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  1. She had the results of her PET scan today, and despite all of the dire warnings and indications of spread (based on the enormous size of the tumor) there is NO SIGN of spread AT ALL. Not even lymph nodes. I had prepared myself for there being spread everywhere. It's contained to one breast. I'm still in shock. I went from thinking we had months to being hopeful of years! It's still going to be difficult and she has to get the worst kind of chemo, but there's hope now whereas there wasn't hope before. I prayed for this outcome without really having any faith it was possible. Then I prayed "Lord I believe, help my unbelief." I had to ask the doctor twice because I just didn't, couldn't process it. I don't know why God has given us this blessing, but I'm so grateful. Chemo is still going to be really tough and dangerous, BUT there's hope for meaningful recovery and additional years of life! Praise God.
    45 points
  2. Vionics for me, too. Clothes. So many good suggestions. @Laura Corin gave me confidence to wear overalls and I love them so much. ❤️ Silicone baking sheets. Love, love, love them and would have never known about them. My kitties' newest favourite toy, a Pride scratching house from Target. 😻 Air fryer. Never have I used an “extra” appliance so frequently. Recipes. I mean honestly, more than anything, just this incredible, vast, truly awesome amount of knowledge and kindness that pours out of these threads every day. The gift of hearing so many viewpoints I would never get exposure to otherwise has played a huge role in shaping how I think and react. Oh yeah, once upon a time, curriculum. Probably shouldn’t forget that. Lol
    24 points
  3. Speed Queen washing machine! Best thing ever!
    20 points
  4. I would start by not using immodest/modest when you mean revealing/less revealing. Modesty is a virtue that has to do with not bragging, showing off, or calling undue attention to yourself. How much skin shows is a matter of cultural attitude and fashion. Using “less modest” to mean “more revealing” puts implications of virtue on coverage regardless of appropriateness of time and place.
    19 points
  5. today is the permanency hearing. Our son's lawyer will bring up ending phone visits. I am hoping the judge allows it.
    19 points
  6. Me too! Love the Speed Queen and never heard of it before WTM. I've come here for advice so often and learned so much from other people's posts here that I couldn't possibly list it all! I think maybe the most important information I received here was being prepared ahead of time for Covid. I passed the info on to my adult kids and we were all much more prepared than we would have been without the hive.
    16 points
  7. My sweet, loving, well meaning DH work me up this morning to tell me I didn't need to wake up. Background - normally when the dogs start pacing around in the mornings I will get up and let them out, and then feed the meowing cat to shut him up. This morning DH thought he'd do me a favor and do it - so he woke me up to tell me he was doing it. Um...thanks? Maybe just let me sleep then, lol? Kind of defeats the purpose if you are going to wake me up anyway! Also, once my heart rate came down from being startled awake I informed him I'd already taken them out, and fed the cat, 45 minutes earlier. And then gone back to bed. I'd JUST fallen back asleep when he woke me up. He meant well, anyway, lol.
    15 points
  8. I know many of us have asked for advice here over the years, but we don't always remember to come back and update everyone. Please use this thread to let people know how things turned out. A few months ago I posted about my arm going numb while sleeping. A few people suggested maybe I was cutting off blood flow or pinching a nerve by sleeping with my wrists curled. Since then I have made a conscious effort to keep my wrists straight and the problem has mostly gone away. I asked about a side-by-side fridge. People were generally against getting one. However, due to all the fridge shortages, to buy a black fridge that wasn't $1800+ we chose a side-by-side. It's been fine. (We have a chest freezer as well.) It has been easier to keep the freezer part organized, and leftovers don't seem to get hidden in the back as much. Early this year I asked about getting my son diagnosed. He completed the psychoeducational testing and it confirmed my suspicion that his auditory memory is much worse than his visual memory. Most of the other results were about what I expected. Surprisingly, his highest scores were on writing! He was my writing reluctant child who started Writing With Ease 2 in 4th grade because he thought writing two sentences was like being electrocuted. Then he did WWE 3 in 5th grade, and WW4 (minus the dictation) in 6th grade. Now, in 9th grade, he is almost done with the IEW: Ancient History theme book. Although this book is aimed at upper elementary students, it has been perfect for him. The checklist system with clear expectations has been just what he needed. Four years ago I never would've thought he'd score 96-98th percentile in writing (if you ignore his spelling problems).
