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  1. We have a BIG SURPRISE due in November! I did not seriously think I could be pregnant. My period has been late several times this past half year just from all the stress. But dh went out and got a test for me and surprise! I so desperately wanted another after my #4. I had vivid dreams of another child and often caught myself looking for the other kid when they were all there. But it was such a bad idea. I had blood pressure problems that were worse and started earlier with every pregnancy, that caused my last one to be induced as soon as he hit 37 weeks. He had many
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  2. We’ve been looking for a new house for around five years and saving for ten. We have weirdly specific requirements and due to surgeries and NICU stays, we have less money than planned. However—something came on the market yesterday that meets most of our requirements(it’s missing a fourth bedroom but has a finished basement that can be converted according to my contractor husband). We put an offer in tonight, over asking price with 20% down in cash and waived the inspection. We know they already have one offer that isn’t quite as good as ours, but of course it’s still up in the air. So
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  3. You guys are going to think I am the biggest wimp on the planet, but I went to the dentist and got some work done. I have never had a cavity in my life and now I had 3. And I have a capped tooth that I have wanted redone for 10 years and finally did that too. It was terrifying. Not gonna lie. But it is done.
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  4. I’ve been isolated for so long and Dh is out of town and the one kid who would entertain my snark is asleep. Pandemic has flooded my area with new residents. Like, dam breaking flood. Mostly from metropolitan areas. I try to retain some empathy, but I’m also getting old and snarkier, lol. A new person on FB posted a warning that she saw a skunk while walking her dog last night. We live in a forest. Our neighborhood, which remains mostly wooded, was carved into the middle of miles of wilderness. The thought that someone’s worried about skunks makes me worried about how they’re going
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  5. Hi! As my username suggests, I am finally registered to post after a lengthy period of reading only. I first started reading the WTM forums in 2008 when I started homeschooling my daughter (now 20!). We only ended up homeschooling for two years for various reasons, but I continued reading because I have always been interested in education and because I found this forum to be a great place to read challenging discussions about topics that are important to me. Since then, I have been here intermittently, but I started reading daily in late January of 2020 with the long coronavirus thread. I have
    49 points
  6. I know there was a thread that touched on this a while back, but today was a doozie. Fresh green beans were listed online in quarter (.25) pound units. I ordered 8 and even included an additional note that I wanted *2 POUNDS* total green beans. Wanna guess what I got? 8 individual green beans. In a bag. That'll be two for each of us at dinner, lol. Share your most recent online grocery order blunder! 😛
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  7. ...and the influence of hormones is way less dramatic than years ago, or it could be my daily yoga practice, or it could be because I have learned a lot about communication skills, or, I guess, it could be a combination of all these things; in any case, I like it. I sometimes have to manage situations at work that in the past would legit have made my face hot, my heart pound and my voice quaver, but none of those things happen anymore; I don’t even dwell on that-guy-who-was-such-a-douchebag stuff now. Today I had to verbally bar a man from walking down the hall as he intended to do. (Thi
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  8. It was so fun! And we all know I needed something to chillax me, right? So, one of the items in my kit is “Citrus Grove”. (This is a bit puzzling but they don’t release the tutorial videos until April 7th, so I watched a different video, to get the idea for how the paints behave, and then just gave Citrus Grove a whirl, using the picture as a guide.) Guys - I loved it! It was so much fun to just enjoy the creative process without the lead-up of, “What should I make? What medium should I use? How big should this be? Which blue is optimal? Darn, now my Burnt Umber is dried out! Oh gre
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  9. They accepted already!! The house is ours!!
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  10. FINAL LAND UPDATE: No response. I’m upset about it. BUT... we have a verbal agreement on another lot, sale agreement scheduled to go through in the morning! It’s in the same neighborhood. also on a dead end. also backs to endless forest (well, sides to it) also is about the same size It is a triangle vs. rectangle, and it will take us years to get it to the beauty of the other property, but it’s 40% cheaper. The actual location is completely comparable, so we jumped on it. I’m building a freaking house. Send wine!
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  11. ...a shower pouf for me while he was in the big, box store. I even sent a generic pic via text, in case he didn't know what "shower pouf" was. This is what I got: I haven't a clue. He probably paid way too much for it, too, lol. When I pulled it out of the bag and gave him the "really?!" look, he was absolutely baffled that I would be anything less than content with the above. I suppose it technically meets the requirements of my request.
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  12. Someone at the checkout the other day told me that I shouldn’t get the covid vax bc someday I might want children and it can cause infertility. 🤣🤣 jokes on her!!
