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  1. 16 points
    I’m trying to think through this. I have mixed feeling about these military reunion surprises. I get that they are heartwarming, but part of me gets annoyed that they don’t tell the whole story. There was an article today in the Washington Post about it. The article itself wasn’t all that good and didn’t capture my thoughts completely, but there were parts of it that I agreed with. One quote said something like “I wish people would think about the families ripped apart as much as they enjoy seeing them put back together.” I have told my dh (who doesn’t really agree with me on this) that I feel like these things are a cop out for our country. Instead of doing the hard work of figuring out why the same person has to go to Afghanistan so many times or how we can actually take care of our soldiers and our families, we feel good for feeling good that a soldier was reunited with their family. The last time dh was deployed, one of my kids had a terrible time with it. It was so awful. I called everyone I could think of to help and no one did. Someone even told me it was just a part of the life we chose. Things did get better over the 15 months and we finally settled into a routine. Then, dh came home, and the child had another super hard 6 months. Thankfully, the child is now totally fine and doesn’t seem to have any long term effects. It was still an awful two years. Then, ime, reunions are not always the end of the journey. My dh has twice come home to kids who were born just before he deployed and were now walking, babbling toddlers. He has come home to a preschooler who didn’t want anything to do with him. Once we had even moved across the country. So much changes in a family while a soldier is gone. The reunion isn’t always seamless. I don’t know. I’m babbling. Dh has been deployed 4 times-3 since we had kids. He is in the army reserves so we don’t live the military life daily. He kinda thinks I am a killjoy about it or bitter from his last deployment. But, I do think, in a way, that these videos are selling something that isn’t real. And the deployment experience was not my favorite time in life. It bothers me that my not good experience is sold as something to make other people feel good. Otoh, I have never had a surprise reunion so it isn’t actually “my” story. Perhaps I am way off base. And I will admit his last deployment made me pretty bitter about the whole thing, so I am sure I don’t have an unbiased view on things. I’m interested to hear others thoughts.
  2. 16 points
    Update! I got the $35 Furniture Transformations kit, and also got a different poly because I read so many complaints about the one that came in the kit. Oh, and a nice paintbrush. Did no sanding, just scrubbed it with the deglosser (comes with a scrubby pad) and then wiped with a damp rag and let dry. It looks awesome! I mean, there are mistakes where I had drips of paint on the chairs, or drips of poly, but given that the chairs are missing entire rungs in places I'm not too worried about a few drips, lol. I did the optional (included) decorative gloss only on the top of the table as it is designed to simulate wood grain via the brush strokes, and although that worked great on a large flat surface it didn't work well on the intricate rungs/carvings/etc on the chairs so we just left them and the table legs plain grey. This is a photo of the top before and after.
  3. 10 points
    You just say "no." Your older child deserves your full attention on this trip.
  4. 10 points
    Things kind of went downhill and we ended up letting her go about a month after this thread was started. She wasn't doing a good job of managing the 3 yo, the toddler never really warmed up to her, and the 3 yo was getting more and more unhappy with her also. She really didn't play with him, just expected him to play by himself while she watched him. So I had no help for a month and then we hired a friend of mine to come for 3 hrs 2 mornings a week. That is working much better--the toddler is happy with her, the 3 yo is happy with her, and she has no problem telling my older kids to knock off bad behavior. We also have our homeschooled teenage babysitter coming one morning a week for a trial period. If it works out for for her she'll add another morning. The toddler hasn't entirely warmed up to her but the 3 yo (who's the main problem) loves her. On days we don't have a sitter the 3 yo watches movies for the morning as soon as he starts getting antsy. I just can't make school work with him running loose.
  5. 10 points
    I was just looking at the NextDoor app on my phone. Someone in my neighborhood linked a YouTube song by a local artist, and I started listening. It was rap. My dog decided it was not okay and started barking. And barking. And barking. I turned it off, and she won't stop. Lesson learned. No rap for her.