    14 points
  9. I learned about both Lukeion and The Great Courses (aka Teaching Company) from the Hive, and they became the twin spines of DS's education. It's no exaggeration to say those two resources changed his life, by giving him access to really deep, high-level academic content in a way that was accessible to a highly-gifted-but-super-dyslexic kid who struggled to read and write. I attribute the fact that he ended up being such good writer to watching hundreds of hours of Great Courses lectures, in which professors laid out very logical, well-organized arguments with clear theses and supporting evidence, so he intuitively knew what a strong argument looked like before he ever had to write a serious essay himself. And the lectures, combined with several years of Lukeion Greek & Latin classes, gave him a fantastic vocabulary. The advice on the College Board was also invaluable when DS was going through the admissions process, and was a breath of fresh air compared to the hyper-intense, super-competitive atmosphere on College Confidential. I replaced my messy, noisy, inefficient Nutrimill with a Mockmill based on Spy Car's recommendation, and I've also gotten a ton of use out of the Neat steamer he linked here, which I'd never heard of before. When I commented in a cookware thread a few years ago that I didn't like enameled cast iron because the dutch oven I had chipped really easily and was hard to clean, others said that was not characteristic of good quality brands, so I bought a Le Creuset dutch oven to try and loved it so much that I switched most of my cookware to Le Creuset. I also bought some carbon steel pans and Emile Henry bakeware many years ago based on recommendations from the much loved and greatly missed Moira. 😢 Someone here recommended this Kuhn Rikon can opener, and I wish I'd found it years ago. When the pandemic started last spring, someone suggested sprouting broccoli and kale seeds, in case there was a shortage of fresh greens, and that's something I've stuck with and really enjoy — such a cheap and easy way to always have fresh sprouts in the house. And the most recent recommendation I followed up on was Skywards suggestion of GT Mystic Mango kombucha in the fermented foods thread — I was not a kombucha fan before but I bought a bottle of this to try yesterday, and it's really good!
    14 points
  10. I'll second the @Corraleno shout-out! Thank you very much for your thoroughness and care with information. Much appreciated. It's been fun to geek out 🙂 . As long as no one confuses me for a real statistician!!! (Mathematician and probabilist, yes. Statistician... no. Although I try to be clear about what I know and what I don't.) In general... this board has been invaluable during COVID. Just wonderful. The best source I've found. Thank you very much to all of you. I've much appreciated the thoughtful discussions by people who are willing to look on both sides of the story, like @Pam in CT, @Pawz4me, @Spryte, @FuzzyCatz and many other people I'm not remembering. I'm very thankful for the nonjudgmental folks who put up with my ranting, like @fairfarmhand, @Ausmumof3, @Xahm and @MissLemon. And many thanks to @lewelma for suggesting the "Explosive Child" book -- we are just starting to try some of the techniques and they've definitely been helpful. I am embarrassed to admit that I was reluctant to try it because DD8 isn't explosive, per se... but apparently it is just as helpful with kids who are quietly and inflexibly obstinate 😉 .
    12 points
  11. Some advised me to buy Vionic shoes a few years ago, and it has been life changing. I own several pairs now, and where I haven't been able to get Vionic items (like hiking boots), I found a shoe store specializing in orthotics that helped me get great inserts. I never thought I would need orthotic footwear, but discovering from here that I did has been huge. Someone advised me about a decade ago to pursue testing on some of my kids, who turned out to be 2E. That has likewise been life changing for the better. Honestly, I have gotten better advice here than from some paid professionals who charge $$$$ and have multiple degrees under their belt. Remember the instant pot craze of 2015 here on the boards? I still use my instant pots on the regular. I also got a great recommendation for a food processor and for a danish dough whisk from here. Finally (for now), many thanks to those who posted about pre-eclampsia over the years. The info there helped put it on my radar so that I could call in to my perinatologist when it happened to me.