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  13. Y'all...I just want to say I cringe everytime my teen boy comes home from work at the grocery store and says he had to help with the curbside orders. He can hardly retrieve what I ask for from our own kitchen. Good kid. Hard worker. Math whiz. Does not need to be in charge of choosing produce or substitutions of any kind.
    41 points
  14. Pen, that's conspiracy-theory reasoning. This is not the case with any other vaccine, and it is extremely unlikely that this is the case with THIS vaccine. Furthermore, there is no evidence that it IS the case for this vaccine, and a great deal of evidence that it isn't the case. https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/covid-19-critical-thinking-pseudoscience/doomsday-prophecy-dr-geert-vanden-bossche
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  15. To answer the OP’s question: anxiety. Anxiety is the reason someone does a bunch of likely unnecessary things. People who have anxiety control the small part they think they can control because the part they cannot control feels scary. I hope you will stick around and get a feel for the board. This is the best place on the web for intelligent, well-reasoned discussion. IRL, I call this board, “my smart people.” It’s only because of my smart people that I had masks, sanitizer, wipes, extra toilet paper and a pulse oximeter last February.
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  16. Mystery solved. It was a silly prank. She put pics of the ducks on FB, and a friend fessed up. I’m still getting her a ring camera. Thank you all for the encouragement and also not making me feel like I’m crazy.
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  17. We had the best time. Really. My mom at 91-92 was so willing try try new things. She'd always been a person who "ate to live," but during her year here she came to love my cooking. I would show her how I made many items the slow way from scratch and laughed that I often felt like someone's grandmother from the old world. She started looking forward to meals--a lot--and would always ask enthusiastically "what are you going to make today? " I would hear her laughing with friends on the phone saying "I can't believe that at 91 I've become a 'foodie.' So funny!!!" She'd always been a re
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  18. I signed up for a Let’s Make Art watercolor box. You see, once in a while, I remember that I love to draw and paint, but I just don’t do it much. I don’t make the time, don’t decide what I want to express, don’t get on with it. But I am hoping the art box will make me do something I love. All the pieces will arrive, an idea will already be planned, and I’m ten times more likely to do it because I paid for it... I can’t wait to draw and paint pretty spring watercolor paintings!
    35 points
  19. You cite a Belgian veterinarian whose made-up "theories" are spread on YouTube and FB, and then imply that an article published by McGill University, that refutes this guy's discredited ideas point by point with actual data, is not to be trusted and is pushing some sort of agenda? I have to say, Pen, that watching you fall deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole of Q-spiracies and covid quackery over the course of the last 12 months has been really disheartening. I sincerely hope that once this pandemic is over you're able to find your way back.
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  20. The vaccine will make a huge difference in my life. Not immediately with regards to the very easy mitigation efforts of masking, social distancing and low crowd sizes. But it will make a difference as it lowers Covid rates in my local area and eventually in the country as a whole. This will improve everyone's quality of life. Also it will lower my risk of hospitalization and/or death significantly. Since I am immunocompromised that is very significant for me but even if I weren't, it would still lower my risk.
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  21. I believe CDC still asks you to follow a lot of those guidelines, and it makes sense as case numbers are still as high as they were last summer and increasing in some places. I feel safer if everyone in the grocery store is masked; if people aren't masked, how do I know if they are unmasked because they are vaccinated or just don't like masks? Our state is running ads to remind everyone to "follow the four"--wear masks, wash hands, stay 6 ft away from people, and avoid crowds. And they don't say to do that only if you're unvaccinated. But when we have enough people vaccinated to have very low
    33 points
  22. Don't worry, you didn't make any mistakes and your questions were not offensive at all. What Pen actually means is that most people here are pro-science. So if you want to argue that Andrew Wakefield is a persecuted martyr who proved that vaccines cause autism and there's a global conspiracy to suppress that, you can expect push back. If you're going to link to crazy anti-vaxx websites that promote conspiracy theories with no basis in fact, expect serious push back. But if you say "I read that mRNA vaccines can cause infertility, is there any truth to that?" you'll get a respectful discu
    32 points
  23. DS13 told me the other day that he missed making music with other people, even more than he misses sports. So, I was thrilled when I found an online small group voice class, and quickly signed him up for the last spot. I just knew he'd love it. Tonight at dinner, i reminded him to eat fast since his class started in a few minutes. His reply? "Class, what class?" Oh Apparently, I completely forgot to tell him. Also, apparently, in the past 15 months since he last interacted with a girl who wasn't his cousin, he has turned from a little boy into the kind of person
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  24. So, I got the call at 8:30 that he was on his way to his room from recovery. I was there in 5 minutes (the hospital is just up the hill) and I guess they forgot I was there, because I stayed until he started getting sleepy, a little over an hour. He's in good spirits, and he should come home tomorrow. What a stressful day!