  6. 10 points
    Well, I’ve got to run, cause I’m in trouble I’ve got to scat, and on the double, And I don’t even have a collar, But I’m not gonna let you catch me, no, Not gonna let you catch the Midnight Howler. And I don’t have a bowl to eat from, Or if I do, I’ll just play dumb, And at your window I will holler, I’m not gonna let you catch me, no Not gonna let you you catch the Midnight Howler. And I don’t care that you’re not sleeping, Pretty soon, you will be weeping, As on your deck I waller, Cause you’re not gonna catch me, no, Not gonna catch the Midnight Howler. Apologies to the Allman Brothers, but it was parody time.
  7. 10 points
    Yes, the texture is different and maddening. But I really wanted to comment and tell you that I read this as, “I spotted one of my first grey hairs in the BUSH today” and I straight up cackled. 🤣
  8. 9 points
    Someone stop me and remind me of this: ORDER PIZZAS! All this cooking is insane.
  9. 9 points
    You’re not babbling. I think I understand what you’re feeling. Personally, those videos often make me cry and feel angry at the same time. And I absolutely hate the commercials begging for $ for wounded veterans, because I think it’s a damn shame, pathetic, and a travesty that our gov’t does not spend the money for their total health/mental/rehab costs. We allocate billions and billions for weapons manufacturing, we should have a dedicated portion to care for them forever once they return home.
  10. 9 points
    Making a point that Puerto Rico is part of the US doesn’t seem to be radical left political messaging to me. It’s just a fact.
  11. 9 points
    All three of my cello boys practiced today. That's two days in a row for the older two. Also, ds2 insists on practicing cello when his brothers do. He's adorable.
  12. 9 points
    Thank you everyone. It was very comforting yesterday to know that people were praying for us. I thought I'd come back and update. A day and a half after the procedure, he's still in a fair amount of pain, but that's to be expected, and he's got good pain meds that are helping. He slept well with a lot of medication last night, and woke up much less anxious today. We're definitely out of the woods as far as cardiac complications, which are always one of the biggest worries. The next few days will tell us whether the procedure worked and will bring long term relief, but he's had it before with success and is feeling optimistic. The next few days will also tell us whether he caught any germs in the hospital.
  13. 9 points
    Since you have a check in hand, I would file a police report. Probably won't do anything specifically, but it would provide documentation.
  14. 8 points
    I would do what you were originally going to do. If you’ve already promised 4yo he could go with you, then I guess take him? But I’m not sure why you feel guilty about the young ones missing out and not feel guilt about the oldest kids‘ trip being ruined? This trip is essentially a business trip for the oldest. The youngers will get their ‘business trip’ in a few years. They’ll get over it.
  15. 8 points
    I hate them so much, but I try to keep it quiet so I don't seem like a kill joy. My husband deployed last year, after having come and gone for training for over six months before, and I made sure he knew I would be very angry if he put mine or or kids'emotions on display. Thankfully, he was 100% on the same page with me. There reason it goes past "you do you, I will do me" is that it gives the population in general the wrong idea about returns and makes it harder for people actually dealing with it. When I've got 4 little kids whose emotional health I'm dealing with, on top of my own, I don't need to hear your opinion of how I should make sure to do a cute reunion video. They make people think that all kids jump up and down and weep for joy when their parent returns. My kids might cry when they see their dad or run away or just ignore him, and that's ok. Reunification is not one little cute moment that has to be perfect. It's a process that won't be. If you watch one of those videos and have the thought flicker through your mind that the joy of reunion makes it all worth it, that video is harmful. My husband is National Guard, so while we get to be near our civilian support system during deployments, no one near us knows anything about the military. They get their information from things like these heartwarming videos, and it doesn't help. Nor does making a big deal around the 4th of July about how the fireworks are going to traumatize dogs and all those poor soldiers with PTSD, but that's a really for a different occasion.
  16. 8 points
    Sorry, but I'm going to tell my daughter that showing her crotch to millions on tv in a thong is inappropriate any time we encounter it. I also tell her we mind our business and aren't calling people out, but as a family we definitely discuss public figures putting their very public wardrobe and behavior choices on display for publicity and $$.