    11 points
  12. Not sure of it falls under the rubric of "advice" per se, but the ongoing tracking and reporting of accurate Covid related info and especially vaccine information provided by @Corraleno has been invaluable to me. Thank you! Similar thanks to @Not_a_Number for putting her statistical-mindset to good use. Much appreciated! Bill
    10 points
  13. According to the charges and court documents - someone was able to find them since these are a matter of public record and posted them on FreeJinger - the hard drive was partitioned so that the porn would not trigger reports on Covenant Eyes software reports sent to Anna. The chances of an employee sitting in Josh's office long enough to A. Discover the Covenant Eyes software running in the background and determine to circumvent it and B. Then have time unnoticed to spend partitioning the hard drive and setting up the porn accounts C. Knowing Josh's passwords on a not shared machine is D. I think very low. Josh asked the interviewing agent at the raid if it was because of CSA porn. Why? If he had any knowledge of it being on his work computer and was innocent - suspected an employee - he should have call the cops when he discovers it. Knowing about it and doing nothing is going to result in charges if discovered. You don't get to cover up a felony in your business. It was also his office computer, not one of the shared ones for sales and office personnel. That makes the chances that it was an employee bizarrely low. At the bond hearing it was also revealed that they took his phone - the warrant was for visible devices and he had his out (probably calling Jbob instead of using the landline in the office), and it had evidence on it. There were cyber security experts at FreeJinger that said experts can pretty well pinpoint who was using the machine when downloads occur in such settings. The dealership has security cameras, and there are timestamps for the CSA downloads. My nephew is in cyber security for a company that makes and installs safes and says the chances of the feds being wrong about who the CSA porn belongs to is next to zero. TRIGGER WARNING: The testimony of the bond hearing was released. One of the LEO's said it was the worst case in all his years of doing this which was something like 10+ years, and the one video was so horrific that he and other LEO's who had to watch it were vomitting! They indicated that it included the torture and rape of an 18month old child. He said it is the worst case he has personally seen in his career, that is how vile all the crap on Josh's machine was. I personally believe there is very little chance his own children have not been molested by him. Easy access to ready made victims in a family that will defend him and a wife who is apparently naive to the point of utter ignorance is a pretty big temptation to someone that depraved. It might not be her fault she is that ignorant (debatable, but I personally give her no passes, three strikes and you are out!), but it still is very much in play here because her mindset makes her own children super easy targets of their perverted father. It is very hard to imagine that he had this stuff on his computer and was still free to offend after the raid, yet did not abuse his own children or his siblings children. This is a person who gets his rocks off on seeing babies raped. Can't really be more vile than that, and there is no reason for a sociopath like that to NOT take advantage of easy prey. This is a mind that has no empathy, no moral floor, no conscience. Jill's little boys are very, very fortunate that their mommy and daddy went rogue and are out of the family! JBob was in the zoom hearing - also a matter of public record. He heard what the feds had to say, the evidence against his son. He has helped Josh cover up his perversion for 15+ years now. He convinced another family to take Josh in so the perv would not remain in jail. Think about that. He himself is so vile, he is willing to risk the safety of his own grandchildren. I think we all know where Josh inherited his sociopathic tendencies. Josh may not be convicted yet, but the evidence is absolutely damning and a tight case has been created. In the face of that, he is willing to take the risk because "brand"? Maybe. I think it is worse than that. I think that he is a totally depraved human who has become so accustomed to believing that even the vilest of men is more " worthy" than any mere woman or child. In my estimation, Jbob is a very real threat and danger to his grandchildren. Time and time again we see pervs of a feather flock together. Maybe he isn't a child preying perv, but I truly believe he is deviant in some fashion. Interestingly, from Haggard, to Swindoll, to Gothard, to Doug Phillips, to CJ Mahaney, RCSproul Jr, Doug Wilson, to....a hoard of others, the tie that binds has been deviancy. Yes, depraved individuals still should have representation and a defense. That is basic. But the fact that it is the grandfather of the these precious children paying for it from funds that former victims earned is so damn immoral that the adult women of the family should sue JBob back to the stone ages! I wish Jessa, Jinger, Jana, and JoyAnna would get on board with Jill. Time to embrace reality. Your parents are sickos as well as your brother. Take the money, get the hell out, and as the minor siblings become adults, offer a safe place from which to launch.
