety, and perception of appropriate boundaries. That said, we had an issue once with a friend's 4 year old. He was bigger, older, and stronger than my dd, but dd was pretty aware and capable. I told her to push him down when she saw him coming to get her. It only took a few times, and he stopped doing that. You could probably teach your ds to coming flying towards the other kid, and pin him to the floor and say, "DON'T DO THAT TO ME." Another time, we had an issue with a few homeschool families at the same time. My kids were constantly being pushed and stuff, and the other moms felt like it was just play. My kids kept coming to me because they were frustrated, but the other moms were too easily offended for me to address it. I told my kids to go to the other mom and tell every.single.time. The other moms started trying to get their kids to tone it down a bit, and my kids learned to stand up for themselves.
  10. I'd go, and I'd leave as soon as I possibly could. I have family scattered all over the county, and I've dropped everything and been on the road (with a van of little kids) in a matter of hours on more than occasion. They've done it for me. That's what family does...we go.
  11. Dd will be newly 12 when she takes the test, and I'm hoping for a similar outcome for her. Also, I am considering looking into some of the gifted camps and things, but she has never been tested. I understand that a good sat score at a younger age can stand in for those test scores.
  12. I would focus on removing any issue I possibly could. During times of stress, the basics can slip a little. So, be sure he is eating good food, getting good exercise, etc. Maybe a multi-vitamin or vitamin d, and some probiotics. Plenty of protein. Just all those little things that we all know can add up in ourselves that make us edgy and difficult. Set him up for success physically. I know that's the tip of the ice berg, but maybe it will take a tiny edge off. As far as my own family, maybe someone will cook a few meals for you? Take your laundry? Can you pay one of your older children to do some of the routine tasks you do so you are more free to work with the boys? Maybe you can help the younger ones understand what is going on. Maybe giving them tools to see through his manipulation will help them become impervious to it. New ds is going to struggle for a long time, and doesn't have the tools to grow much yet, so maybe putting the focus on helping everyone else learn to live around him, instead of fixing him, would help? *Edited for clarity.
  13. I think I'm going to have dd take the SAT in the spring, but I'm really new to the idea, and don't really know how to prepare her. Can anyone help me orient to the whole procedure? Thank you!
  14. Thank you! The pumpkin is looking fairly dark, but the other two are okay. Whew! ETA: And they are all out of the oven.
  15. I thought I had foil, but I don't, and the edges are burning. What do I do?
  16. Can you return it to the original company? Those things are expensive! Use the money to buy whatever you want, and thank your mom for thinking of you. Or, I would probably just regift it, and be thankful I had one less thing to buy for someone else (who could really use it.).
  17. I guess I wouldn't think the debt free bit had much to do with where I was willing to move. I also don't think that a debt that equals 8-10 months of salary would count as "nearly debt free." Using the median salary in the US (about 50k), that's over 40k of debt. Unless that was just in your house, that's a lot of debt. If it is just your house, and you plan to sell, then it just wouldn't factor in my mind at all. To me the question, then, is could I maintain paying on the debt, and manage living in the HCOL place. Would the salary be enough to keep us moving in the right direction? Right now isn't exactly a time to try to clear the slate, but rather, hold tight to what you have, and just walk the tightrope. Personally, unless the salary wouldn't be enough for that area, I'd probably move. But I wouldn't pay off the debt to do it.
  18. Do be sure you buy all the paint you think you'll need, and then some, all at once. Even though we had the exact information, when we needed more for our large project, they just couldn't quite match it. We wound up having to repaint some of it just to make the line where the two colors were slightly off not seem so bad. Very, very frustrating when we were almost done, and only short by half the hallway wall! And the cheap red painters rags leave red smudges that are really hard to get off. I discovered that I could put the whole paint tray inside a rubbermaid tote. When I was done, I could just snap the lid on, and leave the roller and brushes inside. That made it possible for me to just run in and paint a section for 10 minutes or so, and then go back to life with toddlers again. If your walls aren't textured, you can maybe get away with one of those metal straight edge things, and a good brush when you are cutting in. Dh is steady enough that he hardly tapes anything anymore, and that makes everything go so must faster. I highly recommend getting the canvas drop cloths. The plastic ones were just so cumbersome, and flopped all over the place. We splurged on the canvas for our last big painting project, and it was SO much better. As a bonus, the kids now use the drop cloths to make tents and etc in the backyard!
  19. One time I met a new mom on a local homeschool message board. We agreed to meet up at a park to let our kids meet and play. She texted me that morning, and asked where I was. I was on my couch in my pajamas. My dh, who never has time off, had unexpectedly had Monday off. We had also been doing a lot of traveling, and I was just thrown out of our routine. And, I was pregnant, and had 4 kids under 6. It felt like a Thursday to me, and I was so confused why she had gotten the date wrong. Suddenly it hit me! It really was Friday! I was off that couch and had everyone dressed and on the way so fast! It still made me more than an hour late, and her poor little kids were tired. The mom and I saw each other at a few things, but I don't think she ever really forgave me. I felt so bad! The crazy thing is, I'm usually the one totally on top of everything. I'm the one sending the reminder texts, and packing extra juice boxes, or whatever. Sometimes, people really do just make an honest mistake. I'm sorry you had a rotten day, though. And, I hope everyone is nicer than they have been today.
  20. It's ok. Totally go with the dirt option. (hug)
  21. I don't think my kids get bored very much, but there are so many of them so close together. If they don't like what's going on in one place, they just go to a different part of the house and find a different kid to play with. We actually have the other problem. I have to banish 2 of mine every now and then just so they have time to think for themselves a bit.
  22. Most door locks are actually pretty easy to pick or jimmy. You might consider getting a chain or another additional lock. You can run a chain under a bush, and leave out a large bowl of water to imply you have a large dog. Yes to leaving lights on (different each time!) and you TV on when you aren't home. Put 911 on speed dial because it can be very difficult to dial in an emergency because of adrenaline. Spend a few minutes thinking about what you would do if you were home when someone breaks in. Picture yourself and kids in various places in the house.
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