  17. 8 points
    Exactly: "...the chance that my daughter has internalized that she should don a leather leotard and learn to pole dance from a single performance is far-fetched at best. BUT the chance that she’ll learn to judge and chastise other women for their “inappropriate” behavior and fashion choices if she hears me doing it? Way higher. And that concerns me."
  18. 8 points
    I agree with everything you're saying. I also wonder about the impact of the reunion "surprises" on the kids who are involved. My husband hasn't deployed since we had kids, but we've had other shorter separations due to medical needs for one of my kids, that had some things in common with a deployment such as uncertain end dates and anxiety about loved ones who were away. When we are away from them, DH and I spend a lot of time thinking about them, and wishing we were together, and I know my kids are doing the same thing. But the actual reunion isn't all happiness. No matter how well cared for they are, my kids store up a lot of their anxiety until we're back, and so there are usually a lot of tears, not a few happy tears, but sobbing in our arms, and then afterwards they want to be home in familiar space doing familiar things together. The last thing they'd want is an audience of their peers or a big celebration, and we've been gone 7 weeks at the longest. The other thing that's been really important for my kids is advance notice that we're coming home. Partially so they can prepare, and partially so they're not always preparing, and wondering every time someone walks in if it might be a parent. We haven't been able to give our kids multi day notice, but even a heads up that Dad's on a plane and we'll leave to pick him up in two hours, or hearing at breakfast that Mom will be here when you get home from school this afternoon is really helpful. Now, I'm not judging the parents in the videos. They obviously aren't parenting my kids, and maybe their kids love the attention, aren't embarrassed to cry, or whatever, but I know it's not something I'd do with my particular children.
  19. 8 points
    I can breathe through my nose!
  20. 8 points
    Ding ding ding. Well said. It's not that they still look good for 40/50 - and I agree that they absolutely do! It's that they are judged still 'f**kable.' Still acceptable as pornhub user w*nk fodder, how exactly is that empowering for women individually or as a class?
  21. 8 points
    Yes, we are taking her south today. We have taken lots of pictures of her while she’s here, and I have made it a point to tell her I love her over the past year or more. My dh made a big production of taking pictures of her eating the special meals he made. My boys are here to bid her goodbye. None of us knows what will happen, of course, but I don’t think she can make that trip any more times in the future. Whether by air or car, it’s pretty grueling and I don’t see more of that in the future. In many ways I feel as though this time of having her here for a month is my one last major act of service I get to give to her. Maybe she will be around for a long while still but if not, I am at peace with the love we have heaped on her this month. ETA: For your viewing pleasure, youngest ds with MILthis morning. 💕
  22. 7 points
    I think there's a big difference in the level of privacy when you're in a room full of people who are caught up in being reunited with their own loved ones, or who are simply doing their own thing (e.g. in a busy crowded place) than there is when everyone is staring at you, like at the SOTU. But then I'm a city girl so I'm used to finding my own privacy in spaces with lots of other people.
  23. 7 points
    I don't like them for a few reasons, but mostly because in general I'm a very private person and watching something that should IMO be a very private moment between a family makes me cringe inwardly.