    10 points
  14. I will forever be grateful that I got most of my “this coronavirus thing might become a pandemic” information here, months before people locally were paying attention. It is literally the reason I had four cloth masks, a bottle of sanitizer, toilet paper, a pulse oximeter and a packet of travel wipes. It may also be the reason I did not contract COVID, even when I had a COVID+ husband. As far as updating past threads, I recently received in the mail the Mother-of-Bride dress I discussed here and for which I got a hundred suggestions. I hate it. It’s going back. So I am more or less back to the drawing board. (I do have another dress I might try but it does not have each detail I wanted. )
    10 points
  15. A piece of non-study, anecdotal information - the university where I work, which has 10,000 students in a normal year, had zero cases of transmission in class. Students and lecturers were masked and the rooms were at low capacity. All the transmission was due to unmasked socialising in residences. We know this because attendance was taken at each class.
    10 points
  16. Dear Moira turned me on to Michael Clay Thompson language arts and we shared a love of carbon steel pans and Miquon math and a thousand and one other things. I miss her so badly. What a beautiful soul. I think about her very frequently. Bill
    10 points
  17. Menstrual cups have been literally. life. changing.
    10 points
  18. I don’t see why it would have to be shame-based at all. Certain clothing is inappropriate for certain situations. Don’t make it about shame at all. Keep it casual and if she wants to wear the crop top someplace where you feel it’s inappropriate, just say it’s not a good choice for that situation. You can say something shows a little too much skin without making your dd feel ashamed of her body.
    9 points
  19. My Bosch dishwasher. I have benefited so much from the vast wisdom on this board. So very much.
    9 points
  20. Ugh, I'm with you on the not wanting them too, but also not being into modesty shaming. I'd stick with "certain clothes are appropriate in certain situations" and have very few situations where a crop top is appropriate, lol. I'd probably explain that they are very casual, and show a lot of skin, so like a bathing suit they are not something you wear out to dinner, church, etc. And it wouldn't be polite to wear them at someone's house who has parents that don't allow them. I also feel some outfits are for different ages, and crop tops seem for older girls...but I'm fashion illiterate.
    8 points
  21. Oh, I have to add one more HUGE thing I learned from this board. National Merit/PSAT advice! My older three kids were in ps and our district had very few National Merit students and I just assumed it was something out of reach and never anything we should pursue. With my youngest, I learned on this board that it is absolutely possible for capable students to become NMF with the proper preparation. Dd was well prepared, achieved NMF, and LOVES the college she attends with almost a free ride thanks to her National Merit scholarship. She's happy and we saved a bundle of $. Never would have happened without this board. I doubt she would have even taken the PSAT since we had already used SAT before her junior year to fulfill the state testing requirement for homeschoolers.
    8 points
  22. Maybe I'm misremembering, but . . aren't you the shop owner's personal assistant? And you've been there for a pretty long time, right? At least longer than your son has, so more than five years? You're well established and close to the owner. If so, it seems to me that on top of being a bully the manager isn't very bright.
    8 points
  23. I'm glad you are enjoying them. It's been so chilly here this spring that I'm still in multiple winter layers, but maybe I'll get into my dungarees soon. Hmmm... lined dungarees, there's a cosy idea for next winter ... So much great advice from the Hive, particularly on gifted and LD issues, and Third Culture Kid stuff. And... you have all just broadened my outlook, allowing me to eavesdrop on conversations and cultures that I would not otherwise have experienced.
    8 points
  24. Yes, this is so true. I am always touched by the generosity of the people here to spend their precious time helping me and others. It is a true gift. And I forgot about curriculum - of course! 🙂
    8 points
  25. I got a new vacuum cleaner and Chinese for dinner. Apparently my husband decided that asking me to make dinner tonight might send us all over the edge.