    30 points
  25. I'd suggest that one of two things is going on. Either somebody in her life is extremely high risk, and she wishes to take no extra chances (and you may not know this about her even if you think you know her well), or, it's possible she's suffering from some sort of anxiety disorder or similar conditions. At any rate, how she lives her life is her business. If you're her friend, you don't really need to know her reasoning, you just need to understand that this is important to her. (I do think she should not have lied, but in the long run increased herd immunity will benefit ever
    30 points
  26. I’m sorry you’re feeling left out and more emotionally distant from them. If it helps at all, that separation is normal and healthy. They were trying to solve the problem on their own and in their own way. Their solutions may not match yours. Your advice may not be welcomed. It’s all, still, ok. My advice is to give them some space. The drama you describe is pretty common for that age and stage. Hearing about a trip a week later vs the day after isn’t gonna kill you however disappointing it may be. The healthy relationship you want may start with just giving them the space and grace you want f
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  27. Re the Christian part: See the Golden Rule and the second greatest commandment. You don't think these are reasons that Christians should feel some responsibility to get vaccinated to protect others? Asking sincerely. Many of us are immune compromised through absolutely no fault of our own. AI diseases, cancer, other things. We won't get the full level of protection from the vaccine that healthy people will. We just won't. That's why it's so important to reach herd immunity. Before I was diagnosed with RA (and had to go on an immune suppressing medication to help control it) I was quite he
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  28. UPDATE: I called the hospital and they did schedule me! I’m going today at 4:20! Moderna, first shot! Woohoo!
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  29. It's a snotty, condescending message, for starters. So not wanting to die of a horrible, contagious disease makes me some kind of weenie, but everyone else enlightened? Nah. There's also the fact that I don't define "living!" as narrowly as I suspect the meme writer does. Much of what these folks call "living" is really flippin' ableist and classist, (travel, dining in restaurants, theaters, etc). There's a lot of people that can't do those things regularly, if at all, regardless of the pandemic. Does that mean those people aren't "living"?
    29 points
  30. I don’t think that’s true. Choosing to make that effort even when it’s not easy or pleasurable is a big thing. I don’t have any experience but I like both the ideas you have. Does she like reading? Maybe you could read something together so there’s less time for conversation if that’s likely to create tension.
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  31. You have not overstepped. This is an important discussion. Not all will agree on this board, just as not all will agree in “real life “. But the vast majority of us value honest debate backed with data and good logic skills. I think that’s fitting for a board focused on good education. The one discussion not allowed on this board (see post pinned at the top) are explicitly political posts.
    28 points
  32. I am just so excited and have to share. My son got an ROTC scholarship! I am so proud of him. Kelly
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  33. Finding land is proving nearly as hard as finding an existing home. There are options, but our builder is picky about approving lots and even pickier in approving for a full basement, which I’ve dreamed about more than the house, lol. My guy sent me a video of GREAT land in a neighborhood I can live with, but didn’t have the exact address yesterday. My satellite search shows me only one option that seems to match. If I’m right, it’s the last house on a dead end with almost complete privacy (we can easily add a little extra to one side) and I want to run over and plant my flag right now.
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  34. Got my Blue Envelope! The appointment is this coming Sunday. Woohoo!
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  35. Re this board as an echo chamber - I've been here for around twenty years and there has always been a dominant consensus voice. That voice has shifted, however, and it's not surprising that some people who didn't notice how relatively unified it was before - because it represented their views - now feel attacked. For me - I started off feeling on the margin and now feel less so.
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  36. My parents visited us last week after their 2nd dose of the vaccine. It was the first we saw them in person since January of 2020. They had COVID in November and my dad was hospitalized for a few days. It was obvious that he has not fully regained his strength. He doesn't have as much energy as he had before and he tires easily. I hate to admit this but I have a feeling that his bout with COVID will probably shorten his life. Another person that I know died of COVID last week. She had many medical conditions and very low cognitive abilities. She was depending on everyone around her to be
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  37. There's a lot going on in this thread. I just got my second shot yesterday. I am mindful, from Moderna's own trial results as well as the communications from CDC, my primary care physician, and the pharmacist who administered it that full immunity will only be achieved 14 days from now. I am also mindful that though the vaccine has demonstrated in trial conditions 95+% efficacy in preventing COVID (an ASTOUNDING efficacy rate, much higher than many long established vaccines), that still means that 5%, 1 out of 20, people who get the vaccine will contract the disease if they a
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  38. That's like the ultimate inadvertent homeschool experiment.