  24. 7 points
    I don't like them because they are private. The emotions are so intense. I understand that sometimes the wife wants to share it and make it a whole public thing, but I am uncomfortable with making that choice to have a public, shocking, thing for each kid. I'm not making moves to take that option away from others or anything, but I am definitely uncomfortable with it. I particularly don't like it when they arrange things AT children's schools. If it's a military community, lots of daddies and some mommies are still far that light, it's tacky. And in any community, of course, some daddies aren't coming back. I have to say I unabashedly love soldier-dog reunion videos though lol. I will cry and cry and be so happy for them 🙂
  25. 7 points
    Howdy, happy Thursday. I have a problem - my main work server appears to be down or something. Thankfully I have some work-arounds for sending mail, but I will not be able to receive any while this is going on. Which is bad because I won't be aware of anything my clients need right away. 😕 First step is to make sure the IT managers are working on the problem. I have a lot of work due, and it will be harder with the email down. But I did re-boot my computer this morning, which should help other things work faster. Done: Kids up and off to the school bus - reached the bus about the same time it arrived. Cleaned the kitchen, bathrooms, and some clutter. Coffee 1. Computer reboot. Caught up on emails (work emails stopped at 8:something am), news, social media, calendar, and electronic school info. Sent an email to the IT people regarding server problem. Not sure if they can receive emails though. To do: Coffee 2+. Investigate IT problem. Lots of client work. Pay bills. School forms. Exercise. Shower/hair wash. Should really get laundry caught up, probably 2 loads? Start getting the house ready for maids to come tomorrow. Kids - homework & prepare for AHG meeting. McD drive thru. AHG meeting. Whatever else needs to get done before bed.
  26. 7 points
    We have nothing to do today, until DS10 and 12's math tutor comes at 5:00, and then DS9 has hockey practice. No medical appointments, therapy, family obligations, nada. Can you tell I'm excited? So, Catch up on sleep (almost done, DH and I both got 6 hours last night. The plan is to let DS10 sleep until around noon) Catch up on laundry, and food prep, and all the other things you need to keep a house going Walk the poor neglected dog Feed people Spend some time with DS12 and 9 Homeschool DS9 in math and reading
  27. 7 points
    Amy, yuck on your weather! Yikes. We had sleet showers last night....(it was 80 on Tues, 40s yesterday, 30s today, 70s tomorrow....) How cool, though, that your church has people reading through the Bible before your missions conference; wow! What a neat idea! My morning/day.... ....DH take DS to outpatient ....text DS19, make sure he's up for class/leaves on time ....actually sew today (I did get the rectangle pieces for the diamond blocks cut out, and there's just enough fabric for them, whew!) with DS14: history homework, math, more Barton ....lunch ....pick up DS22 ....actually make the iced tea that didn't get made yesterday ...DH pick up DS19 ....dinner: take out the pulled pork we made on Monday (from the freezer), make rice & saute brussel sprouts (or roast them?) to go with the (recorded) Lego Master Builders show together ....anything else I'm forgetting.....? ...bed
  28. 7 points
    Good morning! It's raining here this morning with tornado and flash flood watches. I really prefer winter not be like spring. school with ds meals tutor one student go meet the new co-op director to do some planning for next year (I'm stepping down for ds' senior year. I've directed this co-op for eight years and another one prior for three years.) copies for co-op class dinner out and play games with dd (leaves this weekend) read the bible at our church (We have people in the sanctuary 24 hours a day reading the entire bible through before our missions conference this weekend.)
  29. 7 points
    Kind of tragic when you are doing everything possible to help and people blame you for the problem you had nothing to do with
  30. 7 points
    I think the explanations others have given about the texts (anxiety, etc.) make sense. On the subject of dementia: Three times I have walked this path with close family members. All three took years to play out. In all three cases, I noticed changes such as you describe but most of the family did not recognize those concerns. Dementia moments were rationalized away for years. I think that is normal for people close to someone who is falling into dementia. It takes years for dementia to really blossom--people become acclimated to the new normal with each incremental change, and also folks don't want to face that something horrible is happening. I am also currently walking the dementia path, yet again, with a fourth close family member. In all four cases, doctors assessed multiple times and said all was fine--FOR YEARS--while those closest to the dementia victim absolutely know that it is not fine. It is so frustrating! I don't put much stock in the ability of doctors to figure this out until the dementia is quite advanced. I think you should have your mother assessed by a neurologist. When you do so, you need to have an organized, long list of specific examples as well as a timeline of how this has been happening. You need to talk to the doctor alone.