    8 points
  26. This is more of a general response, but I’m quoting Jean because we’re in agreement. I and my children are immune compromised. Our actions don’t impact anyone else. I’m not infringing on anyone’s rights, nor am I potentially exposing them to a load of asymptomatically transmitted Covid germs that I don’t know I’m carrying. Everyone in my family who can be vaccinated is vaccinated, we follow the CDC guidelines on masking. When we are all together, inside in public, we all mask along with unvaxxed DD, in solidarity (this is rare). DH and I still mask when it’s just us in stores, but we don’t mask outside. We have a low number of vaccinated people in our area, and a lot of outright hostility to masking, so when we are inside in a public place we accept that there will be a number of unmasked, unvaccinated people. We respond accordingly, by keeping unvaxxed DD away from those areas with the unvaccinated strangers, whose practices we don’t know (they could be fine, but the point is ... we don’t know that, and we value our DD’s health above inadvertently making random unvaccinated people feel extra comfortable ignoring the advice of the CDC). I would never be rude to someone about wearing or not wearing a mask, but I might not want my unvaxxed DD near an unmasked random person in public, and might gently, discreetly, direct her to a different area. We are conscious of not making anyone uncomfortable, and we understand that all people have different comfort levels. I wouldn’t go out of my way to make someone feel bad for not masking, and I’d like the same consideration for masking. We have a lot of experience with different comfort levels and adjusting our expectations, due to other health issues, so we try to be considerate of others. When other people do the same, we are grateful. I don’t know what issues others might have, or not have, and I treat them the way I would want to be treated, with kindness and respect. (For example, I was outside unmasked, but when a masked person had to come over to talk to me, I put mine on, since she was wearing hers and I didn’t want her to feel uncomfortable.) I have said this multiple times here: my family lives in a small area that is outright hostile to masking. DH and I have been accosted loudly by unmasked random people when in public several times, during our state’s mask mandate. We were following the mandate, had masks on, but otherwise look pretty average, no offensive clothing or messaging on our persons, this was purely about masks. I have definitely vented about those people here. I find their actions disgusting, rude, and with kids who have nearly died from catching a common cold, with my cruddy immune situation, yeh, I found it threatening to have someone’s spittle in my face while our numbers were raging. It’s not like I was out doing unnecessary things - these were necessary trips that should be able to happen safely and pretty normally. I’d have been upset in a non-pandemic year to be treated that way, too. I am not a person to approach people yelling and getting into faces. It’s not how I behave. I think all people have a need to feel safe, and I tend to follow other’s leads and go with the lowest common denominator so everyone feels safe. Like the masking outside example above - I felt safe unmasked, other person did not. It didn’t cost me any pain or agony to put on a mask for a few minutes to make her feel better. It wa a common courtesy. Again, I don’t think anyone posting on this board acts hostile to people IRL. Really, SKL can say what she will to be contrary, because that’s her thing here, but she’s vaccinated, she masks where required, and so do her kids, according to her. I don’t believe for a second that she’s chasing immune compromised women through a store, mask down, ranting, and spewing spittle while two feet from the woman’s face - when there’s a statewide mask mandate. I just don’t think any poster here is doing that. But it doesn’t mean there aren’t anti-mask people acting that way where some of us live. Sadly. It colors perspectives, for sure. Conversely, I don’t think anyone posting here about wearing masks is chasing down people yelling at them and publicly shaming them in Target. I have faith in our fellow boardies here, that while we might wish things were one way or another, we mostly are not running out and putting other people at risk or accosting strangers in public who don’t seem to agree with us. On the lying issue: I was taught, growing up, that lying by omission is still lying. Maybe not everyone has that basis for understanding lying. So, generally speaking here, not directing this at anyone here, more at people in my area: if someone walks into Starbucks without a mask, after reading the sign that requests that unvaccinated people wear masks, then they are implying that they are vaccinated. Or maybe they just don’t care for Starbucks management, which makes me think they should shop somewhere else anyway. If you’re going to take a stand against vaccines and masking - own it. But don’t imply you’re vaxxed so you can sneak into Starbucks to get a Frappuccino when the urge hits, implying by omission that you’re vaccinated so you can get away with something. Have some principles. If you can’t bring yourself to mask, fine, find a copycat recipe for your Frap fix and don’t check your principles at the Starbucks sign while you imply that you’re vaxxed when you’re not. I want to trust everyone that isn’t masked, indoors in a place with a sign that requests that the unvaccinated wear a mask, will be vaccinated. But, in my area ... that trust would be misplaced. Those of you who live in areas that are different - you’re fortunate!