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  39. This is an oversimplification: "Well Actually, there have been things true in the past! So therefore we should listen to everything in the future!" No one is saying that conspiracy theories (or dark secrets) aren't sometimes real. That 1 out of 100 or 1000 though does not mean that the other 999 are just as true. OR that the least plausible of these should be given just as much airtime as the more plausible ones. There's a difference between theories that have actual evidence backing, and those that have been made up almost out of thin air. Covid-19 conspiracy theories, just a
    26 points
  40. Longtime lurker here. I haven't seen too many personal accounts of receiving the J&J shot here so I thought I'd share mine as thanks for all the Covid information I've gotten here and found so useful over the last year. I have terrible medical anxiety so I specifically sought out the J&J due to the "one and done" factor. I received the shot Tuesday afternoon. I ended up leaving the recovery chair area after a minute or two, because I knew if I continued sitting in there I would pass out. I finished out my recovery period in the car, laying down, AC blasting, and I was fine. By eve
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  41. But if you read the other thread (I think it's titled "To vaccine or not to vaccine" or something similar) you'll see that many of us have said we're okay with people making their own choices about whether or not to get vaccinated. Many of us are of the consistent belief that people should be allowed to make their own choices WRT their bodies. But bring wacko conspiracy theories into the discussion as an attempt to justify the decision and you should expect push back. Say "I want to wait awhile and see what happens" and I'm okay with that. Say "I'm going to wait because this person with no leg
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  42. In my own life, the ones I'm most angry with are the ones that keep saying, "most people can fight it off" or "I can fight it off" and dismissing all hose that CAN'T as basically worthless. If they are unwilling to change anything about their lives to protect the vulnerable, that's not just ignorance, it is selfishness.
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  43. My health care provider called me today and said my turn has come to get the vaccine and I'd be able to get my first shot of Moderna on Monday. I literally broke into tears of joy. Bill
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  44. YOu know it is possible to be in charge of managing his care without necessarily providing the day to day hands on care. He may need a group home or some other sort of setting to provide for him. This is a conversation for your dh to have with his parents so he can be very clear about what you and your dh are capable of handling. Your in-laws may make assumptions about you guys or they may already have a plan in place. But until the conversation happens, you won't know.
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  45. So let's post puppy photos. It seems like a good day to post something that brings happy thoughts. Here's mine - about 7 weeks in this photo. (Now almost 9 weeks old, he came home this past weekend.)
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  46. Thank you all so much for your kind words and really solid practical advice. Financially we are ok for a bit. There is a severance and they are going to cover our cobra costs for a few months. Plus we have the stimulus. Ws know that we are super lucky that we have those things. I opened a word document and have started dumping my random thoughts into it for housing projects, yard work ideas, paperwork, ways to cut our budget, dr. appointments I need to make, and a local bucket list of things I want us to do before we leave. It is just a mess right now, but once I put it on paper I feel
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  47. An hour or so I got mine. I did not openly weep tears of joy--got over that on the call I got saying it was my turn--but I was feeling pretty good about his. Moderna. First shot. Grateful. Bill
    25 points
  48. Well, it makes some big assumptions. Being careful of a deadly virus doesn't mean being frozen in fear : it means taking appropriate precautions. Not to mention that I still lived my life even if I wasn't meeting in large groups, eating in restaurants (depending on restriction levels etc.) or doing other risky behavior.
    25 points
  49. I wanted to add -- in reference to a few posts in this thread -- that it does happen that you can do everything right (and I mean really, really go out of your way to do everything right), but the wrong thing still happens. That doesn't mean that all those right things you did are now pointless and that the information you thought was right is actually all wrong. It just means you were caught up in a perfect storm of events. Or, a perfect mix of fluke and/or fairly low-risk situations that -- when mixed all together at once -- create a very terrible thing. I do know about those.
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  50. I can't get over the audacity of that "bad day" comment. The layers of racism in having to explain why the poor white boy became a murderer. I cannot imagine this sort of rhetoric used to describe any other mass murderer. My first thought was, oh, did they pick up his favorite fast food on the way in too? I absolutely think the ways in which certain corners of Christianity talk about sex contributes to these attitudes. People with mental health issues may have a break... but the ways they break are often deeply informed by the world around them.
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