  31. 7 points
    🙃 Whether or not they developed it, even if the illness was a natural mutation, or an unfamiliar but preexisting animal virus, the early attempts to cover up and suppress information, as with Dr Li, about people getting sick were massively detrimental. I was in USSR at time of Chernobyl and information was a great deal different there than in US. Conspiracy theories like the moon one you posted — didn’t land and also have military base 🤔 — imo are part of what exists with freer speech rights. I’d rather have to sort through some conspiracy theories (some of which turn out to be right sometimes), than live in a place where people can’t speak out, or where it’s terribly repressive and dangerous to do so.
  32. 7 points
    I hope you're all at least starting to feel better. I keep meaning to pop in. The realtor is coming tomorrow and hopefully we'll have a for sale sign in the yard when she leaves. I actually had you multi-quoted in the thread before last where you asked about a book series. You asked me and someone else (mumto2 I think) if we read it. I haven't btw. Audio books have still been my go-to as I continue to pack things and declutter. I finished a few more Agatha Raisin plus listened to some short Audible Originals - Caffeine by Michael Pollan and Break Shot: My First 21 Years, by James Taylor. I also listened to one I got on sale a few weeks ago that had been on my tbr list, The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat. I wish I had paid attention to the publication date. It's quite old and out of date. He basically tells us that people with mental illness have real feelings (surprise!) and those with intellectual disabilities can have meaningful lives (more surprise!). He often calls people in that last group idiots or morons, which would offend those who don't understand that the terms were in fact correct clinical terms at one time. When I was in college those terms had just recently gone out of use and were replaced with terms we find equally offensive today. The very end dealt with severely autistic people and my first teaching job included 3 young boys who fit that category. Very young - 7 and 8 years old. I recognized the child version of the man he talked about. Autism was very little understood when the book was written. When I started teaching in 1977 they had just recently let go of the idea that autism was caused by infants not being held and cuddled enough. Imagine the guilt parents felt when that was thought to be the cause! Anyway, it was interesting but I wish the publisher had given some sort of update on changes in treatment since the book was written. The author, Oliver Sacks, passed away a few years ago and it's too bad he didn't do an update in recent years. He did have updates in the book but they took place in the mid 1980s. My most recent book club book was Daisy Jones and The Six. It was okay. We had our meeting last night and I think everyone else enjoyed it more than I did. I'm just not a fan of the latest popular book and this one definitely fits that category. Still, the format was kind of interesting. It was like reading a Rolling Stone interview with band members. And every one of them was an unreliable narrator. I'm reading an historical mystery, Murder by Any Name, and some of the inaccuracies are really annoying me. I'm enjoying the mystery though and want to know who did it, so I'm trying to ignore them. A few examples: Early in the book the author uses the phrase face-plant. It starts in the prologue! Referring to Elizabeth I - " much so that Mary had to give her an elbow to remind her to lift the the queen's cloth of gold train from under her feet so that Gloriana Regina did not face-plant on the gleaming floor in front of the entire court" I actually googled in case face plant wasn't as recent a phrase as I thought. The first known use of it was in the 1980s. "Stray over London Bridge to infect the rest of London, like rats bringing the plague..." So people in Elizabethan England understood about rats and the fleas that carry plague? Another one I thought I bookmarked for the quote but apparently didn't, used the phrase Dark Ages, which wasn't used until the 19th century. Oh, and still another one when a character refers to "the beast with two backs". While that came from Shakespeare during the time period, Othello was towards the end of the Elizabethan era and it's doubtful people regularly used that euphemism before then. My fellow historical mystery fans as well as historical romance fans would be cringing at all of these errors. The book was a $1.99 Kindle deal a while back so I took a chance. It's light reading and like I said I'm into the mystery. But it's still annoying. I'm also slowly reading A People's History of the United States and The Custom of the Country. The first one is a sip read. The latter I'm having trouble getting into even though I usually like Edith Wharton novels. Finally, one of the book club gals gave me a hardcover copy of Educated last night. She brought it with the intent of giving it away and I was the only one among us who hasn't read it. I hadn't really made up my mind if I want to, but now I suppose I will.
  33. 7 points
    Wouldn't it be more effective to file your taxes with the IRS?