    8 points
  27. Like others have said, too many things to remember but this is the first and only place online I seek advice. I trust you to tell me the truth and to give me a variety of perspectives. You are also the only ones I speak of in real life. I'm often repeating things I've learned here and I always give this board credit for those pieces of wisdom.
    7 points
  28. I think it was @Harriet Vanethat once said the best thing you can do for chronically tight, knotted muscles (myofascial pain) is vigorous exercise. It wasn’t me who asked about that, but I came across it when she posted. At the time, seemed counterintuitive to me...because...pain. I kept that in my mind and tried to apply that theory, failing many times. Just kept working out areas with a hard ball and trying again. And again and again and again. I began to realize that each knot that got worked out made the muscle loose enough to make the next knot in line in that muscle strand come to (painful) life. Lather, rinse, repeat until the whole strand was loose. Then another strand. That meant working with the hard ball and getting up and hiking vigorously even with pain, which activated more areas, then working with the ball and exercising more. Slowly that has paid off. This was months and months ago. I have been to all types of doctors and finally gave up because I finally realized no one could help me but myself. I started to really believe in what Harriet was saying, and because of what she said in that thread, I persevered. I’m not 100 percent, but every day is a little bit closer. I have meant to post this to you, Harriet, for a long time! You are right. You have to work those darn things out and keep moving! Thank you!!
    7 points
  29. Is it ok to say that I loved when @Spy Carmade avatars? That was a fun thread. And I appreciate mine. That made my day! Also, I love when people show creative things they have done. For example, @Quill’s art 🖼 and others. I tried and loved Hello Fresh. Really great, but I was mostly curious and didn’t keep that up.
    7 points
  30. For me, it’s all the kind advice and commiseration I have received regarding personal trauma for which I had never in my life before experienced support or understanding of any kind. This board , along with lots of reading and studying, has given me new insight that has literally changed me and how I see things. It has helped me to become much stronger inside. So, to all of you here who contributed to that, a huge thanks.
    7 points
  31. Here I am to talk about my second moderna vaccine. I did great with no panic attack and I’m so thankful. I didn’t feel weird after the vaccine like last time. I’m so thankful. I had my vaccine at noon and around 9 pm I started shivering and was so sleepy I fell asleep just lying on my bed with the lights on. I didn’t even send the kids to bed, dh did. I woke up between 4 and 4:30 to get dh ready to work. I was still shivering and I felt first trimester pregnant. I didn’t feel like throwing up, but I just felt like just the same queasy stomach I have when I’m pregnant. I say good bye to dh at 5 am and go back to bed. I just woke up at 8:30, no sickness, no shivering. I woke up with a slight dull headache and feeling very overheated and dehydrated. I drank a gallon of water day before, day of and I’m working on day after. My headache is already almost gone after drinking a glass of water. I fully believe whoever here that suggested to stay hydrated had great advice. My arm was more sore on dose 2. I usually sleep on my arm and I couldn’t use my shot arm. I’m hoping I’m through the worst of it. If this is it(knock on wood) it wasn’t as bad as I was expecting. I am so thankful to have this behind me. I’m so thankful I was able to do something to help end this craziness. I’m so thankful that even though I was terrified and really wanted a reason not to go back for my second dose, I did it anyway.I am also extremely thankful to everyone here for your kindness and encouragement after I had such a bad time after my first vaccine. ❤️
    7 points
  32. This. The perv is entitled to a defense and should have an apt one. But what should not be happening is for it to be paid for by the work of his original victims which is exactly how it plays out because Jimbob has control of the money. Really unconscionable, reprehensible, and monstrous! What's next, rape victims have to pay for their rapist's defense? Sick.