  34. 7 points
    Dragging a bit the past couple days, so not getting much else done besides paying way too much attention to the news, reading and binging on Marvel's Captain Carter. Returning to my news diet, especially since J.D. Robb's latest in her In Death series, Golden in Death, has arrived. As you know everything stops, all other books forsaken while I read it. Although James and I are listening to Godzilla and when I'm by myself in the car listening to Faith Hunter's Cat of Nine Tails stories about Jane Yellowrock universe. I've downloaded Nine Coaches Waiting for my next listen. @Kareni Thank you for the links as I saw that Mary Higgins Clark had passed away. Kirk Douglas (103) also just passed away. Loved his movies. @melmichigan Thank you! I never did finish The Hollows series and I have the 1 - 6 it's probably time for a reread @Dicentra My my! I must give The Graveyard Apartment a try. Adding it to my want list. @aggieamy Hope you feel better soon. Swanson's Sipping Chicken bone soup is delicious, especially when don't feel like eating anything else. Saved James from starving while he was sick. @Negin Wonderful pictures of New York. We were there in 2007 which was a wonderful experience, getting to go up in the Empire State Building. I've added Rutherford to my must read author list.
  35. 7 points
    My experience (and I've taught prospective teachers and done the observations and evaluations for new teachers getting certified via alternative means) is that after about 5 years, it doesn't matter. You've either developed the skills needed, or you quit and find an easier job. But teachers who went through a formal certification program that included observation, internships and practicums start out MILES ahead of uncertified teachers who do not have such experience in a classroom. Uncertified teachers who DO have such experience, like those who came from teaching in private schools, or were 4H leaders for years, often transition much more cleanly. I kind of feel like teaching should be about like driver's ed. First, pass An exam on the basics of education and the body of subject area knowledge. For early childhood and elementary, that means knowing a lot about how kids learn and how to break down and teach reading and math-many college students did not learn phonics as kids, and therefore need to learn it somewhere before teaching. Teaching early math skills is similarly not intuitive for many people-and some of the worst I've seen have been people who are very, very good at math. For higher grade levels, at least a Bachelor's or equivalent in work experience and knowledge in the field taught. Then, after you have that learners permit, hands on experience with a trained professional in actually teaching, and lots of experience with a mentor where you teach on your own, but have someone else providing support, before actual licensure.
  36. 7 points
    On a slight tangent: I hear what you are saying, but I would like to look at this from a slightly different perspective (and would like to divorce this comment from the specifics of the half-time show). Seeing middle-aged or old women fit and active can also go a long way towards changing the perception that only young people can be physically fit and than anything after 40 is downhill. Seeing that one can take care of one's body and be an athlete as a peri- or menopausal woman is, IMO, important. It counteracts the feeling of "oh well, I'm over the hill, so why bother". Seeing 50 y/o dancers, 60 y/o marathoners, 80 y/o gymnasts reminds us that there are still decades of life to live and that it is possibly to be fit and active. Those celebrities aren't the best role models, because we all know they have resources at their disposal we regular women don't - but seeing strong, athletic "normal" older women is definitely inspiring in a positive way. Because that is what 50, 60, or 80 can look like.
  37. 6 points
    I haven't read past this yet. DH was in the military for 22 years and deployed many, many times. The shorter 6-8 week deployments were in some ways easier, but the 12 month one was hard and was part of the reason he chose to retire. I don't like the surprise reunions that are videoed by the TV crews. In my area, there have been quite a few. The emotions are so raw and overwhelming. I know each parent needs to decide what's right for their kids, but I think it's unfair to the unsuspecting kids to publicly video and show over and over such an emotional time (at the 4:00, 5:00, and 6:00 news and advertised throughout the day). As far as the SOTU, I'm not sure what I can say. It made me very angry that such a moment was politicized. It made me very angry that a mom, who was in an unfamiliar place with 2 children who were probably tired, was put on the spot for an emotional display. I was thankful for the cameras who showed the immediate reunion, but very little afterward. I wondered if her dh was actually scheduled to come home at that time or if someone else had to replace him or had a deployment extended to accommodate the returning military member. I wonder if he's actually home for a while or if he's on just back for a brief visit (which would be a horrible stunt!) I would like to read the back story on this. I am disgusted with the way this reunion came about and was politicized.
  38. 6 points
    Same here. I watch the ones where a parent surprises a kid at school and I feel for the kid whose emotions are on display for everyone. And who had no time to prepare. I understand that my feelings are very much slanted due to my introverted personality. But still...they’re kids.
  39. 6 points
    Good morning! I started a list at home but forgot to post. Rainy and 40s here now. Done Med setup, coffee, breakfast Co umadin appointment To do Thursday morning Bible study (done) PT Lunch w dh Car wash laundry Pack Send details of trip to kids Check that orthopedic clinic got records Check in for rheumatology appt that is Monday Dinner
  40. 6 points
    Good morning! (((Scout))) That sounds awful. Hope you get some relief asap. office work (we're having computer problems here, too, so need to figure that out) unpack produce box & hope I get inspired on what to make for dinner laundry - on second load now clean upstairs bathrooms tidy up pantry & garage make a list for groceries and animal supplies that I'm running low on think about Valentine's gifts for dh & kids read, hopefully - life has been too hectic for much of that lately dinner: ?? watch a movie with dh tonight (I'm hooked on the Chronicle mysteries - I like Alison Sweeney and true crime and they don't require a lot of brain power, so perfect for when I'm half asleep on the couch)
  41. 6 points
    Good morning! I babysit this morning- so will rush to get some chores finished before I leave. coffee/paper dd2 off to school ds3 up and working babysit quick grocery run after home to check schoolwork more chores ds3 to tennis home to get a few things done- start dinner jerk chicken tonight- last night we had sausage and rice pick up ds3 relax tonight- all together Have a great day!
  42. 6 points
    I am back. I Awana-Ed.
  43. 6 points
    Did you happen to buy the latest Amr Diab album? It was one where you buy the album and get the songs as they are released. I got a few songs, and now the whole thing has seemed to disappear from itunes! I don't know WHAT is up with that. WHY do we have to jump to BDSM? Why isn't it just a Versace motorcycle outfit? It's a bit over the top for the grocery store, but I certainly didn't read all that you did into it. Is that ALL black leather can mean? I know a lot of women who look good at those ages without cosmetic surgery. I think the whole point is that ages don't really look like anything. You wear what you want at 50 because you're fully grown and nobody can tell you what to do. One of my regular dance teachers is pushing 60 and nobody would be able to guess her age. She just looks like herself and she's in great shape. Her little sister just turned 50 and looks fabulous. It's genetic. Her mother is nearly 80 and only recently retired from regular performances. She's just one of those ageless force of nature people and her daughters take after her. It's not some exclusive Hollywood, plastic surgery, wealthy person magic that makes people look good in middle age. There are regular people all over the place that pulling this off. They're just not on TV. When Shakira and JLo take off their make-up at night they look a little more like the rest of us anyway. It's not really the same thing though. If J-lo and Shakira took a pass they'd miss out on a chance to represent Latinas and get people talking about important issues. Yeah, people are complaining about how they dressed, but it has also led to lots of discussions about kids in cages and Puerto Rico's continued struggle. Tonight I personally benefited from this show. I thought it might happen and it did. I got a few new students in my bellydance class because they saw the halftime performance and were inspired to seek out a class. They were happy and moving and learning and smiling and meeting a whole new group of women from all walks of life. It is wonderful and empowering to do new, hard things for yourself because you decided to give it a try. Even though a lot of people on here don't like the 'message' the act sent, in my world a couple of middle aged women liked what they saw, rallied their friends, left the house on a Wednesday night and got to sweat, dance, and play zils all at the same time for the first time in their lives. They did if for themselves AND I have new students and more money in my pocket. Not one man was in the studio. One of them even mentioned that she's got two years until she's 50 so she's going to start moving now so she can look great at 50. She looked great TODAY. She'll just be more fit and know more when she's 50 if she sticks with it. I actually thought of making tonight's class about the 5 moves that Shakira does on stage, but I stuck with my original lesson plan. Maybe next week. 🤣
  44. 6 points
  45. 6 points
    Updated: (Here I am, just updating all the threads!) The check arrived in the mail. It is the “Overpayment” scam. The check is written at $2,000 over the amount is was supposedly going to be for. And it’s a company check from a company in California.