    7 points
  33. My older boy is at MIT because of this board and all the advice I have gotten over the years. @Kathy in Richmond introduced us to math competitions, which are not a thing here and I had never heard of them. And I learned about AoPS from this board, which was a life changer for my older. @regentrude helped me for months to figure out how to make sense of my boys mostly unschooled education and write all the homeschool documentation. MIT has been a profoundly positive experience for him, and I will be eternally grateful.
    6 points
  34. This is what we did with our dd. So family picnic, walking on the beach, around the house, during the slumber party at our houses were yes you may wear that. Other places, well, that isn't the most appropriate venue for such exceptionally casual wear. I likened it to being similar to a bikini top. Totally appropriate at the beach and pool, running around home. But beach attire is rather attention grabbing when not confined to places associated with swimming/water sports. We let her wear her bathing suit to Ron Jon's in Merritt Island because that is normal, and all the surfers and swimmers are wearing their gear therefore not out of place. But we also tried not to make a bit deal out of it one way or another because I did not want her to equate anything with shame for having daring to have female curves or something. The preteen to early teen years are sensitive with girls. I found that around 15, this kind of communication got to be so much easier.
    6 points
  35. I guess I am more open about this. I bought my 3 older girls (14, 10, and 8)crop tops for Christmas. And they enjoy them. They were bought as to wear as dance warm ups for ballet, but they wear them all the time and it is fine with me. My oldest is also wearing some of my shorts from high school or college. They are shorty shorts. I am a mom and am a little like wow on my own child. But hey I wore them so I can't be so closed minded. I like certain clothes are ok for certain situations. I am going to borrow that. I don't agree with that you can't wear a crop top to someone else's house that doesn't allow their kids to wear them. Again I am more on the free side. I do talk with my kids that clothes are you have to be ok with people not liking them. But if you like and feel comfortable in it then that is all that matters. With the girls I talk about if you have short shorts or skirts to make sure you are aware of how you bending or sitting. Or how revealing the top is. I talk to them about issues other people have had done to them in this digital age. But I don't shame them. I want them to always be strong enough to wear what they love and feel good in. And heck if I looked good in a crop top now, I would be wearing them sometimes too. But those days are long gone. 🙂 I wish I would have worn them more when I had the right body for it. I think this is also based on how you were raised and even the culture you are in now. My kids are dancers so that is a very open, diverse, and skin tight and revealing outfits are the norm. So you get used to it a lot more. Backstage at a ballet is pretty eye opening for a first timer. Before that they were swimmers, so pretty much the same thing. And we have traveled to areas where people are just really comfortable with their bodies and just make it normalized. I also was told by some moms long ago to pick your battles. Fighting over clothing rarely works. For the parent I think it rarely works. And this isn't the thing that I am going on my hill to die on. If it was for family pictures I would probably fight the battle a bit.
    6 points
  36. So...the title of this thread is 12-15 year olds vaccine experiences! Can we not just leave it at that? On any of these types of threads? They always get derailed and it sucks. If I wanted to read about whack-a-doodle conspiracy theories, there are plenty of other places (and other threads) to read about them. I would just like to know how the 12-15 year olds are doing with their shots! I would like to support other parents making these decisions for their 12-15 year olds. Good grief!
    6 points
  37. I love Lobel. And I really don't think of those books as simple-mindedly moralistic!! I mean, even thinking about one of the stories explicitly mentioned in that article... despite all their attempts at willpower, Frog and Toad are unable to stop eating the cookies and are forced to give them away to the birds. And then one of them stalks off to bake a cake 😂. As a morality tale, it's pretty darn dubious. As an actual story, it's great!
    6 points
  38. So many things through the years!! FitFlop Bissell Crossweave floor cleaner citrus squeezer Knowledge and preparation for the Covid pandemic. If it wasn't for this place and the wisdom of all you wonderful people, would I be like some of my friends? Scary thoughts!! Thank you SWB and everyone!
    6 points
  39. I have a very nice vacuum. If you come to my house I will let you use it for free. You can use it all over my house.
    6 points
  40. This is why it's said that people don't quit jobs, they quit bosses.
    6 points
  41. I am known for my (Quiver’s) cinnamon rolls. People think I am the master of the cinnamon rolls. I can’t even think of specifics which is crazy because I have asked so many questions here over the years and have always gotten pretty good advice. And I have bought so many things discussed here.