  46. 6 points
    Lol...we drink so much tea in this house and whenever I refer to making tea or ordering tea, I wonder if everyone is thinking my list is a lot more exciting than it actually is.😉
  47. 6 points
    I consider subject expertise to be far more important than a teaching certificate. You can learn to teach on the job; you absolutely cannot teach without subject mastery. I'd rather have uncertified native speakers teaching foreign languages than certified persons who are not fluent in the language they are supposed to teach, or have physics taught by a non certified physicist rather than a certified biology teacher who has to skip chapters because she does not understand the material (true story my students told me) Our department offers an education specialization where students complete the full coursework for a physics degree and take the education courses in addition. Those graduates know their subject AND how to teach.
  48. 6 points
    As someone with an elem ed degree and a middle school science minor, I think you are both right and wrong. Teaching elementary school is both difficult and not difficult. I have taught 1st through 6th in a public school setting and of course at home, I run the elementary school gamut right now. Elementary school is full of basic knowledge and I think that most people who have a high school diploma and aren't ignorant themselves (because it's possible to get a diploma without learning much of anything) can probably teach a little kid how to read, how to write, how to do math, all well enough to get along in the world fairly easily. Especially if that person also has a kind "working with kids" heart. I don't think most people need a degree to teach that stuff to kids. I DO think that teaching in a classroom setting is a whole other ball of wax than teaching a small group of kids individually. There are group dynamics involved that I do think can require some additional education. Managing 30 9yr olds from 8am to 2pm is a thing. Having said all that, I think most of our colleges are teaching teachers the wrong things, and the certifications as they are, aren't all that helpful. This past fall, I was sorting and organizing lots of my teacher stuff. Stuff from when I was in school, supplies I have acquired, etc etc. And I was going through some of the things I did and created from when I got my degree some 20 years ago, and they were AWFUL. Like, really bad. And they were all marked with As. I had stacks and stacks of lesson plan evaluations. Srsly, no one needs 4 years on how to plan a lesson! And it was so detailed at stupid, like we were being graded on the exact sentence we used to begin a lesson. It was so dumb! And teaching reading.....I had a WHOLE huge binder on how to do reading assessments. But not a single thing on how to teach phonics. And I remember being IN class, and wondering when they were going to teach us about teaching phonics. We had a pamphlet for one class....that we never opened. I learned to read through phonics.....if you have ever read "Why Johnny Can't Read," I realized that I lucked out......the schools in Cleveland he uses as phonics examples.....that's where I learned to read. By pure chance. So I guess what I am saying is that I think it makes sense to require additional education. I don't think the additional education we are actually giving prospective teachers is very useful.
  49. 6 points
    Yes there seems to be a fair bit of this going on. Also, I feel like we are living in an "Emperor's New Clothes" world where we are all supposed to pretend that the blatantly obvious isn't there. Not sure what the term is, but I think the dissonance between reality and what we're all supposed to pretend is going on is huge and I can't believe that it is a healthy way to live.
  50. 6 points
    Day 10 of the flu. We're still alive. John is about 80% better the rest of us are less ... It probably didn't help that I was up until 3 am last night with insomnia and because I was reading a good book. Nothing Venture by Patricia Wentworth. It was the first book of hers that I've read that didn't have Miss Silver. Really an outstanding book. Mysterious and suspenseful with a touch of romance. Have any of the other PW fans on her read this one yet? I didn't see it ranked by anyone else on Goodreads. That said ... for those that follow me on Goodreads I am a very generous rater. Cozy sweet romances that I loved as a young adult might be ranked as high as Night by Elie Wiesel in my rankings. I rate books simply for myself.
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