    6 points
  42. I replaced my Nook for a Kindle Paperwhite and I am so glad I did!! I also love my Speed Queen and Instant Pot. I make Quiver's Cinnamon Rolls every Christmas. They are the best!
    6 points
  43. I think perhaps you might be missing the nuance on this board. I don’t know anyone here who has said anything that makes me think they would hate your friends. I have people I know and like who are not vaccinated either. People widely agreed that it would be fine for a vaccinated team to go hang out with friends, even though a couple of them are not vaccinated and a couple even have Covid right now. You mentioned in a recent post that you think people think the sky is falling and the world is coming to an end, which makes me think that you are reading a lot of extra things into posts here.
    6 points
  44. Jim Bob has to protect the brand. I suspect he not only has legal staff on retainer but also image consultants. I totally believe every person has the right to competent legal counsel. It keeps the system functional. That said, it is a burr in my saddle that most of the daughters allegedly do not have their own separate financial contracts with TLC, thus their work on the show has benefited Jim Bob and those earned dollars are being spent to defend Josh, who is their sexual offender. When Counting On was created, the contracts should have been done separately with each child AND Jim Bob and Michelle should have been excluded from the show in addition to Josh.
    6 points
  45. Competent defense lawyers put the “justice” in criminal justice system. Even the scummiest defendant needs someone looking out for their rights. It’s not just that the firstborn son is more valued. Nothing he’s done has undermined the hierarchical system of authority that is the central idol of their religion. He always claims to be either falsely accused or repentant, either of which upholds the system. If Josh had announced his independence and said he was starting secular therapy to recover from an abusively authoritarian upbringing they’d have thrown him under the bus too.
    6 points
  46. One (of the many) things that blows my mind about the Duggars and all of this ugliness is that Jill isn't allowed at the family compound for...basically standing up for herself and having slightly different beliefs/values than her parents. Yet they are standing by (and likely paying the defense of) her brother, who molested her. I'm so glad she's in therapy and I pray that she's seeing that she has value and that she deserves so much better than this load of crap her parents have poured out on her.
    6 points
  47. Whose religious beliefs would preclude the hiring of an attorney for a criminal defendant? As for the ick factor, which I admit is substantial, we are all better off if competent defense attorneys vigorously defend the accused. A vigorous defense is one of the checks and balances that keep the prosecution and law enforcement in check. We NEED good, ethical defense attorneys to make the prosecution prove its case. And I say this as someone who firmly backs law enforcement and the rule of law, etc. Sure, most criminal defendants are guilty, but I am grateful for attorneys who hold their noses and make the state show guilt by the proverbial preponderance of the evidence.
    6 points
  48. Let's see. I love my Speed Queen. I've had it a year. My daughter couldn't jump rope when she was 6 and y'all gave me great advice. She's 11 now and she still can't jump rope but she excels with gymnastics, swimming, roller skating and bike riding so I don't worry about the jump roping anymore. Math curriculum advice. Phonics curriculum advice. Thank you soooo much! And searching the forums and reading about learning-to-read issues encouraged me to have our son tested for vision issues. Yep. Convergence problems. After vision therapy, he's doing great. Lots of other great advice but those are the most memorable.
    5 points
  49. Some are more accurate than others. The spit test the college I teach at uses is 99% in both sensitivity and specificity. We switched to spit in February, once there was a spit test available that didn't sacrifice accuracy. I've taken 8 covid tests this semester. Long swab, short self-administered swab, small vial of spit, larger vial of spit. The least accurate, according to the info sheet, was the self-admin short swab. It was also the only rapid-test. The rest were all send-to-the-lab PCR whether they were spit or swab. Standing across a 6 ft round table from each other and drooling into a vial is the new faculty cocktail party.
    5 points
  50. I drove lol. But we live about six blocks away from the end of one of the Fingerlakes. There’s a Walmart on the way. I stopped in and got one of those small Ben and Jerry’s pints and ate that at a picnic table by the lake.
    5 points
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